Children's physical and mental development.

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At what age should my baby be expected to support her own head?

I have a 4-month old daughter. Each time she is awake she gets some "tummy-time" where we put her on her stomach on a play-mat, to build up her neck muscles. She doesn't like it that much and ...
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How to cultivate perseverance without being overbearing?

At the risk of this question being overly vague in its title; I'll provide a little more detail on a specific issue. I taught my son to ride a bike last summer after he had just turned 4 years old. It ...
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How much ipad time do most kids get? [duplicate]

I'm a mother of 2, ages 3 and 10. I am worried that my youngest child is spending as much time, sometimes more time, on the iPad than my eldest. The iPad seems ideal when I am busy and the kids are ...
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My 5yo is struggling to concentrate

My 5-year-old is struggling to concentrate for more than a brief period of time and is falling behind the other kids in her kindergarten class. When she does concentrate for a few minutes she's able ...
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How to get a 15 yr old started with a computer?

So I got a chance to speak to the kid of the security guard of our office and he was looking to get started with a computer and was looking for guidance. The kid is 15 now, and I must also say that it ...
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How can parents help an adult child with OCD?

My brother was diagnosed with OCD about two years ago and is following treatment. He lives with our parents (we're both 20-ish years old, but I moved out years ago). He has some conspicuous ...
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My son has not started speaking properly, now he is 1 yr and 10 months

My son is now 1 year and 10 months old and he hardly speaks. He calls Maa, Paa and very few words. But he understands whatever we say and is smart enough to do things. He will understand if we scold ...
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Do I force my son to speak to his semi-absent parent?

My son's father and I were together until my son was 6.5. We broke up because I found out he had been abusing heroin and stealing thousands of dollars in cash and items from my mother, his friends, ...
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15 month old - developmental activities? Dealing with night terrors? [closed]

My daughter is almost 15 months old. Are there things i could work on her with? Cleaning? Talking? Potty training? Anything else along these lines that I could start working on with her? And any ...
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How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity?

How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity? I asked this question here Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children? Which needed to be ...
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My 7-year-old is “in love” with a girl in his class. How should I deal with this?

He tells me regularly that she's so nice and kind to everyone, how beautiful she is, how pretty her hair is, and this, that and the other. Now he's asking me what he should say to her, and if he ...
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Can crawling too early due to over-encouraging parents have detrimental effects?

I see many posts around the Internet about "How to encourage your baby to crawl" but I've once heard that baby development should not be accelerated and that each phase is beneficial to develop ...
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Development for Twins

I'm a mother of three grown sons and have been a nanny to dozens of children. Last year I started babysitting 3 week old twins. They were only 2 weeks early, but their development is significantly ...
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Taking a 12 week old baby to the swimming pool for the first time

We are taking our 12 week old daughter to the indoor pool tomorrow. We have: 1 disposable swim nappy A splash about happy nappy A neoprene baby warmer Towels, change of clothes etc. We were just ...
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Healthy 10 month old baby bouncing himself while standing - will this injure his hips?

Someone told me that my 10 month old grandson was injuring his hips by continually bouncing himself when he stands while holding onto a couch or table. He seems very healthy and strong. Is there a ...
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Is TV harmful to my infant's development?

My wife and I use our TV to watch shows and streaming movies. Our 2 month old daughter is sometimes drawn to the TV and will turn her head towards it and will 'focus' on it. I know that their eye ...
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My one year old son doesn't want to eat. What happened to my son?

When my son was under 11 months old, he ate a lot, but I don't know what changed when he reached 1 year old. It seems like he doesn't like to eat. When we give our son food, sometimes he tries to ...
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Reasoning vs “because I say so”

Raising our two-year-old, my wife and I have slightly different views on how to get our child to obey instructions, such as "get in the car seat" and "put on your shirt." One of us feels that it is ...
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5yr Old Has Trouble With Letters & Reading

My daughter is 5 years old (will be 6 at the end of February) and lately has wanted to learn to read. However, I've become a bit concerned because it seems as though she has absolutely no memory for ...
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How do you find apps that a 2 year old can use and enjoy?

My mom bought my 2 year old son a LeapPad2, which is fun but also a big, big challenge for him at this stage. The tablet is definitely helping him develop his fine motor coordination, but at the ...
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Helping children cope with a parent's suicide

I like this site and thought I would venture with another question about my husband's suicide and how this has affected our children. I've asked another question here: How to handle disclosing a ...
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Is it okay to call children naughty?

Inspired by this question: Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)? In this question, the word "naughty" is repeatedly used to describe a child. I ...
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How and when to disclose to children a parent's suicide

My children's father committed suicide 10 years age, when they were aged 9, 3 and 1. At the time of his death I did not want them to know how he died, but it became such public knowledge I was forced ...
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Repository for scientific evidence in parenting

I would like to know if there is something out there that collects scientific evidence for most types of "policies" or "interventions" in parenting. I would love to see a repository with something ...
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How to constructively play with a one year old?

