How to enforce the rules you set for the child, and consequences when those rules are broken. See the tag [behavior] about why children act the way they do.

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What should I do with my life now? [on hold]

I am 25 years old girl. When I was in my high school, I had good grades so,I went to study in a good college. Soon, by coincidence I got into a relationship with a boy. Since then I paid very less ...
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My 9 year old son regards life as meaningless [on hold]

My son, who is currently 9 years of age, tells me that life is absolutely meaningless and that "we're all here to waste time". When he first told me this, I felt both angry and depressed. And no, ...
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How strict should I be with my 9 month old?

I want him to be well behaved but I also want him to be happy and to feel loved by us. I find it difficult to balance telling him off so the he understands not to drop food on the floor, grab my ...
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Validity on a study about spanking children

Earlier today, I got into an argument with someone about spanking children and whether or not it caused them to become more violent later in life in addition to other issues. Eventually, this article ...
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Pros/Cons: Children Picking Their Own Punishments [closed]

What are the pros/cons of children picking their own punishments? (There's a lot of opinion online, but I'm looking for something with, hopefully, some scientific basis or something that is not ...
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How to punish my 5 year old bully?

My five year old daughter has been in kindergarten for a whole year. Now she is going into grade 1, but she has become a bully. This past Friday she pushed a kid off the play structure at the school. ...
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I think my 11 month old is afraid of his dad

I will try to make this short... Every time my son's dad shows his face, my son cries himself to sleep. His dad tries to console him but it never works. It always gets to the point of his dad feeling ...
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3 year-old boy wants constant attention, hits and deliberately poops in underpants when he doesn't get it

I have a nearly 3-year-old boy whose energy has become near-limitless, coupled with new neediness, aggression, and defiance. He wants to run around and be played with for the entire day. He is unable ...
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How can I get my son to keep time during school time? [closed]

I am homeschooling my 8 year old son, who has a lot for trouble completing his school work in good time. I have tried giving him a nice stretch of time per subject but this doesn't seem to work. How ...
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My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?

My son is a 13-year-old honor roll student. He comes home and has all his chores done by the time I get home. He is a great kid. He was hanging out with his friends; this group has been friends ...
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1.5 years toddler has some violent behavior patterns. How to control and stop those?

I have a kid of 1.5 years toddler. I have noticed below violent behavior patterns. He hurts people by hitting, biting, pinching and plucking hair etc… He yells and cries a lot when he disappointed or ...
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My baby screams all day long, non-stop, as loud as he can, and he finds it extremely funny

My baby boy is 19 months old, he screams while he plays, while he sits in his high-chair, while he is in his cot, while he has time-out, whatever and wherever he screams, screams, screams and does not ...
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12 year old girl out of control

I have a almost 12 year old daughter. I also have 2 older daughters, 20 and 21. My 12 year old is out of control. She tells us to shut up, calls us stupid, is just mouthy. She throws her stuff ...
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How to get your toddler to ask nicely for things when they're grumpy?

We taught our son really early on to say and sign, "Please" when he wants things. We've never responded to his demands when he wants something, and have him ask nicely first. We also encourage "thank ...
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Infant has trouble falling asleep

My son is 6 months old and falls asleep to the movement of his swing. When we put him down to sleep, he gets super cranky and throws a fit (I think). When my husband tells him no, our son cries hard ...
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Ignoring kid : good or bad?

My wife's a stay at home mom since our kid was born. She also looks after needs of 3 old people who we live with (there are 2 paid help), quite busy. When I ask my kid to do something small like not ...
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Keeping toddler within the rules when an adult member of the household doesn't wish to enforce them?

All the adults in the household help to enforce the rules enacted upon the toddler except one; That adult often removes the child from discipline when the others are enacting it. We were told by ...
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How can I better recognize the point where I've talked too much when disciplining and it's becoming counterproductive?

I come from a long line of lecture-happy parents. This used to drive me nuts when I was a kid. I would get into trouble and then get an earful. My eyes would glaze over and I would basically just ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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How should I conduct a proper timeout?

This is not a question about whether or not to use timeouts. I am prepared to have that discussion, but not on this question. I believe they have their place in a parent's arsenal, and I also accept ...
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When my kids don't get along; what are some options besides punishment that can be effective beyond 5 minutes?

Sometimes my kids get along great, but like most sometimes they clash. I've been trying to work on substitutions to my usual model of rewards and punishments for many of my conventional parenting ...
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When is corporal punishment abuse, really?

