Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and I have heard reports of inappropriate behavior from her friends

My daughter has been spending a lot of time with her new boyfriend, to the point it is making her other friends uncomfortable. While I had told my daughter as long as she could be responsible and ...
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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My 4 year old keeps telling me she peed herself but she's dry?

I'm at a complete loss. She's potty trained and all is well. But recently she keeps moaning and complaining she peed in her underwear but upon checking, she's completely dry. This is an ongoing thing ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...
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My son 1 year slaps me and people on their face

My son slaps me and other people on face.. he thinks that he is playing with us in that way. I always holds his hand tightly and look to him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. IT seems ...
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?

My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk. If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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My 2-year-old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?

Since his birth I've done my best to make my son trust me completely as I see it the only way for him to let me make decisions on his behalf and tell him what's right and wrong. However he supervises ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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How can I deal with my 12-year old son's rebellious behaviour?

My son is a very loving child and fun to be with usually....ever since he turned 12 he is suddenly the resident expert in the house on anything from how to drive a car to how become president. You ...
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My child stands in one spot in his room and moves his head side to side for long periods, is there a name for this behavior?

I'm not sure if this is appropriate to ask, but my question is about behavior of a child who goes in his room and stands for long periods of time just moving his head from side to side. He holds one ...
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What should one do when their teen thinks smoking e-cigarettes is cool and safe?

This question was inspired by a question about pregnancy and exposure to the second hand products of the smoking device known as e cigarettes. My child has a "friend" we work with at the theater ...
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Should I really be insisting that my daughter finish eating her meal?

Like many young children, my 4.5 year old daughter will often stop eating her supper (6 PMish - she has breakfast and lunch at daycare) and say she's not hungry. My instinctive initial response is to ...
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Is complimenting children where they can hear it good or bad?

TL;DR: Is there anything wrong with praising children to their parents while the children can hear it? From R. Kipling's "The jungle book": ‘How beautiful are the noble children! How large are ...
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How can parents help an adult child with OCD?

My brother was diagnosed with OCD about two years ago and is following treatment. He lives with our parents (we're both 20-ish years old, but I moved out years ago). He has some conspicuous ...
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How to stop my 8 year old from crying every time she's frustrated?

My 8 year old daughters is usually very good. But in the last few months she has started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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How do I motivate my ten-year old to take responsibility and to do his best?

I worry that my ten-year old son is developing (has developed) a mindset that will come back to bite him as he gets older. He is a very bright and active kid, but does not like to extend himself and ...
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At what age is it no longer appropriate for your child to be naked in public (e.g. on the beach)?

My 3½ year old son loves to be naked. He spends a lot of time running around naked in our garden on hot days. We went to the beach during the Summer, and- since we forgot to bring any swimming ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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How do I instruct my openly defiant son?

I don't know for sure if my 8-year-old son actually enjoys creating conflict, but he does it a lot. I could go on and on with examples, but one in particular prompted me to ask this question. We were ...
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Natural consequence for being rude to a sibling

My 8-year-old son really likes to argue. He's extremely stubborn and always right. When he argues with me, I'll correct him and laugh it off when he continues. Now, I'm a fan of natural consequences, ...
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Cause and cure of silly behavior in children

What can be some of the causes/reasons that a child (in the 7-year-old range) to speak in a silly voice and in a silly way, more than an average child? I don't know how to be more specific by silly ...
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How much ipad time do most kids get? [duplicate]

I'm a mother of 2, ages 3 and 10. I am worried that my youngest child is spending as much time, sometimes more time, on the iPad than my eldest. The iPad seems ideal when I am busy and the kids are ...
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How do you handle “materialist” behaviour?

My 4 years old daughter attaches a lot of importance to toys, clothes, presents ... How do you help your kids take some distance with that ? Sample behaviour I'm uncomfortable with : asking grandma ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

I would like some help on how to deal with an 8 year old boy, who is refusing to go number 2's in the toilet and does them in his pants and then won't go and clean himself up. I have talked to him ...
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How to help an 8 year old with short attention span and obsessive character?

I need some advice on how to motivate my 8 year old daughter to pay attention more at school and achieve higher grades. She seems to have a short attention span and seems more interested in break ...
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How do I teach my son to manage his anger when he is unwilling?

