How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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How to deal with others' children who do not respect my authority?

What are some good strategies for dealing with misbehaving children who are not my own? The children in my son's kindergarten class do things to me or to my son which they should not do like ...
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Should a precocious child be prevented from devoting too much time to their primary interest?

I know a couple of children in their early or pre-teen years who have already accomplished more than many adults accomplish in their entire careers. These accomplishments seem to be a combination of ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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advise for my son 12 year old

My Son is 12 years old, He is intelligent but will not sit & study. always complaints from school that he is playful & not serious. Always needs to play especially football. when out to ...
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How do I get an 11-year-old to engage in active language comprehension?

Apologies for the vague title, but I wasn't sure how exactly to put the situation. My 11-year-old sister refuses to read properly. (I am out of the house, but my parents discuss the problem with me ...
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Should I show more anger when unhappy with a child's actions?

I am naturally a very conserved and patient person. I think this is sometimes confusing to a 4 year-old, who can easily tell when his mother is unhappy with him due to her tone of voice. For me, I may ...
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Problems with discipline for my step-children

I have a step son and step daughter who are 11 and 13 I have been married to their mum for 9 years and there is a big problem within the family. If I tell the kids to either do something or stop ...
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tips for staying fun

I have a 7 yo and 10 yo who basically are great kids, but I find myself in a lot of battles that I don't think I can walk away from. (Everyday stuff like - 'no watching tv /playing video games all ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5 year old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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What are the impacts of public shaming?

What are the short-term and long-term consequences of public shaming as a discipline technique in terms of behavior, psychology, and/or the parent-child relationship? (One example.) Per some feedback,...
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My 6 year old son does not listen when I tell him to stop something immediately. Should I beat him?

At times when I ask my son to stop doing something immediately he does not stop. should I beat him in that case? I know the answer might be no but I need an alternative in which he listens and stops ...
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From what age should I expect the child to pick up her toys which she scattered while playing?

At what age should this be started? How to go about it such that the child doesn't feel bored?
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Laughs when being disobedient stuff (18 months)

Our daughter is 18 months old. When she does something that irritates or make me angry she laughs/get happy. For instance, when I sit by the laptop she comes by and push buttons on it. First, I say ...
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How can I get my 4 year old to clean up toys without a battle?

Multiple times during the day, we have our 4 year old take a break from playing to clean up her toys. It's a huge battle every time. Usually, she ends up on the ground saying that there are too many ...
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Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?

I pay my 5.5yo $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed. I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5 year old brother's Lego messes. Good or bad? ...
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My wife constantly loses her temper with our 5 year old son

My wife and I have been married for about 7 years, we have two sons, one is five years old and the other is eighteen months old. I disagree with the way my wife disciplines and reacts to our five year ...
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Are there any studies showing how spanking bans have affected society since 1979?

In 1979, Sweden became the first country in the world to ban spanking under all circumstances: at home; at school; in penal institutions; everywhere, full stop. Since then, several dozen other ...
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How to stop the toddler from *deliberately* throwing things out of the balcony?

The girl is 20 months old, and it is not her fault that she loves her game of picking things from the room and throwing them out of balcony and watching them fall. She has been told in plain English ...
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Why does authoritarian parenting style result in children with low self esteem and lack of self discipline?

http://psychology.about.com/od/childcare/f/authoritarian-parenting.htm I have been raised by authoritarian parents. I have both low self esteem as well as a lack of self discipline. I want to ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of time-outs?

What are the downsides and the advantages to using time-outs to discipline a toddler? (My daughter is 21 months old.) Are there reasons to use them? Reasons to avoid them? What are the pros and cons ...
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How can I abate my son's growing habit of lying?

My son has begun to lie fairly frequently over the past couple of months. He used to tell lies by making up stories that were fantastic and clearly not true. He has recently graduated to telling "bold ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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What do I do when I walk into a room with a broken item and both children shug their shoulders and say “Wasn't me”?

I'm trying to get my kids to be honest and take responsibility. I'm seeing a repeated pattern where one or both of my kids will lie to get out of trouble. They're starting to see that they can deny ...
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My 1.5 year old is saying “No”

He says it when he's being sassy, like when I take something from him or when I put him in the car seat. I've heard kids start wielding this obnoxious word at a young age (having associated it parents ...
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How do you handle poor behavior by other people's children?

I believe that interacting with a variety of other children at social functions is an important part of childhood development. However, there seem to be a lot of children who are... how shall I ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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What are some suggestions for punishing a child?

