Children's physical and mental development.

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Healthy 10 month old baby bouncing himself while standing - will this injure his hips?

Someone told me that my 10 month old grandson was injuring his hips by continually bouncing himself when he stands while holding onto a couch or table. He seems very healthy and strong. Is there a ...
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Is it okay to call children naughty?

Inspired by this question: Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)? In this question, the word "naughty" is repeatedly used to describe a child. I ...
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How to constructively play with a one year old?

I keep getting astonished on how my 1 year old LO's mental and cognitive abilities have developed recently. Suddenly she remembers things, understands yes/no, knows some words for some things, ...
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My 2 years old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?

Since his birth I've done my best to make my son trust me completely as I see it the only way for him to let me make decisions on his behalf and tell him what's right and wrong. However he supervises ...
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Why is infant development derived from their age?

Most infant guidance is based on a baby's age in weeks or months. From my very limited experience of parenting (7 months), it seems to me that it would make more sense to base any information and ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of letting the child experience the effects of his decisions?

Disclaimer: I do not have a child yet. But this method has been in my mind for me to put to work if ever I do get a child. So how does this work? Basically, instead of the parent dictating to the ...
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Repository for scientific evidence in parenting

I would like to know if there is something out there that collects scientific evidence for most types of "policies" or "interventions" in parenting. I would love to see a repository with something ...
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When to start teaching reading

My son is 2 and 1/2 years old, he has been "reading" story books since he was about 8 weeks old (sitting on my knee while i read to him), when he started talking, he started to point out names of ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I've noticed a great many parents do everything within their power to prevent their children playing with toy guns and weapons. As a 30-something, I grew up with toy swords, bows and guns, action men ...
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Fast swinging or rocking [duplicate]

My little one just turned 2 months old. When swinging in the swing or when I am rocking him he likes to be swinging fast and rocking fast...I don't mean normal fast he likes to go FAST! Is this normal ...
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What age do children understand magic

What age do children understand magic? This morning I made my 11 month old daughters stuffed giraffe disappear and I swear she was truly surprised and couldn't work out where it had gone. Is she old ...
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Problem with baby height

My baby girl is 13 months old. Her birth weight was 2.7 kg and her height was 55 cm. Now her weight is 7.8 kg and her height is 71 cm. I'm worried about her height. Is it normal or should I consult a ...
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6 Year old troubled by waking nightmares and bad memories

My 6 year old son seems to be bothered by distressing thoughts. This started about 2 months ago with a “scary book” that he saw at school. Apparently two older kids brought in a book which he found ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

After some reading, I understand that dropping stuff is a natural part of baby's development. What I couldn't find after some research, was whether or not I should keep giving the objects that he ...
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Is there a proper age for a chin up bar?

My boy will be 8 in a month or so. We've been watching "American Ninja Warrior" and he's really impressed at watching people work out and train in gyms. When I was a pre-teen (10-11) my parents got ...
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Taking a 12 week old baby to the swimming pool for the first time

We are taking our 12 week old daughter to the indoor pool tomorrow. We have: 1 disposable swim nappy A splash about happy nappy A neoprene baby warmer Towels, change of clothes etc. We were just ...
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How do you do tummy time?

Whenever we put our 12 week old on her tummy, she yelps and generally sounds uncomfortable. She looks a bit like an upturned tortoise. How can we make this more enjoyable for her?
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What is an age when bedwetting should be referred to the doctor?

According to this answer on Parenting.SE, Mayo Clinic says that: Generally, bed-wetting before age 6 or 7 isn't cause for concern What is the age when it should become a concern enough that it ...
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Is it a good idea to move babies arms to teach them how to reach?

When our 11 week old is on her play-mat she stares at the various toys hanging down over her. It's so tempting to help her reach out to them, but is it a good idea to help, or is it something she ...
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What age to teach a child about fairness?

At what age do you or can you teach a kid about fairness? I helped my cousin watch after her 17 yr old and 11 yr old. I had to pick up the 17 yr old from softball practice. She hinted she wanted to ...
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Worried sick about 3YO and aspergers

My daughter turned 3 in March. My wife has been her primary carer since birth. She attended daycare very briefly for 2 days/week shortly after she turned 2, but this only lasted a month or two as we ...
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Why is our three year old fixated on… 'Dark' things?

Our daughter, since she was not quite two, has been fascinated with creepy crawly things. Spiders, snakes, etc. She has always liked dinosaurs a lot too. Over the last year though, she talks more and ...
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How often should I defeat my children in games?

