How to enforce the rules you set for the child, and consequences when those rules are broken. See the tag [behavior] about why children act the way they do.
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Our 6 years old son doesn't follow instructions very well, bad listening skills, I need help
My step son is 6 years old, he is a very good boy but he isn't doing good when it comes to following directions. He gives up so easy and beat himself up for things that he fails at. For example in his ...
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7 year old boy who uses bad language
I am at a loss as to what to do with my seven-year-old son. He constantly uses bad words. Occasionally, he uses curse words but mostly it is words like "dumb," "idiot," "stupid," etc. At first I ...
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How long should a 3 year old be sent to his room?
Our son is almost 3 years old and he's been getting worse about talking back and not obeying our directions (such as "put on your shoes" or "pick up your toys"). We're thinking about implementing ...
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How to get a child to stop pretending to choke on foods he doesn't want to eat?
I have a 4 1/2 yr old. We're at the stage where he's definitely finicky over foods. The issue is not so much that he's finicky, but that he expresses it by taking a bite and then mock choking. I am ...
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Making isolation not feel like a punishment
My six year-old son is very extroverted, and prefers to play with someone. My three year-old daughter is strong-willed but introverted, and prefers to play on her own. When they play together, my ...
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My 8 year old daughter was taught by her classmates how to use the middle finger. How do I get her to stop this behavior?
Two of my daughter's 8 year old class mates taught my daughter how to use the middle finger. My daughter is now obsessed and wont stop. We don't use this at home and find it offensive. However she ...
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Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten
Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. he is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing i do will stop his behaviour.
he has hurt other students and his ...
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How to punish “unpunishable” 3y old
My son is 3,5y old. Genrally he's a good boy. But whenever he can be very annoying at some time and just refuses to listen.
For example he will take my cell phone and when we ask to give it back, it ...
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How to avoid association of child's room with time-outs?
Sometimes we send our toddler son to his room, either to calm down or because he has misbehaved and we need some distance. Our aim is not primarily the punishment, but rather to have him calm down ...
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Should you secretly drill your children?
A lot of situations we teach our children about come up all the time. They get plenty of practice looking both ways before crossing the street, for example. However, there are some situations that ...
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Punishment for stealing?
I'm in a situation where I'm really not sure what the best course of action is. Today I promised my younger sister that I would give her $100 if she worked up to running 3 miles. As proud as I was ...
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What kind of obedience is to be expected from a 2-years old?
My daughter is 2-years old, with what seems a good development overall. We also have a 7-months son. My wife takes care of them at home most of the time, and they also see their cousin (also 2-years ...
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How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?
Our 3.5 yo is starting to talk back to us in the typical futile yes/no/yes/no pattern of opposites. The other day it was hooking his straps on his car seat; I asked him to put his arms in (like we ...
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My wild son - have i missed out on the key years of relationship-building and discipline?
I'm worried about my son's behavior.
He's bright and energetic, but his behavior seems out of control.
He was walking at 7 months. His language has always been good - he knew his alphabet in song ...
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Is 5 Year Old Exhibiting Bullying Signs?
My SO and I are concerned about his 5yo's recent behavior. She has become sneaky, rebellious, defiant, manipulative, and slightly physical with her 4yo sister, but never with other children. It truly ...
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How to react when a child is in a dangerous situation which requires immediate reaction?
As with all children my son (16 months old) frequently gets himself in dangerous situations
There is no problem with somewhat "static" situations, like trying to climb on a chair or slowly reaching ...
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What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor?
The girls insist on opening presents for their younger cousins and brother at birthday parties where the family is included. While this was acceptable when the younger cousins (and sibling) were too ...
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What is the best way to respond if my child is picked on by other children?
What can I do if other children pick on my children? Obviously I can't perform any disciplinary actions. Reprimanding might make my child look like a "mama's boy" and doing nothing might look like a ...
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My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?
As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
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What is the best way to deal with a 16 month old who started hitting? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
How do you discourage a toddler from hitting people?
Out of the blue my 16 month old son has started hitting his sister (4 year old) and other kids when he is frustrated ...
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Is the “1 2 3 Magic” strategy for disciplining effective?
Has anyone had experience with the discipline strategies put forth in the book "1 2 3 Magic" by Thomas W Phelan?
"1-2-3 Magic" involves counting your child for bad behavior. For example, your ...
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Disciplining a special needs child [closed]
What should a parent keep in mind when it comes to discipline and children with autism? What about children with learning disabilities?
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?
My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes!
He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?
My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us.
He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink ...
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How to stop preschooler from taking toiletries from the bathroom to “play with”?
Our 4-year old has (finally) potty-trained and is starting to use the bathroom on his own.