My daughters are clearly pushing the boundaries lately. They are trying to find out what is possible. I am really looking into ways to setting the boundaries. A friend recently suggested creating a ...
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How can I deal with with other people's children taking items from my one-year-old?

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
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My 4 year old likes to hump my 15 year old brother's leg

I'm a 24 year old mom and my 4 year old son likes to hump my 15 year old brother's legs. When my brother is sleeping my son will go into his room and start to hump his legs. I don't think this is ...
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I have just watched my 22 month old dive head first over the gate on her bedroom 5 times after putting her to back to bed 50-60 times

I'm not concerned about the fact she physically hurts herself by jumping the gate, she is as tough as they come. She screams so loud every time I walk down the stairs and is up the gate within ...
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Explaining the “fun parent” phenomena

I'm a step-dad to 3 girls under 6. The eldest is still fairly enamored by bio-dad and while I won't go into the details; he's a man-child. The 3 year old just follows the eldest at present, but I'm ...
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How do I discipline my spouses children?

My spouse and I have kids from previous marriages. He has two boys ages 3 and 6, and I have an 8 year old boy and we just recently had a daughter together. I'm struggling very hard with his two boys, ...
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Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?

I witnessed parents telling their kids that, if they didn't get hurt or physically harmed in any way, they have no right or reason to cry. I kind of disagree because one doesn't cry just because of ...
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crying discipline manners [closed]

My granddaughter gave a little cry out when her mom left the table at a restaurant she was not loud I was consoling her and another person at the table said NO! NO! sternly. Does this seem over done? ...
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Discipline hyperactive 3 year old

I have a three year old son who is just awesome. He is advanced intellectually, loving, and he seems very empathetic. He does extremely well in daycare (it is at least an above average daycare), ...
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5 year old cries every time she is told “no”

My 5 year old daughter is crying every time she is told no. It doesn't matter if it is a little thing or a big thing she is asking for--she cries. We don't give in to her crying. We have tried ...
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early

This is a struggle every night, and every morning. We start around 7:30-8:00 PM..."shower time" and the struggle starts. She's got school the next morning and I'm trying to get her showered, and ...
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Almost 6 year old girl bad behavior

My boyfriend has a little 6 year old girl and she won't listen to us. I really don't understand what to do... I am not the type of person to spank, but she has forced me to the past couple days. ...
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How to handle disobediant children as non-parental authority figure

I volunteer with children regularly, usually very young preschool or toddler age. One of the common issues I have noticed is that handling disobeying children can become complicated when your the ...
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Guilt as a natural consequence of bad/wrong behaviour

We all know that natural consequences is the best tool when dealing with inappropriate behaviour. However, one of natural consequences of doing something bad to another person is feeling guilty for ...
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How do discipline my kid at preschool?

Today I dropped my little 4yr old girl at school and she just didn't want to eat because from what she says, she "stuffed her face with popcorn" when I wasn't looking. The problem: All of her friends ...
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Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying

My daughter has been lying and stealing from us as well as someone she called her BFF. We give her consequences and she continues with her stealing and lying. Recently I found out that she was cutting ...
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8 year old punishes himself for bad behaviour

My 8 year old step-son is still rather sensitive for his age, and sometimes takes being disciplined very hard. When he genuinely feels bad about something he's done wrong and we tell him off, he will ...
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My 6-year-old has angry outbursts, possibly related to a newborn sibling. How can we help her?

Our six-year-old daughter is the eldest of 3 girls: her sisters are 3 years, and 3 months respectively. At varying points during the day she will flare up with rage; the triggers can be play-related (...
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How can I deal with my 12-year old son's rebellious behaviour?

My son is a very loving child and fun to be with usually....ever since he turned 12 he is suddenly the resident expert in the house on anything from how to drive a car to how become president. You ...
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10 year old refuses to go to bed

Our 10 year old stepdaughter has trouble going to bed at night. She refuses to go to bed, and fights us very hard, to the point where our only hope of her going to bed is to physically pick her up and ...
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8-year-old right away repeats action after she is told not to do them

My 8-year-old right away repeats the things she is forbidden from doing. For example, when she is told not to sing at the dinner table she will right away start singing in a lower tone. This is not ...
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How to handle a preschooler who hits?

My 4 year old son has autism and no verbal language, and a tendency to hit or scratch us (adults) when he gets frustrated. We try to tell him (with verbal language and signing) "no" or "stop", and ...