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How should a jobless father advise his son when he refuses to study because of his educated jobless dad?

Suppose XXX holds a college degree, usually comes home late and suddenly one fine day, stays at home. He lost his job. His son sees this happening. The father is a hard-working man, always advising ...
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Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?

I witnessed parents telling their kids that, if they didn't get hurt or physically harmed in any way, they have no right or reason to cry. I kind of disagree because one doesn't cry just because of ...
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How to communicate with tiger parents? [closed]

I know some tiger parents who put extremely high pressure on their children, for example, they applied many extra curricular activities, tutorials for their kids and made them very busy. Their ...
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How should I tell my parents that I smoke?

As the title says, Im male 19yr old, have a job, live with uncle and auntie because parents doesn't live in the country I live in. Is there a nice way to tell them ? Or should I wait more? sorry ...
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Protective feeling over my child - is this unusual?

I want to know if it is just me that feels too protective of their baby. I mean I can't leave him for a minute on its own, I feel that I have to constantly watch over my precious child. Is it normal ...
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How to encourage healthy skepticism, whilst discouraging pessimism?

I am not a parent, nor will I be for a few years at least, but I am certain that I will be one day. I have some personal demons that I'm struggling to resolve at the moment, which have had an impact ...
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How do I handle an absentee parent wanting to build a relationship later in life?

One of my parents (parent 'B') was consistently unreliable in terms of emotional support and educational development when I was growing up; they never wanted to spend time with me and I often felt ...
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Wrist tendonitis from carrying babies

So, our girl (of twins) really needed to be picked up to be soothed. Both me and mom have tendonitis in our left hands. Specifically I was diagnosed with de Quervain's, though mom technically hasn't ...
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Dealing with parental alienation syndrome (PAS) when the child is younger

Similar to this question, except it just started yesterday, and the child is 3. My son is 3, turning 4 next month. My ex was inching to take away my weekend visits, and I compromised (since it's ...
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How to manage to get more time for ourselves when we have Kids?

We have 1.5 years baby. We are proud parents. But after my baby entered in our life every thing has changed. Day by day we are getting less time for ourselves. we are even getting less time to sleep. ...
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Should I try to protect my son from hearing that his father wants nothing to do with his two boys?

My ex husband, who was near 30 when we had our first child, and 33 when we had our second, hasn't seen his children since 2008.. We broke up when the youngest was 6 months but as his girlfriend was ...
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Mom is a kindergarten teacher

Due to some conflict situation with previous kindergarten owner, we were forced to pull our 2 y.o. from this. In the middle of the year, it's a bit difficult to find new place for a child, but for our ...
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Boys have crush on my 6 year old daughter

Ok so my daughter goes to this new school, and a lot of boys have crush on her. When I pick her up from the after school I see all these little boys trying to flirt with her. I'm very open minded ...
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Suggestions for a father daughter activity that explains me omitting my son [duplicate]

I have a set of twins.. A boy and girl who are 5 years old. I love them both equally and want to have some one one time with each of them.. My son and I go for a haircut every month (or so), and we ...
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What is the best way to combat narcissistic parenting as a parent and authority in the household? [closed]

goop, one of the leading lifestyle publications online today, released an extremely popular newsletter this past week focusing on "The Legacy of a Narcissistic Parent." There are two specific sections ...
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As a teenager, how do I communicate with my mom about her yelling?

I am 17. I have been learning to drive for about a year and a half now. I'm adequate, except for parking and backing up. When I drive with my dad he gives me pointers and advice, which I appreciate. ...
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Where can I find solid, responsible advice for parenting in a marijuana legal community?

I'm so confused with all of the conversation and battling between the industry and the non-industry advocates. Is there one good location to get information on how to teach my children to socially, ...
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Dealing with the psychological consequences of punishment in parenting [closed]

I'm 18 yo boy living pretty much an amazing life. Yet, I've been dealing with feeling of annoyance(sometimes anger but not as rough as the word sounds) every time(almost) I hear people talking very ...
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What should I do when my parents drain all my energy?

I'm 18, almost 19 and I've been dealing with my parents' negativity as far as I remember myself. I'm currently a game programmer, something that isn't from the easiest. Still I manage perfectly to ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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How can parents help an adult child with OCD?

My brother was diagnosed with OCD about two years ago and is following treatment. He lives with our parents (we're both 20-ish years old, but I moved out years ago). He has some conspicuous ...
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Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?

My son's father and I were together until my son was 6.5. We broke up because I found out he had been abusing heroin and stealing thousands of dollars in cash and items from my mother, his friends, ...
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Working mother but unemployed father

I can't stop thinking about this. I hope someone can help me. Just as the title says, my mother is the one who struggles to make money while my father just "eats, sleeps, repeats". He worked across ...
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Are my parents to break my relationship apart?

I am 19 years old, and am currently in a relationship. My parents can't seem to understand the fact that I am now old enough to make my own decisions and to know right from wrong, that I have the ...
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Helping a child cope with a parent's relationships

First- if anyone has a better title suggestion after reading this feel free to edit. I had a hard time formulating a brief description. My oldest son is the result of a failed relationship that ended ...
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How to advise a 9-yr-old girl to stay away from boys but not hate 'em?

