Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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Take a 3 year old to funeral?

Would you take a 3 and a half year old girl to the funeral of her great-granddad? She knows about death and heaven... Death belongs to life, right? On the other hand, I don't want to overstrain ...
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Flowers for Montessori primary classroom?

This may be a bit outside the normal question scope here, but it's worth a shot. Like at most Montessori schools, parents at our daughters' school have a variety of volunteer roles. In one of our ...
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I feel like a failure for sending my child to nursery - is it too early to send them?

When my wife and I were trying for kids, we were both on good salaries, and it was hoped my wife would be able to be a stay-at-home mum to raise our child until three years old when nursery would ...
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3 year old won't tell us what he wants to eat

My son is normally very good at telling us what's on his mind, but we've always had trouble with the concept of "hungry". He used to simply never mention being hungry (He'd tell us when he was ...
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How to care for my 3.5 yo. daughter's decaying teeth?

Since more than a year, one tooth of my 3.5 years old kid has started to deteriorate. Recently 2 more teeth are getting affected. This is due to not getting her teeth brushed up properly and regularly....
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What to do about my 5 year old who is constantly in trouble?

My 5 year old boy is constantly in trouble at school. He is in his first year of kindergarten and the first week went great with no problems. After that he will not stop coming home with black remarks ...
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Kindergartner with no control over his emotions/behavior

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD. He has been kicked out of four different daycares starting when he was just 2 years old. He is now in Kindergarten, and my wife and I hoped that with his recent ...
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How can we find a compromise about screen time for our daughter?

I am personally very strict with my daughter (2.5 years old). After she comes home from kindergarten, she sleeps and after she wakes up, my wife lets her watch TV. Anytime I am home, I don't allow ...
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Why doesn't my 4 year old grand daughter like to sleep

From the time she was born she didn't really sleep much. She didn't even take an hour nap. And till this day the child just doesn't want to sleep. She lives with me & I have her a lot of the time ...
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5 year old boy having adjustment issues to kindergarten

My 5 year old son had his first day of kindergarten and it was my worst fear. When I went to pick him up his teacher pulled me aside and told me about his day: he pulled the other kids hair, used his ...
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Should I be worried my daughter is in a bilingual kindergarten class?

Today was "Meet the Teacher" and my 5 year old daughter has been placed in a bilingual kindergarten class. My husband speaks Spanish and I speak English. I was happy, but then I started asking ...
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First pet (fish) just died. Is there a teachable moment?

My 4 year old wanted a dog. I told him that I need to see him take responsibility first for a small pet before getting him a dog - Plus, my yard is not exactly animal friendly right now. We got him a ...
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how to deal with complete meltdown for simple everyday tasks with my 4 year old

My 4 year old girl has been progressively worsening with meltdown-tantrums with simple daily tasks like wearing clothes, shoes, underwear. . . She has always been particular with things on her body, ...
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My 4 and half year old is scared of going for a poo because of pain

Two months ago, my 4.5 year old daughter had an illness that caused her to be constipated. At that time, it hurt to go poo. She has recovered from the illness, but has been afraid of pooping ever ...
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What should I do to help my child break a bad habit?

My 5 year-old has developed some anxiety. My first observation came after we moved from my parents house, this is strongly related. Since moving I have observed the following symptoms in my child: ...
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How to deal with 5 year-old “homesickeness”?

Sorry in advance for my english, I'm not a native speaker. Some background: I got pregnant at 20 years old, while I was at the University. My partner was living back then 400 km away from us, so my ...
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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening -...
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How do discipline my kid at preschool?

Today I dropped my little 4yr old girl at school and she just didn't want to eat because from what she says, she "stuffed her face with popcorn" when I wasn't looking. The problem: All of her friends ...
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How can I persuade a preschooler to wear a suit?

A few month ago, I asked: Can I avoid nice clothing being a source of argument? That was mainly focused on my eight year old, and now I have a related question... but about a preschooler. Our ...
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If my 4-year-old asks me “why”, what kind of “why” does he mean?

My 4-year-old asks me questions like "Why is water transparent?" What kind of "why" does he mean?: What sense does it make for water to be transparent? How is it achieved that water is transparent? ...
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How to handle a preschooler who hits?

My 4 year old son has autism and no verbal language, and a tendency to hit or scratch us (adults) when he gets frustrated. We try to tell him (with verbal language and signing) "no" or "stop", and ...
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My 4 1/2 year old has been potty trained since 3 but is having accidents and not going to the bathroom by himself

My son has been potty trained now for well over a year. He'll wake up dry most of the nights but when he's at daycare ( a private home) he won't go to the bathroom unless he's told. He'll have an ...
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Is there a good summary of the different discipline philosophies for pre-school and school aged childern

Is there a good website or book that describes and compares the current leading approaches to disciplining pre-school and school aged children. I realize that there are numerous opinions on the best ...
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What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?

