Children's physical and mental development.

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How and when to disclose to children a parent's suicide

My children's father committed suicide 10 years age, when they were aged 9, 3 and 1. At the time of his death I did not want them to know how he died, but it became such public knowledge I was forced ...
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Repository for scientific evidence in parenting

I would like to know if there is something out there that collects scientific evidence for most types of "policies" or "interventions" in parenting. I would love to see a repository with something ...
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How to constructively play with a one year old?

I keep getting astonished on how my 1 year old LO's mental and cognitive abilities have developed recently. Suddenly she remembers things, understands yes/no, knows some words for some things, ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

After some reading, I understand that dropping stuff is a natural part of baby's development. What I couldn't find after some research, was whether or not I should keep giving the objects that he ...
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Why is infant development derived from their age?

Most infant guidance is based on a baby's age in weeks or months. From my very limited experience of parenting (7 months), it seems to me that it would make more sense to base any information and ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of letting the child experience the effects of his decisions?

Disclaimer: I do not have a child yet. But this method has been in my mind for me to put to work if ever I do get a child. So how does this work? Basically, instead of the parent dictating to the ...
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What age to teach a child about fairness?

At what age do you or can you teach a kid about fairness? I helped my cousin watch after her 17 yr old and 11 yr old. I had to pick up the 17 yr old from softball practice. She hinted she wanted to ...
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When to start teaching reading

My son is 2 and 1/2 years old, he has been "reading" story books since he was about 8 weeks old (sitting on my knee while i read to him), when he started talking, he started to point out names of ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I've noticed a great many parents do everything within their power to prevent their children playing with toy guns and weapons. As a 30-something, I grew up with toy swords, bows and guns, action men ...
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Fast swinging or rocking [duplicate]

My little one just turned 2 months old. When swinging in the swing or when I am rocking him he likes to be swinging fast and rocking fast...I don't mean normal fast he likes to go FAST! Is this normal ...
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How can I help my ten-year-old not be traumatized by the deaths of characters in books?

My daughter understands these are characters, not real people. She writes stories herself, mostly for school, and understands that "something has to happen." Yet the death of any character with more ...
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Where does a child's intellectual curiosity come from?

I am curious to any research or theories to where children develop their intellectual curiosity. I want to be able to do everything I can to help nurture this.
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Worried sick about 3YO and aspergers

My daughter turned 3 in March. My wife has been her primary carer since birth. She attended daycare very briefly for 2 days/week shortly after she turned 2, but this only lasted a month or two as we ...
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At what age do teenagers begin to masturbate?

This is a delicate question. It is not a subject that I can ask my children about. At what age can a parent expect this activity to start?
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What age do children understand magic

What age do children understand magic? This morning I made my 11 month old daughters stuffed giraffe disappear and I swear she was truly surprised and couldn't work out where it had gone. Is she old ...
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Problem with baby height

My baby girl is 13 months old. Her birth weight was 2.7 kg and her height was 55 cm. Now her weight is 7.8 kg and her height is 71 cm. I'm worried about her height. Is it normal or should I consult a ...
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6 Year old troubled by waking nightmares and bad memories

My 6 year old son seems to be bothered by distressing thoughts. This started about 2 months ago with a “scary book” that he saw at school. Apparently two older kids brought in a book which he found ...
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Nearly 2 and doesn't comprehend speech

I see a lot on this site and all over the Internet about toddlers that are late to talk. The general consensus seems to be as long as they can understand when you talk to them then don't worry, they ...
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A child accustomed to sleeping with the tv on

The tv is outside my 12 year old daughter's bedroom. She likes me to sit up until she falls asleep (which is not difficult). I pull the door to and we agree on a maximum volume that makes her feel ...
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Is there a proper age for a chin up bar?

My boy will be 8 in a month or so. We've been watching "American Ninja Warrior" and he's really impressed at watching people work out and train in gyms. When I was a pre-teen (10-11) my parents got ...
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My 13 year old is sexting need advice

Today I went through my daughters kik account just to make sure she wasn’t getting creepers and from what I have seen in the past she is very behaved on there i.e. shutting down offers for sexting . ...
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What is an age when bedwetting should be referred to the doctor?

According to this answer on Parenting.SE, Mayo Clinic says that: Generally, bed-wetting before age 6 or 7 isn't cause for concern What is the age when it should become a concern enough that it ...
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How do you do tummy time?

Whenever we put our 12 week old on her tummy, she yelps and generally sounds uncomfortable. She looks a bit like an upturned tortoise. How can we make this more enjoyable for her?
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Is it a good idea to move babies arms to teach them how to reach?

When our 11 week old is on her play-mat she stares at the various toys hanging down over her. It's so tempting to help her reach out to them, but is it a good idea to help, or is it something she ...
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Why is our three year old fixated on… 'Dark' things?

