Many people have questions about what amount of crying is normal, what is excessive, how to influence the frequency, or how to respond to a crying child.

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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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Should you pick a baby up everytime it cries?

My husband and i have differing opinions on this. I don't believe in the term 'spoilt'. I would be very happy if my daughter was 'spoilt' in the sense that she expects to be treated with the highest ...
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Is the “cry it out” approach harmful?

We have several questions on this site that deal with infants and toddlers who cry a lot, for various reasons. Here is an example question and example answer, another answer. The topic was raised on ...
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How do you teach a child to call for help?

We have a relatively large house. Our kids are always in earshot, but not usually in sight. The problem with this is our 4 year-old son doesn't know how to call out for help appropriately. On the ...
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5 year old cries every time she is told “no”

My 5 year old daughter is crying every time she is told no. It doesn't matter if it is a little thing or a big thing she is asking for--she cries. We don't give in to her crying. We have tried ...
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Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?

My 4-month-old has a set bedtime routine and will generally go happily to sleep - but occasionally (for no particular reason) he'll work himself up into a fit and cry for long periods of time, ...
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Should I respond to “fussing” the same as crying in an infant?

During the night my 7-week-old will fuss in his sleep (grunt, flail, etc...). This fussing rarely proceeds to crying but he usually will not settle on his own. When I pick him up he will usually ...
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Why is my baby crying?

What's a good sorted list of potential causes to check when my baby cries and I don't know why? I need something I can print out in advance because I can't think very clearly once the crying starts.
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Why does the baby consistently fuss at nightfall?

My daughter (2 months old) consistently fusses or screams around sundown/nightfall regardless of the sky is overcast, the lights in the house are on, or apparently any other factor. Is this common, ...
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Is it appropriate for parents to cry in front of their children?

Sometimes a parent may be feeling sad (for whatever reason) and needs to cry. Is it harmful, or could it even be good, to cry sometimes in front of your children? What does research say?
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Is there any way to limit distress when diaper changing for newborns?

To say that our four day old does not like having his diaper changed is the understatement of the century. It seems that by the time the clothes are opened, he is becoming increasingly agitated, and ...
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How to direct my one-year old baby not to do bad things

I have a one-year old baby, she is smart and loves to try everything and anything, including putting her fingers in the electricity and tasting every possible thing she finds :) How can I tell my ...
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Is there any benefit to not responding immediately to a crying infant?

Crying is a newborn's favorite activity. They cry whenever they feel hungry, unsafe, or uncomfortable. But sometimes I prefer to not respond to crying as quickly as possible, in order to teach my ...
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Any suggestions on how to control yelling and negativity on our part, and also teach my 8 yr old son to not feel so helpless and cry so easily?

This is about my 8-year old son, who cries easily and helplessly, mostly in response to our enforcing discipline and routine or refusing things he wants. I understand that he should not expect to be ...
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Why won't our infant stop crying when in the car seat?

We have a 2-month-old baby that will start crying as soon as we put her in the car seat and absolutely will not stop until she is out of it. She could be fed and asleep with a new diaper before the ...
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Can I figure out what my baby wants by the sound it makes when it cries?

Can I figure out what my baby needs from its crying? According to Dunstan Baby Language, the sound used before hysterical baby crying gives information on what the baby needs. The Dunstan website ...
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How to cope with a crying infant in the car during short trips?

An issue has come up recently with our new son, in that he is at his most vocally unhappy when in the car. It's not 100% of the time, but it happens daily. It's only rarely because of dirty diapers ...
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How can we get our newborn to sleep at night as soundly as he does in the day?

We've just had a new arrival- a little boy, now 7 days old. During the day he sleeps like a dream. As I write this, he has been asleep for around 4 hours without really stirring at all. The only ...
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Controlled crying isn't working at night. What are my options?

We used controlled crying to help our daughter get to sleep easier at 6 months. This was hard work at the time but now, at 10 months, we can reliably put her down at the end of her bed time routine ...
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How can we explain our “cry it out” strategy to people who oppose it?

My wife and I have had success with a form of the "cry it out" strategy with our three children. I know it's not for everyone, but our household has gotten into some healthy sleep patterns without ...
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Why does my child cry when her parents laugh?

My wife and I have an almost 2 year old daughter, whom since the age of about 6 months, cries when we laugh. For the first approximately 6-9 months, this was pretty much every time we laughed. Since ...
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Is it fair (or adequate) to ask a 4 yr old to stop crying for some reason?

In my education, my parents never asked me such a thing. My wife, on the other hand, understands you can ask a child to stop crying (she had a tougher childhood I guess). So I have mixed feelings ...
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Does a baby cry inside the womb?

Considering Music for gestation - what should baby be hearing while in the womb? that babies can hear sounds inside the womb, I also expect myself to hear the baby crying or making sounds inside the ...
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How to stop my 8 year old from crying every time she's frustrated?

My 8 year old daughters is usually very good. But in the last few months she has started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?

So, this question is inspired somewhat by Do we Need to help a baby learn to soothe itself? as well as my own experience with other people's children and my own. Many mothers are reluctant to let ...
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Why is my newborn crying constantly?

my 4 week old daughter will not stop crying. We've tried everything from sucking, both on pacifiers and fingers to breastfeeding, white noise, movement, diaper is clean she doesn't seem to have a ...
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Is it safe to blow on a baby's face?

