How to enforce the rules you set for the child, and consequences when those rules are broken. See the tag [behavior] about why children act the way they do.

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Dealing with gassy children during practice?

I'm a certified childrens aerobics instructor, but I also have a background in part time dance and gym teaching. The other day I was coaching my 8-year-old daughter and her two teammates in her ...
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When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he completely blocks communication with moans/cries/wails. How can I get him to respond?

It's quite a recent thing. Sometimes we have done something that we know he will like and because he's in this mode of moaning/crying/wailing we can't communicate to him at all and explain what's ...
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Is it okay to call children naughty?

Inspired by this question: Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)? In this question, the word "naughty" is repeatedly used to describe a child. I ...
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Is my 14 year step daughter a bad influence on my children?

My husband's daughter has come to stay with us for a month. I have tried playing and talking with her, but she isn't interested. She also back answers me. She doesn't even look at my twin babies which ...
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Abusive behavior of 12 years old son

My 12 years old son hits, pushes, and teases his 7 years old sister. When my daughter was born he would constantly disturb me while feeding her and helping her. I tried to involve him in taking care ...
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Making the child finish their food even if they are already full [duplicate]

As a child, my parents always made me finish my food even if I was already full. Food definitely isn't wasted this way, but overeating is not good either. What would be the advantages and ...
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?

My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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Advice on Dealing with Other People's Children Taking Items From My One Year Old

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
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Should a 5 year old excuse themselves after farting?

My five years old daughter sometime farts silently, and she doesn't excuse herself. Every time I detect such a situation, I remind her that she should try to avoid it and leave the room, going to a ...
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When disciplining that used to work no longer works for a middle childhood boy and q preschooler girl

My wife and I are two working parents so most of the discipline happens on week nights or weekends. When our boy or girl was acting out the consequences were usually one of these: Take away ...
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How to react when a child is in a dangerous situation which requires immediate reaction?

As with all children my son (16 months old) frequently gets himself in dangerous situations There is no problem with somewhat "static" situations, like trying to climb on a chair or slowly reaching ...
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Is this considered child abuse [closed]

First, my mom never hits me; I want to be clear on that. My brother 13, and I, 15 got into a fight at McDonalds. We threw ketchup at each other and I accidentally got some on on a nearby woman. My ...
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how can I train my 10years old nephew to be responsible

My 10 year old nephew is getting everyone worried with his behavior. He does not perform well at school, he is not respectful, and he often talks back to people who try to correct him. His mother is ...
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Is punishment necessary?

I'm a young parent, and still have a lot to learn, but I have been wondering a lot about whether punishment needs to be a part of parenting. Maybe I'm being too optimistic here, but are there any ...
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What are the effective durations of punishment at various ages?

It's well known that small children don't understand the concept of the future or passage of time, so there is no point in applying the punishment for too long of a period. Obviously, that mental ...
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Is there a benefit or harm in letting a 3 year old control her own bedtime routine?

I'm a bit exhausted getting my 3 year old daughter through the evening. Getting home, washing hands, sitting at the dinner table, eating dinner, eating fruit, taking a bath, towel drying, drying ...
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About blackmailing

"Don't blackmail her", said my sister while I was talking to my almost 3 years old daughter. Ok, blackmailing is bad, but… what else ? I read blackmailing reinforce kind of Pavlovian reactions ...
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How to discipline 2yo who still does not talk

I am so far decided about not to physically discipline my children. And I am managing to do so, showing my kid what is good, and what is bad. One downside is, that my boy still cannot talk in ...
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How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?

Our daughter thinks she has an equal say in any of our decisions. She only does the things we tell her to do if she thinks they make sense, otherwise we have to threaten her, which makes her threaten ...
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How do we break the cycle of misbehavior?

My wife and I have gotten into a bad habit with our three year old. When he misbehaves, sometimes he bites or otherwise physically assaults one of us in frustration, particularly when we are telling ...
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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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At what age can you start giving time-outs?

Is 2 years too young? She hit her baby brother and I'm not sure she really will understand th concept of time-out yet.
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What is a fair way to punish a sibling who unintentionally erases another's Saved Game?

TL;DR: Question title. (What is a fair way to punish a sibling who unintentionally erases another's Saved Game?) So this question could (should?) perhaps be posted on Parenting, but I thought users ...
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Need suggestions on how to deal with my 5 yr olds defiance and aggressiveness

My 5 yr old son just started Kindergarten last month. His class uses the Red, Yellow, Green color methods to record his behavior for the day and he has had 90% Red - which is bad. He is being very ...
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How can I stop my 6-year old from his aggressive behavior of spitting, biting, abusive language, and scratching?

