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How should a stepfather respond to “You are not my Father!”?

So the situation is that I'm not the real father of my son. I call him my son since I love him very much, but he is my girlfriend's son from her previous relationship. I'm afraid though... He does ...
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How should I discuss the cheerleading squad uniform policy with the coach? [closed]

My son is 16. He's applied for cheerleading as a hobby. Me and my wife thought it was good, he's athletic and into sports. The cheer squad is not affiliated with his highschool. The issue at hand is ...
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Continually whining unhappy baby

We are having a problem with our second daughter. She is 15 months old and lately, (the last 2 months), she has just been inconsolable and whiny despite there being no obvious underlying cause. In ...
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Parents salt food too much

When it comes to food, my parents like to salt it a lot more than I do. Besides tasting bad (in my opinion, at least), the salt amount is unhealty and, according to my calculations, about twice the 5 ...
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Are these strange communication habits of urban teenagers normal?

Being a teenager now, unlike when I was young, has some differences regarding communication regarding mobile phones / internet. I have noticed some strange behavior in teenagers (around 15), which I ...
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Restless fingers while speaking

It's very hard for me to have a relaxed talk with my son - 12 years old. He does not like talking and if he does he is playing with his fingers. This drives my crazy and it makes me afraid. I tell ...
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How can I demonstrate to my wife that her overprotecting my crawling son is counterproductive

My son is now going on 8 months and crawling. He is finally allowed to crawl past the futon- floor bed but is forbidden from possible slight danger or a little dusty areas. Obviously electricity or ...
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How and when can you teach a child to use an “indoor voice”?

We don't generally tell my son to be quiet, as its rarely necessary (despite his being extremely vocal). We want to encourage communication and his ability to express himself. However, there are ...
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Explain to a 4-year-old how magnets work

My 4-year-old daughter would like to know: "How do magnets magnet onto things?" How can I explain this at a level she can understand? (I'm asking this here rather than on physics.SE because this is ...
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How do we address other adults telling my son to ask us to bring him to their house?

My sister-in-law has developed a habit both my wife and I find annoying: in order to try and get us to come to their house more often, she constantly pulls my son aside when they're leaving from a ...
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How and when to talk to children about diseases they might have?

I'd like to straight up state that the scenario in this question is a hypothetical one. That doesn't mean this question or concepts explored in answers will never help anyone, and I have cleared this ...
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How do you explain World War II to young children?

My 7-year old son asks many questions about World War II. I have the habit not to hide anything, but concepts such as Nazism or the Holocaust are so inherently dreadful that he sometimes seems to ...
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How can you communicate with a child that refuses to talk?

I have a four year old son who has slight autism. Up until now he has babbled but never used any words associated with anything. We try to encourage him to talk by talking with him a lot, and we have ...
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Selective mutism- helping a little girl feel comfortable in my esl class? [duplicate]

I am an English as a Second Language teacher in Indonesia. Currently, in my class I have a girl who is in third grade who I think (I don’t know because there is no sort of diagnosis here) SM. I want ...
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What is an appropriate age to talk to you child about alcohol?

As a father and an employee to an alcohol rehab, I'm wondering when I should talk to my son (age 9) about alcohol? I've met a lot of people who've harmed themselves with the substance but, when I do ...
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Daughter saying whole sentences at home but not in kindergarten

My nearly 3 years old daughter is capable of saying whole sentences by now and using them nicely while at home with us. However the kindergarten staff claims she speaks very little and not capable of ...
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Does using sign language really accelerate a child's ability to speak?

I have often heard that using sign language is really good in teaching a baby to talk. Is this really true, or is this an urban legend? Related: Can toddlers learn sign language?
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Should I use “pet names” when talking about (private) body parts with my child?

Given some recent questions regarding sexual discussions with questions, I want to take a step back and ask a related question: Should I use "pet names" when referring to a body part with my child? ...
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How do you discuss a controversial history topic with a child?

There are many controversial history episodes that are still relevant and actively discussed today. I don't mean cruel or bloody stories, rather episodes that different people have opposite viewpoints ...
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6yo wears down people by dawdling and endless discussions - how can parents help?

A 6-years-old boy is very bright, intelligent and clever, but on the other hand he's very strong-minded and often like an absent-minded professor. The problems: he does not like other people to ...
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Boys have crush on my 6 year old daughter

Ok so my daughter goes to this new school, and a lot of boys have crush on her. When I pick her up from the after school I see all these little boys trying to flirt with her. I'm very open minded ...
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Communication between Parents and teachers

I have a question for all parents and teachers, i am a divorced dad and my sons are living with their mother. My problem is that I am not kept up to date on my sons behavior at school. I do receive a ...
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How to explain Paris terrorist attack to primary school age children?

