Why do children act the way they do? Use [discipline] for questions about enforcing your rules.

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8 year old punishes himself for bad behaviour

My 8 year old step-son is still rather sensitive for his age, and sometimes takes being disciplined very hard. When he genuinely feels bad about something he's done wrong and we tell him off, he will ...
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My 4 year old keeps telling me she peed herself but she's dry?

I'm at a complete loss. She's potty trained and all is well. But recently she keeps moaning and complaining she peed in her underwear but upon checking, she's completely dry. This is an ongoing thing ...
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What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?

During the last few months, I've been having a lot of concerns about my 5 year old son's behavior. I was a single mom and have been his main influence up until a little over a year ago. He was born ...
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Purposely walking slowly to/from preschool?

Every morning before going to work, I walk our 4 years old son to the preschool located 15 minutes from home ; and his little brother too (in a stroller). Every evening after work, my wife walks them ...
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How do I make my son listen to my discipline, not my mother-in-law?

I have a 6 year old and was a single mum for 4 years. I raised him and disciplined him to the point where he is very very sociable and everybody thinks he is one of the most well behaved boys they ...
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How do you curb “tattletale” behavior in a toddler?

My 2-year-old son seems to be fascinated by the behavior problems of other children. He will tell anyone and everyone around that such-and-such was bad, and if he sees another child having a temper ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?

My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior. Is there a way to ...
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Two year old indecisiveness

My younger son, who just turned two a month ago, is going through one of those common stages in toddlerhood (that I remember the older one going through - but less roughly - at the same time). His ...
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Being a Step-mom to a troubled (or hurt) 5 year old

A Bit About Myself I am in my late 20's, and I am a fairly-new-mom. I have been married to my daughter's father for about a year now, but I have been around kids my entire life. I have always had ...
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How to teach the importance of being considerate?

I am having difficulty showing and explaining how to be considerate and thoughtful of other's feelings. How can I teach a child to be consciously thoughtful and observant of other people? Or What ...
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My 4 year old will not behave at school

I am a single mother of a very outgoing 4 1/2 year old. She has been in preschool since January. For the most part, she is a very well-behaved girl, but when she goes to school, there is nothing. She ...
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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Should I try and prevent my child from becoming like me (in some aspects)?

As an adult I realize I am not perfect. I have my "glitches". One of them is that I am too shy and an introvert to people that I do not know well (somewhat extrovert to friends and family). Would I ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old son's behaviour?

My son believes I don't do anything for him - I do everything I possibly can & yes there are things I forget to do (as I'm only human). He is sly & causes arguements between his father & ...
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Helping my Whirling Dervish to slow down

My seven-year old is tall, lean, looking and speaking like someone who is a few years her senior. This means people (even those that know her actual age) often have higher expectations of her than ...
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How and when can you teach a child to use an “indoor voice”?

We don't generally tell my son to be quiet, as its rarely necessary (despite his being extremely vocal). We want to encourage communication and his ability to express himself. However, there are ...
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How does a child develop “handed-ness”?

I've noticed that my son generally experiments fine motor skills initially using his left-hand (stacking, eating with utensils, coloring) and then shifts to using his right more often. I'm honestly ...
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6 year old is acting out with family

My 6 year old son acts out: yells, throws, hits, makes faces, talks disrepectfully to my husband and I and his 4 year old sister (who he hits often). We have talked so many times, disciplined, taken ...
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At what age does an infant start recognizing people?

My kid (3.5 months old) is currently living with her grandmother since last week. This week I visited her but she didn't seem to affected by my presence. This has discouraged and disappointed me ...
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frustrated and confused- my 5 yr. old is acting out and nothing we do at home seems to help

My daughter is 5 yrs old. She is a very sweet little girl who normally is very much a people pleaser- she likes to do things that make you happy. However recently she has has issues in school- she ...
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Fraternal twins “competition” issue

we have fraternal twins (4 yo), and have following issue, ever since they were born one was the "bigger" one, a simply put, he's (currently) better at almost everything than his brother (be it reading,...
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How can I explain to my 5 year that I need to be alone if I am showering?

I'm having a difficult time sometimes with my 5 year old daughter understanding when I need privacy such as when I take a shower or need to put body cream on afterwards, dry up etc. If I explain it to ...
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How to address hemming and hawing?

Our six year old son has difficulty paying attention, so we often quiz him afterward about things he was supposed to be paying attention to. He has started hemming and hawing for a long time (like a ...
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When to tell a child he didn't really win

My five year-old son has started this phase of turning everything into a contest. Partially this a result of our encouragement. We will sometimes "race" him when he is dragging his feet and slowing ...
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Should I stop my infant from sucking his thumb?

My 2-month-old has recently discovered his thumb. He used to often suck his hands, normal baby behavior, and occasionally would "find" his thumb and happily suck for a while - usually when he was ...
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Our toddler boy likes to arrange his toy cars in a line. Is this normal?

