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What is the minimum amount of structure and rules that a child needs?

My wife and I have very different ways of handling our children (almost 3 and 5 years old). We agree about the rules we want to set, but we are complete opposite when it comes to implementing the ...
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Is my wife an over-protective parent and how does this influence my child?

My daughter is 10 months old. Since her birth, my wife has never even once left the baby with me alone. First it was breastfeeding, then other excuses. She's constantly around me. Constantly ...
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What should I do when my parents drain all my energy?

I'm 18, almost 19 and I've been dealing with my parents' negativity as far as I remember myself. I'm currently a game programmer, something that isn't from the easiest. Still I manage perfectly to ...
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Are my parents to break my relationship apart?

I am 19 years old, and am currently in a relationship. My parents can't seem to understand the fact that I am now old enough to make my own decisions and to know right from wrong, that I have the ...
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Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying

My daughter has been lying and stealing from us as well as someone she called her BFF. We give her consequences and she continues with her stealing and lying. Recently I found out that she was cutting ...
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Is it considered harmful in the longer run to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want?

Not sure if there is a cultural difference. In our family it is considered normal to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want. Example- Parent: Eat that quickly or the God will punish ...
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Why do my parents start ridiculing me in front of my friends?

I don't know if this is in the right place to ask this question. I am 27 years old and I live with my fiance. Everytime I happen to meet my friends and my parents are around, or whenever my fiance ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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About blackmailing

"Don't blackmail her", said my sister while I was talking to my almost 3 years old daughter. Ok, blackmailing is bad, but… what else ? I read blackmailing reinforce kind of Pavlovian reactions ...
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Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?

I witnessed parents telling their kids that, if they didn't get hurt or physically harmed in any way, they have no right or reason to cry. I kind of disagree because one doesn't cry just because of ...
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Protective feeling over my child - is this unusual?

I want to know if it is just me that feels too protective of their baby. I mean I can't leave him for a minute on its own, I feel that I have to constantly watch over my precious child. Is it normal ...
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How do I handle an absentee parent wanting to build a relationship later in life?

One of my parents (parent 'B') was consistently unreliable in terms of emotional support and educational development when I was growing up; they never wanted to spend time with me and I often felt ...
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Is it okay to listen to rap music with violence and swear words when you're with your 7 month old?

My husband and I have been together for 15 years and have always considered our relationship to be a healthy one. But parenthood has taken its toll and we cannot seem to agree on a number of parenting ...
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How can I avoid ugly arguments with my wife?

I was recently playing a board game with my 12 year-old son and wife of 18 years. We reached a point in the game where it was my turn to play while my wife could win the game with her next move. ...
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Should I let my son see his dad

My son is 9 years old, and is very upset that he can't see his dad. When he was 4 my ex (who was my husband at the time) adopted him. Soon after we divorced. At first he was very consistent in my ...
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What is a good system of organizing toys?

I would like to decrease the toy chaos and make it simpler to involve my 20 month old daughter in picking up her toys, without creating a system that is too complicated. We currently have 6 small ...
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Where can I find solid, responsible advice for parenting in a marijuana legal community?

I'm so confused with all of the conversation and battling between the industry and the non-industry advocates. Is there one good location to get information on how to teach my children to socially, ...
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Working mother but unemployed father

I can't stop thinking about this. I hope someone can help me. Just as the title says, my mother is the one who struggles to make money while my father just "eats, sleeps, repeats". He worked across ...
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How do I get my father to stop making everything about him

My father is a very demanding person, to the point of being unreasonable a lot of the time IMO. But lately it has been getting worse and I feel like i just don't have the energy to deal with it ...
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My wife constantly loses her temper with our 5 year old son

My wife and I have been married for about 7 years, we have two sons, one is five years old and the other is eighteen months old. I disagree with the way my wife disciplines and reacts to our five year ...
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How should I act such that child doesn't feel average success and mediocrity is expected of her?

From: http://www.raisesmartkid.com/all-ages/1-articles/47-authoritarian-strict-parenting-vs-permissive-which-is-better Do not impress on your child that mediocrity and average success is all that ...
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Bat mitzvah party invitations

My daughter is having her bat mitzvah party in January. A few other girls have had birthday parties and did not include her. They are now asking her if they are being invited which makes her really ...
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Should I try and prevent my child from becoming like me (in some aspects)?

As an adult I realize I am not perfect. I have my "glitches". One of them is that I am too shy and an introvert to people that I do not know well (somewhat extrovert to friends and family). Would I ...
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Coping with gestational diabetes

I had never been diabetic, but failed the glucose tolerance test during my pregnancy and have been diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes. I am under the care of a specialist and am on insulin and ...
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Reasons for parents to pierce their son's left ear

There is a family that I have known for over 5 years. We have very different views on parenting, discipline, child rearing, etc. But one practice of this family (that I thought to be interesting) is ...
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Helping a child cope with a parent's relationships

First- if anyone has a better title suggestion after reading this feel free to edit. I had a hard time formulating a brief description. My oldest son is the result of a failed relationship that ended ...
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How can I help reunite my mother and little brother?

