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How common is spanking a middle schooler in the US? [closed]

I learned recently that my fiancé's sister does this. He told me that it is, while not especially common anymore, still at least not rare in America and acceptable to a significant percentage of the ...
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Encouraging good homework habits at preschool age

Our 4 year old daughter's preschool gives out little homework books to help the kids start to learn letters and numbers on their own time. They work in these books weekly at school, but participation ...
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16 year old son. He is lazy and refuses to keep clean [closed]

My son is currently in Job Corp but will be kicked out soon due to not keeping his room clean, not taking showers, not keeping clean, lieing, and just being lazy. He has been this way since he was ...
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how to stop my son hitting his playmate?

what will i do when he like to play with other children, but eventually he hits them when he got mad on them? Is that right that i just get him from their play ground and just told him to stay at ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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How to talk with my six-year-old

I have a six-year-old daughter who is almost never shy or afraid to voice her opinion, but there are times when she is just a bit much to handle. Sometimes she'll misbehave in public in a fairly loud ...
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My son is discouraged

I have a 10-yr-old son. He's a fifth grader right now and I have been really worried about his attitude toward homework and everything that has to do with studying. He constantly calls himself stupid ...
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Getting things done - balancing directives vs. autonomy (elementary school age)

I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, who, while in the top tier regarding intelligence and grades, has a serious problem of 'getting things done'. Simple things. The issue does not occur at school ...
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Angry & Stubborn Child, Dont know how to control him. Please help

My son who is 5 years old and demonstrating really bad behaviour which is embrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months. At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn'...
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My son is 6 and goes to the bath room but doesnt like to wipe

he comes home from school soiled on his underwear and rashed really bad. He doesnt care that kids make fun of him. I need help. Its happening every day.
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4 year old son, overly confident, retaliates at nuresry

Our 4 and a half year old son has recently been getting into trouble at nursery. On three separate occasions now we have been called in to speak to the teachers there as he has done something naughty. ...
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Problems with my son's friend

My son's 11 year old (male) friend, whom I will call Mike for the sake of discussion, is loud and rude. At the beginning of the school year, Mike asked me if I was willing to drive him home ...
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18 months old twins constantly biting

I have 18 months old twin girls who recently started to bite, both their sister and us. It's not like when they were teething, it's an aggressive move. We've tried to talk to them explaining that it'...
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What could be the effects of telling a small child “The bad man is going to come” as a threat to enforce good behavior? [duplicate]

My childhood best friend's family would tell their young daughter, maybe 5-7 years old things like "Im gonna call the bad man" or "The bad man's gonna get ya if you dont be good." I dont think they ...
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4 year old, biological Mom used drugs, behavior out of control

I have a 4 yr. old Son, he was adopted at birth. His biological "mom" used meth during pregnancy. I knew that he could develop problems in regard to behaviors. He's extremely bright, learns easy ...
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My 6 years old boy behavior is terrible at school and home

My 6 year old son breaks everything can can put his hands on, talks back to me, and bothers his sister and brother all the time. He can't stay focused in school and will be left behind this year, ...
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How can I deal with a misbehaving 17 year old girl?

I have a daughter who is 17 years old. She does not respect me, she shouts at me and she goes to parties where there are older friends and alcohol consumption, against my wishes. She just goes out ...
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How to handle older kids with my younger son

I have a 3 year old son. He's quite outgoing with kids around his age and with most adults. He goes to daycare a few days a week and interacts fine with the other kids. However he is sensitive and ...
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5 yr old behavioral/anger problems

My daughter, in the past 6 months has been displaying severe anger. When a toy doesn't come together, if she doesn't get her way... she throws herself on the floor and starts kicking and screaming. ...
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7-year old with Asperger's caught stealing - how to deal with that?

Today my 7-year old child was caught stealing in their classroom. They suffer from light Asperger's, so I'm not sure that they even notice having done something wrong. I'm not eager to punish my child ...
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Help my husband and 14 year old daughter are fighting

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 kids (2 are from previous relationships.) My daughter is the oldest at 14. We're both new to teenagers. He's kind of the enforcer, and I guess ...
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Effective ways to discipline my 5 year old

My five year old can be challenging at times. She just started kindergarten this year and has improved with her behavior some, but still makes bad decisions that she knows better than to make. She can ...
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My son won't behave in school [duplicate]

I have a six year old son in kindergarten that just won't behave. His school compiles a behavior chart and he always behaves badly, like talking too much, not listening, being impatient, talking over ...
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How to be a good Single Mom with a large family and dealing with ADHD

I am recently divorced and have full custody of our six children. My husband was violent with the children and I'm not sure how to discipline them without using violence. My children range in age from ...
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12yr old daughter defying consequence and out of control

