How to enforce the rules you set for the child, and consequences when those rules are broken. See the tag [behavior] about why children act the way they do.
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How do I get my child to stop picking his nose?
My son picks his nose and, yes, eats it. How can I get this to stop?
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At what age can children understand and respond well to discipline?
When my daughter was 6 months old, she liked to crawl over to our floor lamp and play with it (which is dangerous). Instead of trying to correct her behavior, we simply moved the lamp behind a child ...
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Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?
"Hot saucing", a technique where a small quantity of hot sauce is introduced a kid's mouth as disciplinary action, is considered bad parenting.
Though I have not done hot saucing (possibly because my ...
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7 year old boy who uses bad language
I am at a loss as to what to do with my seven-year-old son. He constantly uses bad words. Occasionally, he uses curse words but mostly it is words like "dumb," "idiot," "stupid," etc. At first I ...
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What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor?
The girls insist on opening presents for their younger cousins and brother at birthday parties where the family is included. While this was acceptable when the younger cousins (and sibling) were too ...
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how do I motivate my 8 yr old to practice the piano regularly?
I end up offering TV time as reward but he complains so much while practicing, tracks time by calling out every 2 minutes, and practices without respecting the piano or the music (bangs it out). He ...
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How to ensure that necessary things get done when time is short?
My question is based on the following assumptions:
I think that children learn by their success, if a certain behavior "works" to get what they want or not.
In consequence: A child should never ...
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How strict can I be with my niece?
I am a new Uncle and I sometimes find myself in the position that I should tell my niece off, yet I feel that it's not my place to do this.
I would only raise my voice to her, but I feel this may ...
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Is 5 Year Old Exhibiting Bullying Signs?
My SO and I are concerned about his 5yo's recent behavior. She has become sneaky, rebellious, defiant, manipulative, and slightly physical with her 4yo sister, but never with other children. It truly ...
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Should you secretly drill your children?
A lot of situations we teach our children about come up all the time. They get plenty of practice looking both ways before crossing the street, for example. However, there are some situations that ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?
We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a kindergartener?
My five year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and ...
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What is the best way to calmly respond to a pre-schooler who will not listen?
What is the best way to approach 4yo son that behaves poorly and\or doesn't listen to you, ignores your words, and at the same time stay calm?
It seems the only thing he understands is a physical ...
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How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?
My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident"
I ...
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Is it reasonable to put limits on a pre-teen playing video games?
Posted on behalf of a friend of mine:
What are appropriate rules for how much time kids actually get to play video games (such as x-box 360, PlayStation 3, or on the PC)?
Apparently we are the ONLY ...
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How to react when a child is in a dangerous situation which requires immediate reaction?
As with all children my son (16 months old) frequently gets himself in dangerous situations
There is no problem with somewhat "static" situations, like trying to climb on a chair or slowly reaching ...
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What are some techniques for toddlers to develop and practice good listening skills?
Like most toddlers, my 3 year old has to be told to do this or not do that over and over again. Rather than hoping she learns over time through the inevitable trouble she gets in for not listening, I ...
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How to deal with tantrums in an older child?
We have three boys aged 4, 8 and 10. The youngest & eldest seem to be fine and no issues, but the middle child is quite willful and having tantrums. Its like he never quite grew out of the ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?
Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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Addressing bad behavior after the fact
My 5 (almost 6) year old daughter has started doing things that she knows are wrong when friends are over. From what I can tell, it's not the friends who are instigating the bad behavior, it's my ...
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Making isolation not feel like a punishment
My six year-old son is very extroverted, and prefers to play with someone. My three year-old daughter is strong-willed but introverted, and prefers to play on her own. When they play together, my ...
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How long should a 3 year old be sent to his room?
Our son is almost 3 years old and he's been getting worse about talking back and not obeying our directions (such as "put on your shoes" or "pick up your toys"). We're thinking about implementing ...
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How to punish “unpunishable” 3y old
My son is 3,5y old. Genrally he's a good boy. But whenever he can be very annoying at some time and just refuses to listen.
For example he will take my cell phone and when we ask to give it back, it ...
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?
My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes!
He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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How do you teach a 1 year old to stop biting people?
I have a friend with a one year old that bites people, maybe as a sign of affection, but doesn't know that it hurts others. How can his parents discipline him regarding this behavior?
Do you try to ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?
My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior.
Is there a way to ...
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Kids and Cell Phones? What limits should be set along with giving the first phone?
