About the parents themselves, and not (only) about the children.

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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

I'm 16, and I don't know what to do. My parents are controlling everything I do and watching everything I do. I think I'm going insane. I thought a counselor or psychiatrist could help me but it ...
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How should a jobless father advise his son when he refuses to study because of his educated jobless dad?

Suppose father XXX holds a college degree, usually comes home late and suddenly one fine day, stays at home. He lost his job. His son sees this happening. The father is a hard-working man, always ...
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Should I try to protect my son from hearing that his father wants nothing to do with his two boys?

My ex husband, who was near 30 when we had our first child, and 33 when we had our second, hasn't seen his children since 2008.. We broke up when the youngest was 6 months but as his girlfriend was ...
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Too many languages?

I am actually a language researcher, but when it comes to my own situation I have a hard time being objective and make some choices for my own family. My husband and I are expecting our first child, ...
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When should parents stop changing clothes in front of children?

Baby is 2 years 2 months old. What will happen if we don't stop and at what age should we stop? Why? From: What to expect- The toddler years. Even if a child doesn't show any such interest, ...
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How can a dad be both a mother and father

I'm a dad and I've unexpectedly found myself raising my son effectively alone. I'm in an atypical single-parent situation, but more general single-dad advice would probably be better for other ...
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How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

I'm a 16 year-old junior in high school. I often spar with my parents over the fact that I'm failing many classes. The issue, however, is not that I do not understand the material; it's that "failing" ...
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Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?

My son is now 20 years old, still living with us at home and goes to University three days a week. He has never had a job. Since he was a child I have tried to encourage him to do tasks for pocket ...
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Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?

I recently came across a photo on my 14 year old daughter's iPod of a letter from a girl friend of hers that expressed her feelings for my daughter. Words like "I do melt in your eyes" and "I can't ...
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The noise of his children playing makes a parent tired and glad to leave for work

I spoke on the phone to an old acquaintance, and he confessed the following: His second child was born half a year ago, the first child is now three. He goes to work, while his wife stays home with ...
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How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?

I know this is an SE site for parents dealing with kids... but I am desperate enough for answers, so here it goes. In summary: I am the daughter. My mother is being domestically abused by my father. ...
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For the benefit of the child: what's better - no father or bad father?

What's best/better for the child in the long/short run - to have no father in his life or to have a "no-good" father in his life? And by "no-good" I mean - mentally and financially unstable, ...
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Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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Should I stop pirating TV in order to better role model for my toddler?

I regularly pirate TV shows and occasionally music or movies. Other than that, I lead a crime-free life. Like many people who pirate things, I'd never go into a store and steal a cd or dvd, which is ...
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How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?

My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
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3answers
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How to explain to your child why a grandparent isn't around

My parents divorced when I was 10 and that was the last time I had a relationship with my father. My father still lives close to me locally but he doesn't contact me, and if I see him in public I ...
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What to do when parents disagree regarding their parenting

My husband and I often find that we parent differently. We know that up to a point that is why every child (hopefully) as two parents, so they can learn about difference in people, their approaches, ...
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Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?

Your son is 27 and due to financial problems, you've invited him to move home. His 30 year old girlfriend is coming to stay. Should you oppose them sharing his double bed during her visit? This ...
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How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity?

How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity? I asked this question here Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children? Which needed to be ...
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7answers
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How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

I have been going to church my whole life and faithfully following the Christian religion for 18 or so years. I'm 20 years old, and I have been having doubts about my faith for about 2 years now. My ...
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How to deal with parent's (grandparent's) extreme political views?

Problem Space: My mother holds an extremely polarized political view that I do not agree with. My Specific Issue: My mother has recently gotten to the point where she literally personally blames ...
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Methods for reducing or coping with sleep deprivation

Sleep deprivation is a major problems for parents of a newborn child. Are there methods which could help young parents cope with sleep deprivation or reduce it? Have you tried any of them? What is ...
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Long-term preparations for becoming a parent?

I don’t have any immediate plans for a child. At the earliest (probably), I’ll become father in 3 years. I can imagine that the time will become stressful as soon as the child is on the way, not to ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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Is it appropriate for parents to cry in front of their children?

Sometimes a parent may be feeling sad (for whatever reason) and needs to cry. Is it harmful, or could it even be good, to cry sometimes in front of your children? What does research say?
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Mother in law making us feel guilty about money

We have a mother in law who always makes uncomfortable comments about things we've purchased, such as our TV. We're a single income family with two children living in an apartment. We have no debt ...
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4answers
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As a teenager, how do I communicate with my mom about her yelling?