My 6-year-old child has very aggressive behavior. He is very sweet and caring when he is in a great mood, but he loses his temper in few seconds like if my older son (10) touches his thing or even ...
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How to get a child to stop pretending to choke on foods he doesn't want to eat?

I have a 4 1/2 yr old. We're at the stage where he's definitely finicky over foods. The issue is not so much that he's finicky, but that he expresses it by taking a bite and then mock choking. I am ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a kindergartener?

My five year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and ...
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How do I put my child in time-out when we're in public?

What is the recommended thing to do when my kids are misbehaving in public? For instance, I have had situations where they are yelling and throwing stuff in a restaurant, or the other day they one ...
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Enforcing minority languages at home

We're a bilingual household in a country that speaks a third language. I speak Finnish to the kids, my wife speaks Japanese, and I speak Japanese with her. Our older son recently started going to ...
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5 year old child causing problems at school

My son is 5 years of age. When he started school he was quite calm at the beginning. But after summer holidays he has become very restless. He has become aggressive and is not listening to his ...
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Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?

Sadly these are her words, not mine. Why is this posted in this QA site? Because I can't see how it is good for the children that she (when my wife is not around) shouts at me in front of them; cuts ...
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How to punish “unpunishable” 3y old

My son is 3,5y old. Generally he's a good boy. But whenever he can he is very annoying at some time and just refuses to listen. For example he will take my cell phone and when we ask to give it back, ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?

We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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How to inculcate concentration for 5 yr old kid?

Kids at 5 tend to be more playful and active. I want to find out if there are proven ways to inculcate the habit of concentration from such a young age, which will help the kid not only at school but ...
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How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?

My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us. He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink ...
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How can I stop Cyber Bullying and prevent this in future for my child? [closed]

Actually I am afraid of using Facebook and other social networking sites as it fears me of Cyber bullying. Many tried to make my friends reputation down and by this I am also getting afraid of using ...
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How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?

How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling? E.g., anytime he has a rule, or a task, or is told what to do, his FIRST impulse is nearly 100% to find some fault with the technicality or ...
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What can I do to prevent two well-behaving siblings from turning into a maelstrom of destruction when combined?

“Yeah!” said James enthusiastically. “I don’t mind sharing a room with Al—Teddy could have my room!” “No,” said Harry firmly, “you and Al will share a room only when I want the house demolished.” ...
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How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?

I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him. I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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How can I help my son develop a social life? How can I prevent him becoming socially isolated?

I have a 17 year old son who is spends a lot of time programming his computer. He does not have a girlfriend, and seems to have no interest in getting one. He rarely goes outside. I am worried that ...
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“Natural consequences” where they don't happen?

It is often recommended that the negative, behavior of children, i.e. behavior unwanted by their parents, should be met with its "natural consequences". For example being cold outside in winter will ...
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Responsibility, Real Choices, and Consequences

How do you best approach (if, at all) teaching children in the late toddler to preschool age groups about responsibility - not responsibility as in doing chores (which we have a good handle on), but ...
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How to handle unending questions that the child can answer themselves based on rules?

We are trying to get the kids to be as self-sufficient as they can, including mentally. So for some things, we have simlpe rules, so they don't need to get our approval/permission for every detail. ...
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How can I help another parent realise their parenting approach is 'wrong'? [duplicate]

Okay, I don't mean wrong - I really mean 'sub-optimal' or 'high-effort' We have managed to raise 3 well adjusted, polite, confident children (so far...one is now a teenager, so we'll see how that ...
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How to extract child from busy place without physical restraint

Last weekend, my wife took our two children (almost 3 and 14 months) to the museum. They go there frequently (5-10 times in the last six months), and usually have no problems. This time, the older ...
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How can we discipline our toddler?

TL;DR version: Toddler doesn't understand disciplining. Help needed. At 22 months, our toddler is incredibly active and always has been. He's also mostly very well-behaved, especially when being ...
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Is it a good approach to have a policy of apologizing for yelling at a kid?

A couple of times I encountered situation where people had a following policy If a parent yells at a kid out of frustration with no meaningful reason (e.g. the kid just got on their nerves but ...
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Why does childern cries all time [closed]

I have a niece that cries on everything, when waking up, if someone doesnt give her something, if she doesn't get what she wants, if she wants something that isn't suppose to be of her, if someone is ...
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Is there any research on whether punishing more for lies is effective?

In order to dissuade my kids from lying to cover up when they did something bad, I have long adhered to the policy (made clear to the kids) that whatever the bad thing they did, and whatever the ...
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How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?

My 5 year old son receives and fears punishment but repeatedly exhibits the same unacceptable behaviors. He's always been strong-willed, and is usually the kind to view a statement like "Don't do ...