How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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Punishment for stealing?

I'm in a situation where I'm really not sure what the best course of action is. Today I promised my younger sister that I would give her $100 if she worked up to running 3 miles. As proud as I was ...
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My wild son - have i missed out on the key years of relationship-building and discipline?

I'm worried about my son's behavior. He's bright and energetic, but his behavior seems out of control. He was walking at 7 months. His language has always been good - he knew his alphabet in song ...
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What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor?

The girls insist on opening presents for their younger cousins and brother at birthday parties where the family is included. While this was acceptable when the younger cousins (and sibling) were too ...
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What is the best way to deal with a 16 month old who started hitting? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: How do you discourage a toddler from hitting people? Out of the blue my 16 month old son has started hitting his sister (4 year old) and other kids when he is frustrated (...
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Disciplining a special needs child [closed]

What should a parent keep in mind when it comes to discipline and children with autism? What about children with learning disabilities?
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How to stop preschooler from taking toiletries from the bathroom to “play with”?

Our 4-year old has (finally) potty-trained and is starting to use the bathroom on his own. Recently though, unless we're constantly paying close attention every time he goes, he's started taking ...
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How to ensure that necessary things get done when time is short?

My question is based on the following assumptions: I think that children learn by their success, if a certain behavior "works" to get what they want or not. In consequence: A child should never ...
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How strict can I be with my niece?

I am a new Uncle and I sometimes find myself in the position that I should tell my niece off, yet I feel that it's not my place to do this. I would only raise my voice to her, but I feel this may ...
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How does a parent help her kid eliminate a habit? Specifically chewing on hair?

In viewing a question about nose-picking, I was considering other habits and how the solutions applied to those habits. What does one do if the habit is hair chewing? Lip chewing? Nail biting? . . . ...
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How do you handle a toddler that refuses to say 'sorry'?

My two-year-old son is generally exceptionally well-behaved and polite. He was saying "please" and "thank you" at a very early age, and would apologize if he had problems sharing or accidentally hurt ...
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How do we teach our 1 yr. old that “no” isn't a game?

We have a little girl that's almost 13 months old. She's found that when she touches a power cord or near an electrical outlet and we say "no" that it's a bit of a game. She gets a funny smirk on her ...
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Getting a good diagnosis for possible mental issues?

To keep this short sweet and simple... I have a 8 year old who has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on all the typical medications. I will admit they do help significantly but I still see things ...
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What is the best way to calmly respond to a pre-schooler who will not listen?

What is the best way to approach 4yo son that behaves poorly and\or doesn't listen to you, ignores your words, and at the same time stay calm? It seems the only thing he understands is a physical ...
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What consequences are appropriate for pre-teens?

There comes a time when time-outs don't cut it anymore. Normally, when my kids exercise poor judgement, I let them experience natural consequences. However, sometimes their actions go against what we ...
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How to deal with a “litter bug”

My daughter has started just leaving things where she stands - things like food wrappers and orange peels. I have pretty much treated it as I would remembering to the flush the toilet. I started by ...
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Is it alright to use corporal punishment on children? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: When is physical punishment appropriate? Will this psychologically affect them negatively? Will they become bitter or will they learn through this experience that if you go ...
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Toddler: How to remove “over” attachment for Mom?

We have a 3 year old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly atached to his mom. Where ever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is ...
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Any suggestions on how to control yelling and negativity on our part, and also teach my 8 yr old son to not feel so helpless and cry so easily?

This is about my 8-year old son, who cries easily and helplessly, mostly in response to our enforcing discipline and routine or refusing things he wants. I understand that he should not expect to be ...
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How do you respond to minor injuries?

I have a 21-month-old daughter. Sometimes (not always), if she bumps her head, or stubs her toe, or whatever, this results in crying and asking to be held (and not wanting to be put down once the ...
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How do I discipline my 4 year old for not playing with schoolmates?

How do I discipline my child for poor behavior done at school. My daughter, 4 years old, is telling other children she won't play with them. This is competly unacceptable and when she does it with ...
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How strict should we be with our 14 month old boy?

Our baby is really sweet :) Generally can be considered as a good / easy going baby. There are times though, when he gets totally out of control. I've had a discussion with a child-psychologist who ...
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Is long-term punishment effective for children under 5?

A child throws a ball inside the house hard enough to knock over some furniture. He knows he's not supposed to throw the ball inside, so there's a punishment. Is "taking the ball away for a week" an ...
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What do I do when the timeout method isn't working? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: What do we do when timeouts are not effective? My littler girl just turned 2 but is as smart as a whip! I am having trouble with the timeout method. I am being consistent ...
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What is the minimum amount of structure and rules that a child needs?

