How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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16 year old son. He is lazy and refuses to keep clean [on hold]

My son is currently in Job Corp but will be kicked out soon due to not keeping his room clean, not taking showers, not keeping clean, lieing, and just being lazy. He has been this way since he was ...
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Is 15 years old too old to ground for bad grades?

I have a 15 year old that has been grounded 60% of the time the past two years. Most of the groundings are around his grades or forgetting to do homework. When he is grounded at first he buckles ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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how to stop my son hitting his playmate?

what will i do when he like to play with other children, but eventually he hits them when he got mad on them? Is that right that i just get him from their play ground and just told him to stay at ...
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23 month old twins disturbing each other at bed time

We have 23 month old twin boys (I'll call them C&D) whom we have about 2 months ago transitioned away from a crib by taking away one side and creating an enclosure of sort (about 12 x 12 feet) ...
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How to talk with my six-year-old

I have a six-year-old daughter who is almost never shy or afraid to voice her opinion, but there are times when she is just a bit much to handle. Sometimes she'll misbehave in public in a fairly loud ...
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not settled in school

I have a 6 year old Godson, we live in the Caribbean, and he's in Grade 2. He spends more time talking, playing and sometime just sitting in his class not doing anything his teacher says to do. We ...
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My 6 years old boy behavior is terrible at school and home

My 6 year old son breaks everything can can put his hands on, talks back to me, and bothers his sister and brother all the time. He can't stay focused in school and will be left behind this year, ...
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How do I get my child to stop picking his nose?

My son picks his nose and, yes, eats it. How can I get this to stop?
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My son is discouraged

I have a 10-yr-old son. He's a fifth grader right now and I have been really worried about his attitude toward homework and everything that has to do with studying. He constantly calls himself stupid ...
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Getting things done - balancing directives vs. autonomy (elementary school age)

I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, who, while in the top tier regarding intelligence and grades, has a serious problem of 'getting things done'. Simple things. The issue does not occur at school ...
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How do you discipline someone else's child?

We have friend who is living with us and he has a 5-year old boy. The child has been disrespectful and distructive. He tore a ceiling fan down, and has been breaking stuff and writing on the walls. ...
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Angry & Stubborn Child, Dont know how to control him. Please help

My son who is 5 years old and demonstrating really bad behaviour which is embrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months. At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn'...
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Our 6 years old son doesn't follow instructions very well, bad listening skills, I need help

My step son is 6 years old, he is a very good boy but he isn't doing good when it comes to following directions. He gives up so easy and beat himself up for things that he fails at. For example in his ...
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My son is 6 and goes to the bath room but doesnt like to wipe

he comes home from school soiled on his underwear and rashed really bad. He doesnt care that kids make fun of him. I need help. Its happening every day.
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9 year old son brought a toy gun to school – how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?

My well behaved, bright, popular, naive 9 year old son brought a plastic toy revolver (the kind with the bright orange barrel to indicate that it's a toy) to school yesterday. He snuck it into his ...
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How to extract child from busy place without physical restraint

Last weekend, my wife took our two children (almost 3 and 14 months) to the museum. They go there frequently (5-10 times in the last six months), and usually have no problems. This time, the older ...
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4 year old son, overly confident, retaliates at nuresry

Our 4 and a half year old son has recently been getting into trouble at nursery. On three separate occasions now we have been called in to speak to the teachers there as he has done something naughty. ...
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Problems with my son's friend

My son's 11 year old (male) friend, whom I will call Mike for the sake of discussion, is loud and rude. At the beginning of the school year, Mike asked me if I was willing to drive him home ...
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18 months old twins constantly biting

I have 18 months old twin girls who recently started to bite, both their sister and us. It's not like when they were teething, it's an aggressive move. We've tried to talk to them explaining that it'...
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How can you teach a toddler about pain without actually inflicting any in return?

My daughter is entering those 'terrible twos', and as a father I want to find the method of teaching her discipline and self control that really gets the point across. For most behaviors, my wife and ...
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How to react to “cruelty” of a toddler?

My son is two and a half years old and is not in general of the violent type. However he regularly enjoys showing "cruelty". By that I mean that regularly when he "by accident" (let's stay positive) ...
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4 year old, biological Mom used drugs, behavior out of control

I have a 4 yr. old Son, he was adopted at birth. His biological "mom" used meth during pregnancy. I knew that he could develop problems in regard to behaviors. He's extremely bright, learns easy ...
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What could be the effects of telling a small child “The bad man is going to come” as a threat to enforce good behavior? [duplicate]

My childhood best friend's family would tell their young daughter, maybe 5-7 years old things like "Im gonna call the bad man" or "The bad man's gonna get ya if you dont be good." I dont think they ...
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How to deal with my teenager step daughter's rebellious behavior?

My 14 yo step daughter loves troubling us. I initially thought taking her side and spending time with her may improve the situation. But I guess, I was wrong . She loves breaking rules. She talks ...
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How can I deal with a misbehaving 17 year old girl?

