Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.
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Is it considered harmful in the longer run to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want?
Not sure if there is a cultural difference. In our family it is considered normal to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want.
Example-
Parent: Eat that quickly or the God will punish ...
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My pre-schooler does not listen to anything I say or do!
I have a five year old that is out of control.
If I ask him to sit down and relax (because we live in a one bedroom apartment), its very frustrating because I repeatedly have to say it to him.
If ...
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Daughter saying whole sentences at home but not in kindergarten
My nearly 3 years old daughter is capable of saying whole sentences by now and using them nicely while at home with us.
However the kindergarten staff claims she speaks very little and not capable of ...
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What makes a kid turn bully, and how to prevent him from turning into a bully?
I have heard about bullies in schools, haven't ever seen or faced them in real
life though.
I would like to know what makes a kid bully, and how to prevent him from
becoming a bully?
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Why won't our infant stop crying when in the car seat?
We have a 2-month-old baby that will start crying as soon as we put her in the car seat and absolutely will not stop until she is out of it. She could be fed and asleep with a new diaper before the ...
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5 year old always yells when excited, and isn't learning when to use quieter voices
I'll start by saying I don't think it's a hearing problem, as she uses a normal voice in non-excited conversation, and can hear questions asked to her in a normal voice (aside from what I suspect is ...
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How to address hemming and hawing?
Our six year old son has difficulty paying attention, so we often quiz him afterward about things he was supposed to be paying attention to. He has started hemming and hawing for a long time (like a ...
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How (and when) do you teach a child patience?
My son, 2 and a half, clearly does not grok the concept of waiting for something.
If he asks for something, and I say "okay, I'll give you x right after we finish doing y", he'll say okay, and then ...
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What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?
Typically, this is something you don't want out of a child. My 4 1/2 yr old has been brushing his own teeth for about a year. The problem is that I can't convey to him to spit out the toothpaste. I ...
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How can I get my primary-schooler to remember to turn off the light?
I have a 8 year old kid with ADHD. He never turns off the lights when he leaves a room. Never. It's a pet peeve of mine when lights are kept on when not in use. His younger sister has learned and ...
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How to change a one track mind?
My daughter is eight years old, but due to her cerebral palsy, she has the approximate mentality of a three year-old. She also has an extreme need for routine. Most of the time that isn't an issue ...
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How can I get my child to stop biting others?
How do I get my 5-year-old to stop biting his brother and classmates?
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7 year old boy who uses bad language
I am at a loss as to what to do with my seven-year-old son. He constantly uses bad words. Occasionally, he uses curse words but mostly it is words like "dumb," "idiot," "stupid," etc. At first I ...
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My 5 year- old daughter is constantly defiant!
My 5-year old daughter is very defiant.
It started getting bad about 6 months ago. She doesn't do what she is told, and any time she hears the word no she throws terribly over dramatic fits screaming ...
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My 8 year old daughter was taught by her classmates how to use the middle finger. How do I get her to stop this behavior?
Two of my daughter's 8 year old class mates taught my daughter how to use the middle finger. My daughter is now obsessed and wont stop. We don't use this at home and find it offensive. However she ...
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Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten
Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. he is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing i do will stop his behaviour.
he has hurt other students and his ...
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Have studies shown whether toys that feature guns or other weapons prominently promote violent behavior?
Note: I am looking for referenced answers only! Answers citing one or more peer reviewed studies, or, better yet, a meta analysis of several such studies, would be ideal. Answers that reference ...
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Why does my child eat so slowly?
When we have a family meal, the middle daughter will always take her time. I mean up to 2 hours, to finish a meal, especially if its not her kind of food. She'll get very easily distracted, sing to ...
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2 Year old son like hitting , bitting and fighting [duplicate]
My son is two years old now. Somehow he likes fighting. His mornings start with hitting and biting. I know for him it's a game and he enjoys it. Also, sometimes he becomes angry and throws whatever is ...
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How Should I React to an Indecisive Toddler?
I'm looking for anyone who might have had experience with an indecisive toddler. It happens mostly when tired but I'll ask him if he wants something and he will say no. Then when I go to put it away ...
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15 mo old son becomes very fussy every evening when I come home from work
I'm a working mom of 15 month old baby. We are lucky to have our grandmas to help us babysit our child while me and my husband are at work.
Recently we had a grandma's swap, one grandmother left for 2 ...
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When to tell a child he didn't really win
My five year-old son has started this phase of turning everything into a contest. Partially this a result of our encouragement. We will sometimes "race" him when he is dragging his feet and slowing ...
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How can parents improve a child's behavior outside their presence?
This question is hard to word correctly without sounding like we're trying to avoid responsibility. That's not the case. The issue is that our children behave better for us than for their teachers. ...
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How to handle fighting twins
I have twin boys aged 15 months. They normally fights for a toy/ or anything new. Earlier it was a slap on the others head with the toy or hand but now they have started biting each other. Is there ...
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Daughter is whining for every small thing since her brother was born
My daughter is 2.5 years old. When asking for things like "I want more water in the bottle" she used to ask nicely and even with "please" occasionally. All good and dandy.