I am 17. I have been learning to drive for about a year and a half now. I'm adequate, except for parking and backing up. When I drive with my dad he gives me pointers and advice, which I appreciate. ...
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Balancing children's needs with a parent's own needs

For me, as a new parent I found it difficult to find a balance between meeting the needs of my son and my own needs. I was inclined to view my own needs as being selfish and an inadequacy within me ...
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Effects on children and parents of marriage breaking up

Me and my wife have a two year old son and he is amazing and I love him wholeheartedly. Unfortunately the relationship between my wife and I has frayed to the point where I no longer see a good ...
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6answers
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Son (22) has to keep initiating contact between son and parents after moving out

Me being 22, I moved out a year ago (about half an hour drive away) to live with my girlfriend after I proposed too her. I always (and believe I still do) had/have a good connection with my parents ...
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Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?

Before our girls were born, I told my husband that I didn't want to go through "crying it out" because I knew I wouldn't be comfortable with it. At the time he agreed with me. However, after close to ...
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How much of an effect does parenting style have on a child?

I'm not a parent and I haven't done as much research as anyone on this website. This question is motivated by looking at many of my friends. Sometimes, I find that one sibling is a high achiever, ...
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4answers
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Caring for three under three: In what ways can the father help?

I have a full-time job, while my wife is a full-time homemaker. Our oldest has just turned three, our second is nearly two, and our third is a newborn. Not exactly three under three, but close. I am ...
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How can I find time to relax during my maternity leave?

I'll be home on pregnancy leave for 4 months. We can't plan outdoor trips. I'll be staying at home with only two people around (during day time) - me and the baby. How can I find time during this ...
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Any suggestions on how to control yelling and negativity on our part, and also teach my 8 yr old son to not feel so helpless and cry so easily?

This is about my 8-year old son, who cries easily and helplessly, mostly in response to our enforcing discipline and routine or refusing things he wants. I understand that he should not expect to be ...
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Relatives' son is awful. What is another option?

Background: While my wife and I provide an independent, creative and supporting environment for our kids, we also work very to hard to demonstrate "predictable consequences" for any behavior be it ...
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2answers
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What kind of impact have parental quarrels on children?

What kind of impact (permanent or temporary) can parental quarrels have over a child on the short-term and on the long-term? I wish to know if some studies have been done on the matter. Answers with ...
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Caring for the Children of Deceased Parents

I am really wrestling with an issue that recently came up. Here is the background story: My brother-in-law (my wife's brother) has talked to my wife and said that he wants to name us as the ...
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Is it okay to leave a 3 year old alone to nap for 1 hour and 45 minutes if she isn't napping?

My wife and I disagree about this. I think it's a bit selfish and neglectful to leave her alone, especially when for the first 20 minutes she just cried and screamed. After that she was pretending her ...
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How should an infant refer to its biological father and step father?

Ex-Wife and I separated when our only child was two. She quickly found another partner and they are now living together as married. I still have regular visits and sleepovers with infant. ...
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How to help my wife cope w/ being a stay-at-home mom

My wife stays at home with our 4yo and I work full time. We moved to our current city a year ago and do not have many friends or family in the area. She feels isolated and depressed, and also guilty ...
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How much should you tell your children about your sorrows and joys?

I come from a house where no one talked about anything except paying electricity bills, rent, or studies. I was never asked questions about myself, my social life, friends or lack of them etc. My ...
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2answers
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Dealing with parental alienation syndrome (PAS) when the child is younger

Similar to this question, except it just started yesterday, and the child is 3. My son is 3, turning 4 next month. My ex was inching to take away my weekend visits, and I compromised (since it's ...
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Restricting infant on almost every move

Most of the times I restrict my 10 month old on doing things which I feel would have a negative impact on him. For example, I say NO in a louder tone when he makes a desperate attempt to put his hand ...
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How to manage to get more time for ourselves when we have Kids?

We have 1.5 years baby. We are proud parents. But after my baby entered in our life every thing has changed. Day by day we are getting less time for ourselves. we are even getting less time to sleep. ...
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How do I tell my parents that my wife and I are pregnant?

My wife and I are pregnant with our first child, and we want to find a unique and fun way to tell our parents.
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How do you keep up with a toddler?

My son is 2, and is seemingly a perpetual motion machine. He constantly wants me to "play cars" (we stand at a window sill and smash matchbox cars into each other), play "tag" or "chase me" around ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

After some reading, I understand that dropping stuff is a natural part of baby's development. What I couldn't find after some research, was whether or not I should keep giving the objects that he ...
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Loud Screaming to attract attention

Our 6 month baby screams at top of her throat to get attention , as soon as we resume playing with her she smiles and plays and she wants to play all day along which is not possible , so how to deal ...