Recently though, unless we're constantly paying close attention every time he goes, he's started taking ...
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How to ensure that necessary things get done when time is short?
My question is based on the following assumptions:
I think that children learn by their success, if a certain behavior "works" to get what they want or not.
In consequence: A child should never ...
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How strict can I be with my niece?
I am a new Uncle and I sometimes find myself in the position that I should tell my niece off, yet I feel that it's not my place to do this.
I would only raise my voice to her, but I feel this may ...
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How does a parent help her kid eliminate a habit? Specifically chewing on hair?
In viewing a question about nose-picking, I was considering other habits and how the solutions applied to those habits. What does one do if the habit is hair chewing? Lip chewing? Nail biting? . . . ...
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How to deal with tantrums in an older child?
We have three boys aged 4, 8 and 10. The youngest & eldest seem to be fine and no issues, but the middle child is quite willful and having tantrums. Its like he never quite grew out of the ...
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How do you handle a toddler that refuses to say 'sorry'?
My two-year-old son is generally exceptionally well-behaved and polite.
He was saying "please" and "thank you" at a very early age, and would apologize if he had problems sharing or accidentally hurt ...
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How do we teach our 1 yr. old that “no” isn't a game?
We have a little girl that's almost 13 months old. She's found that when she touches a power cord or near an electrical outlet and we say "no" that it's a bit of a game. She gets a funny smirk on her ...
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How do I put my child in time-out when we're in public?
What is the recommended thing to do when my kids are misbehaving in public?
For instance, I have had situations where they are yelling and throwing stuff in a restaurant, or the other day they one ...
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How can I get my 4 year old to clean up toys without a battle?
Multiple times during the day, we have our 4 year old take a break from playing to clean up her toys. It's a huge battle every time. Usually, she ends up on the ground saying that there are too many ...
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Kids and Cell Phones? What limits should be set along with giving the first phone?
My nieces and nephew visited recently and I was floored that all three of the girls (including the eight year old) already have their own cell phones. What really bowled me over was when we sat down ...
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How do you encourage your primary-school-aged child to eat new foods?
I thought this question might be a good complement to a question posted about a child that pretends to choke when he doesn't like a certain food. This question and its answers mostly address the ...
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Getting a good diagnosis for possible mental issues?
To keep this short sweet and simple... I have a 8 year old who has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on all the typical medications. I will admit they do help significantly but I still see things ...
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What is the best way to calmly respond to a pre-schooler who will not listen?
What is the best way to approach 4yo son that behaves poorly and\or doesn't listen to you, ignores your words, and at the same time stay calm?
It seems the only thing he understands is a physical ...
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What consequences are appropriate for pre-teens?
There comes a time when time-outs don't cut it anymore.
Normally, when my kids exercise poor judgement, I let them experience natural consequences. However, sometimes their actions go against what we ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?
Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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How do I get my child to stop picking his nose?
My son picks his nose and, yes, eats it. How can I get this to stop?
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk.
If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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What are some suggestions for punishing a child?
My daughters are clearly pushing the boundaries lately. They are trying to find out what is possible. I am really looking into ways to setting the boundaries. A friend recently suggested creating a ...
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How to deal with a “litter bug”
My daughter has started just leaving things where she stands - things like food wrappers and orange peels. I have pretty much treated it as I would remembering to the flush the toilet.
I started by ...
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Is punishment necessary?
I'm a young parent, and still have a lot to learn, but I have been wondering a lot about whether punishment needs to be a part of parenting. Maybe I'm being too optimistic here, but are there any ...
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Is it alright to use corporal punishment on children? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
When is physical punishment appropriate?
Will this psychologically affect them negatively? Will they become bitter or will they learn through this experience that if you ...
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How do you handle poor behavior by other people's children?
I believe that interacting with a variety of other children at social functions is an important part of childhood development. However, there seem to be a lot of children who are... how shall I ...
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Toddler: How to remove “over” attachment for Mom?
We have a 3 year old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly atached to his mom. Where ever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is ...
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How to react to “cruelty” of a toddler?
My son is two and a half years old and is not in general of the violent type. However he regularly enjoys showing "cruelty". By that I mean that regularly when he "by accident" (let's stay positive) ...
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Any suggestions on how to control yelling and negativity on our part, and also teach my 8 yr old son to not feel so helpless and cry so easily?
This is about my 8-year old son, who cries easily and helplessly, mostly in response to our enforcing discipline and routine or refusing things he wants.
I understand that he should not expect to be ...
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How do you respond to minor injuries?
I have a 21-month-old daughter. Sometimes (not always), if she bumps her head, or stubs her toe, or whatever, this results in crying and asking to be held (and not wanting to be put down once the ...
