Children's physical and mental development.

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Should we circumcise our son?

My wife and I will be having a son in about a month and we are still deciding if we should have him circumcised. There does not seem to be a strong medical opinion on the matter but we are ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I've noticed a great many parents do everything within their power to prevent their children playing with toy guns and weapons. As a 30-something, I grew up with toy swords, bows and guns, action men ...
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Reasoning vs “because I say so”

Raising our two-year-old, my wife and I have slightly different views on how to get our child to obey instructions, such as "get in the car seat" and "put on your shirt." One of us feels that it is ...
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My 2 years old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?

Since his birth I've done my best to make my son trust me completely as I see it the only way for him to let me make decisions on his behalf and tell him what's right and wrong. However he supervises ...
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How many toys are enough/ too much?

My husband and I have decided to minimize the number of toys for our daughter for a variety of reasons... we have a small house, I am unemployed also we see how greedy many children who have ...
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What are some milestones a child should reach before learning programming?

I am going to buy a PC for my kid as a birthday present, so I'm thinking how to use it educationally. Of course, an obvious choice is teaching him how to program. I'm not asking what age should a kid ...
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Helping children cope with a parent's suicide

I like this site and thought I would venture with another question about my husband's suicide and how this has affected our children. I've asked another question here: How to handle disclosing a ...
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Is TV harmful to my infant's development?

My wife and I use our TV to watch shows and streaming movies. Our 2 month old daughter is sometimes drawn to the TV and will turn her head towards it and will 'focus' on it. I know that their eye ...
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Nearly 2 and doesn't comprehend speech

I see a lot on this site and all over the Internet about toddlers that are late to talk. The general consensus seems to be as long as they can understand when you talk to them then don't worry, they ...
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In what ways can you help a child develop self-control and delayed or deferred gratification?

Children, especially young children, are creatures of opportunity. They see a lesser prize within their grasp and a much greater prize that they may have to work for, and they will take the lesser ...
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Does it hurt my baby (developmentally) if she watches while I'm on the computer?

I have a 6 month old who likes to stare at my glowing computer while I code or browse the internet. Most of what I view is text or static web pages, so it's not content I'm worried about her viewing, ...
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Can a toddler spend too much time with books?

Back when we were still expecting our son to be born, we were told all about how important it was to read to our son, even before he was born. Being avid readers ourselves, my wife and I felt this ...
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How often should I defeat my children in games?

I love my children very much, but I sometimes I have to teach them a lesson. I'm afraid if I always allow them to win them, they'll turn out to be spoiled and rotten and have a sense of entitlement ...
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Healthy 10 month old baby bouncing himself while standing - will this injure his hips?

Someone told me that my 10 month old grandson was injuring his hips by continually bouncing himself when he stands while holding onto a couch or table. He seems very healthy and strong. Is there a ...
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When do twins know their own names?

I've read that babies generally recognize and respond to their own name at around 5 months of age. How is this different for twins (particularly identical)? Being as they often (almost always!) hear ...
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At what age do kids start sleeping through the night?

My son is now almost 12 months old and he still doesn't sleep through the night regularly. Maybe one night a month he will sleep from 7pm->6.30am without waking, and that's only if he's utterly ...
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How can I help my ten-year-old not be traumatized by the deaths of characters in books?

My daughter understands these are characters, not real people. She writes stories herself, mostly for school, and understands that "something has to happen." Yet the death of any character with more ...
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At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?

I am interested in pursuing a non-authoritarian approach to educating my son and I do not know at what age (or prerequisite milestones) the focus of education should switch from telling him facts to ...
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Preschooler can't sing, but sings anyway - loudly!

My 3½ year old has never had any sense of music, rhythm, notes, or anything resembling the musical arts. (Motor skills is where he truly excels; he's a sports person, not a musician.) Recently, he ...
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my daughter “forgets” her numbers even though she knows how to count

My daughter is 4 1/2 or so. She knows how to count to at least 10, possibly higher, and will do so unprompted. However, we've recently tried to start playing some board and card games with her. In ...
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Is there an age before which you should avoid the concept of death or dying?

This question specifically addresses how to talk to a 5 year old, but I'm curious about younger kids. I'm not talking about situations where death has become an important event in a child's life and ...
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My Son thinks he is spiderman

My 3.5 year old son is obsessed with Spiderman comics, games and movies and he thinks he is spiderman, he even has a 'girlfriend' in school who he calls Mary Jane . Is this normal? Or should I be ...
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Are signs of early puberty in a primary-school aged child a cause for concern?

My son is less than 6 years old, and last week we discovered that he has grown a little bit of pubic hair. This seems way too soon for this to happen. My older son, who is 9 years old, only now ...
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How much noise does it take to negatively impact an infant's hearing?

In our apartment complex we have fire alarms that are outrageously loud. Last night, we woke at 4:30 am to the alarm going off all through the building. We got out as quickly as possible, but I'm ...
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When will my boy be able to tell me about his day?

At what age could your kids reliably tell you about what went on in your absence? And how did you know it's reliable? I have an almost three year old, and although he is quite talkative, it's still ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of letting the child experience the effects of his decisions?