I love my children very much, but I sometimes I have to teach them a lesson. I'm afraid if I always allow them to win them, they'll turn out to be spoiled and rotten and have a sense of entitlement ...
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Eight month infant not sitting on her own in full control

Is it normal for an Eight month infant female to not yet control her body and fall over if no support is given? She can sit for few seconds(10-20) but it seems she does not like sitting much and just ...
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Our daughter of 4 already wants to know what she will do when she's grown up

Yesterday when i was changing my daughter in her PJ's to get ready for bed she started crying out of nowhere. This was very surprising cause we don't get that very often with her. When i asked what ...
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What's the right (average) age to transition from Duplo to Lego?

I'm trying to figure out when it makes sense to transition my son (and daughter, eventually) from Lego to Duplo (or the equivalent generic blocks). I'm focused on the age at which children have the ...
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When can I start “doing the air plane”?

By "doing the air plane", I mean holding one arm and one leg of my daughter and then let her fly by circling around. I'm wondering when I can safely start doing that without dislocating her joints. ...
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Is there an age before which you should avoid the concept of death or dying?

This question specifically addresses how to talk to a 5 year old, but I'm curious about younger kids. I'm not talking about situations where death has become an important event in a child's life and ...
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When will my boy be able to tell me about his day?

At what age could your kids reliably tell you about what went on in your absence? And how did you know it's reliable? I have an almost three year old, and although he is quite talkative, it's still ...
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At What age does a child generally recognize their shadow is their shadow and will do what they do?

This question was inspired by At What age does a baby recognize themself in a mirror? and the memory it brought up for me of the day we were on a family "hike" at a local botanical garden and my ...
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When do twins know their own names?

I've read that babies generally recognize and respond to their own name at around 5 months of age. How is this different for twins (particularly identical)? Being as they often (almost always!) hear ...
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How do you find apps that a 2 year old can use and enjoy?

My mom bought my 2 year old son a LeapPad2, which is fun but also a big, big challenge for him at this stage. The tablet is definitely helping him develop his fine motor coordination, but at the ...
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Counting out of context words?

We have been trying to count our 20 month old's vocabulary and are trying to decide if words which she has learned incorrectly (words which are said correctly but may require further context for a ...
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When do baby's gas pains usually go away?

My daughter is suffering from gas pains. We have taken steps to reduce them, which were moderately successfull. Still, I'd like to know when will baby's gas pains go away? When will the baby stop ...
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When is a child ready to start playing with bricks?

Just out of curiosity: at what age is a child ready to play with its first bricks? The light, large, colored wooden ones, like these below? By playing I mean actually creating something of of them: ...
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What do you say when your child says “You're mean!”

A couple of recent posts (this one in particular) reminded me of this question, which I haven't seen asked. (I searched, too.) I've dealt with it a few different ways myself, which I'm not happy ...
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speech development

my son is 5.5yrs old. yet it is hard for us to make him to respond to questions, to tell short stories that is in his syllabus, even a statement in english.we talk in mother tongue only at home.even ...
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How can I help my ten-year-old not be traumatized by the deaths of characters in books?

My daughter understands these are characters, not real people. She writes stories herself, mostly for school, and understands that "something has to happen." Yet the death of any character with more ...
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How and when to disclose to children a parent's suicide

My children's father committed suicide 10 years age, when they were aged 9, 3 and 1. At the time of his death I did not want them to know how he died, but it became such public knowledge I was forced ...
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How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity?

How damaging is it for children to witness their parent's sexual activity? I asked this question here Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children? Which needed to be ...
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Effects of multiple new relationships (and the single parent) upon children

Background. My husband died 10 years ago. My children were aged 9, 3 and 1 at the time. I was always (and still am) probably too extreme in my stance on relationships with men, since my husband's ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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At what age do teenagers begin to masturbate?

This is a delicate question. It is not a subject that I can ask my children about. At what age can a parent expect this activity to start?
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A child accustomed to sleeping with the tv on

The tv is outside my 12 year old daughter's bedroom. She likes me to sit up until she falls asleep (which is not difficult). I pull the door to and we agree on a maximum volume that makes her feel ...
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My 13 year old is sexting need advice

Today I went through my daughters kik account just to make sure she wasn’t getting creepers and from what I have seen in the past she is very behaved on there i.e. shutting down offers for sexting . ...
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Techniques for handling teenagers “playing dumb” about things

It is hard to phrase this question, as it is an psychologically oblique problem. My teenage son will often ask questions or make glib observations about things, he already knows the answer to, or ...
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Helping children cope with a parent's suicide

I like this site and thought I would venture with another question about my husband's suicide and how this has affected our children. I've asked another question here: How to handle disclosing a ...
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How do I get my 5 year old under control?

I am 22 years old with little experience with young children. My family (my husband, 5 year old daughter, and myself) moved into my grandmother's house to help her with her illnesses. My husband ...
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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...
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How to respond to shame

I have 4 kids, 11,8,6,3 (boy girl boy girl). My 6-year old is tremendously prone to shame. At the drop of a hat he will turn away, cover his eyes, hide in the corner and just generally grind to a ...