About the parents themselves, and not (only) about the children.

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Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?

I recently came across a photo on my 14 year old daughter's iPod of a letter from a girl friend of hers that expressed her feelings for my daughter. Words like "I do melt in your eyes" and "I can't ...
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Methods for reducing or coping with sleep deprivation

Sleep deprivation is a major problems for parents of a newborn child. Are there methods which could help young parents cope with sleep deprivation or reduce it? Have you tried any of them? What is ...
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How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity?

How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity? I asked this question here Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children? Which needed to be ...
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How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

I have been going to church my whole life and faithfully following the Christian religion for 18 or so years. I'm 20 years old, and I have been having doubts about my faith for about 2 years now. My ...
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How do you evaluate yourself as a parent?

Given the complexities of being a parent, life itself, cultural difference, etc. -- how does one begin to evaluating yourself as a parent without being bias, or getting biased feedback?
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Balancing children's needs with a parent's own needs

For me, as a new parent I found it difficult to find a balance between meeting the needs of my son and my own needs. I was inclined to view my own needs as being selfish and an inadequacy within me ...
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Sharing parenting/custody duties with an ex-partner

My son is 1.5 years old. I am no longer with his dad but he is an active part of my son's life and I would like his dad to help parent him half of the time and he has agreed to do so (keep him Mon-Sun ...
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For the benefit of the child: what's better - no father or bad father?

What's best/better for the child in the long/short run - to have no father in his life or to have a "no-good" father in his life? And by "no-good" I mean - mentally and financially unstable, ...
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Should I try to protect my son from hearing that his father wants nothing to do with his two boys?

My ex husband, who was near 30 when we had our first child, and 33 when we had our second, hasn't seen his children since 2008.. We broke up when the youngest was 6 months but as his girlfriend was ...
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How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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Long-term preparations for becoming a parent?

I don’t have any immediate plans for a child. At the earliest (probably), I’ll become father in 3 years. I can imagine that the time will become stressful as soon as the child is on the way, not to ...
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Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?

Before our girls were born, I told my husband that I didn't want to go through "crying it out" because I knew I wouldn't be comfortable with it. At the time he agreed with me. However, after close to ...
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What kind of impact have parental quarrels on children?

What kind of impact (permanent or temporary) can parental quarrels have over a child on the short-term and on the long-term? I wish to know if some studies have been done on the matter. Answers with ...
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Effects on children and parents of marriage breaking up

Me and my wife have a two year old son and he is amazing and I love him wholeheartedly. Unfortunately the relationship between my wife and I has frayed to the point where I no longer see a good ...
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How do you keep up with a toddler?

My son is 2, and is seemingly a perpetual motion machine. He constantly wants me to "play cars" (we stand at a window sill and smash matchbox cars into each other), play "tag" or "chase me" around ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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How can I avoid ugly arguments with my wife?

I was recently playing a board game with my 12 year-old son and wife of 18 years. We reached a point in the game where it was my turn to play while my wife could win the game with her next move. ...