I've seen some parents blowing on their baby's face when crying. The baby suddenly stops crying but he looked very surprised. I wonder if this could harm the baby in some way.
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What to do when the pinky is the only way to soothe a newborn?

My question is: Is there any way to soothe a crying baby in the middle of the night other than inserting my pinky? Summery: Pinky method = only successful soothing found Tried the following other ...
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My one year old daughter keeps waking up same time every night screaming and crying

I am very confused and concerned - My 13-monthld daughter wakes up between 1:30 am and 3:40 am screaming and crying in her crib. I have tried giving her a bottle of milk, cup of water, cuddling her, ...
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How do I help my 5-year-old daughter solve problems instead of crying

I am the lucky father of an adorable 5-year-old girl. I understand she has her own process to learn how to deal with frustration and I think it's quite normal for a 5-year-old girl to start crying ...
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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening ...
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How do you address a child who cries and wants to play with everything?

When we have dinner, our daughter will sit on her chair for 1 minute, and then she will go up to desk and start to play with plates and forks and food and ... When we want to watch film or TV, she ...
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Boy 7 too sensitive.

My boy seems to cry at the least little things. e.g. His younger sister teasing. Slightest little scratch when playing Dies in computer game. Bedtime How can I toughen him a bit? I don't know ...
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How can I protect my ears when the baby cries?

I'm suffering from tinnitus. In my case, this is a constant, high-pitched whine. The volume is insignificant when I'm relaxed in quiet surroundings, but stress and loud noise can instantly increase ...
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15 month old has started whining constantly?

I have a 15 month old little girl who up until now has been a very easy baby. Over the last month or so, she has begun whine nearly constantly. There are a few ways to stop her. Usually these ...
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Skin turns blue after long crying [closed]

Yesterday my baby boy cried a lot and he became some kind of blue, I think it's because he was crying for a 3-5 minutes (this doesn't happen before, it's because We had to wake him from sleep :) ), I ...
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Is crying healthy for babies when they get our companionship?

Our son is approximately 2 months old, and he has problems sleeping at night (he cries like any other baby). My concern is about letting him cry while he's on my chest or in my arms while I give him ...
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11 month old wakes up in the night crying. Continues to cry for hours

My 11 month olds son had been sleeping in his crib since he was two months. He is a happy baby during the day. He has a great appetite and I breastfeed about 4x a day and when he wakes in the night. ...
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My 1yr 3month old daughter crying every night

Don't know what could it be but my daughter keeps on crying every night. She's sleeping and suddenly she starts crying. Hungry ? (She drinks her last bottle of milk around 8pm.) Maybe teething? (every ...
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1-month baby crying when on floor

I am a first time father with 1-month old DS. My wife has been exclusively breastfeeding, 20 mins on each breast every two hours. Currently both my wife and the baby are on a medication because they ...
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How long did it take your baby to like daycare?

My baby started daycare at 9 mos. It's been two weeks and she still cries when we drop off and pick up. How long did it take for your baby / toddler to like day care and at what age did they start?
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My 8 year old daughter cries when she is frustrated when she is unable to execute something new

My daughter will be turning 8 in a few days, and I have been unsuccessful in trying to get her to stop crying when she becomes frustrated. Examples are: She is currently in dance & takes 8 classes ...
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Our 6 month old baby moans continuously

Apologies if this is a duplicate, it searched for the question terms but found nothing similar. Our baby is nearly 7 months old, and after being left to do anything for over 5 minutes, just starts to ...
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My son cries for 30-45 minutes when told “No”

My son can cry all day when told no. It's very tiring and I don't know what more to do. Its an everyday thing with him. I try putting him in time out which is his bed and it gets worse . He ...
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Why does my toddler cry when I go out of the room for a short time?

My nearly 16 month old gets very upset when I leave the room, even if it's just for a 2 minute trip to the bathroom. I'm not leaving him on his own but with another adult that he knows well (eg his ...
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8yo has crazy mood swings and gets mad over nothing [closed]

My 8 year old sister gets crazy and starts crying over "nothing". My parents agree that this is a problem, but they have no clue what to do. Luckily I know about SE :) I'm not sure if this is ...
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One Year Old Son, Cries with Mum but not me (Dad). Is it Separation Anxiety?

For a while my 1 Year old son has been a bit of a "Daddys Boy" and we have had a similar experience to this question: However its gotten worse lately: He cries with his mum (for long periods) while ...
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Why is my 15 month old boy crying excessively in the afternoon

My wife is having a real hard time with my son lately. After his afternoon nap he will almost immediately get really whiny and then go into full blown crying for hours. She is a stay at home Mum so ...
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My 3 year old will not fall asleep without me in the room. How can I break this? [duplicate]

My 3 year old daughter will not sleep unless someone is in the room with her and when she doesn't want to go to sleep and finally does and wakes up and we're not in there she cries and doesn't go back ...
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My daughter cries when I tell her “no”

I am the good cop at home when it comes to our 18 month old daughter. Today, I tried to tell her "no, you can't walk with that bottle" because she already broke twice and this is the third one, but ...