Grandparents are parents of parents.

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Kids in multicultural, multi-generational household

My wife is Chinese and I am an American guy. We live in the US and have a 4.5 y/o and 18 m/o. My wife's parents, in very traditional Chinese fashion (I guess it's common among many Asian cultures), ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

My 9-year-old stepson has terrible tantrums. I was abused as a child and used to act out as a result. Teachers and other adults were very hostile to me and failed to recognize my cries for help. So ...
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How to stop grandparents from acting overprotective?

I have been living with my wife's family for a while both before and after the birth of my kid, and my mother-in-law feels like she is right about everything. My wife is also a way of nagging what ...
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What names can a father-in-law use w former daughter-in-law after a divorce

I am planning for the future time (hopefully this year) when a nasty divorce that involves a child (my grandchild) is finalized. Over the past 5 years, my relationship with my daughter-in-law has ...
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Should I be expected to love my new step-granddaughter instantly?

My son has been living with his girlfriend for 4 years. He has an 11-year-old daughter and his girlfriend also has an 11-year-old daughter. They live in another state and do not come to see me. My ...
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Step Parent - To be concerned or not to be

Brief history: Became involved with a young woman, knowing she had a 5 year old daughter. Biological dad was in the picture til daughter was 2-3, and then left the state. Strangled mother while ...
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How do I make my son listen to my discipline, not my mother-in-law?

I have a 6 year old and was a single mum for 4 years. I raised him and disciplined him to the point where he is very very sociable and everybody thinks he is one of the most well behaved boys they ...
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Extended family not catering for baby's routine

We have a 15 month old child. He is the only sub 10 year-old in my side of the family. I recently got into a dispute with family, as they wanted us to arrive for a family occasion at a specific time, ...
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Getting grandparents to accept parents' choices

I understand that what children are supposed to eat is a bone of contention between parents and grandparents in many families. However this is not the main point of my question. I would like to ...
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How do I get my father to stop making everything about him

My father is a very demanding person, to the point of being unreasonable a lot of the time IMO. But lately it has been getting worse and I feel like i just don't have the energy to deal with it ...
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Safe to take a baby under 6 months old to old folks home?

I'm having an argument with a relative who believes that it is actually dangerous to take my child to see their great-grandmother who is living in the nursing section of an old folks home. She's not ...
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Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?

Sadly these are her words, not mine. Why is this posted in this QA site? Because I can't see how it is good for the children that she (when my wife is not around) shouts at me in front of them; cuts ...
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How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome

Very soon my mother's brother will be released from prison. He is a pedophile. He was caught, plead guilty, etc etc...he is not someone I'd want around any child, certainly not my own. My mother, ...
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Parent's in law who can't be trusted to baby-sit want to - how do we figure this one out without hurting them?

My in-laws have tried to give our baby who is only just beginning to eat solid foods, candy, soda, and other adult foods because they think it is funny to "irritate daddy and mommy." My daughter has ...
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As a grandma what can I say if my daughter sits and watches her 4 year old hack at her hair

I find it very distressing to witness the disfiguring of my grandaughter while my daughter says it is ok for her to cut her own her hair, from beautiful long curly hair to a hacked haircut. What can I ...
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My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her

Alright, I guess a little back story would help. I am a single mother and an only child, I will be 21 in a few months. I've graduated high school with honors and have been raising my daughter on my ...
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What can be done to encourage grandparents to be equitable between siblings?

The short question is this. How can we as parents encourage our parents to be more equitable in their treatment of their grandchildren? As background here is my situation. When my wife and I got ...
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How to explain to your child why a grandparent isn't around

My parents divorced when I was 10 and that was the last time I had a relationship with my father. My father still lives close to me locally but he doesn't contact me, and if I see him in public I ...
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Grandparent put a diaper on my toilet trained child

I was out for 5 hours and my mom put a pull-up on my 25 month old daughter who refused diapers at 19 months. She never used a pull-up before though she has 2 cloth trainers that are thick but they ...
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Mother in law making us feel guilty about money

We have a mother in law who always makes uncomfortable comments about things we've purchased, such as our TV. We're a single income family with two children living in an apartment. We have no debt ...
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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?

Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary. How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...