My nieces and nephew visited recently and I was floored that all three of the girls (including the eight year old) already have their own cell phones. What really bowled me over was when we sat down ...
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Is it alright to use corporal punishment on children? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
When is physical punishment appropriate?
Will this psychologically affect them negatively? Will they become bitter or will they learn through this experience that if you ...
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How to avoid association of child's room with time-outs?
Sometimes we send our toddler son to his room, either to calm down or because he has misbehaved and we need some distance. Our aim is not primarily the punishment, but rather to have him calm down ...
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How to stop preschooler from taking toiletries from the bathroom to “play with”?
Our 4-year old has (finally) potty-trained and is starting to use the bathroom on his own.
Recently though, unless we're constantly paying close attention every time he goes, he's started taking ...
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Should I replace the food my 18 month throws on the floor?
My child drops her food. Sometimes its an accident, but often she is rebelling or throwing a small fit. Should I give into her tantrums and give her alternative choices? I am considering not giving ...
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How do I discipline my 4 year old for not playing with schoolmates?
How do I discipline my child for poor behavior done at school. My daughter, 4 years old, is telling other children she won't play with them. This is competly unacceptable and when she does it with ...
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Should we use a smiley chart to reward/punish our toddler?
Possible Duplicate:
How to operate a successful “Star Chart”?
Our nanny came up with an idea today to create a sort of table for our daughter, where they would draw a sun or ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?
I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this?
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What is the best way to deal with a 16 month old who started hitting? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
How do you discourage a toddler from hitting people?
Out of the blue my 16 month old son has started hitting his sister (4 year old) and other kids when he is frustrated ...
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How do you handle a toddler that refuses to say 'sorry'?
My two-year-old son is generally exceptionally well-behaved and polite.
He was saying "please" and "thank you" at a very early age, and would apologize if he had problems sharing or accidentally hurt ...
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How to deal with a “litter bug”
My daughter has started just leaving things where she stands - things like food wrappers and orange peels. I have pretty much treated it as I would remembering to the flush the toilet.
I started by ...
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What do I do when the timeout method isn't working? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
My littler girl just turned 2 but is as smart as a whip! I am having trouble with the timeout method. I am being ...
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What are appropriate methods for disciplining a primary schooler for lying?
When a child lies there a few common reasons why they may be doing this:
To see what happens
because it is fun to tell stories that they don't really realize are lies
to get someone else in trouble
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Toddler: How to remove “over” attachment for Mom?
We have a 3 year old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly atached to his mom. Where ever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is ...
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How do you encourage your primary-school-aged child to eat new foods?
I thought this question might be a good complement to a question posted about a child that pretends to choke when he doesn't like a certain food. This question and its answers mostly address the ...
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Getting a good diagnosis for possible mental issues?
To keep this short sweet and simple... I have a 8 year old who has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on all the typical medications. I will admit they do help significantly but I still see things ...
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Should I let food be a way out of a “time out”?
My 16 month old has always been very willful and it is hard to get her to drink a lot of milk that is not from breastfeeding. I have read that "time out"'s are timed 1 minute per year of age, rounding ...
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My 4 year old likes to hump my 15 year old brother's leg
I'm a 24 year old mom and my 4 year old son likes to hump my 15 year old brother's legs.
When my brother is sleeping my son will go into his room and start to hump his legs.
I don't think this is ...
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Our 6 years old son doesn't follow instructions very well, bad listening skills, I need help
My step son is 6 years old, he is a very good boy but he isn't doing good when it comes to following directions. He gives up so easy and beat himself up for things that he fails at. For example in his ...
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Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten
Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. he is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing i do will stop his behaviour.
he has hurt other students and his ...
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How can I tell if my suggestions have become a form of bullying [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
What constitutes verbal abuse of one's child?
I am worried that my constant reminders and punishments are being taken as bullying.
I might be over reacting but then ...
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How does a parent help her kid eliminate a habit? Specifically chewing on hair?
In viewing a question about nose-picking, I was considering other habits and how the solutions applied to those habits. What does one do if the habit is hair chewing? Lip chewing? Nail biting? . . . ...
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Disciplining a special needs child [closed]
What should a parent keep in mind when it comes to discipline and children with autism? What about children with learning disabilities?
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Is this considered child abuse [closed]
First, my mom never hits me; I want to be clear on that.
My brother 13, and I, 15 got into a fight at McDonalds. We threw ketchup at each other and I accidentally got some on on a nearby woman. My ...
