How to enforce the rules you set for the child, and consequences when those rules are broken. See the tag [behavior] about why children act the way they do.

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The rules at a friend's house are a lot more lax than at mine - how do I enforce basic safety?

A couple of kids recently moved into the neighborhood and they are great kids that my daughter is having a really good time with. Rules at their house are pretty lax - they can go all over the ...
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Suggestions for helping a 5 year old boy with horrible behavior

So I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there that knows of any discipline suggestions that maybe I haven't tried. I'm waiting for mental health to get back to me but I need something in the ...
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How do you teach a 1 year old to stop biting people?

I have a friend with a one year old that bites people, maybe as a sign of affection, but doesn't know that it hurts others. How can his parents discipline him regarding this behavior? Do you try to ...
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What is the best way to deal with a 16 month old who started hitting? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: How do you discourage a toddler from hitting people? Out of the blue my 16 month old son has started hitting his sister (4 year old) and other kids when he is frustrated ...
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Gifted child at gifted school still dealing with behavior problems

My child has always had behavioral problems; I even had a lot of behavior problems as a child so he gets it honestly. I thought that after he was deemed gifted and placed in a gifted program I would ...
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Discipline for a 3 and 5 year old

I am a step-mother to two children. They obviously come from a split family. This past year that the Father and I have been together, and court proceedings for custody continue, we have noticed huge ...
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How do you respond to your pre-schooler when they tell you that you're on Santa's Naughty List?

My three-year-old son really enjoyed Christmas. My son is still talking about how Santa came to our house to fill our stockings two times (my wife put treats in one night, and I put some in two days ...
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Acting different for mom

We have 2 boys aged 3.5 and 2. They are your average rambunctious boys. Pretty good at daycare and with dad, but when it's just mom they start acting out. Not listening. Don't stay in time out. ...
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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...
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Is it alright to use corporal punishment on children? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: When is physical punishment appropriate? Will this psychologically affect them negatively? Will they become bitter or will they learn through this experience that if you ...
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How to avoid association of child's room with time-outs?

Sometimes we send our toddler son to his room, either to calm down or because he has misbehaved and we need some distance. Our aim is not primarily the punishment, but rather to have him calm down ...
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How to stop preschooler from taking toiletries from the bathroom to “play with”?

Our 4-year old has (finally) potty-trained and is starting to use the bathroom on his own. Recently though, unless we're constantly paying close attention every time he goes, he's started taking ...
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Should I replace the food my 18 month throws on the floor?

My child drops her food. Sometimes its an accident, but often she is rebelling or throwing a small fit. Should I give into her tantrums and give her alternative choices? I am considering not giving ...
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What can be done to control a toddler?

My Nephew is 1.5 years old. My brother and sister-in-law do not know how to control him in public places, especially in theaters.He may start crying/shouting at his will in such places.What best can ...
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Should we use a smiley chart to reward/punish our toddler?

Possible Duplicate: How to operate a successful “Star Chart”? Our nanny came up with an idea today to create a sort of table for our daughter, where they would draw a sun or ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?

I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this? Edit: ...
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Toddler: How to remove “over” attachment for Mom?

We have a 3 year old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly atached to his mom. Where ever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is ...
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Should we expect the kids to make an eye contact always?

Having seen so many questions on this site dealing with the kids not making an eye contact, I was wondering if there are times when we should ask the kid not to make an eye contact? I sense this is a ...
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My teenager doesn't care about being grounded - what now?

My kid refuses to do his homework and is failing freshman biology, literature, US History and Art in high school. I grounded him and he still won't do the work. I've taken away as many privileges as ...
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How to deal with a “litter bug”

My daughter has started just leaving things where she stands - things like food wrappers and orange peels. I have pretty much treated it as I would remembering to the flush the toilet. I started by ...
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What do I do when the timeout method isn't working? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: What do we do when timeouts are not effective? My littler girl just turned 2 but is as smart as a whip! I am having trouble with the timeout method. I am being ...
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What should one do when their teen thinks smoking e-cigarettes is cool and safe?

