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Is it considered harmful in the longer run to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want?

Not sure if there is a cultural difference. In our family it is considered normal to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want. Example- Parent: Eat that quickly or the God will punish ...
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What things do you do to build intimacy in your relationship when going out is not an option? [closed]

We have young special needs kids and not enough budget room for babysitters and lots of date nights out. I think quality time that makes our relationship better and helps us connect is really ...
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What is Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) and is it helpful?

I am wondering what Parent Child Interaction Therapy (pcit.org) exactly is and if someone is here who has some experience with it. I have a 3 years old son and I am considering to take on a therapy ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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How to stop grandparents from acting overprotective?

I have been living with my wife's family for a while both before and after the birth of my kid, and my mother-in-law feels like she is right about everything. My wife is also a way of nagging what ...
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Father always wants to be right

I am a 22 year old living with my parents. I'm currently in quite a bit of distress as my father has kicked me out. I assume my mom will talk with him when she gets back from her night shift but for ...
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Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?

In summary: I am the daughter. My mother is being domestically abused by my father. What can I do to make him stop without hurting my mother in any way? - she still loves him! Details: My father is a ...
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divorce-mom-and-dad [closed]

Past the last few years my mom and dad have been fighting. i am only 8 and they use every kind of bad word they know. almost last month, there going back and fourth/i I love you i hate you and so ...
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Should I allow my preschooler to play with other parents at the playground?

My 4 year old daughter played with another parent and his son (around 3) at the playground. They started jumping on the dad's thighs as he was sitting on the ground, so the play was physical for a ...
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Why do my parents start ridiculing me in front of my friends?

I am 27 years old and I live with my fiance. Every time I happen to meet my friends and my parents are around, or whenever my fiance meets my parents, my parents start ridiculing me. They start ...
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Parent exclusivity in relationship with (other gender) friends? [closed]

My question is not so much about children that about the behavior a parent should have in its relationship with the other loved parent? (Hope that's ok, could not find another stack board for this) As ...
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What advice can I give to a teen who wants to tell his dad uncomfortable truths?

My girlfriend's Teenage Boy (TB), 14, wants to talk to his dad about things he doesn't like about him, like smoking in the living room. He came to me for advice. Knowing his dad, who is a very ...
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Options to have a child but not giving birth

My wife and I want to have a child, but my wife does not want to bear a baby. We know we can adopt one from an orphanage. But what about child transferring from another family? Or bearing from ...
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The many elements to having another child (Mother and Father not on the same page)

Here's a background story to our marriage and our family (it plays a large role)... We got married and had our first child when we were 23. We then had our 2nd child when we were 26. We are ...
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Effects on children and parents of marriage breaking up

Me and my wife have a two year old son and he is amazing and I love him wholeheartedly. Unfortunately the relationship between my wife and I has frayed to the point where I no longer see a good ...
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How can parents prevent middle child syndrome?

A child can develop Middle Child Syndrome when feeling left out by the family. It can easily be caused by parents being too involved with the older and younger siblings and not making enough time with ...
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Is my wife an over-protective parent and how does this influence my child?

My daughter is 10 months old. Since her birth, my wife has never even once left the baby with me alone. First it was breastfeeding, then other excuses. She's constantly around me. Constantly ...
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How should a jobless father advise his son when he refuses to study because of his educated jobless dad?

Suppose father XXX holds a college degree, usually comes home late and suddenly one fine day, stays at home. He lost his job. His son sees this happening. The father is a hard-working man, always ...
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What are some good strategies to support extended breast feeding of 2 years for new parents

Interested to know some guidelines for parents who would like to go for extended breastfeeding. One threat we see to this is reduction of breastmilk as I have heard from many mothers that their milk ...
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What should I do when my parents drain all my energy?

I'm 18, almost 19 and I've been dealing with my parents' negativity as far as I remember myself. I'm currently a game programmer, something that isn't from the easiest. Still I manage perfectly to ...
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How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

I'm a 16 year-old junior in high school. I often spar with my parents over the fact that I'm failing many classes. The issue, however, is not that I do not understand the material; it's that "failing" ...
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What to say to a child whose pet just died

My 24-year-old daughter's cat just died. I've never met her cat, and I am currently only in contact with her over Facebook. I also don't know her address so I can't send her anything. It really has ...
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Should I tell my parents that I don't believe in God anymore? [duplicate]

Good evening! I am a 19-year old Computer Science student living in Rotterdam, the Netherlands with my parents and I am having difficulty deciding whether I should tell my parents and other family ...
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When should parents stop changing clothes in front of children?

Baby is 2 years 2 months old. What will happen if we don't stop and at what age should we stop? Why? From: What to expect- The toddler years. Even if a child doesn't show any such interest, ...
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Should I let my son see his dad

My son is 9 years old, and is very upset that he can't see his dad. When he was 4 my ex (who was my husband at the time) adopted him. Soon after we divorced. At first he was very consistent in my ...
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Improving a parent preference?