My 8-year-old son has difficulty managing his anger in a healthy way. When he gets angry at his sister, sometimes he hits her or pulls her hair. Sometimes he hits himself. Sometimes he screams and ...
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How do I dissuade my three-year-old from saying he doesn't like a parent?

My three-year-old is sometimes verbally and physically abusive with one parent, saying he doesn't like, want, or love the parent, and commands the parent to go away. This seems to happen mostly when ...
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Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten

Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. He is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing I do will stop his behaviour. He has hurt other students and his ...
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Four year-old likes ripping things

Our four year-old enjoys ripping things. Mostly toilet paper or other scrap paper, but this morning we found a book in the trash with the cover and a few pages torn off. It was an old book with a ...
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My parents are interfering with my life in every way and I don't know how to stop it

I really need your help on this because it has become the only problem in my life. I came to my home country after studying in the US and I have changed my beliefs, built my own set of rules to live ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?

We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...
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Should I praise my oldest child infront of their siblings?

Sometimes my oldest(8yo) shows good character and leadership in choosing not to do what she knows she should not do. I know her other siblings(6yo,3yo) look up to her. I have been praising her ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?

During the last few months, I've been having a lot of concerns about my 5 year old son's behavior. I was a single mom and have been his main influence up until a little over a year ago. He was born ...
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How can you turn back the clock?

My eldest son and I have had a difficult relationship for some time. I have changed a great deal in terms of how I parent him, and I know I was far too strict towards him from years ago. He is ...
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6 years old misbehaves regularly, doesn't pay attention to punishments

My son is misbehaving a lot. He doesn't care about punishments. He even would say so I don't care if I don't get this or that. Even if I whoop him, which I try not to at all, it does not faze him. ...
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15 month old keeps smashing his head against walls, cupboards, bed and also screaming extremely loud very often

My 15 month old boy keeps smashing his head against any surface he finds, and if I try to stop him he finds it funny to do it even more and even harder. As well as this, he is constantly screaming ...
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My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help

My son constantly needs attention. He sometimes pulls his younger sister's hair to get her complain and get our attention. He talks back frequently. He repeatedly says that other kids in school bother ...
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Should I stop my infant from sucking his thumb?

My 2-month-old has recently discovered his thumb. He used to often suck his hands, normal baby behavior, and occasionally would "find" his thumb and happily suck for a while - usually when he was ...
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Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?

During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old's rebellious behavior?

My son just turned 12 a few months ago, and boy is he a handful! He does not obey anything I say, curses at me, calls me names, throws tantrums, and hesitates to go to school every single day. I ...
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2.5 years toddler who refuse to open eyes for hours

I have a 2.5 years old toddler girl who has recently started full day childcare and there were a couple of instances where she refused to open her eyes for hours - this usually happens when she throws ...
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What to do about 1 year old boy who keeps pulling hard at his penis and scrotum?

This has been going on a little while and the health visitor says its normal but we are a bit concerned about the force our child is using when he pulls at his penis, he really yanks it and it looks ...
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How can I get my three year old to stop sucking his fingers?

My three and a half year old son recently started sucking his fingers and sometimes his clothing. When I point it out to him he takes his fingers out of his mouth, but they are soon back in. I can't ...
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How do I make my son listen to my discipline, not my mother-in-law?

I have a 6 year old and was a single mum for 4 years. I raised him and disciplined him to the point where he is very very sociable and everybody thinks he is one of the most well behaved boys they ...
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How can I get my 4 month old to sleep longer then 9-10 hours a day?

My 4 month old has never been a great sleeper, in the hospital I expressed concern several times that he was not sleeping. When we got home he slept for 15-30 minute stretches due to poor latching ...
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How to deal with a teenager who wants his parents to buy him everything his friends have?

How do I teach my son the value of money and to differentiate between a need and a want? The problem I am facing is that he is 19 years old, not 5 years old. He is my youngest son and to be honest I ...
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How do you handle poor behavior by other people's children?

I believe that interacting with a variety of other children at social functions is an important part of childhood development. However, there seem to be a lot of children who are... how shall I ...
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6 yo smothers his food in sauce — how can I change this?

My son likes salad cream -- alot. He tends to use loads of it and I'm concerned that he's not actually tasting anything new. It's not allowed on every meal, but when it's out it's all over everything ...