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How do I instruct my openly defiant son?

I don't know for sure if my 8-year-old son actually enjoys creating conflict, but he does it a lot. I could go on and on with examples, but one in particular prompted me to ask this question. We were ...
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“Natural consequences” where they don't happen?

It is often recommended that the negative, behavior of children, i.e. behavior unwanted by their parents, should be met with its "natural consequences". For example being cold outside in winter will ...
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How do you respond to your pre-schooler when they tell you that you're on Santa's Naughty List?

My three-year-old son really enjoyed Christmas. My son is still talking about how Santa came to our house to fill our stockings two times (my wife put treats in one night, and I put some in two days ...
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How do you handle a child who enjoys getting others into trouble?

How do you deal with a primary-school age child who enjoys getting others into trouble? Is actually alert for minor wrongdoings and likes to set other people against each other? Can be other children, ...
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3 year old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3 year old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jeolous of the attention that her new baby ...
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my 12 year old is smoking and im not sure how to deal with this

My 12 yr old is smoking, he has been living with his father who turns a blind eye. He will be returning to live with me shortly. I would like some advise on how to deal with please if anyone can help? ...
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What should I do about my pre-teen son messaging older girls he's never met?

My 12 year son seems to be growing up way too soon.. He went from playing with his Legos one day to next texting girls the next. He goes back and forth. One day he is in the shower playing with his ...
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Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the teacher ...
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Unusually agitated and constantly sucking two-week old

Today our two week old was (and still is) unusually agitated. She slept two hours less than her up-until-now average, requested breastfeeding for entire one hour more and was more cry-prone than ever. ...
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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...
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How to handle copycatting?

My six year-old son has gotten in the habit of copying his little sister. It feels like he is taking her behavior as cues to what is acceptable, but the act of copying itself (and usually ...
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How can I help my toddler feel confident in his communication?

My two-and-a-half year old communicates very well, and we talk constantly about things he sees, or what he's feeling, or just about his toys. However, when he uses longer sentences or words that are ...
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Boy 7 too sensitive.

My boy seems to cry at the least little things. e.g. His younger sister teasing. Slightest little scratch when playing Dies in computer game. Bedtime How can I toughen him a bit? I don't know ...
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My baby screams all day long, non-stop, as loud as he can, and he finds it extremely funny

My baby boy is 19 months old, he screams while he plays, while he sits in his high-chair, while he is in his cot, while he has time-out, whatever and wherever he screams, screams, screams and does not ...
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How do I get my 4yo to stop repeating himself all the time, and to respect a quiet time?

My 4 yo has been showing a rather annoying and obsessive behavior for the past 6 months or so, in that: he repeats himself all the time, and won't take no for an answer in some circumstances. ...
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How can I get my three year old to stop sucking his fingers?

My three and a half year old son recently started sucking his fingers and sometimes his clothing. When I point it out to him he takes his fingers out of his mouth, but they are soon back in. I can't ...
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Toddler wakes up after hour of sleep crying

My 17 month old has been waking up after approximately an hour after he goes to sleep frantically crying. It's been going on for about a month. Sometimes he is sitting up crying and sometimes he is ...
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Older sister grabs whatever her younger sister holds

My 5yo daughter is getting so jealous of her 2yo sister that she grabs everything that the other picks up (it can be anything from worthless plastic bag to newspaper) and throws a fit. Now her sister ...
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How to build self-confidence / reduce social anxiety in a 7+ yr old boy?

Summary: I am looking for strategies and parenting best practices on how to boost self-confidence & reduce social anxieties in a 7+ yr old boy. Context: We have a little boy who seems to be ...
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Encouraging independence

My seven year-old son is highly dependent on us to tell him what to do. We had thought it was an age thing, but his little sister already grew out of it. How can we help him be more independent? An ...
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How does a parent cope with an opposing disposition to his/her own?

So I have never been one of those women that gets super dramatic or excited about seeing people (except for when my brother came home from the Gulf War). If I see the person regularly, I'm glad to ...
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Suggestions for a 5 year old who can't sit still in her chair?

I have a 5 year old daughter and she has a real struggle to: Sit in the middle of her chair Stay there without fidgetting In terms of #1, she often falls off her chair as she sits on the edge. ...
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Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) in toddlers: What approach should be taken to treat it?

A child I know is diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). I have searched around the internet and kind-of understand what it is. However, when I try to find the possible cures/therapies, I ...
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Help needed regarding step daughter and my partner!

This is the first time I've used a forum like this so I'm sorry if I waffle too much! I've been with my other half for nearly 4 years and have been known to his daughter (now 8yo) for a little ...
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How to bond with misbehaving, mean-spirited children?

I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has 2 little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter is visiting them at this time. My daughter shared a few details of ...
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Five-year-old fever: what's the cure?