My wife and I have very different ways of handling our children (almost 3 and 5 years old). We agree about the rules we want to set, but we are complete opposite when it comes to implementing the ...
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Are there studies on the effects of spanking? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: Are there any reputable studies on spanking? Is there any serious research on whether kids who are punished through pain-infliction by parents learn how to properly act in ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?

My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior. Is there a way to ...
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Should I let food be a way out of a “time out”?

My 16 month old has always been very willful and it is hard to get her to drink a lot of milk that is not from breastfeeding. I have read that "time out"'s are timed 1 minute per year of age, rounding ...
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Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?

This is the kind of behaviour which I have seen in lot of kids including mine (2 year old). When I tell him NOT to hold a knife, he will make sure he does it. If I tell him not to spill milk on the ...
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Addressing bad behavior after the fact

My 5 (almost 6) year old daughter has started doing things that she knows are wrong when friends are over. From what I can tell, it's not the friends who are instigating the bad behavior, it's my ...
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How to avoid corporal punishment?

I know that beating and spanking is no good, but there are situations sometimes when I'm unable to maintain control over myself. We have two boys, one's five and the other's two. Due to their age ...
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How can parents avoid their child becoming a “whiner”?

Inspired from my previous question, but distilled to be more specific: What types of parenting would cause a child to become a "whiner?" By this, I mean that the child becomes someone who tends to ...
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How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?

My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident" I don'...
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How can I tell if my suggestions have become a form of bullying [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: What constitutes verbal abuse of one's child? I am worried that my constant reminders and punishments are being taken as bullying. I might be over reacting but then ...
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Golden rule 'do's' and 'don'ts'' when holding a child's party - your experiences are asked!

This Saturday my 4 year old is having 5 Kindergarten friends over to celebrate being one meter tall (it's a 'one meter party'). We'll have a house and (weather permitting) garden for an afternoon of ...
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Is it reasonable to put limits on a pre-teen playing video games?

Posted on behalf of a friend of mine: What are appropriate rules for how much time kids actually get to play video games (such as x-box 360, PlayStation 3, or on the PC)? Apparently we are the ONLY ...
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What are ways to stay calm when dealing with an argumentative teen as a step parent?

How do you deal with becoming short-tempered when dealing with a teenage step-daughter that's running her mouth? How do you cope with feeling overwhelmed, and how do you stay cool when hurtful things ...
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How can I make my preschool child brush his teeth, and similar mandatory tasks?

Most tasks and chores can be taught by letting the child experience consequences, because those consequences are mostly immediate and direct (e.g. not going to the playground if the child won't put on ...
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How can I negotiate with a toddler successfully?

Recently our 2.5 daughter started being really annoying about doing simple daily things, like brushing her teeth, dressing, undressing, putting on shoes to go out, etc. Often we need to negotiate up ...
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Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?

"Hot saucing", a technique where a small quantity of hot sauce is introduced a kid's mouth as disciplinary action, is considered bad parenting. Though I have not done hot saucing (possibly because my ...
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Should I replace the food my 18 month throws on the floor?

My child drops her food. Sometimes its an accident, but often she is rebelling or throwing a small fit. Should I give into her tantrums and give her alternative choices? I am considering not giving ...
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What are some techniques for toddlers to develop and practice good listening skills?

Like most toddlers, my 3 year old has to be told to do this or not do that over and over again. Rather than hoping she learns over time through the inevitable trouble she gets in for not listening, I ...
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How do you moderate a teenager's obsessive or excessive behavior?

We're not dealing with teenagers yet but I would really like to avoid this kind of outburst. How have parents with teenagers been able to find/establish a balance for their children to not be so ...
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How do I stop my daughter from hitting another child?

Recently my daughter started to hit another girl with whom she is currently sharing her nanny. My daughter is 2 years and 2 months now, the other child is 1 year 3 months. The nanny was our daughters ...
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Should we use a smiley chart to reward/punish our toddler?

Possible Duplicate: How to operate a successful “Star Chart”? Our nanny came up with an idea today to create a sort of table for our daughter, where they would draw a sun or smiley ...
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What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?

We've all lost our cool at one point or another. We all know its terrible to raise your voice at your kids, but every once in a while we slip. I've occasionally raised my voice to my teenager and to ...
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When is physical punishment appropriate? [closed]

In what instances do you feel that striking your child is the most appropriate course of action?