My wife and I arrived at my in-laws today at the end of a 3 day couple's retreat away from the kids (3yr8m boy and 1yr10m boy). We were both very excited to see the kids again and wondered if they ...
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Boys have crush on my 6 year old daughter

Ok so my daughter goes to this new school, and a lot of boys have crush on her. When I pick her up from the after school I see all these little boys trying to flirt with her. I'm very open minded ...
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Reasons for parents to pierce their son's left ear

There is a family that I have known for over 5 years. We have very different views on parenting, discipline, child rearing, etc. But one practice of this family (that I thought to be interesting) is ...
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The noise of his children playing makes a parent tired and glad to leave for work

I spoke on the phone to an old acquaintance, and he confessed the following: His second child was born half a year ago, the first child is now three. He goes to work, while his wife stays home with ...
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Communication between Parents and teachers

I have a question for all parents and teachers, i am a divorced dad and my sons are living with their mother. My problem is that I am not kept up to date on my sons behavior at school. I do receive a ...
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Problems with discipline for my step-children

I have a step son and step daughter who are 11 and 13 I have been married to their mum for 9 years and there is a big problem within the family. If I tell the kids to either do something or stop ...
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How to explain children why junk food is bad for your health?

All my life I was told by my parents that sweets are not good for your health because they cause cavities in your teeth. It never affected me because I thought that after eating sweets if I brush my ...
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How much should you tell your children about your sorrows and joys?

I come from a house where no one talked about anything except paying electricity bills, rent, or studies. I was never asked questions about myself, my social life, friends or lack of them etc. My ...
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How should I act such that child doesn't feel average success and mediocrity is expected of her?

From: http://www.raisesmartkid.com/all-ages/1-articles/47-authoritarian-strict-parenting-vs-permissive-which-is-better Do not impress on your child that mediocrity and average success is all that ...
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How to explain to your child why a grandparent isn't around

My parents divorced when I was 10 and that was the last time I had a relationship with my father. My father still lives close to me locally but he doesn't contact me, and if I see him in public I ...
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What is a good system of organizing toys?

I would like to decrease the toy chaos and make it simpler to involve my 20 month old daughter in picking up her toys, without creating a system that is too complicated. We currently have 6 small ...
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How should an infant refer to its biological father and step father?

Ex-Wife and I separated when our only child was two. She quickly found another partner and they are now living together as married. I still have regular visits and sleepovers with infant. ...
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My wife constantly loses her temper with our 5 year old son

My wife and I have been married for about 7 years, we have two sons, one is five years old and the other is eighteen months old. I disagree with the way my wife disciplines and reacts to our five year ...
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How to deal with beggars in front of the children?

Beggar problem in India is real. I do not give anything to beggars in order to discourage begging. My mother does. I don't want the child to think that I am cruel and it is okay not to help the ...
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Too many languages?

I am actually a language researcher, but when it comes to my own situation I have a hard time being objective and make some choices for my own family. My husband and I are expecting our first child, ...
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How can I protect my ears when the baby cries?

I'm suffering from tinnitus. In my case, this is a constant, high-pitched whine. The volume is insignificant when I'm relaxed in quiet surroundings, but stress and loud noise can instantly increase ...
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Dealing with parental alienation syndrome (PAS) when the child is younger

Similar to this question, except it just started yesterday, and the child is 3. My son is 3, turning 4 next month. My ex was inching to take away my weekend visits, and I compromised (since it's ...
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Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?

Your son is 27 and due to financial problems, you've invited him to move home. His 30 year old girlfriend is coming to stay. Should you oppose them sharing his double bed during her visit? This ...
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How to deal with controlling parents?

I'm a simple freshman in high school. My parents (especially my mom) have pushed me immensely. Including, but not limited to: Putting me in advanced mathematics from a very early age. (Algebra 1: ...
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Should I try to protect my son from hearing that his father wants nothing to do with his two boys?

My ex husband, who was near 30 when we had our first child, and 33 when we had our second, hasn't seen his children since 2008.. We broke up when the youngest was 6 months but as his girlfriend was ...
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Why does authoritarian parenting style result in children with low self esteem and lack of self discipline?

http://psychology.about.com/od/childcare/f/authoritarian-parenting.htm I have been raised by authoritarian parents. I have both low self esteem as well as a lack of self discipline. I want to ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

I'm 16, and I don't know what to do. My parents are controlling everything I do and watching everything I do. I think I'm going insane. I thought a counselor or psychiatrist could help me but it ...
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Caring for the Children of Deceased Parents

I am really wrestling with an issue that recently came up. Here is the background story: My brother-in-law (my wife's brother) has talked to my wife and said that he wants to name us as the ...
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Should I stop pirating TV in order to better role model for my toddler?

I regularly pirate TV shows and occasionally music or movies. Other than that, I lead a crime-free life. Like many people who pirate things, I'd never go into a store and steal a cd or dvd, which is ...