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How do I tell my 14 year old niece that her mom is kicking her out?

I'm a 30 year old guy, and I'm single, never had a real girlfriend to speak of. My sister's first born is in some trouble and she has decided that her daughter cannot live with her anymore (there's ...
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I want more time with my wife in our blended family, but she says no. [closed]

My wife and I have been married for about 8 months. We both have two children, each. I moved into her house with her kids. I have my kids twice a week and every other weekend. I told my wife I ...
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How can I help my toddler feel confident in his communication?

My two-and-a-half year old communicates very well, and we talk constantly about things he sees, or what he's feeling, or just about his toys. However, when he uses longer sentences or words that are ...
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Autism?? Hearing impairment?? Please advise!

(Before anyone has a go at me for my post- I am not looking for a diagnosis, google diagnosis or using this in place of medical care or for any stupid reason (child is under hospital and dietician ...
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Divorce communications - How to deal with “you're unwilling to pay” tactic?

I am sure this must be a common issue, but for some reason I can't find a way to track it down via web searches. Here are the basics: I'm divorced, male, mid-40s. I am the noncustodial parent of a ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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How to communicate effectively with my 17-year-old daughter? And how to make her appropriately wary of strangers?

My daughter (17 years old) doesn't listen to me, but when a stranger says a few kind words to her she is like "Look Dad, he/she is such a good man/woman". I have learned that she has a boyfriend. ...
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Son (22) has to keep initiating contact between son and parents after moving out

Me being 22, I moved out a year ago (about half an hour drive away) to live with my girlfriend after I proposed too her. I always (and believe I still do) had/have a good connection with my parents ...
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When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he completely blocks communication with moans/cries/wails. How can I get him to respond?

It's quite a recent thing. Sometimes we have done something that we know he will like and because he's in this mode of moaning/crying/wailing we can't communicate to him at all and explain what's ...
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My wife wants another baby but we are already grandparents! Help! [closed]

My wife wants another child. We have 9 already between us. Our oldest is 23 and youngest just turned 2. Our oldest made us grandparents in April and just found out that she's expecting again. I am ...
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Getting grandparents to accept parents' choices

I understand that what children are supposed to eat is a bone of contention between parents and grandparents in many families. However this is not the main point of my question. I would like to ...
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How to teach tact and empathic understanding based communication to an INTJ (overly honest) child?

I have an (older / adult level) child that has proven to be "overly honest" time and again. While this personality trait has been a joy in many regards and has allowed extremely high levels of trust ...
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What should I do about my pre-teen son messaging older girls he's never met?

My 12 year son seems to be growing up way too soon.. He went from playing with his Legos one day to next texting girls the next. He goes back and forth. One day he is in the shower playing with his ...
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Explaining to young children that a parent needs some “me time”

How can parents explain to young children that this is not rejection, nor lack of love? It is just that parents sometimes need time off, alone, without being contacted through any means.
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Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?

Sadly these are her words, not mine. Why is this posted in this QA site? Because I can't see how it is good for the children that she (when my wife is not around) shouts at me in front of them; cuts ...
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Child suddenly saying things like I'm not his friend

In the last few days my 3yr has suddenly started saying things like "Your not my friend Daddy" and "Your naughty" and "I'm telling on you Daddy". At the moment it's not necessarily nasty and he soon ...
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What's the best way to respond when parents have kids put a helmet on a kid's head in a way that doesn't help that much?

There are a couple of things that people are told in relation to bike helmets. I am concerned with the third. The first is that everyone should wear a helmet whenever riding a bicycle (not: kids have ...
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Talking to a highly defensive young person

There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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How can you offer other parents suggestions without making them defensive?

Because we parents spend so much time complaining to each other sharing best practices, we often find ourselves in situations where another parent is sharing an approach or technique that we have ...
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How much of my prior drug use should I disclose to my tween daughter?

My daughter started middle school this year (she is 11) and tonight at dinner she told me that during an assembly some teachers had shared tragic stories about friends and family members who abused ...
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Techniques for handling teenagers “playing dumb” about things

It is hard to phrase this question, as it is an psychologically oblique problem. My teenage son will often ask questions or make glib observations about things, he already knows the answer to, or ...
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How did you maintain good contact when your child was far away?

My 18 year old son lives in another country. He's finishing up high school and he has a lot of things that go on in his personal life. It can be really hard to stay in touch. He rarely answers email I ...
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How to get a great-grandparent to use a video phone

Our child's surviving great grandma doesn't get to see our son as much as she (or us) would like. I would love to be able to setup a simple to use video phone for her to "join us" during playtime or ...
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My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?

As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
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How and when can you teach a child to use an “indoor voice”?

We don't generally tell my son to be quiet, as its rarely necessary (despite his being extremely vocal). We want to encourage communication and his ability to express himself. However, there are ...
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Using experience as a reason for correctness

Although I haven't used the "because I'm older" or "because I'm your dad" argument before with a child who questions my reasons, I know many adults who do. Is this harmful in any way? I have taught ...
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How do I talk to my child about homelessness and mental illness?

We live in Vancouver, Canada, which for various reasons (weather, policy effects, etc.) has a large homeless population. Many of them suffer mental illness of some degree. Panhandlers are a common ...
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How to teach the importance of being considerate?

I am having difficulty showing and explaining how to be considerate and thoughtful of other's feelings. How can I teach a child to be consciously thoughtful and observant of other people? Or What ...
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How to go about regaining the trust of my child?

Having experienced parental alienation syndrome, my child is very reticent and unresponsive to my attempts in rebuilding our relationship. The condition is very much like sulking, but with an ...
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Should I be concerned that my 10 month old toddler still doesn't know how to pronouce words but just says “er…er…er…” instead?

I think by the age of 8-10 months, toddlers are able to pronounce simple sound like "mama", "baba", "papa" etc, though they might not know what the meaning is. However, my 10-month-old daughter just ...
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Is it ever okay to tell a kid you disagree with their parents?

When I have a close connection to a child through family friend, mentoring, neighbor, etc., I usually back up parents (even if I don't agree with a particular parenting style sometimes) so as not to ...
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How do you teach a child to call for help?

We have a relatively large house. Our kids are always in earshot, but not usually in sight. The problem with this is our 4 year-old son doesn't know how to call out for help appropriately. On the ...
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How can I help a child who won't talk to anybody at school? Selective mutism

Although I am not a parent, I am interning in social work. I am currently working with a student in an elementary school who does not speak. The parents have explained that she does speak at home (I ...
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When should you start talking with your children about sex?

In a recent episode of Super Nanny (a UK and US show on parenting), I noticed that Jo Frost was openly talking to the parents and older sibling of a family about sex in front of a 6-7 year old. My ...