Age specific questions from about 8 years to about 11 years. Younger: primary-schooler. Older: pre-teen.

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Should I worry About My 10yo Nephew's Interest in Violence?

I have a 10yo nephew who is obsessed with violence. It's all he talks about. He asks me and my father things like; If I had a gun and you had a knife, could you kill me? If I start doing ...
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9 years old starting at an international school but doesn't speak English

We are moving to Lavia soon and our 9 year old son will be going to an International School, but he doesn't speak English at all. He already speaks two languages (Italian and Portuguese). Do you think ...
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When is the right time to tell my daughter she's not my biological child?

To try to keep the story short... I got divorced almost 4 yrs ago and I have a 11, 12 & 15 yr old. Now I had my suspicions, but I guess I wanted to look the other way and not find out whether it ...
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How to stop my 8 year old son from doubting and/or speaking against the existence of God? [closed]

I am a Muslim, and so is my husband. Our 8 year old son is refusing to learn how to offer namaz and does not offer prayers either, and in his school, he has been slapped and beaten by teachers for ...
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How do I get an 11-year-old to engage in active language comprehension?

Apologies for the vague title, but I wasn't sure how exactly to put the situation. My 11-year-old sister refuses to read properly. (I am out of the house, but my parents discuss the problem with me ...
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What is a suitable bedtime and sleep pattern for an 8 year old?

What is a suitable bedtime and sleep pattern for an 8yr old? My 8yr old Gabrielle goes to bed at half 7 but can read or watch for an hour which means she goes to sleep at around half 8. In the ...
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When do kids stop holding their parent's hand?

At what age do kids stop holding their parent's hands? My 8 year old daughter ALWAYS holds my hand whilst outside. I don't mind, but my partner and older daughter (16) thinks she is too old to be ...
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11-year old having recurring nightmares about killing people she knows. Should I be worried?

She says it's like she's a different person in her dreams, cruel and almost sociopathic, and the people she loves in real life are out to get her, and to escape she has to kill all of them (and ...
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Six and nine-year-olds will not stop having accidents

I have two boys, just turned six and nine. While occasional #1 accidents are not that uncommon in Kindergarten, both of my boys started off their Kindergarten years with lots of them, including #2 ...
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What approaches can I use with an 9 year old that bed-wets and is a heavy sleeper?

Our 9 year old son still bed-wets. The problem is that he is an extremely heavy sleeper; when he needs to pee, he does NOT wake up - even manually trying to wake him up (either to try and pee ...
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What are the pros and cons of having an advanced student skip a mid-elementary grade?

At the end of third grade, our daughter's teacher approached us (and our school's principal) and suggested that with her test scores (high-school level) and level academic mastery, we should put her ...
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How can I help a ten year old girl not to be frightened of feeling sick?

My daughter was quite recently ill with a virus, which caused vomiting and lengthy periods of feeling very sick. This seems to have made her frightened of the sickness feelings. Now when she has a ...
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9 year old crying?

9 year old cries every time she is dropped off at school because she wants to be with her daddy and has a strange feeling about leaving him. She doesn't want to go to school at all because she will be ...
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8 year-old girl very keen on her uncle and not on her aunt, a matter of age?

My wife is the "godmother" of a nice 8 year old girl (her sister's single child). As her husband, she has become increasingly interested in me lately (I'd say since about a year of two maybe), to the ...
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How should screen time be treated to balance the pro of education resources on the internet and con of decreased involvement in other activities?

Screen time is a tricky subject. Around middle school age there are very good uses of technology that emerge where can child can develop healthy hobbies fueled by self-motivation (which may later turn ...
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At what age is it best to teach a child mathematics? At what pace? [closed]

At what age should mathematical / logical concepts be introduced to a child? I feel that parents should be held more responsible even than schools in the educational process.
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When disciplining that used to work no longer works for a middle childhood boy and q preschooler girl

My wife and I are two working parents so most of the discipline happens on week nights or weekends. When our boy or girl was acting out the consequences were usually one of these: Take away ...
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How should I help my 9years old son to get back on TAG program

My 10-year-old boy loves to play a lot. Although he is smart and was in the TAG (Talented and Gifted) program, I have now discovered that the play is getting over him and distracting him. He is no ...
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Explaining to young children that a parent needs some “me time”

How can parents explain to young children that this is not rejection, nor lack of love? It is just that parents sometimes need time off, alone, without being contacted through any means.
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What are the effects of teacher job share on pupil attainment?

What are the effects of teacher job share on pupil attainment, at UK primary school level (age approx 4 to 11)? In the UK, most pupils have a single teacher for all subjects at this age (rather than ...
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How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?

Crazy sports parents. How do you deal with them? I've heard of everything from parents screaming obscenities at players on the opposing team, their own team, or even their own kids, to actual fights ...
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What age to teach a child about fairness?

At what age do you or can you teach a kid about fairness? I helped my cousin watch after her 17 yr old and 11 yr old. I had to pick up the 17 yr old from softball practice. She hinted she wanted to ...
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Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners

My 10 year old son has ADHD. He has some severe issues with focus and memory. We've tried various things to help him focus and remember but they all seem to arbitrarily stick or fail. For now he ...
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How to deal with children succeeding because of their parent's efforts rather than their own?

