How to enforce the rules you set for the child, and consequences when those rules are broken. See the tag [behavior] about why children act the way they do.
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How can you teach a toddler about pain without actually inflicting any in return?
My daughter is entering those 'terrible twos', and as a father I want to find the method of teaching her discipline and self control that really gets the point across. For most behaviors, my wife and ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?
We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?
My 5 year old son receives and fears punishment but repeatedly exhibits the same unacceptable behaviors. He's always been strong-willed, and is usually the kind to view a statement like "Don't do ...
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How do I discipline my 4 year old for not playing with schoolmates?
How do I discipline my child for poor behavior done at school. My daughter, 4 years old, is telling other children she won't play with them. This is competly unacceptable and when she does it with ...
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My 4 year old likes to hump my 15 year old brother's leg
I'm a 24 year old mom and my 4 year old son likes to hump my 15 year old brother's legs.
When my brother is sleeping my son will go into his room and start to hump his legs.
I don't think this is ...
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How strict should we be with our 14 month old boy?
Our baby is really sweet :)
Generally can be considered as a good / easy going baby. There are times though, when he gets totally out of control.
I've had a discussion with a child-psychologist who ...
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how do I motivate my 8 yr old to practice the piano regularly?
I end up offering TV time as reward but he complains so much while practicing, tracks time by calling out every 2 minutes, and practices without respecting the piano or the music (bangs it out). He ...
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Is long-term punishment effective for children under 5?
A child throws a ball inside the house hard enough to knock over some furniture.
He knows he's not supposed to throw the ball inside, so there's a punishment.
Is "taking the ball away for a week" an ...
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How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?
I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him.
I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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What do I do when the timeout method isn't working? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
My littler girl just turned 2 but is as smart as a whip! I am having trouble with the timeout method. I am being ...
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What is the minimum amount of structure and rules that a child needs?
My wife and I have very different ways of handling our children (almost 3 and 5 years old). We agree about the rules we want to set, but we are complete opposite when it comes to implementing the ...
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Are there studies on the effects of spanking? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
Are there any reputable studies on spanking?
Is there any serious research on whether kids who are punished through pain-infliction by parents learn how to properly act ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a kindergartener?
My five year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?
My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior.
Is there a way to ...
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Should I let food be a way out of a “time out”?
My 16 month old has always been very willful and it is hard to get her to drink a lot of milk that is not from breastfeeding. I have read that "time out"'s are timed 1 minute per year of age, rounding ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?
I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this?
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How can I motivate my 16 yo daughter to do something valuable with her life?
I have a 16 year old daughter who, whenever she has free time wastes it on things that I think are futile like Facebook, Tumblr, etc.
She's also performing poorly at school. I've talked to her about ...
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How do you teach a 1 year old to stop biting people?
I have a friend with a one year old that bites people, maybe as a sign of affection, but doesn't know that it hurts others. How can his parents discipline him regarding this behavior?
Do you try to ...
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Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?
This is the kind of behaviour which I have seen in lot of kids including mine (2 year old).
When I tell him NOT to hold a knife, he will make sure he does it. If I tell him not to spill milk on the ...
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How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?
My 9 year old girl is currently going through a phase where she isn't getting her homework done by herself. I'm trying to find the right balance between encouraging her to get her homework done, yet, ...
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How do you stop a child from using bad language and profanity?
My child has started to use swear words. This is shocking because he is using words that we don't use. I'm not sure how to react! How do I get this to stop?
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Reasoning vs “because I say so”
Raising our two-year-old, my wife and I have slightly different views on how to get our child to obey instructions, such as "get in the car seat" and "put on your shirt."
One of us feels that it is ...
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Addressing bad behavior after the fact
My 5 (almost 6) year old daughter has started doing things that she knows are wrong when friends are over. From what I can tell, it's not the friends who are instigating the bad behavior, it's my ...
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How do you handle unsupervised, poorly behaved children in public play areas?
This is closely related to this question. However, that primarily deals with interactions at relatively controlled, private functions. This question is more focused on the feeding-frenzy style chaos ...
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What house rules are appropriate for pre-teens?
As my kids grow, they need different limits. Right now, the house rules are reactionary as a result of something we didn't like happening. Things like, "call home if you are going to be somewhere ...
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How to avoid corporal punishment?
I know that beating and spanking is no good, but there are situations sometimes when I'm unable to maintain control over myself.
We have two boys, one's five and the other's two.
Due to their age ...
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How can parents avoid their child becoming a “whiner”?
Inspired from my previous question, but distilled to be more specific:
What types of parenting would cause a child to become a "whiner?" By this, I mean that the child becomes someone who tends to ...
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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?