How can I explain terrorism and the recent radical Muslim shootings in Paris to my primary school age children? They have obviously noticed the media reports and they saw our local TV tower lit up ...
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Problems with discipline for my step-children

I have a step son and step daughter who are 11 and 13 I have been married to their mum for 9 years and there is a big problem within the family. If I tell the kids to either do something or stop ...
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Expat child refuses to learn local language

We are a Spanish family who has recently relocated to England with our children. Our 6 year old boy can't speak nor understand English; he knows some words, basic phrases and a few numbers, but that ...
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What can I do to increase the chance that my children will talk to me when disturbed?

Background My older children have mobile devices, and while they agree to allow us access to them and installation of software to permit us to review how they use the device with them, they also work ...
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3 year-old boy always says he has tummy-ache for 5 mins after breakfast

I've talked to your doctor about this already and he thinks it is just our child's imagination and not to worry, and in fact I'm not really worried for my boy's health, I'm more curious about how to ...
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How can a parent encourage their child to talk more about what they did at school?

My son's just started school, and it seems to be exceptionally difficult to get him to talk about what he did during the day. The responses are generally, "I don't know", or "I can't remember". ...
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How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey Timmy, I ...
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My 5 year old princess makes me feel unwanted [closed]

A brief background: I have been divorced for 3 years now. My ex wife wants me dead, she made threats like "Both of us won't come out of this alive" near the end of our marriage. She has opened an ...
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How do I tell my 14 year old niece that her mom is kicking her out?

I'm a 30 year old guy, and I'm single, never had a real girlfriend to speak of. My sister's first born is in some trouble and she has decided that her daughter cannot live with her anymore (there's ...
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My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?

As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
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I want more time with my wife in our blended family, but she says no. [closed]

My wife and I have been married for about 8 months. We both have two children, each. I moved into her house with her kids. I have my kids twice a week and every other weekend. I told my wife I ...
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How can I help my toddler feel confident in his communication?

My two-and-a-half year old communicates very well, and we talk constantly about things he sees, or what he's feeling, or just about his toys. However, when he uses longer sentences or words that are ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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Autism?? Hearing impairment?? Please advise!

(Before anyone has a go at me for my post- I am not looking for a diagnosis, google diagnosis or using this in place of medical care or for any stupid reason (child is under hospital and dietician ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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Divorce communications - How to deal with “you're unwilling to pay” tactic?

I am sure this must be a common issue, but for some reason I can't find a way to track it down via web searches. Here are the basics: I'm divorced, male, mid-40s. I am the noncustodial parent of a ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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When should you start talking with your children about sex?

In a recent episode of Super Nanny (a UK and US show on parenting), I noticed that Jo Frost was openly talking to the parents and older sibling of a family about sex in front of a 6-7 year old. My ...
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How to communicate effectively with my 17-year-old daughter? And how to make her appropriately wary of strangers?

My daughter (17 years old) doesn't listen to me, but when a stranger says a few kind words to her she is like "Look Dad, he/she is such a good man/woman". I have learned that she has a boyfriend. ...
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How can I help a child who won't talk to anybody at school? Selective mutism

Although I am not a parent, I am interning in social work. I am currently working with a student in an elementary school who does not speak. The parents have explained that she does speak at home (I ...
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Son (22) has to keep initiating contact between son and parents after moving out

Me being 22, I moved out a year ago (about half an hour drive away) to live with my girlfriend after I proposed too her. I always (and believe I still do) had/have a good connection with my parents ...
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When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he completely blocks communication with moans/cries/wails. How can I get him to respond?

It's quite a recent thing. Sometimes we have done something that we know he will like and because he's in this mode of moaning/crying/wailing we can't communicate to him at all and explain what's ...
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Explaining to young children that a parent needs some “me time”

How can parents explain to young children that this is not rejection, nor lack of love? It is just that parents sometimes need time off, alone, without being contacted through any means.
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Getting grandparents to accept parents' choices

I understand that what children are supposed to eat is a bone of contention between parents and grandparents in many families. However this is not the main point of my question. I would like to ...
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My wife wants another baby but we are already grandparents! Help! [closed]

My wife wants another child. We have 9 already between us. Our oldest is 23 and youngest just turned 2. Our oldest made us grandparents in April and just found out that she's expecting again. I am ...
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How to teach tact and empathic understanding based communication to an INTJ (overly honest) child?

I have an (older / adult level) child that has proven to be "overly honest" time and again. While this personality trait has been a joy in many regards and has allowed extremely high levels of trust ...
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What should I do about my pre-teen son messaging older girls he's never met?

My 12 year son seems to be growing up way too soon.. He went from playing with his Legos one day to next texting girls the next. He goes back and forth. One day he is in the shower playing with his ...
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Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?

Sadly these are her words, not mine. Why is this posted in this QA site? Because I can't see how it is good for the children that she (when my wife is not around) shouts at me in front of them; cuts ...