It's that time of year again: Pinewood Derby! The Cub Scout motto is "Do Your Best". But it's also important to recognize true excellence. Our pack does a good job of balancing those values by giving ...
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How can we help children learn to handle online freedom?

It's clear that children growing up with the internet the same way that my generation grew up with television: it's ubiquitous. Just like my parents worried that too much TV would harm me, it's not ...
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How can I talk my son through his competition anxiety?

This year my son tested into our district's Math Field Day competition. He was very excited to show us the results and we all agreed to commit to the weekly practice sessions after school. He enjoys ...
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How does one go about determining if a child, adolescent or teen is capable of understanding a given book?

This question was inspired by one posed on the Science Fiction Stack Exchange by a parent wondering about The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Through some commentary and discussion, he did clarify ...
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Is it okay for my child to be a “latchkey kid”?

My parents were divorced and separated by the time I was in school. My mother worked full time, and didn't get home until several hours after school ended. As a result, I was what is known as a ...
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How do I address a teacher humiliating my son by calling him a “tattletale”?

My friend recently shared this experience, and I thought it would be a good question for our site: So, [my son] got in trouble in school today. It seems that the kids were lined up in the ...
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How to help a tomboy not dread puberty

She's ten and mostly plays with the boys, fitting in well due to her easy-going nature, outstanding athleticism, strong sense of fair play, and wild and crazy sense of humor. She's super competitive, ...
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How do I stop my son picking at his scabs

My 9 year old son has developed a habit of picking at a scab on his forehead. Unfortunately plasters just do no stick there for more than an hour or three (sweaty). How can I get him to stop this as ...
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How to get schizophrenia and bipolar kids to take medication?

I have a friend, who has a child ( who is about 12-13 years old) who is diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar symptom. Now, dealing with a child who can't think straightly and suffer from ...
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How to help kids remember to keep track of their own stuff and keep it together when not at home

My six year old daughter is just transitioning into attending classes and activities more independently. As this is happening, she may get dropped off by her dad and picked up by me (and vice versa). ...
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How to deal with tantrums in an older child?

We have three boys aged 4, 8 and 10. The youngest & eldest seem to be fine and no issues, but the middle child is quite willful and having tantrums. Its like he never quite grew out of the ...
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What do you do to help an ADHD kid get along in the classroom or with school work better?

Rather than always trying to change the child, what are some techniques for ways to help a "wiggly kid" function in the classroom better without it just being about "sitting still"? The methods I ...
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How can I stop bad language in the home? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: What do we do when timeouts are not effective? My children are aged 6-10. The consistent use of bad Language including the F word is way out of control. Things like ...
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Why is my 10 yr old struggling with school?

I have a 10 year old daughter who has been struggling with school for the past 3 years. She struggles in reading and math and just seems to not get it. There was a time she would even cry when it was ...
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How to improve my 9yo child's short term memory

My daughter is now 10 and was recently given an IQ test. This was a comprehensive, 2 hour test administered by a child psychologist who specialises in gifted children. Her results were highly ...
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What should parents know about “flat feet”?

Our son was flat footed with very little arch. His pediatrician was not concerned. In preschool, he complained of discomfort when wearing shoes with an arch support. By age 9-10, his condition ...
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Is there an alternative to Boy/Girl Scouts in the US?

My son desperately wants to join the Boy Scouts, but I've had to say no due to the local troop's religious agenda. I've been helping my friend try to come up with ideas for her daughter's new Girl ...
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Looking for a daily/weekly chart that awards a child's behavior and Chore completion

Currently I'm trying to create on in excel, but I'm wondering if I'm re-inventing here. I would like the option to customise the chores and behaviors and the rewards and assign different score values ...
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My child doesn't want to be seen in public with me… what should I do?

I drive my 10 year old child to school each day. However, lately he has been complaining about my dropping him off at school. He says it is embarrassing to be seen being dropped off by his father, ...
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Where is the line on helping with homework?

Here's something I know a lot of parents with school-age children struggle with. What's the line between "helping" a child with their homework versus out-and-out doing it for them? At what point is ...
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My son turns 10, what can I do for him that will be special?

January 2012, my son turns 10. I want to do something special with him, just me and him. A male bonding session to celebrate his double-digits. I've spoken to my wife and she thinks it's a great idea, ...
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How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?

Backstory: My 8 yr old son is a bright, gentle, etc, kid who attends public school. My wife and I have no TV, we disallow violent games (simulated killing is not allowed), we don't have video games, ...
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When do kids usually stop believing in Santa Claus?

My 7-year old son treats Santa as a real person. He probably suspects something, but me and my wife always find a way to persuade him. What is the normal age when children realize that Santa is not ...
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How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?

My 9 year old girl is currently going through a phase where she isn't getting her homework done by herself. I'm trying to find the right balance between encouraging her to get her homework done, yet, ...