My 4-year-old son tends to default to saying no changes in activity (even if he is clearly no longer interested in the current activity). Overall he is helpful, considerate, and will do things we ask ...
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How to provide the most support to children as an 'uncle' with only monthly visits

As a side effect of some volunteering I do, I find myself playing something of an 'uncle' like relationship for some of the children of women I've volunteering with. I love children and am more then ...
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How much instruction should be incorporated into a pre-schooler's art activities?

We've set aside one evening a week as our dedicated family craft night. That doesn't preclude us from doing craft projects at other times, of course, but rather ensures that my son gets at least a ...
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Clean children vs dirty children

Which is better for toddler/pre-schooler's health? To let them get dirty (play as they will in sand, mud, dust, seawater) and wash them appropriately or try to keep them clean? What impacts do these ...
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Should we protect our childred from getting ill?

Nowadays there are very few sicknesses that a toddler or a pre-schooler can catch and that will kill or irreversibly harm him. Most bacteria infections can be treated and there is little real danger. ...
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How can I encourage my home schooled children to be more confident in the open?

I have 3 nieces. Two are twins aged 4 and one is aged 2. My sister is home schooling them and she has started with so many activities and lessons for them in the house. Problem falls when she takes ...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

My son (4 1/2) attends a pre-school that we all like very much. He's in a class of kids ranging from 3 to 5. He generally prefers to socialize with the older children. In this particular class, ...
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How to improve my 5 year old son's behavior in pre-kindergarden?

My oldest child (5 year and a half son) has been more agitated lately in pre-kindergarden and often will make other kids laugh or disrupt activities in class. We have been getting more feedback like ...
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Helping a preschooler be a good friend

My almost-four year old boy has been expressing concerns recently that some of his close friends don't want to be his friend any more. While I'm aware this sort of drama is perpetual in childhood, I ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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Is there a downside to giving a preschooler band-aids when he doesn't really need them?

Our preschooler (3 1/2 years old) demands a band-aid for every minor injury, whether he's actually bleeding or not. I've tried discussing the actual purpose of an adhesive bandage (keeping a wound ...
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My 4 1/2 year old loves to sleep… is this a problem?

My 4 1/2 year old daughter loves to sleep. When she was younger I couldn't get her to sleep at night so we completely stopped her naps. Now, she is in preschool and will go about her normal day. She ...
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Structured reading coaching

I want to give my child (just about to turn 6) some structure coaching in reading over the summer. I want to do this myself to see how she's progressing. Are there any sites or books that will ...
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Dealing with parental alienation syndrome (PAS) when the child is younger

Similar to this question, except it just started yesterday, and the child is 3. My son is 3, turning 4 next month. My ex was inching to take away my weekend visits, and I compromised (since it's ...
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How can I help three year old understand I can't actively play with him for a few days?

Earlier today, I pulled a muscle in my back badly enough that I need to lie down to let it relax, and also don't plan on picking up heavy objects (like a small child) for a few days. His other parent ...
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Mom is a kindergarten teacher

Due to some conflict situation with previous kindergarten owner, we were forced to pull our 2 y.o. from this. In the middle of the year, it's a bit difficult to find new place for a child, but for our ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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Not so sleeping beauty at 4 years old

My 4 year old daughter is not going to bed at a decent time. We have a routine in place: dinner at 6, story time at 7, bath time at 7:30. 8 is quiet down time and 8:30 is bedtime. The problem: she ...
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How should I answer when my granddaughter asks about her absent mother?

My granddaughter has lived with us (her grandparents) since she was 8 months. She is now four. My daughter and granddaughter have been with us for two and a half years My daughter has been out of the ...
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Confused 5 year old

My daughter who is 5 and usually very happy and loving recently told my husband and me she wanted to shoot us and run to Noni. After talking with her, we later realized this anger is directed at me. ...
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to what degree should I encourage contact with dad?

I have a three year old with my ex. When we separated he moved back in with his mom ( he didn't have a job, bad credit, etc... I know, I was an idiot ). These issues were a big part of our separation. ...
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How to effectively balance respect for authority with independence and self-determination

We just had our second parent-teacher conference with our almost-four year old's preschool teacher (he's in a Montessori school, that follows the technique well, mostly), and among other things, ...
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Should a 4 year old be made to quit crying every time she cries?

My granddaughter is forced to stop crying any time she cries by her step dad. Is that healthy? She just turned 4.
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My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom

My 4 year-old daughter keeps saying to her mom that she doesn't like/love her, and refuses to retract the comment or say sorry. Is this "normal"? A "phase"? It's pretty hard for mom to take. For ...
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Explaining Thunder/Lightning to a preschooler

I have a very intelligent three (almost four) year old who has a mixed relationship with thunder and lightning (see an older question from me, for example). He likes seeing it, but is also afraid of ...
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How can I make my kids passionate in science while being religious?

Please be considerate in your answers. We are an observant jewish family, although I was educated in secular institutions. I feel that I have a wealth of knowledge that I want to pass to my kids ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...