How to enforce the rules you set for the child, and consequences when those rules are broken. See the tag [behavior] about why children act the way they do.
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Our 6 years old son doesn't follow instructions very well, bad listening skills, I need help
My step son is 6 years old, he is a very good boy but he isn't doing good when it comes to following directions. He gives up so easy and beat himself up for things that he fails at. For example in his ...
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7 year old boy who uses bad language
I am at a loss as to what to do with my seven-year-old son. He constantly uses bad words. Occasionally, he uses curse words but mostly it is words like "dumb," "idiot," "stupid," etc. At first I ...
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How long should a 3 year old be sent to his room?
Our son is almost 3 years old and he's been getting worse about talking back and not obeying our directions (such as "put on your shoes" or "pick up your toys"). We're thinking about implementing ...
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Making isolation not feel like a punishment
My six year-old son is very extroverted, and prefers to play with someone. My three year-old daughter is strong-willed but introverted, and prefers to play on her own. When they play together, my ...
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My 8 year old daughter was taught by her classmates how to use the middle finger. How do I get her to stop this behavior?
Two of my daughter's 8 year old class mates taught my daughter how to use the middle finger. My daughter is now obsessed and wont stop. We don't use this at home and find it offensive. However she ...
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Should you secretly drill your children?
A lot of situations we teach our children about come up all the time. They get plenty of practice looking both ways before crossing the street, for example. However, there are some situations that ...
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Punishment for stealing?
I'm in a situation where I'm really not sure what the best course of action is. Today I promised my younger sister that I would give her $100 if she worked up to running 3 miles. As proud as I was ...
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How to punish “unpunishable” 3y old
My son is 3,5y old. Genrally he's a good boy. But whenever he can be very annoying at some time and just refuses to listen.
For example he will take my cell phone and when we ask to give it back, it ...
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Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten
Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. he is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing i do will stop his behaviour.
he has hurt other students and his ...
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What kind of obedience is to be expected from a 2-years old?
My daughter is 2-years old, with what seems a good development overall. We also have a 7-months son. My wife takes care of them at home most of the time, and they also see their cousin (also 2-years ...
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Is 5 Year Old Exhibiting Bullying Signs?
My SO and I are concerned about his 5yo's recent behavior. She has become sneaky, rebellious, defiant, manipulative, and slightly physical with her 4yo sister, but never with other children. It truly ...
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My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?
As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
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What is the best way to deal with a 16 month old who started hitting? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
How do you discourage a toddler from hitting people?
Out of the blue my 16 month old son has started hitting his sister (4 year old) and other kids when he is frustrated ...
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Disciplining a special needs child [closed]
What should a parent keep in mind when it comes to discipline and children with autism? What about children with learning disabilities?
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?
My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes!
He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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My wild son - have i missed out on the key years of relationship-building and discipline?
I'm worried about my son's behavior.
He's bright and energetic, but his behavior seems out of control.
He was walking at 7 months. His language has always been good - he knew his alphabet in song ...
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How to stop preschooler from taking toiletries from the bathroom to “play with”?
Our 4-year old has (finally) potty-trained and is starting to use the bathroom on his own.
Recently though, unless we're constantly paying close attention every time he goes, he's started taking ...
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How do you encourage your primary-school-aged child to eat new foods?
I thought this question might be a good complement to a question posted about a child that pretends to choke when he doesn't like a certain food. This question and its answers mostly address the ...
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What do you do with the cousins who, at birthday parties insist on opening the presents when they are not the guest of honor?
The girls insist on opening presents for their younger cousins and brother at birthday parties where the family is included. While this was acceptable when the younger cousins (and sibling) were too ...
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How do you handle a toddler that refuses to say 'sorry'?
My two-year-old son is generally exceptionally well-behaved and polite.
He was saying "please" and "thank you" at a very early age, and would apologize if he had problems sharing or accidentally hurt ...
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How to avoid association of child's room with time-outs?
Sometimes we send our toddler son to his room, either to calm down or because he has misbehaved and we need some distance. Our aim is not primarily the punishment, but rather to have him calm down ...
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Kids and Cell Phones? What limits should be set along with giving the first phone?
My nieces and nephew visited recently and I was floored that all three of the girls (including the eight year old) already have their own cell phones. What really bowled me over was when we sat down ...
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How does a parent help her kid eliminate a habit? Specifically chewing on hair?