Five-year-old fever: that's what her teacher calls it. I'm calling it (IN MY HEAD) the "F*** You Fives." Apparently this is something that almost all of her peers are going through; if I had a ...
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One of my son's classmates bites him or attempts to bite him

My son is his only target in class for some reason. He does this when the teacher is not around. My son doesn't bite back or complain to the teacher. There are bite marks on his hand, which I have ...
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How to teach a child about eavesdropping

My child is highly curious and has become a bit of a Mrs. Kravitz around our house. Since her Dad and I know this and she is our daughter, we are generally careful if we need to be to just not be "...
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How do I help our 3/yo go through stress

We have a 3 y/o daughter. A few months ago her and I thought it would be best to try and work out our differences by moving into separates homes. Since then my daughter, now 3 who has always been a ...
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Is it common for a toddler to cry when things are not in order?

For example, our 3-year-old son would cry when his younger sister was standing when she was supposed to be sitting a door was closed when it was supposed to be open we had not put his socks on ...
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How to deal with my son who always wants to have lights on when we go to bed?

I have a 3 year old son. Whenever we go to sleep, he will start crying when we turn off the lights and insists that lights be turned on when he is trying to sleep. So, we keep it on. When he falls ...
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What should my collgeaue do to stop her 20 year old son from smoking?

What are some ways to stop a 20 year old boy from smoking? We know that smoking is bad and cause all sort of cancers (such as lung / heart / throat cancer), are there ways to stop or discourage the ...
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How do I make sure kids don't run on the stairs?

I have short stairs in the house, between ground floor (where the kitchen and kid's game room are) and 2d floor (where their bedrooms/bathroom is). For safety reasons, they aren't allowed to run up/...
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2.5 years toddler who refuse to open eyes for hours

I have a 2.5 years old toddler girl who has recently started full day childcare and there were a couple of instances where she refused to open her eyes for hours - this usually happens when she throws ...
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I'm pretty sure I'm bound for the mental asylum [closed]

Ok, so I'm 25, I live alone with my three year old (fiancé moving in with us next year) her father isn't involved enough, her behaviour is awful, time outs don't work and everytime we have a showdown ...
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My 4.5yr-old girl is afraid of death. What should I do?

Last night my wife (as usual) was putting our 4.5yr-old baby girl to sleep. Our daughter becomes very chatty at that time and (especially in the presence of mom) expresses thoughts and things that ...
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How to prevent infants from rolling out of bed?

My seven months old daughter is rolling quite a lot nowadays. This is cute when she is awake and we are present. However, lately she is also rolling in her bed during the night, when she awakes for a ...
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How to get my 16-year-old to understand that chores aren't that hard to complete?

My 16-year-old dreads taking out the garbage as well as other things that need to be done around the house. Every morning before school, I tell him not to forget to take the garbage out. He ...
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How to handle 1yo's point & want?

My daughter has started pointing at things. Sometimes she "wants" them, to either hold herself or just touch, sometimes she seems to be satisfied with simply having the thing named. Depending on ...
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My grandson only likes girl toys

My 4 year old grandson will only play with girl toys. My daughter and husband criticize me for allowing it. His birthday was last week and my sisters and I took him to the toy store to let him pick ...
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Should I be concerned that my three year old son tries to manipulate us?

He has started to engage in behavior that is clearly manipulative. He'll do things like ask for glasses of water at bed to prolong the bedtime ritual, tell us how much he loves us when he wants ...
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My 4 year old son always keeps something besides him when he sleeps. Is that normal?

My son always keeps something besides him while sleeping. It can be anything, not necessarily a toy. Does that mean he fears something?
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Discipline hyperactive 3 year old

I have a three year old son who is just awesome. He is advanced intellectually, loving, and he seems very empathetic. He does extremely well in daycare (it is at least an above average daycare), ...
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My 10 year old daughter punches her legs when she gets angry or doesn't get her way

When my daughter gets angry, she makes this mean looking face and then starts punching on her legs. Should I be concerned about this behavior? I do tell her to "stop it" and I would ask her, 'Why is ...
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Suggestions for helping a 5 year old boy with horrible behavior

So I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there that knows of any discipline suggestions that maybe I haven't tried. I'm waiting for mental health to get back to me but I need something in the ...
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5 year old always yells when excited, and isn't learning when to use quieter voices

I'll start by saying I don't think it's a hearing problem, as she uses a normal voice in non-excited conversation, and can hear questions asked to her in a normal voice (aside from what I suspect is ...
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Cause and cure of silly behavior in children

What can be some of the causes/reasons that a child (in the 7-year-old range) to speak in a silly voice and in a silly way, more than an average child? I don't know how to be more specific by silly ...
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My 5 year oldy son freaks over shower time!

My 5year old son freaks out about washing of any kind. He doesn't seem to be worried about going in the pool or bath but just mention that its shower/bath time he goes totally ballistic the temper ...
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What is the best approach for teaching toddlers not to drop items off the table at meals?

During discussions with friends about our children (2 years and 16 months old) I discovered that some parents give their children "normal" (and thus breakable) plates and glasses. The reason is ...
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Acting different for mom

We have 2 boys aged 3.5 and 2. They are your average rambunctious boys. Pretty good at daycare and with dad, but when it's just mom they start acting out. Not listening. Don't stay in time out. ...