How do I deal with 7 year old kid who refuses to do a chore or task? He's not listening and ignores my request.
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How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?
My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident"
I ...
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How can I tell if my suggestions have become a form of bullying [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
What constitutes verbal abuse of one's child?
I am worried that my constant reminders and punishments are being taken as bullying.
I might be over reacting but then ...
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How can I stop repeating myself?
How can I get my child to listen to me the first time I ask for something? He pretends he didnt hear after the 4th time I ask, but it is obvious he did hear me the first time. He is two years old by ...
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Golden rule 'do's' and 'don'ts'' when holding a child's party - your experiences are asked!
This Saturday my 4 year old is having 5 Kindergarten friends over to celebrate being one meter tall (it's a 'one meter party').
We'll have a house and (weather permitting) garden for an afternoon of ...
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Is it reasonable to put limits on a pre-teen playing video games?
Posted on behalf of a friend of mine:
What are appropriate rules for how much time kids actually get to play video games (such as x-box 360, PlayStation 3, or on the PC)?
Apparently we are the ONLY ...
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What are ways to stay calm when dealing with an argumentative teen as a step parent?
How do you deal with becoming short-tempered when dealing with a teenage step-daughter that's running her mouth? How do you cope with feeling overwhelmed, and how do you stay cool when hurtful things ...
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How can I make my preschool child brush his teeth, and similar mandatory tasks?
Most tasks and chores can be taught by letting the child experience consequences, because those consequences are mostly immediate and direct (e.g. not going to the playground if the child won't put on ...
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How can I negotiate with a toddler successfully?
Recently our 2.5 daughter started being really annoying about doing simple daily things, like brushing her teeth, dressing, undressing, putting on shoes to go out, etc. Often we need to negotiate up ...
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At what age can children understand and respond well to discipline?
When my daughter was 6 months old, she liked to crawl over to our floor lamp and play with it (which is dangerous). Instead of trying to correct her behavior, we simply moved the lamp behind a child ...
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Is “hot saucing” bad parenting?
"Hot saucing", a technique where a small quantity of hot sauce is introduced a kid's mouth as disciplinary action, is considered bad parenting.
Though I have not done hot saucing (possibly because my ...
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Is this considered child abuse [closed]
First, my mom never hits me; I want to be clear on that.
My brother 13, and I, 15 got into a fight at McDonalds. We threw ketchup at each other and I accidentally got some on on a nearby woman. My ...
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What are appropriate methods for disciplining a primary schooler for lying?
When a child lies there a few common reasons why they may be doing this:
To see what happens
because it is fun to tell stories that they don't really realize are lies
to get someone else in trouble
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Should I replace the food my 18 month throws on the floor?
My child drops her food. Sometimes its an accident, but often she is rebelling or throwing a small fit. Should I give into her tantrums and give her alternative choices? I am considering not giving ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?
How can you best handle this? Coming off as too strong and authoritative might invite "rebellion". Too lenient makes it seem okay.
What is the best response for driving home the dangers and risks ...
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Is complimenting children where they can hear it good or bad?
TL;DR: Is there anything wrong with praising children to their parents while the children can hear it?
From R. Kipling's "The jungle book":
‘How beautiful are the noble children! How large are ...
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How can we discipline our toddler?
TL;DR version: Toddler doesn't understand disciplining. Help needed.
At 22 months, our toddler is incredibly active and always has been. He's also mostly very well-behaved, especially when being ...
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What are some techniques for toddlers to develop and practice good listening skills?
Like most toddlers, my 3 year old has to be told to do this or not do that over and over again. Rather than hoping she learns over time through the inevitable trouble she gets in for not listening, I ...
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How do you moderate a teenager's obsessive or excessive behavior?
We're not dealing with teenagers yet but I would really like to avoid this kind of outburst.
How have parents with teenagers been able to find/establish a balance for their children to not be so ...
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How do I stop my daughter from hitting another child?
Recently my daughter started to hit another girl with whom she is currently sharing her nanny. My daughter is 2 years and 2 months now, the other child is 1 year 3 months. The nanny was our daughters ...
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Should we use a smiley chart to reward/punish our toddler?
Possible Duplicate:
How to operate a successful “Star Chart”?
Our nanny came up with an idea today to create a sort of table for our daughter, where they would draw a sun or ...
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How do you discipline someone else's child?
We have friend who is living with us and he has a 5-year old boy. The child has been disrespectful and distructive. He tore a ceiling fan down, and has been breaking stuff and writing on the walls.
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What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?
We've all lost our cool at one point or another. We all know its terrible to raise your voice at your kids, but every once in a while we slip. I've occasionally raised my voice to my teenager and to ...