So the title says it all, but let me give you a short rundown of what has been going on. My parents are divorced and have been for 15 years now. They live relatively close to each other to make life ...
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Dealing with the psychological consequences of punishment in parenting [closed]

I'm 18 yo boy living pretty much an amazing life. Yet, I've been dealing with feeling of annoyance(sometimes anger but not as rough as the word sounds) every time(almost) I hear people talking very ...
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How to communicate with tiger parents? [closed]

I know some tiger parents who put extremely high pressure on their children, for example, they applied many extra curricular activities, tutorials for their kids and made them very busy. Their ...
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How do you evaluate yourself as a parent?

Given the complexities of being a parent, life itself, cultural difference, etc. -- how does one begin to evaluating yourself as a parent without being bias, or getting biased feedback?
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Is it wrong for a parent to partake in screaming/dominating competitions with their kids?

I'm not the parent and I don't have any kids, so this is just based on what I observe. There's this mother who, when her daughter (about 3 years old) starts crying and making a fuss, she'll lose her ...
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How can I get my mother to recognize that I've matured?

I can't convey to my mother that I've grown up already. Is it possible to explain this? I think that my mom has trouble leaving me on my own, because she can't live with thought: "my child has ...
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Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?

My son's father and I were together until my son was 6.5. We broke up because I found out he had been abusing heroin and stealing thousands of dollars in cash and items from my mother, his friends, ...
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How can I protect my ears when the baby cries?

I'm suffering from tinnitus. In my case, this is a constant, high-pitched whine. The volume is insignificant when I'm relaxed in quiet surroundings, but stress and loud noise can instantly increase ...
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How to explain children why junk food is bad for your health?

All my life I was told by my parents that sweets are not good for your health because they cause cavities in your teeth. It never affected me because I thought that after eating sweets if I brush my ...
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How to advise a 9-yr-old girl to stay away from boys but not hate 'em?

The society we live in, there are many chances of molestation. So, I want to advise her that stay away from boys. But at the same time, I don't want her to hate boys forever as once she grows, she has ...
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How to encourage healthy skepticism, whilst discouraging pessimism?

I am not a parent, nor will I be for a few years at least, but I am certain that I will be one day. I have some personal demons that I'm struggling to resolve at the moment, which have had an impact ...
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Don't know what I feel toward my parents

I am a little bit confused about the feelings I have toward my parents. Since my parents started to have some problems with money the peace in my family was gone. They started to blame their children ...
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Sharing parenting/custody duties with an ex-partner

My son is 1.5 years old. I am no longer with his dad but he is an active part of my son's life and I would like his dad to help parent him half of the time and he has agreed to do so (keep him Mon-Sun ...
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Mom is a kindergarten teacher

Due to some conflict situation with previous kindergarten owner, we were forced to pull our 2 y.o. from this. In the middle of the year, it's a bit difficult to find new place for a child, but for our ...
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Suggestions for a father daughter activity that explains me omitting my son [duplicate]

I have a set of twins.. A boy and girl who are 5 years old. I love them both equally and want to have some one one time with each of them.. My son and I go for a haircut every month (or so), and we ...
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What challenges exist in raising a child in an apartment?

My wife and I are currently debating whether or not we should move out of our large 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment (1050 square feet/98 m2) and into a house. We do not want to move because we live ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?

I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this? Edit: ...
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What are some good “dad jokes”? [closed]

Dad jokes are a type of joke that can (typically) only be told by a dad that is often perceived as embarrassingly bad (especially by the children of said dad). Dad jokes often, but not necessarily, ...
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Paternity test or not

My son is 2 years old. I do not know who his father is, however I know a person it could potentially be. I am in a deep struggle about whether to get a DNA test or not. When I got pregnant with ...
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What are some good strategies to support extended breast feeding of 2 years for new parents

Interested to know some guidelines for parents who would like to go for extended breastfeeding. One threat we see to this is reduction of breastmilk as I have heard from many mothers that their milk ...
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Improving a parent preference?

My wife and I arrived at my in-laws today at the end of a 3 day couple's retreat away from the kids (3yr8m boy and 1yr10m boy). We were both very excited to see the kids again and wondered if they ...
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Wrist tendonitis from carrying babies

So, our girl (of twins) really needed to be picked up to be soothed. Both me and mom have tendonitis in our left hands. Specifically I was diagnosed with de Quervain's, though mom technically hasn't ...
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Should children of incarcerated parents be told the truth?

On Saturday mornings, I visit a nearby county jail. Most of the men I talk to are fathers. Some are serving short sentences and others are awaiting trials that will likely result in lengthy ...
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Why does authoritarian parenting style result in children with low self esteem and lack of self discipline?

http://psychology.about.com/od/childcare/f/authoritarian-parenting.htm I have been raised by authoritarian parents. I have both low self esteem as well as a lack of self discipline. I want to ...