My friend (who believes in corporal punishment delivered lovingly[1]) has cancelled two of her pediatrician appointments now because one or another of her (4) children have had bruises on their ...
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My son 1 year slaps me and people on their face

My son slaps me and other people on face.. he thinks that he is playing with us in that way. I always holds his hand tightly and look to him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. IT seems ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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Dealing with the psychological consequences of punishment in parenting [closed]

I'm 18 yo boy living pretty much an amazing life. Yet, I've been dealing with feeling of annoyance(sometimes anger but not as rough as the word sounds) every time(almost) I hear people talking very ...
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How do I deal with rude or uncooperative siblings?

This is a bit of a tricky one but here goes: I'm in my mid-twenties and (for various reasons) currently live at home with both parents, my 15 year old sister, and my 17 year old brother. I regularly ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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Help 8 year old is very lazy and does not focus

My 8 year old girl is most of the times very lazy, does not listen or stay focus. For example in the morning before dropping her to school, I prepare some homework for her to do and put it on the ...
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Is 15 years old too old to ground for bad grades?

I have a 15 year old that has been grounded 60% of the time the past two years. Most of the groundings are around his grades or forgetting to do homework. When he is grounded at first he buckles ...
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Should a precocious child be prevented from devoting too much time to their primary interest?

I know a couple of children in their early or pre-teen years who have already accomplished more than many adults accomplish in their entire careers. These accomplishments seem to be a combination of ...
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How to stop the toddler from *deliberately* throwing things out of the balcony?

The girl is 20 months old, and it is not her fault that she loves her game of picking things from the room and throwing them out of balcony and watching them fall. She has been told in plain English ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?

We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...
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Should I praise my oldest child infront of their siblings?

Sometimes my oldest(8yo) shows good character and leadership in choosing not to do what she knows she should not do. I know her other siblings(6yo,3yo) look up to her. I have been praising her ...
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Stop a 14 month old from hurting the dog

I am the father to a 14 month old son, an only child, and he is pretty much how I would expect a toddler to be. He has an unquenchable curiosity, a need for play, occasional cuddles, intense desires ...
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How do I make my son listen to my discipline, not my mother-in-law?

I have a 6 year old and was a single mum for 4 years. I raised him and disciplined him to the point where he is very very sociable and everybody thinks he is one of the most well behaved boys they ...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?

If parents give a spank to their child, this is considered violence and as such frown upon - and in some countries simply a crime under the law. In my observation, parents who don't want to spank ...
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My 2 year old is a bully! [duplicate]

My son doesn't want to share anything with other kids, and if some kid even so much as touches his toy, he pushes the kid. He shouts and cries at the same time, and tries to express his anger by ...
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How to answer someone who says, “What he needs is a good spanking!”

I was in a restaurant when my 2.5 year old decided to throw a major tantrum. I used time outs, so I scooped him up and carried him towards the door (he was crying and flailing). Much to my ...
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Sympathetic Adults

You all know adults who undermine your authority when you're out and about with your children. They coddle your kids when they misbehave, and your kids know it and take advantage of the situation to ...
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How to immediately correct a (gross) habit?

My son, an only child, is 19 months old. His two "siblings" are dogs twice his size and they get along great (I'm not sure how that sentence reads, but I'm not one of those people that actually ...
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Which way is correct to keep your kids on the right path: love or strict discipline? [closed]

Recently I had very serious conversation with my married friend regarding parenting of kids in which way need to deal with them love or Strict rules and descipline. I am in side of love and ...
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Questions about “Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids”

I just heard about Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham (on this site) and I started looking into it. I really like some of the things I've read about this approach to parenting, but I ...
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Is it okay to call children naughty?

Inspired by this question: Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)? In this question, the word "naughty" is repeatedly used to describe a child. I ...
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Making the child finish their food even if they are already full [duplicate]

As a child, my parents always made me finish my food even if I was already full. Food definitely isn't wasted this way, but overeating is not good either. What would be the advantages and ...
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Advice on Dealing with Other People's Children Taking Items From My One Year Old

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
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Should a 5 year old excuse themselves after farting?

My five years old daughter sometime farts silently, and she doesn't excuse herself. Every time I detect such a situation, I remind her that she should try to avoid it and leave the room, going to a ...
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When disciplining that used to work no longer works for a middle childhood boy and q preschooler girl

My wife and I are two working parents so most of the discipline happens on week nights or weekends. When our boy or girl was acting out the consequences were usually one of these: Take away ...
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how can I train my 10years old nephew to be responsible

My 10 year old nephew is getting everyone worried with his behavior. He does not perform well at school, he is not respectful, and he often talks back to people who try to correct him. His mother is ...
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When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he completely blocks communication with moans/cries/wails. How can I get him to respond?

It's quite a recent thing. Sometimes we have done something that we know he will like and because he's in this mode of moaning/crying/wailing we can't communicate to him at all and explain what's ...