Our daughter, since she was not quite two, has been fascinated with creepy crawly things. Spiders, snakes, etc. She has always liked dinosaurs a lot too. Over the last year though, she talks more and ...
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How can we get our 5 year old son to control his temper and behave

Our youngest of 2 sons is 5 years old and demonstrating really bad behaviour. This has been on going for 2 years. He has just started primary one and is a march birthday so one of the oldest in his ...
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When can I start “doing the air plane”?

By "doing the air plane", I mean holding one arm and one leg of my daughter and then let her fly by circling around. I'm wondering when I can safely start doing that without dislocating her joints. ...
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How often should I defeat my children in games?

I love my children very much, but I sometimes I have to teach them a lesson. I'm afraid if I always allow them to win them, they'll turn out to be spoiled and rotten and have a sense of entitlement ...
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Eight month infant not sitting on her own in full control

Is it normal for an Eight month infant female to not yet control her body and fall over if no support is given? She can sit for few seconds(10-20) but it seems she does not like sitting much and just ...
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Our daughter of 4 already wants to know what she will do when she's grown up

Yesterday when i was changing my daughter in her PJ's to get ready for bed she started crying out of nowhere. This was very surprising cause we don't get that very often with her. When i asked what ...
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What's the right (average) age to transition from Duplo to Lego?

I'm trying to figure out when it makes sense to transition my son (and daughter, eventually) from Lego to Duplo (or the equivalent generic blocks). I'm focused on the age at which children have the ...
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Is there an age before which you should avoid the concept of death or dying?

This question specifically addresses how to talk to a 5 year old, but I'm curious about younger kids. I'm not talking about situations where death has become an important event in a child's life and ...
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Are shaking legs something to be worried about?

My wife has noticed that my 10 month old son sometimes starts to twitch his leg. It only lasts for a couple of seconds, and is infrequent enough that I have yet to witness it. She described it as ...
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What to do if my kids would not listen to my reasoning?

I have a boy, 10 years old. I think he is quite smart and can understand all the reasoning as good as any intelligent adults. Unfortunately, he can be quite difficult to deal with. He has some bad ...
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When will my boy be able to tell me about his day?

At what age could your kids reliably tell you about what went on in your absence? And how did you know it's reliable? I have an almost three year old, and although he is quite talkative, it's still ...
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When do twins know their own names?

I've read that babies generally recognize and respond to their own name at around 5 months of age. How is this different for twins (particularly identical)? Being as they often (almost always!) hear ...
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my daughter “forgets” her numbers even though she knows how to count

My daughter is 4 1/2 or so. She knows how to count to at least 10, possibly higher, and will do so unprompted. However, we've recently tried to start playing some board and card games with her. In ...
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How many toys are enough/ too much?

My husband and I have decided to minimize the number of toys for our daughter for a variety of reasons... we have a small house, I am unemployed also we see how greedy many children who have ...
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When do baby's gas pains usually go away?

My daughter is suffering from gas pains. We have taken steps to reduce them, which were moderately successfull. Still, I'd like to know when will baby's gas pains go away? When will the baby stop ...
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What do you say when your child says “You're mean!”

A couple of recent posts (this one in particular) reminded me of this question, which I haven't seen asked. (I searched, too.) I've dealt with it a few different ways myself, which I'm not happy ...
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Counting out of context words?

We have been trying to count our 20 month old's vocabulary and are trying to decide if words which she has learned incorrectly (words which are said correctly but may require further context for a ...
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When is a child ready to start playing with bricks?

Just out of curiosity: at what age is a child ready to play with its first bricks? The light, large, colored wooden ones, like these below? By playing I mean actually creating something of of them: ...
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Effects of multiple new relationships (and the single parent) upon children

Background. My husband died 10 years ago. My children were aged 9, 3 and 1 at the time. I was always (and still am) probably too extreme in my stance on relationships with men, since my husband's ...
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speech development

my son is 5.5yrs old. yet it is hard for us to make him to respond to questions, to tell short stories that is in his syllabus, even a statement in english.we talk in mother tongue only at home.even ...
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Preschooler can't sing, but sings anyway - loudly!

My 3½ year old has never had any sense of music, rhythm, notes, or anything resembling the musical arts. (Motor skills is where he truly excels; he's a sports person, not a musician.) Recently, he ...
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How to respond to shame

I have 4 kids, 11,8,6,3 (boy girl boy girl). My 6-year old is tremendously prone to shame. At the drop of a hat he will turn away, cover his eyes, hide in the corner and just generally grind to a ...
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How to inspire a 7 year old to accelerate reading efforts?

I have a seven year old son who is having a hard time "getting inspired" to read regularly. This is somewhat of a struggle for me as his older brother was reading Harry Potter at around his age and ...
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Putting a one year old in the crib and shutting door

Will it hurt a one year olds development if the crib is used as a place to play with toys, turn cartoons on and shut the door as a way to keep them from under foot several times a day? My grandbaby's ...
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how to talk with your teen when he caught you having sex with your partner [duplicate]

My husband and I got caught by my teenager son having oral sex. I am emarrased and i don't know how to handle it. is there any advise? thank you