My daughter is 12 years old and is obsessed with social media apps and chatting with friends online, whether on her phone or computer. She is currently banned from using Instagram and snapchat, due to ...
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Is there an evidence-based study regarding the long-term psychological effects of spanking? [duplicate]

Any answers to this question I would hope would cite at least one reputable source; I'm really not looking for 40 opinions. As a nonspanker, I'm frequently surprised this is still in practice around ...
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Discipline and managing a 5 year old

My daughter will turn 5 in the next 3 months. I am having a hard time controlling her and getting her to listen to me. She is defiant and argues about everything. She has even started hitting me. If I ...
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Step Children Issues

My husband has two lovely boys, age 8 and 9. Boys are staying over in in-laws' house to finish their school. Boys are coming over for weekends and I take them to school on Mondays. We are having ...
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How do I get my one year old to stop grinding her teeth?

My daughter is thirteen months old and has four teeth on top and two on the bottom. She is constantly grinding them against each other, which is not only bad for her, but also makes a sound that makes ...
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What to do if your threaten be your older sister! [closed]

So I was in my home doing nothing but making some updates to my wifi network when my sister came and something happened between my sister,mother and I my sister 17 year old and me 13 year old went out ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?

My 13 year old son has been smoking and selling weed for at least a year now, drinks whenever he can get any alcohol, and has been black-out drunk. He also smokes cigarettes and vapes. (He's also done ...
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not settled in school

I have a 6 year old Godson, we live in the Caribbean, and he's in Grade 2. He spends more time talking, playing and sometime just sitting in his class not doing anything his teacher says to do. We ...
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advise for my son 12 year old

My Son is 12 years old, He is intelligent but will not sit & study. always complaints from school that he is playful & not serious. Always needs to play especially football. when out to ...
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23 month old twins disturbing each other at bed time

We have 23 month old twin boys (I'll call them C&D) whom we have about 2 months ago transitioned away from a crib by taking away one side and creating an enclosure of sort (about 12 x 12 feet) ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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How do I get an 11-year-old to engage in active language comprehension?

Apologies for the vague title, but I wasn't sure how exactly to put the situation. My 11-year-old sister refuses to read properly. (I am out of the house, but my parents discuss the problem with me ...
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Problems with discipline for my step-children

I have a step son and step daughter who are 11 and 13 I have been married to their mum for 9 years and there is a big problem within the family. If I tell the kids to either do something or stop ...
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Should I show more anger when unhappy with a child's actions?

I am naturally a very conserved and patient person. I think this is sometimes confusing to a 4 year-old, who can easily tell when his mother is unhappy with him due to her tone of voice. For me, I may ...
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tips for staying fun

I have a 7 yo and 10 yo who basically are great kids, but I find myself in a lot of battles that I don't think I can walk away from. (Everyday stuff like - 'no watching tv /playing video games all ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5 year old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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What are the impacts of public shaming?

What are the short-term and long-term consequences of public shaming as a discipline technique in terms of behavior, psychology, and/or the parent-child relationship? (One example.) Per some feedback,...
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From what age should I expect the child to pick up her toys which she scattered while playing?

At what age should this be started? How to go about it such that the child doesn't feel bored?
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My 6 year old son does not listen when I tell him to stop something immediately. Should I beat him?

At times when I ask my son to stop doing something immediately he does not stop. should I beat him in that case? I know the answer might be no but I need an alternative in which he listens and stops ...
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My wife constantly loses her temper with our 5 year old son

My wife and I have been married for about 7 years, we have two sons, one is five years old and the other is eighteen months old. I disagree with the way my wife disciplines and reacts to our five year ...
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Laughs when being disobedient stuff (18 months)

Our daughter is 18 months old. When she does something that irritates or make me angry she laughs/get happy. For instance, when I sit by the laptop she comes by and push buttons on it. First, I say ...
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Are there any studies showing how spanking bans have affected society since 1979?

In 1979, Sweden became the first country in the world to ban spanking under all circumstances: at home; at school; in penal institutions; everywhere, full stop. Since then, several dozen other ...
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Why does authoritarian parenting style result in children with low self esteem and lack of self discipline?

http://psychology.about.com/od/childcare/f/authoritarian-parenting.htm I have been raised by authoritarian parents. I have both low self esteem as well as a lack of self discipline. I want to ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of time-outs?

What are the downsides and the advantages to using time-outs to discipline a toddler? (My daughter is 21 months old.) Are there reasons to use them? Reasons to avoid them? What are the pros and cons ...
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How can I abate my son's growing habit of lying?

My son has begun to lie fairly frequently over the past couple of months. He used to tell lies by making up stories that were fantastic and clearly not true. He has recently graduated to telling "bold ...
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My 1.5 year old is saying “No”

He says it when he's being sassy, like when I take something from him or when I put him in the car seat. I've heard kids start wielding this obnoxious word at a young age (having associated it parents ...