I have a daughter who is 17 years old. She does not respect me, she shouts at me and she goes to parties where there are older friends and alcohol consumption, against my wishes. She just goes out ...
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How to handle older kids with my younger son

I have a 3 year old son. He's quite outgoing with kids around his age and with most adults. He goes to daycare a few days a week and interacts fine with the other kids. However he is sensitive and ...
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How to deal with homework/studies frustration?

Our kid has been going through some fallback in school scores recently, and as a result, I've been monitoring and helping him to do his homework. Usually, everything goes smoothly, but sometimes, ...
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7-year old with Asperger's caught stealing - how to deal with that?

Today my 7-year old child was caught stealing in their classroom. They suffer from light Asperger's, so I'm not sure that they even notice having done something wrong. I'm not eager to punish my child ...
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5 yr old behavioral/anger problems

My daughter, in the past 6 months has been displaying severe anger. When a toy doesn't come together, if she doesn't get her way... she throws herself on the floor and starts kicking and screaming. ...
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How do you stop a child from using bad language and profanity?

My child has started to use swear words. This is shocking because he is using words that we don't use. I'm not sure how to react! How do I get this to stop?
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12 year old girl out of control

I have a almost 12 year old daughter. I also have 2 older daughters, 20 and 21. My 12 year old is out of control. She tells us to shut up, calls us stupid, is just mouthy. She throws her stuff ...
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Help my husband and 14 year old daughter are fighting

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 kids (2 are from previous relationships.) My daughter is the oldest at 14. We're both new to teenagers. He's kind of the enforcer, and I guess ...
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Effective ways to discipline my 5 year old

My five year old can be challenging at times. She just started kindergarten this year and has improved with her behavior some, but still makes bad decisions that she knows better than to make. She can ...
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My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?

My son is a 13-year-old honor roll student. He comes home and has all his chores done by the time I get home. He is a great kid. He was hanging out with his friends; this group has been friends ...
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My son won't behave in school [duplicate]

I have a six year old son in kindergarten that just won't behave. His school compiles a behavior chart and he always behaves badly, like talking too much, not listening, being impatient, talking over ...
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How to be a good Single Mom with a large family and dealing with ADHD

I am recently divorced and have full custody of our six children. My husband was violent with the children and I'm not sure how to discipline them without using violence. My children range in age from ...
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Is there a good summary of the different discipline philosophies for pre-school and school aged childern

Is there a good website or book that describes and compares the current leading approaches to disciplining pre-school and school aged children. I realize that there are numerous opinions on the best ...
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How can I stop my 5 year's violent tantrums?

I am a single mom to a very good 5 year old little boy...90% of the time. About once a week...give or take he has a meltdown and becomes violent (hitting, scratching, biting, throwing things, etc). I ...
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How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?

My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us. He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink milk,...
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Discipline and managing a 5 year old

My daughter will turn 5 in the next 3 months. I am having a hard time controlling her and getting her to listen to me. She is defiant and argues about everything. She has even started hitting me. If I ...
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How do I get my one year old to stop grinding her teeth?

My daughter is thirteen months old and has four teeth on top and two on the bottom. She is constantly grinding them against each other, which is not only bad for her, but also makes a sound that makes ...
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12yr old daughter defying consequence and out of control

My daughter is 12 years old and is obsessed with social media apps and chatting with friends online, whether on her phone or computer. She is currently banned from using Instagram and snapchat, due to ...
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My 2.5 years old daughter says no to everything, all the time, again and again

I think somebody has already asked this kind of question, but my situation is a little different. My 2.5-year-old daughter has been in an increasingly-more-difficult period of "no" for 6 long months ...
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Is there an evidence-based study regarding the long-term psychological effects of spanking? [duplicate]

Any answers to this question I would hope would cite at least one reputable source; I'm really not looking for 40 opinions. As a nonspanker, I'm frequently surprised this is still in practice around ...
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Step Children Issues

My husband has two lovely boys, age 8 and 9. Boys are staying over in in-laws' house to finish their school. Boys are coming over for weekends and I take them to school on Mondays. We are having ...
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Is it okay to call children naughty?

Inspired by this question: Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)? In this question, the word "naughty" is repeatedly used to describe a child. I ...
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What to do if your threaten be your older sister! [closed]

So I was in my home doing nothing but making some updates to my wifi network when my sister came and something happened between my sister,mother and I my sister 17 year old and me 13 year old went out ...
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How do I deal with rude or uncooperative siblings?

This is a bit of a tricky one but here goes: I'm in my mid-twenties and (for various reasons) currently live at home with both parents, my 15 year old sister, and my 17 year old brother. I regularly ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?

My 13 year old son has been smoking and selling weed for at least a year now, drinks whenever he can get any alcohol, and has been black-out drunk. He also smokes cigarettes and vapes. (He's also done ...