In viewing a question about nose-picking, I was considering other habits and how the solutions applied to those habits. What does one do if the habit is hair chewing? Lip chewing? Nail biting? . . . ...
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How do we teach our 1 yr. old that “no” isn't a game?
We have a little girl that's almost 13 months old. She's found that when she touches a power cord or near an electrical outlet and we say "no" that it's a bit of a game. She gets a funny smirk on her ...
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How to deal with a “litter bug”
My daughter has started just leaving things where she stands - things like food wrappers and orange peels. I have pretty much treated it as I would remembering to the flush the toilet.
I started by ...
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How to deal with tantrums in an older child?
We have three boys aged 4, 8 and 10. The youngest & eldest seem to be fine and no issues, but the middle child is quite willful and having tantrums. Its like he never quite grew out of the ...
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How can you teach a toddler about pain without actually inflicting any in return?
My daughter is entering those 'terrible twos', and as a father I want to find the method of teaching her discipline and self control that really gets the point across. For most behaviors, my wife and ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?
We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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My 4 year old likes to hump my 15 year old brother's leg
I'm a 24 year old mom and my 4 year old son likes to hump my 15 year old brother's legs.
When my brother is sleeping my son will go into his room and start to hump his legs.
I don't think this is ...
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Getting a good diagnosis for possible mental issues?
To keep this short sweet and simple... I have a 8 year old who has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on all the typical medications. I will admit they do help significantly but I still see things ...
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?
My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk.
If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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Is long-term punishment effective for children under 5?
A child throws a ball inside the house hard enough to knock over some furniture.
He knows he's not supposed to throw the ball inside, so there's a punishment.
Is "taking the ball away for a week" an ...
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What do I do when the timeout method isn't working? [duplicate]
Possible Duplicate:
What do we do when timeouts are not effective?
My littler girl just turned 2 but is as smart as a whip! I am having trouble with the timeout method. I am being ...
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What is the minimum amount of structure and rules that a child needs?
My wife and I have very different ways of handling our children (almost 3 and 5 years old). We agree about the rules we want to set, but we are complete opposite when it comes to implementing the ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?
My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior.
Is there a way to ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a kindergartener?
My five year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and ...
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Should I let food be a way out of a “time out”?
My 16 month old has always been very willful and it is hard to get her to drink a lot of milk that is not from breastfeeding. I have read that "time out"'s are timed 1 minute per year of age, rounding ...
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Toddler: How to remove “over” attachment for Mom?
We have a 3 year old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly atached to his mom. Where ever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is ...
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How can I get my 4 year old to clean up toys without a battle?
Multiple times during the day, we have our 4 year old take a break from playing to clean up her toys. It's a huge battle every time. Usually, she ends up on the ground saying that there are too many ...
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How can I motivate my 16 yo daughter to do something valuable with her life?
I have a 16 year old daughter who, whenever she has free time wastes it on things that I think are futile like Facebook, Tumblr, etc.
She's also performing poorly at school. I've talked to her about ...
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How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?
I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him.
I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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How can parents avoid their child becoming a “whiner”?
Inspired from my previous question, but distilled to be more specific:
What types of parenting would cause a child to become a "whiner?" By this, I mean that the child becomes someone who tends to ...
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How do you respond to minor injuries?
I have a 21-month-old daughter. Sometimes (not always), if she bumps her head, or stubs her toe, or whatever, this results in crying and asking to be held (and not wanting to be put down once the ...
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How to avoid corporal punishment?
I know that beating and spanking is no good, but there are situations sometimes when I'm unable to maintain control over myself.
We have two boys, one's five and the other's two.
Due to their age ...
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How do you handle unsupervised, poorly behaved children in public play areas?
This is closely related to this question. However, that primarily deals with interactions at relatively controlled, private functions. This question is more focused on the feeding-frenzy style chaos ...
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How to react when a child is in a dangerous situation which requires immediate reaction?
As with all children my son (16 months old) frequently gets himself in dangerous situations
There is no problem with somewhat "static" situations, like trying to climb on a chair or slowly reaching ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?
I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this?
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Any suggestions on how to control yelling and negativity on our part, and also teach my 8 yr old son to not feel so helpless and cry so easily?
This is about my 8-year old son, who cries easily and helplessly, mostly in response to our enforcing discipline and routine or refusing things he wants.
I understand that he should not expect to be ...
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How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?
My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident"
I ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?
Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
