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Is my wife an over-protective parent and how does this influence my child?

My daughter is 10 months old. Since her birth, my wife has never even once left the baby with me alone. First it was breastfeeding, then other excuses. She's constantly around me. Constantly ...
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How should a jobless father advise his son when he refuses to study because of his educated jobless dad?

Suppose father XXX holds a college degree, usually comes home late and suddenly one fine day, stays at home. He lost his job. His son sees this happening. The father is a hard-working man, always ...
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What are some good strategies to support extended breast feeding of 2 years for new parents

Interested to know some guidelines for parents who would like to go for extended breastfeeding. One threat we see to this is reduction of breastmilk as I have heard from many mothers that their milk ...
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What should I do when my parents drain all my energy?

I'm 18, almost 19 and I've been dealing with my parents' negativity as far as I remember myself. I'm currently a game programmer, something that isn't from the easiest. Still I manage perfectly to ...
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How to stop grandparents to act overprotective?

I been living with my wife's family for a while and before birth of my kid and after kid, his grandmother feels like she is right about everything. My Mrs is also a way of nagging what she thinks is ...
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How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

I'm a 16 year-old junior in high school. I often spar with my parents over the fact that I'm failing many classes. The issue, however, is not that I do not understand the material; it's that "failing" ...
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What to say to a child whose pet just died

My 24-year-old daughter's cat just died. I've never met her cat, and I am currently only in contact with her over Facebook. I also don't know her address so I can't send her anything. It really has ...
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Should I tell my parents that I don't believe in God anymore? [duplicate]

Good evening! I am a 19-year old Computer Science student living in Rotterdam, the Netherlands with my parents and I am having difficulty deciding whether I should tell my parents and other family ...
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When should parents stop changing clothes in front of children?

Baby is 2 years 2 months old. What will happen if we don't stop and at what age should we stop? Why? From: What to expect- The toddler years. Even if a child doesn't show any such interest, ...
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Should I let my son see his dad

My son is 9 years old, and is very upset that he can't see his dad. When he was 4 my ex (who was my husband at the time) adopted him. Soon after we divorced. At first he was very consistent in my ...
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Improving a parent preference?

My wife and I arrived at my in-laws today at the end of a 3 day couple's retreat away from the kids (3yr8m boy and 1yr10m boy). We were both very excited to see the kids again and wondered if they ...
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Boys have crush on my 6 year old daughter

Ok so my daughter goes to this new school, and a lot of boys have crush on her. When I pick her up from the after school I see all these little boys trying to flirt with her. I'm very open minded ...
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Reasons for parents to pierce their son's left ear

There is a family that I have known for over 5 years. We have very different views on parenting, discipline, child rearing, etc. But one practice of this family (that I thought to be interesting) is ...
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The noise of his children playing makes a parent tired and glad to leave for work

I spoke on the phone to an old acquaintance, and he confessed the following: His second child was born half a year ago, the first child is now three. He goes to work, while his wife stays home with ...
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Communication between Parents and teachers

I have a question for all parents and teachers, i am a divorced dad and my sons are living with their mother. My problem is that I am not kept up to date on my sons behavior at school. I do receive a ...
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Problems with discipline for my step-children

I have a step son and step daughter who are 11 and 13 I have been married to their mum for 9 years and there is a big problem within the family. If I tell the kids to either do something or stop ...
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How to explain children why junk food is bad for your health?

All my life I was told by my parents that sweets are not good for your health because they cause cavities in your teeth. It never affected me because I thought that after eating sweets if I brush my ...
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How much should you tell your children about your sorrows and joys?

I come from a house where no one talked about anything except paying electricity bills, rent, or studies. I was never asked questions about myself, my social life, friends or lack of them etc. My ...
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How should I act such that child doesn't feel average success and mediocrity is expected of her?

From: http://www.raisesmartkid.com/all-ages/1-articles/47-authoritarian-strict-parenting-vs-permissive-which-is-better Do not impress on your child that mediocrity and average success is all that ...
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Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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How to explain to your child why a grandparent isn't around

My parents divorced when I was 10 and that was the last time I had a relationship with my father. My father still lives close to me locally but he doesn't contact me, and if I see him in public I ...
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What is a good system of organizing toys?

I would like to decrease the toy chaos and make it simpler to involve my 20 month old daughter in picking up her toys, without creating a system that is too complicated. We currently have 6 small ...
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How should an infant refer to its biological father and step father?

Ex-Wife and I separated when our only child was two. She quickly found another partner and they are now living together as married. I still have regular visits and sleepovers with infant. ...
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My wife constantly loses her temper with our 5 year old son

My wife and I have been married for about 7 years, we have two sons, one is five years old and the other is eighteen months old. I disagree with the way my wife disciplines and reacts to our five year ...
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How to deal with beggars in front of the children?

Beggar problem in India is real. I do not give anything to beggars in order to discourage begging. My mother does. I don't want the child to think that I am cruel and it is okay not to help the ...
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Too many languages?