The society we live in, there are many chances of molestation. So, I want to advise her that stay away from boys. But at the same time, I don't want her to hate boys forever as once she grows, she has ...
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Son (22) has to keep initiating contact between son and parents after moving out

Me being 22, I moved out a year ago (about half an hour drive away) to live with my girlfriend after I proposed too her. I always (and believe I still do) had/have a good connection with my parents ...
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Which way is correct to keep your kids on the right path: love or strict discipline? [closed]

Recently I had very serious conversation with my married friend regarding parenting of kids in which way need to deal with them love or Strict rules and descipline. I am in side of love and ...
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Younger sister blackmailing parents

She's currently 16. She won't listen to a word my parents have to say. When they ask for the phone, since she's glued to it 24/7 and her grades have plummeted, she won't listen. She knows how to get ...
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Bat mitzvah party invitations

My daughter is having her bat mitzvah party in January. A few other girls have had birthday parties and did not include her. They are now asking her if they are being invited which makes her really ...
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My wife is pregnant and I don't want to be part of it, what I should do? [duplicate]

My wife is pregnant with her 8th child. She has 3 from her first marriage, 2 more with another relation, and I married her and we have 2 more. She got pregnant while she has both an IUD and is on ...
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What are some good “dad jokes”? [closed]

Dad jokes are a type of joke that can (typically) only be told by a dad that is often perceived as embarrassingly bad (especially by the children of said dad). Dad jokes often, but not necessarily, ...
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Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?

My son is now 20 years old, still living with us at home and goes to University three days a week. He has never had a job. Since he was a child I have tried to encourage him to do tasks for pocket ...
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About blackmailing

"Don't blackmail her", said my sister while I was talking to my almost 3 years old daughter. Ok, blackmailing is bad, but… what else ? I read blackmailing reinforce kind of Pavlovian reactions ...
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How can I help reunite my mother and little brother?

So the title says it all, but let me give you a short rundown of what has been going on. My parents are divorced and have been for 15 years now. They live relatively close to each other to make life ...
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Caring for the Children of Deceased Parents

I'd like to first apologize if this is not the correct area to ask this question, but it seems like a good fit as it ultimately involves parenting. I am really wrestling with an issue that recently ...
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Is it wrong for a parent to partake in screaming/dominating competitions with their kids?

I'm not the parent and I don't have any kids, so this is just based on what I observe. There's this mother who, when her daughter (about 3 years old) starts crying and making a fuss, she'll lose her ...
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What challenges exist in raising a child in an apartment?

My wife and I are currently debating whether or not we should move out of our large 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment (1050 square feet/98 m2) and into a house. We do not want to move because we live ...
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How do I get my father to stop making everything about him

My father is a very demanding person, to the point of being unreasonable a lot of the time IMO. But lately it has been getting worse and I feel like i just don't have the energy to deal with it ...
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Effects on children and parents of marriage breaking up

Me and my wife have a two year old son and he is amazing and I love him wholeheartedly. Unfortunately the relationship between my wife and I has frayed to the point where I no longer see a good ...
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Paternity test or not

My son is 2 years old. I do not know who his father is, however I know a person it could potentially be. I am in a deep struggle about whether to get a DNA test or not. When I got pregnant with ...
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How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?

I know this is an SE site for parents dealing with kids... but I am desperate enough for answers, so here it goes. In summary: I am the daughter. My mother is being domestically abused by my father. ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

After some reading, I understand that dropping stuff is a natural part of baby's development. What I couldn't find after some research, was whether or not I should keep giving the objects that he ...
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Is it okay to listen to rap music with violence and swear words when you're with your 7 month old?

My husband and I have been together for 15 years and have always considered our relationship to be a healthy one. But parenthood has taken its toll and we cannot seem to agree on a number of parenting ...
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Non-judgmental all round parenting of a child: Any resources?

How do you allow a child the freedom to fail and make mistakes while ensuring that they are learning from it. Just because a child refuses to conform does not make him/her a loser/problem/etc. Just ...
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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?

My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
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For the benefit of the child: what's better - no father or bad father?

What's best/better for the child in the long/short run - to have no father in his life or to have a "no-good" father in his life? And by "no-good" I mean - mentally and financially unstable, ...
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How to deal with parent's (grandparent's) extreme political views?

Problem Space: My mother holds an extremely polarized political view that I do not agree with. My Specific Issue: My mother has recently gotten to the point where she literally personally blames ...
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Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying

My daughter has been lying and stealing from us as well as someone she called her BFF. We give her consequences and she continues with her stealing and lying. Recently I found out that she was cutting ...
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Caring for three under three: In what ways can the father help?

I have a full-time job, while my wife is a full-time homemaker. Our oldest has just turned three, our second is nearly two, and our third is a newborn. Not exactly three under three, but close. I am ...