Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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How can I help three year old understand I can't actively play with him for a few days?

Earlier today, I pulled a muscle in my back badly enough that I need to lie down to let it relax, and also don't plan on picking up heavy objects (like a small child) for a few days. His other parent ...
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How can you communicate with a child that refuses to talk?

I have a four year old son who has slight autism. Up until now he has babbled but never used any words associated with anything. We try to encourage him to talk by talking with him a lot, and we have ...
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How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?

Our 3.5 yo is starting to talk back to us in the typical futile yes/no/yes/no pattern of opposites. The other day it was hooking his straps on his car seat; I asked him to put his arms in (like we ...
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Can fraternal twins develop their own “language”?

I've often heard about twins forming their own "language", but I've always assumed that it only applies to identical twins. Is there any research out there on the subject? Does it apply to both ...
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What are the objective arguments against immunizations for infants and children?

There has been a lot of talk lately about the alleged harmful (potential?) side effects of vaccinations/immunizations for infants and children. What are the objective arguments against immunizing?
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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Mom is a kindergarten teacher

Due to some conflict situation with previous kindergarten owner, we were forced to pull our 2 y.o. from this. In the middle of the year, it's a bit difficult to find new place for a child, but for our ...
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How can I help my kids to sleep comfortably (and safely) on an overnight drive?

Asking this one anonymously, I don't want the police coming round to arrest me! In a few weeks, we've got a long drive to go on vacation. Because our youngest is pretty unbearable on long car ...
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Why does my son (5) suddenly provoke me although everything seemed to be perfect before?

My son (5) sometimes changes his mood suddenly. Sure this is somehow normal human behavior, but it can drive us mad. This morning everything worked great and "peacefully" until breakfast. After ...
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The cars of hanoi. Or: two parents, two children, one car [closed]

I imagine that this is not a hypothetical math problem for many of you, and it's very likely to have been done before, but just recently, our first child started Kindergarten. Our youngest is still in ...
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How should I answer when my granddaughter asks about her absent mother?

My granddaughter has lived with us (her grandparents) since she was 8 months. She is now four. My daughter and granddaughter have been with us for two and a half years My daughter has been out of the ...
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Not so sleeping beauty at 4 years old

My 4 year old daughter is not going to bed at a decent time. We have a routine in place: dinner at 6, story time at 7, bath time at 7:30. 8 is quiet down time and 8:30 is bedtime. The problem: she ...
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How to mitigate the impact of other people comparing my children to each other?

My husband and I have tried very hard to show both of our children that they are loved and cared for, and to encourage their own unique interests and to be proud of the individuals they are growing ...
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My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom

My 4 year-old daughter keeps saying to her mom that she doesn't like/love her, and refuses to retract the comment or say sorry. Is this "normal"? A "phase"? It's pretty hard for mom to take. For ...
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Confused 5 year old

My daughter who is 5 and usually very happy and loving recently told my husband and me she wanted to shoot us and run to Noni. After talking with her, we later realized this anger is directed at me. ...
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How do you teach young kids to defend themselves?

How do you teach kids to defend themselves, without becoming bullies? I'm talking about younger kids (1.5 to 3yo) who are not mature enough (or old enough) to take self-defense classes. My son is two ...
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to what degree should I encourage contact with dad?

I have a three year old with my ex. When we separated he moved back in with his mom ( he didn't have a job, bad credit, etc... I know, I was an idiot ). These issues were a big part of our separation. ...
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Should a 4 year old be made to quit crying every time she cries?

My granddaughter is forced to stop crying any time she cries by her step dad. Is that healthy? She just turned 4.
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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Explaining Thunder/Lightning to a preschooler

I have a very intelligent three (almost four) year old who has a mixed relationship with thunder and lightning (see an older question from me, for example). He likes seeing it, but is also afraid of ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...
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My 5yo is struggling to concentrate

My 5-year-old is struggling to concentrate for more than a brief period of time and is falling behind the other kids in her kindergarten class. When she does concentrate for a few minutes she's able ...
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As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?

I have two competing interests here and I'm not entirely sure how to handle this. On one hand I feel that the short answer, to questions about gods, of "some people believe that, but it's not true" is ...
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Should I force my 4 year boy to play sports or activities? [duplicate]

He refused to join any activity (Karate/Gymnastics/Tennis). He doesn't even want to join church lessons for kids (Sunday school). Shall I force him or wait until he is 6?
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At what age is it no longer appropriate for your child to be naked in public (e.g. on the beach)?

My 3½ year old son loves to be naked. He spends a lot of time running around naked in our garden on hot days. We went to the beach during the Summer, and- since we forgot to bring any swimming ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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Speech problem for 3 year kid

One of our friend’s child approaching 3 years age. He is not talking even the single words and not getting any attention when we call him or trying to play with him. That means there is no response ...
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How do you handle “materialist” behaviour?