This question was inspired by a question about pregnancy and exposure to the second hand products of the smoking device known as e cigarettes. My child has a "friend" we work with at the theater ...
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Getting a good diagnosis for possible mental issues?

To keep this short sweet and simple... I have a 8 year old who has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on all the typical medications. I will admit they do help significantly but I still see things ...
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Should I let food be a way out of a “time out”?

My 16 month old has always been very willful and it is hard to get her to drink a lot of milk that is not from breastfeeding. I have read that "time out"'s are timed 1 minute per year of age, rounding ...
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6-year-old son's behavior differs from school and home

Our son is in Kindergarten, and we have been having problems with him misbehaving in school since the beginning of the year. They're saying that he is excessively talking, moving (dancing, moving, ...
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Doing good things in the wrong way

How should you respond when a child repeatedly does good things in the wrong way? For example: Interrupting someone else's conversation to give a compliment. Saying "I love you" to distract from ...
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Our 6 years old son doesn't follow instructions very well, bad listening skills, I need help

My step son is 6 years old, he is a very good boy but he isn't doing good when it comes to following directions. He gives up so easy and beat himself up for things that he fails at. For example in his ...
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What do you do when a kid finds every excuse imaginable to avoid doing homework and chores? [duplicate]

Our kid spends so much time avoiding homework and chores, that it is time for bed before either thing is finished. My wife and I find ourselves standing over her and spending all our time refocusing ...
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How to deal with the toddler when me and my partner are not on the same page? [duplicate]

Hi I have been in a relationship with a single mum for a far while now and I have began to notice a lot of things that happen that make me think about what to do as I am clueless, I am also a single ...
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how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?

My son is six years old, quite intelligent,grasps things easily, is really sharp at school really, good with teachers, and often very nice with friends. But he is showing opposite behavior to me; he ...
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Enforcing minority languages at home

We're a bilingual household in a country that speaks a third language. I speak Finnish to the kids, my wife speaks Japanese, and I speak Japanese with her. Our older son recently started going to ...
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My 4 year old likes to hump my 15 year old brother's leg

I'm a 24 year old mom and my 4 year old son likes to hump my 15 year old brother's legs. When my brother is sleeping my son will go into his room and start to hump his legs. I don't think this is ...
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Tackling violent child

My 3 year old niece behaves very violently sometimes. She so much enjoys hitting me with tab/doll/spoon/bottle or whatever she has. She hits very hard. I try to take the things away from her. But ...
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11 year old stubborn boy

My 11 year son is an intelligent and extrovert boy . He does not want to study and take care of his belongings. I have to continuously tell him to do his routine work like bathing , brushing teeth ...
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How does a parent help her kid eliminate a habit? Specifically chewing on hair?

In viewing a question about nose-picking, I was considering other habits and how the solutions applied to those habits. What does one do if the habit is hair chewing? Lip chewing? Nail biting? . . . ...
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How can allowing children to participate on Halloween be helpful in reinforcing good habits?

I recently wrote this: "Halloween: the one day where we encourage children to accept candy from strangers, go to strangers' homes, and vandalize property and terrorize people if they don't get ...
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How can I tell if my suggestions have become a form of bullying [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: What constitutes verbal abuse of one's child? I am worried that my constant reminders and punishments are being taken as bullying. I might be over reacting but then ...
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Disciplining a special needs child [closed]

What should a parent keep in mind when it comes to discipline and children with autism? What about children with learning disabilities?
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Is this considered child abuse [closed]

First, my mom never hits me; I want to be clear on that. My brother 13, and I, 15 got into a fight at McDonalds. We threw ketchup at each other and I accidentally got some on on a nearby woman. My ...
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Are there studies on the effects of spanking? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: Are there any reputable studies on spanking? Is there any serious research on whether kids who are punished through pain-infliction by parents learn how to properly act ...
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12 year old behavior problem

I have a 12 year old grandson that starts off every morning fussing about his pants (too tight) but they are not. This behavior disrupts to other areas as hitting sister. Any suggestions.
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...