Disclaimer: I do not have a child yet. But this method has been in my mind for me to put to work if ever I do get a child. So how does this work? Basically, instead of the parent dictating to the ...
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When can children understand the concept of lying?

How old does a child have to be to be lying on purpose? How old are they before they can understand the concept of a lie vs the truth? What about not the truth vs the truth?
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When and how should I teach my kids to touch-type?

My eldest is just getting to the age where she could start getting interested in typing things on her own. I'm wondering whether to 'go the whole hog', and give her a keyboard with no letters on ...
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Do baby massages improve motor skills and emotional development?

I find a lot of parents take their baby to get baby massages. I have heard that babies who receive periodic baby massages (such as once a week) are showing rapid development in their motor skills and ...
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How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity?

How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity? I asked this question here Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children? Which needed to be ...
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Why is our three year old fixated on… 'Dark' things?

Our daughter, since she was not quite two, has been fascinated with creepy crawly things. Spiders, snakes, etc. She has always liked dinosaurs a lot too. Over the last year though, she talks more and ...
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How to inspire a 7 year old to accelerate reading efforts?

I have a seven year old son who is having a hard time "getting inspired" to read regularly. This is somewhat of a struggle for me as his older brother was reading Harry Potter at around his age and ...
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How to respond to shame

I have 4 kids, 11,8,6,3 (boy girl boy girl). My 6-year old is tremendously prone to shame. At the drop of a hat he will turn away, cover his eyes, hide in the corner and just generally grind to a ...
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Language Developmental Milestones of Children at higher stages?

In the early stages of language development, children goes through milestones such as Speech blurbs, Single words, double words, Use of verbs full sentence etc. [I may be limited in my ...
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What to do if my kids would not listen to my reasoning?

I have a boy, 10 years old. I think he is quite smart and can understand all the reasoning as good as any intelligent adults. Unfortunately, he can be quite difficult to deal with. He has some bad ...
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My pre-schooler does not listen to anything I say or do!

I have a five year old that is out of control. If I ask him to sit down and relax (because we live in a one bedroom apartment), its very frustrating because I repeatedly have to say it to him. If ...
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My 13 year old is sexting need advice

Today I went through my daughters kik account just to make sure she wasn’t getting creepers and from what I have seen in the past she is very behaved on there i.e. shutting down offers for sexting . ...
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At what age should my baby be expected to support her own head?

I have a 4-month old daughter. Each time she is awake she gets some "tummy-time" where we put her on her stomach on a play-mat, to build up her neck muscles. She doesn't like it that much and ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

After some reading, I understand that dropping stuff is a natural part of baby's development. What I couldn't find after some research, was whether or not I should keep giving the objects that he ...
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Is there any consensus among researchers concerning the effects of watching television and the likes for a child's development?

I've tried to find out whether or not TV-watching is harmful or not for a child's development but haven't really found any good sources. Any tips on studies etc highly appreciated.
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How can I increase the numeracy of a toddler?

My two year old is just starting to learn counting. A few weeks ago, if he saw two of an item, eg a clock, he would say "clock clock". In the last week, he started saying "two clock". Although he can ...
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How and when to disclose to children a parent's suicide

My children's father committed suicide 10 years age, when they were aged 9, 3 and 1. At the time of his death I did not want them to know how he died, but it became such public knowledge I was forced ...
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Advantage to introducing things early?

There are a few things that I've been doing with my toddler daughter, that are obviously beyond her ability to understand at this point. For example, I've been identifying her feet/hands/etc as left ...
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Should I be concerned with a infant (preemie) that doesn't want to be held?

My son is 30.5 weeks old, 14.5 weeks adjusted (he was a 24-weeker) and has started to get real fussy until we set him down in his swing or crib. It's not happening all the time, but it is increasing ...
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Should I be concerned that my two-year-old doesn't interact with kids his age?

I have a 22-month old boy who is currently an only child. He's a very smart, outgoing child who has never shown any sort of developmental issues. He enjoys books and music, has an amazing memory, and ...
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What do you say when your child says “You're mean!”

A couple of recent posts (this one in particular) reminded me of this question, which I haven't seen asked. (I searched, too.) I've dealt with it a few different ways myself, which I'm not happy ...
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16 months old and no signs of communication. Should we be concerned?

Our son is now 16 months old and does not know any words yet. He doesn't seem to understand anything we say either. He makes plenty of talking sounds, he looks at you and babbles but no words. We ...
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How much direction does a preschooler need while doing crafts?

My son just turned 4 and I'm trying to figure out how much direction I should give while doing crafts. He really enjoys to doing crafts but if I give him a specific 'project' to do (e.g. something ...
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Techniques for handling teenagers “playing dumb” about things

It is hard to phrase this question, as it is an psychologically oblique problem. My teenage son will often ask questions or make glib observations about things, he already knows the answer to, or ...
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5yr Old Has Trouble With Letters & Reading

My daughter is 5 years old (will be 6 at the end of February) and lately has wanted to learn to read. However, I've become a bit concerned because it seems as though she has absolutely no memory for ...