My 4 years old daughter attaches a lot of importance to toys, clothes, presents ... How do you help your kids take some distance with that ? Sample behaviour I'm uncomfortable with : asking grandma ...
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3.5yr old pre-schooler cannot deal with frustration

Our 3.5 yr old (will be 4 in July) son has a real difficulty handling frustration to the point that it is driving me and my wife insane. Hardly a day goes by where we don't both end up in tears, ...
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Should I allow my child to participate in dangerous sports?

When should a child be allowed to take part in "dangerous" sports or activities? I'm thinking of letting my son try motocross when he's "old enough" - but when is that (when is a child old enough to ...
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Is early education for 2-3 year olds worth it?

Background: My parents only put me (and all my 3 siblings) in a school when each of us were 5 years old. We turned out fine and I assumed it's the normal thing to do. Now I and my wife have a 2 years ...
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Four year-old likes ripping things

Our four year-old enjoys ripping things. Mostly toilet paper or other scrap paper, but this morning we found a book in the trash with the cover and a few pages torn off. It was an old book with a ...
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How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?

I have a 3yr old a 5 year old and an 11 yr old who have just been the most exceptionally worst behaved children on this planet, between the 3&5 yr olds, they backchat, break things, have drawn on ...
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Delayed speech for 3 year old

My 3 year old still doesn't speak in sentences. He can convey things in 1-2 words but cannot form sentences. Even if he knows a simple sentence like "I want water" but he will never remember to say ...
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What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?

During the last few months, I've been having a lot of concerns about my 5 year old son's behavior. I was a single mom and have been his main influence up until a little over a year ago. He was born ...
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How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home?

We're having problems with our 3.5 year-old boy concerning potty training: Since his birth it seems, that being cleaned is much more unpleasing to him than running around with brimful diapers for ...
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My 4 year old daughter has suddenly changed her speech

My 4 year old daughter has all of a sudden changed her accent drastically to one that is awful. The pronunciation is totally incorrect and its freaking me out. The more I correct the worse it becomes. ...
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4 year old afraid of swimming

I had my 4 year old going for swimming lessons starting this summer in June. She was doing ok at first, got into water learned a lot. She can bobs, front float, back float with no problem, as far as ...
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4 year old daughter starved for Dad's attention

My 4 year old daugther always wants my attention, and I try my best to give it to her. Either by telling stories, playing with stuffed animals, reading books, or anything else she likes to do. I have ...
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Best jigsaw puzzle's size for 5+ year old girl

My five and a half year old daughter was very found of playing with jigsaw puzzle when she was three. Then she dropped that idea completely. So I don't have any "growing" references, for best sizes ...
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How to tell if a 4 year-old child deliberately postpones urinating until the last possible moment?

Recently, my 4 year-old daughter goes to the toilet too late and sometimes soils her clothing before she can take it off. I don't know if she deliberately postpones urinating until the last possible ...
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3 yo still asks about my ex

My 3 year old son's mother and I split up long ago when he was only about 6 months old. We have a good co-parenting relationship, and we're at peace with each other. I started dating last year. My ...
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How to make my child cough?

I have a preschooler with the common cold. She refuses to cough because it hurts her throat. I'm afraid she might get pneumonia if she doesn't cough - it happened before. How can I make my child ...
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How does a 3-year-old learn to wear glasses?

My 3½ year old son has been diagnosed with a mild eye defect, so he is getting corrective glasses (with non-shattering plastic lenses, obviously). As I've never worn glasses myself, nor my wife at ...
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Should we get her a doll?

Winter is coming, and with it, Christmas and presents. We have a 3 years old daughter, who has an almost 2 months old sister, and it's time thinking about which toys to get her (we have almost full ...
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What can I do about 3 year old holding in pee all the time?

I have taken away pull ups/diapers during the day for my 3 year old. Since then, he has gone on the toilet a few times, but usually he will hold it in as much as he can, and then once he can no longer ...
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how to help my 4 yr old son to recognize alphabet and numbers?

I have put my son to preschool when he was 1.8 yrs now he is 4 yrs old. He is not recognizing the alphabet and numbers. He is fast in writing. He writes the alphabet and numbers but doesn't ...
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5yr Old Has Trouble With Letters & Reading

My daughter is 5 years old (will be 6 at the end of February) and lately has wanted to learn to read. However, I've become a bit concerned because it seems as though she has absolutely no memory for ...
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How do I get my 4yo to stop repeating himself all the time, and to respect a quiet time?

My 4 yo has been showing a rather annoying and obsessive behavior for the past 6 months or so, in that: he repeats himself all the time, and won't take no for an answer in some circumstances. ...
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Some games and playful ideas for a father to do with his 4 year old daughter?

My daughter has an older brother (8yrs old) so when we all play together we tend to do older boy things. Does anybody (especially women) have any memorable games/activities they played with Dad? A ...