Our 3-year-old son likes cars, and he likes to arrange his toy cars in a line. Is this normal for toddler boys?
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How to encourage a child to speak truth about the wrong deeds she has done?

I have a close relationship with my 3 year old child. This means that since I have told her that I hate lies and love truth so she should speak the truth with her parents at least all the time, she ...
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How do I teach my child to express his frustration?

My son is two and testing his boundaries. In general, I'm comfortable with that and have no problem with him getting frustrated when he's not allowed to do something. Unfortunately, his normal mode ...
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How to deal with a 4 year old child who doesn't like parting with his friends?

Our 4-year old son is unpacifiable when it comes to saying bye-bye to his friends after playing. He would cry like anything and doesn't mind lying on the street, adamantly not wanting to part with his ...
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How to handle 10 year old boy who has fallen in love?

My Nephew is doing 5th standard schooling and is a 10 year old boy. He is normally doesn't do too much, mostly playing video games and watching movies. He's education progress is also good. ...
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5-yr-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

I need the two-cents of some experienced parents with multiple children. My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's ...
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How should I respond to my daughter's impolite behavior?

My daughter is 5 years old. She often "plays" rudely with me. For example, she'll kick me, and I cannot explain clearly to her that the behavior is impolite. How should I respond when she behaves ...
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How can a parent remain sane? How do you keep your energy and temper? [closed]

I'm sure every parent has days like this: Your child has been a troublemaker all day. You are exhausted, and at your wits' end. It would be nice to just take a break, to have someone else take ...
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Four year-old likes ripping things

Our four year-old enjoys ripping things. Mostly toilet paper or other scrap paper, but this morning we found a book in the trash with the cover and a few pages torn off. It was an old book with a ...
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8 year old son, misbehaving at school. help!

My son is 8 years old and in second grade. As the school year progresses, his attitude and behavior is declining rapidly. It started out that he was a class clown, always talking and making jokes. ...
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What can I do to help my child have confidence when in new situations?

I have an 8 year old son who is unbelievably shy and/or scared in new situations. When he is at home, he is loud, confident and, yes, even a little out of control. However, once he is presented with ...
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How can I stop my pre-schooler from whining?

My 3 year old son has been whining a lot. We make him rephrase and say it in an appropriate voice, but this has been going on for about a month. Are there any other ideas of how to handle this?
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How important is stability / change / lack of change for children?

I frequently see people around the web supporting various arguments with the following statement: "children need stability." Is there any evidence for this, and more importantly can there be ...
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Temper Tantrums

My 4 year old daughter, soon to be 5, has temper tantrums at preschool. She does not have them for me and has not had them for me for the past couple of years. I never fed her temper tantrums. It ...
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What to do with my daughter being upset because her dad is not in her life.

OK. My daughter is 10 and the last time she saw her dad she was six. He would come and see her whenever he had time or when he wanted to show off to his friends that he is a dad. Anyways I got ...
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How competitive or forgiving to be when playing games against my own kids

When playing games against my own kids (sports, cards, board games), I am never sure how competitive should I be. I am asking this regarding to two issues: level of play and rules observance. Level ...
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6yo wears down people by dawdling and endless discussions - how can parents help?

A 6-years-old boy is very bright, intelligent and clever, but on the other hand he's very strong-minded and often like an absent-minded professor. The problems: he does not like other people to ...
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My 4 year old son always takes away any new book or magazine that I read. How to deal with it?

My son does not allow me to read any NEW book or magazine and always becomes cranky till I stop reading and hand over that book to him. Initially I thought it might be temporary thing but now, it ...
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How do I get my 5 year old under control?

I am 22 years old with little experience with young children. My family (my husband, 5 year old daughter, and myself) moved into my grandmother's house to help her with her illnesses. My husband ...
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Daughter is whining for every small thing since her brother was born

My daughter is 2.5 years old. When asking for things like "I want more water in the bottle" she used to ask nicely and even with "please" occasionally. All good and dandy. Since her brother was born ...
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What are guidelines for parents to use in giving advice/guidance to older teens?

My friend asked me for guidance regarding her son, so I am passing the question on. Her very talented son is a senior in high school. Since it is his last year at home, he feels that he no longer ...
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Why does my 3 year old keep acting like a baby, and should I try to actively stop it?

My daughter is 3 but often (and we are sure, concisely) acts like a baby, making gurgling whining noises, crawling about etc. Apart from being very irritating sounds from a three year old we don't ...
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14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and I have heard reports of inappropriate behavior from her friends

My daughter has been spending a lot of time with her new boyfriend, to the point it is making her other friends uncomfortable. While I had told my daughter as long as she could be responsible and ...
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How do I handle my toddler's temper tantrums?

I have a 19-month-old daughter. She is a very active child, and usually very well behaved. But in recent times I have noticed that she is constantly whining and also throwing temper tantrums - if she ...
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Why is my daughter pulling at her ear when she is eating?

I've read that this can happen during teething, and she is now 4 months. Thing is, she doesn't have any teeth and isn't really showing the signs in full force yet. She's not in any discomfort than I ...