I am actually a language researcher, but when it comes to my own situation I have a hard time being objective and make some choices for my own family. My husband and I are expecting our first child, ...
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How can I protect my ears when the baby cries?

I'm suffering from tinnitus. In my case, this is a constant, high-pitched whine. The volume is insignificant when I'm relaxed in quiet surroundings, but stress and loud noise can instantly increase ...
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Dealing with parental alienation syndrome (PAS) when the child is younger

Similar to this question, except it just started yesterday, and the child is 3. My son is 3, turning 4 next month. My ex was inching to take away my weekend visits, and I compromised (since it's ...
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Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?

Your son is 27 and due to financial problems, you've invited him to move home. His 30 year old girlfriend is coming to stay. Should you oppose them sharing his double bed during her visit? This ...
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How to deal with controlling parents?

I'm a simple freshman in high school. My parents (especially my mom) have pushed me immensely. Including, but not limited to: Putting me in advanced mathematics from a very early age. (Algebra 1: ...
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Should I allow my preschooler to play with other parents at the playground?

My 4 year old daughter played with another parent and his son (around 3) at the playground. They started jumping on the dad's thighs as he was sitting on the ground, so the play was physical for a ...
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Should I try to protect my son from hearing that his father wants nothing to do with his two boys?

My ex husband, who was near 30 when we had our first child, and 33 when we had our second, hasn't seen his children since 2008.. We broke up when the youngest was 6 months but as his girlfriend was ...
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Why does authoritarian parenting style result in children with low self esteem and lack of self discipline?

http://psychology.about.com/od/childcare/f/authoritarian-parenting.htm I have been raised by authoritarian parents. I have both low self esteem as well as a lack of self discipline. I want to ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

I'm 16, and I don't know what to do. My parents are controlling everything I do and watching everything I do. I think I'm going insane. I thought a counselor or psychiatrist could help me but it ...
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Caring for the Children of Deceased Parents

I am really wrestling with an issue that recently came up. Here is the background story: My brother-in-law (my wife's brother) has talked to my wife and said that he wants to name us as the ...
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Should I stop pirating TV in order to better role model for my toddler?

I regularly pirate TV shows and occasionally music or movies. Other than that, I lead a crime-free life. Like many people who pirate things, I'd never go into a store and steal a cd or dvd, which is ...
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How do I get my father to stop making everything about him

My father is a very demanding person, to the point of being unreasonable a lot of the time IMO. But lately it has been getting worse and I feel like i just don't have the energy to deal with it ...
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How can we find a compromise about screen time for our daughter?

I am personally very strict with my daughter (2.5 years old). After she comes home from kindergarten, she sleeps and after she wakes up, my wife lets her watch TV. Anytime I am home, I don't allow ...
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Wrist tendonitis from carrying babies

So, our girl (of twins) really needed to be picked up to be soothed. Both me and mom have tendonitis in our left hands. Specifically I was diagnosed with de Quervain's, though mom technically hasn't ...
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Effects on children and parents of marriage breaking up

Me and my wife have a two year old son and he is amazing and I love him wholeheartedly. Unfortunately the relationship between my wife and I has frayed to the point where I no longer see a good ...
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Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?

I witnessed parents telling their kids that, if they didn't get hurt or physically harmed in any way, they have no right or reason to cry. I kind of disagree because one doesn't cry just because of ...
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Is it appropriate for parents to cry in front of their children?

Sometimes a parent may be feeling sad (for whatever reason) and needs to cry. Is it harmful, or could it even be good, to cry sometimes in front of your children? What does research say?
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How do I handle an absentee parent wanting to build a relationship later in life?

One of my parents (parent 'B') was consistently unreliable in terms of emotional support and educational development when I was growing up; they never wanted to spend time with me and I often felt ...
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Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying

My daughter has been lying and stealing from us as well as someone she called her BFF. We give her consequences and she continues with her stealing and lying. Recently I found out that she was cutting ...
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How to communicate with tiger parents? [closed]

I know some tiger parents who put extremely high pressure on their children, for example, they applied many extra curricular activities, tutorials for their kids and made them very busy. Their ...
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Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?

My son is now 20 years old, still living with us at home and goes to University three days a week. He has never had a job. Since he was a child I have tried to encourage him to do tasks for pocket ...
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Working mother but unemployed father

I can't stop thinking about this. I hope someone can help me. Just as the title says, my mother is the one who struggles to make money while my father just "eats, sleeps, repeats". He worked across ...
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How should I tell my parents that I smoke?

As the title says, Im male 19yr old, have a job, live with uncle and auntie because parents doesn't live in the country I live in. Is there a nice way to tell them ? Or should I wait more? sorry ...
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Protective feeling over my child - is this unusual?

I want to know if it is just me that feels too protective of their baby. I mean I can't leave him for a minute on its own, I feel that I have to constantly watch over my precious child. Is it normal ...
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How to encourage healthy skepticism, whilst discouraging pessimism?

I am not a parent, nor will I be for a few years at least, but I am certain that I will be one day. I have some personal demons that I'm struggling to resolve at the moment, which have had an impact ...