I keep getting astonished on how my 1 year old LO's mental and cognitive abilities have developed recently. Suddenly she remembers things, understands yes/no, knows some words for some things, ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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My 2 years old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?

Since his birth I've done my best to make my son trust me completely as I see it the only way for him to let me make decisions on his behalf and tell him what's right and wrong. However he supervises ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

After some reading, I understand that dropping stuff is a natural part of baby's development. What I couldn't find after some research, was whether or not I should keep giving the objects that he ...
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Why is infant development derived from their age?

Most infant guidance is based on a baby's age in weeks or months. From my very limited experience of parenting (7 months), it seems to me that it would make more sense to base any information and ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of letting the child experience the effects of his decisions?

Disclaimer: I do not have a child yet. But this method has been in my mind for me to put to work if ever I do get a child. So how does this work? Basically, instead of the parent dictating to the ...
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What age to teach a child about fairness?

At what age do you or can you teach a kid about fairness? I helped my cousin watch after her 17 yr old and 11 yr old. I had to pick up the 17 yr old from softball practice. She hinted she wanted to ...
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When to start teaching reading

My son is 2 and 1/2 years old, he has been "reading" story books since he was about 8 weeks old (sitting on my knee while i read to him), when he started talking, he started to point out names of ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I've noticed a great many parents do everything within their power to prevent their children playing with toy guns and weapons. As a 30-something, I grew up with toy swords, bows and guns, action men ...
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Fast swinging or rocking [duplicate]

My little one just turned 2 months old. When swinging in the swing or when I am rocking him he likes to be swinging fast and rocking fast...I don't mean normal fast he likes to go FAST! Is this normal ...
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How can I help my ten-year-old not be traumatized by the deaths of characters in books?

My daughter understands these are characters, not real people. She writes stories herself, mostly for school, and understands that "something has to happen." Yet the death of any character with more ...
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Where does a child's intellectual curiosity come from?

I am curious to any research or theories to where children develop their intellectual curiosity. I want to be able to do everything I can to help nurture this.
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Worried sick about 3YO and aspergers

My daughter turned 3 in March. My wife has been her primary carer since birth. She attended daycare very briefly for 2 days/week shortly after she turned 2, but this only lasted a month or two as we ...
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At what age do teenagers begin to masturbate?

This is a delicate question. It is not a subject that I can ask my children about. At what age can a parent expect this activity to start?
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What age do children understand magic

What age do children understand magic? This morning I made my 11 month old daughters stuffed giraffe disappear and I swear she was truly surprised and couldn't work out where it had gone. Is she old ...
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Problem with baby height

My baby girl is 13 months old. Her birth weight was 2.7 kg and her height was 55 cm. Now her weight is 7.8 kg and her height is 71 cm. I'm worried about her height. Is it normal or should I consult a ...
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6 Year old troubled by waking nightmares and bad memories

My 6 year old son seems to be bothered by distressing thoughts. This started about 2 months ago with a “scary book” that he saw at school. Apparently two older kids brought in a book which he found ...
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Nearly 2 and doesn't comprehend speech

I see a lot on this site and all over the Internet about toddlers that are late to talk. The general consensus seems to be as long as they can understand when you talk to them then don't worry, they ...
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A child accustomed to sleeping with the tv on

The tv is outside my 12 year old daughter's bedroom. She likes me to sit up until she falls asleep (which is not difficult). I pull the door to and we agree on a maximum volume that makes her feel ...
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Is there a proper age for a chin up bar?

My boy will be 8 in a month or so. We've been watching "American Ninja Warrior" and he's really impressed at watching people work out and train in gyms. When I was a pre-teen (10-11) my parents got ...
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My 13 year old is sexting need advice

Today I went through my daughters kik account just to make sure she wasn’t getting creepers and from what I have seen in the past she is very behaved on there i.e. shutting down offers for sexting . ...
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What is an age when bedwetting should be referred to the doctor?

According to this answer on Parenting.SE, Mayo Clinic says that: Generally, bed-wetting before age 6 or 7 isn't cause for concern What is the age when it should become a concern enough that it ...
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How do you do tummy time?

Whenever we put our 12 week old on her tummy, she yelps and generally sounds uncomfortable. She looks a bit like an upturned tortoise. How can we make this more enjoyable for her?
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Do you use number of weeks or day of the month to determine an infant's birthday?

If a child was born today, which is July 18th and the third Monday of July, would he or she become one month old on August 18th or the third Monday in August (August 22)? Thanks
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Is it a good idea to move babies arms to teach them how to reach?

When our 11 week old is on her play-mat she stares at the various toys hanging down over her. It's so tempting to help her reach out to them, but is it a good idea to help, or is it something she ...
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Why is our three year old fixated on… 'Dark' things?

Our daughter, since she was not quite two, has been fascinated with creepy crawly things. Spiders, snakes, etc. She has always liked dinosaurs a lot too. Over the last year though, she talks more and ...