Since her brother was born ...
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When should a child stop using a pacifier, and how can I help with this transition?
I am curious how a child can be helped to move on from his/her pacifier, and what age is a good age to do this?
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teenage child with severe daily temper tantrums and whining
My 13 year old daughter has severe and daily outbursts - sometimes as many as 10 a day - from time she gets up till time she goes to bed. This has been going on since she was of walking and talking ...
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How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?
Our 3.5 yo is starting to talk back to us in the typical futile yes/no/yes/no pattern of opposites. The other day it was hooking his straps on his car seat; I asked him to put his arms in (like we ...
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How do you curb “tattletale” behavior in a toddler?
My 2-year-old son seems to be fascinated by the behavior problems of other children. He will tell anyone and everyone around that such-and-such was bad, and if he sees another child having a temper ...
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Can you get a toddler to be nice to his friends?
My 2-year-old son is in daycare with several other boys. He seems to spend the most time with the two boys who are closest in age to him (and who are also the most consistent in attending).
One of ...
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How do I handle my toddler's temper tantrums?
I have a 19-month-old daughter. She is a very active child, and usually very well behaved. But in recent times I have noticed that she is constantly whining and also throwing temper tantrums - if she ...
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How to deal with my son who always wants to have lights on when we go to bed?
I have a 3 year old son.
Whenever we go to sleep, he will start crying when we turn off the lights and insists that lights be turned on when he is trying to sleep. So, we keep it on. When he falls ...
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Should I discourage my son from “stealing” toys from Let's Rock Elmo?
My 15 month old son has Let's Rock Elmo, which includes drums, microphone, and tambourine for Elmo to play.
However, my son has several times decided that he wanted the instrument Elmo was "using" at ...
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9 year old has uncontrollable raging fits
We have 4 kids, aged 9, 6, 4 and 20 months. boy, girl, boy girl. The nine year old boy is in general a delightful, well-behaved, kind and considerate boy. Sometimes he becomes so overwhelmed by his ...
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1 yr old boy prefers dad
I am the proud father of a little 1 yr old boy. My wife and I love him to pieces! A few months after his birth I suffered through a terrible bout of anxiety attacks. Turns out it was just my way of ...
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infant behaviour after toddler illness
My baby girl (1.5 years) had good constant sleep and eat patterns; until she become ill. During illness her sleep/eat patterns changed a lot (and this is normal). But after recovering, she still do ...
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How to get my sister to use correct spelling while typing on computer?
I am sure that I am treading on eggshells here as this is a matter of opinion, but please do read on.
I absolutely resent when people use incorrect spelling for 90% of their words, on purpose. My ...
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How to deal with a naughty nephew?
I live in a joint family with two of my uncles, and I have a very naughty five year old nephew who's a nuisance to the entire household.
We live in a flat and my nephew throws stuff out of the window ...
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Why is my one month old kicking, grunting and eventually crying when I hold her?
My 1 month old daughter has starting something I am trying to understand. While I am holding her, either in a blanket or not, she will start grunting and kicking her legs. Crying usually starts soon ...
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How do you teach a toddler not to share?
Normally, my son (2 years old) does very well sharing with other kids. In fact, he's remarkably social, even with children he's never met before.
And therein lies the problem.
On a recent trip to ...
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How should I deal with my toddler's difficult behavior towards food?
My daughter is almost 15 months old and has always been a small eater. She was breastfed for the first 5 months then solids were gradually introduced. It went okay for the first few weeks but soon it ...
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Should imaginary friends be accepted or discouraged?
As a professional working with families, I am often asked about imaginary friends. I never experienced this behavior with my own son so I have little personal information to share.
One child ...
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Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?
During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
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Why should children be rewarded for good behaviour?
I have been reading about star charts and other reward systems for children, and wonder whether rewarding what I would call normal behaviour (e.g. do your chores, don't hit your little brother, etc) ...
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How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
Backstory: My 8 yr old son is a bright, gentle, etc, kid who attends public school. My wife and I have no TV, we disallow violent games (simulated killing is not allowed), we don't have video games, ...
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How do I teach my toddler not to abuse animals?
We have two dogs and two cats, and our son loves to interact with them, but his form of interacting is not particularly enjoyable to the animals...
Some of the things he does are just annoying, like ...
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How can I get my three year old to stop sucking his fingers?
My three and a half year old son recently started sucking his fingers and sometimes his clothing. When I point it out to him he takes his fingers out of his mouth, but they are soon back in. I can't ...
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?
My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes!
He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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What should my collgeaue do to stop her 20 year old son from smoking?
What are some ways to stop a 20 year old boy from smoking? We know that smoking is bad and cause all sort of cancers (such as lung / heart / throat cancer), are there ways to stop or discourage the ...
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help with 4 year old passing gas all the time
My 4 year old has been really gassy lately, and has gotten the bad habit of farting loudly while laughing about it. After more then a few funny but embarassing moments, we tried to tell her how it was ...
