Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...
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How to handle copycatting?

My six year-old son has gotten in the habit of copying his little sister. It feels like he is taking her behavior as cues to what is acceptable, but the act of copying itself (and usually ...
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Should I try and prevent my child from becoming like me (in some aspects)?

As an adult I realize I am not perfect. I have my "glitches". One of them is that I am too shy and an introvert to people that I do not know well (somewhat extrovert to friends and family). Would I ...
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How can parents improve a child's behavior outside their presence?

This question is hard to word correctly without sounding like we're trying to avoid responsibility. That's not the case. The issue is that our children behave better for us than for their teachers. ...
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How does a child develop “handed-ness”?

I've noticed that my son generally experiments fine motor skills initially using his left-hand (stacking, eating with utensils, coloring) and then shifts to using his right more often. I'm honestly ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old son's behaviour?

My son believes I don't do anything for him - I do everything I possibly can & yes there are things I forget to do (as I'm only human). He is sly & causes arguements between his father & ...
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How can I teach my son to behave nicely in the playground when other children make it hard?

I've been trying to teach my 3 and a half year old son to treat other children nicely and to try and resolve all conflicts without aggression, by talking. We've been talking about the issue and agreed ...
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Suggestions for a 5 year old who can't sit still in her chair?

I have a 5 year old daughter and she has a real struggle to: Sit in the middle of her chair Stay there without fidgetting In terms of #1, she often falls off her chair as she sits on the edge. ...
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How does a parent cope with an opposing disposition to his/her own?

So I have never been one of those women that gets super dramatic or excited about seeing people (except for when my brother came home from the Gulf War). If I see the person regularly, I'm glad to ...
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Five-year-old fever: what's the cure?

Five-year-old fever: that's what her teacher calls it. I'm calling it (IN MY HEAD) the "F*** You Fives." Apparently this is something that almost all of her peers are going through; if I had a ...
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How to teach a child about eavesdropping

My child is highly curious and has become a bit of a Mrs. Kravitz around our house. Since her Dad and I know this and she is our daughter, we are generally careful if we need to be to just not be ...
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How to deal with my son who always wants to have lights on when we go to bed?

I have a 3 year old son. Whenever we go to sleep, he will start crying when we turn off the lights and insists that lights be turned on when he is trying to sleep. So, we keep it on. When he falls ...
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Is it common for a toddler to cry when things are not in order?

For example, our 3-year-old son would cry when his younger sister was standing when she was supposed to be sitting a door was closed when it was supposed to be open we had not put his socks on ...
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What should my collgeaue do to stop her 20 year old son from smoking?

What are some ways to stop a 20 year old boy from smoking? We know that smoking is bad and cause all sort of cancers (such as lung / heart / throat cancer), are there ways to stop or discourage the ...
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How do I make sure kids don't run on the stairs?

I have short stairs in the house, between ground floor (where the kitchen and kid's game room are) and 2d floor (where their bedrooms/bathroom is). For safety reasons, they aren't allowed to run ...
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How to handle 10 year old boy who has fallen in love?

My Nephew is doing 5th standard schooling and is a 10 year old boy. He is normally doesn't do too much, mostly playing video games and watching movies. He's education progress is also good. ...
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How can a parent remain sane? How do you keep your energy and temper? [closed]

I'm sure every parent has days like this: Your child has been a troublemaker all day. You are exhausted, and at your wits' end. It would be nice to just take a break, to have someone else take ...
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Should I be concerned that my three year old son tries to manipulate us?

He has started to engage in behavior that is clearly manipulative. He'll do things like ask for glasses of water at bed to prolong the bedtime ritual, tell us how much he loves us when he wants ...
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How do you teach a 1 year old to stop biting people?

I have a friend with a one year old that bites people, maybe as a sign of affection, but doesn't know that it hurts others. How can his parents discipline him regarding this behavior? Do you try to ...
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Suggestions for helping a 5 year old boy with horrible behavior

So I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there that knows of any discipline suggestions that maybe I haven't tried. I'm waiting for mental health to get back to me but I need something in the ...
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Why does my 3 year old keep acting like a baby, and should I try to actively stop it?

My daughter is 3 but often (and we are sure, concisely) acts like a baby, making gurgling whining noises, crawling about etc. Apart from being very irritating sounds from a three year old we don't ...
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Four year-old likes ripping things

Our four year-old enjoys ripping things. Mostly toilet paper or other scrap paper, but this morning we found a book in the trash with the cover and a few pages torn off. It was an old book with a ...
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8 year old son, misbehaving at school. help!

My son is 8 years old and in second grade. as the school year progresses his attitude and behavior is declining rapidly. It started out that he was a class clown. always talking and making jokes. Then ...
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What is the best approach for teaching toddlers not to drop items off the table at meals?

During discussions with friends about our children (2 years and 16 months old) I discovered that some parents give their children "normal" (and thus breakable) plates and glasses. The reason is ...
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How do you respond to your pre-schooler when they tell you that you're on Santa's Naughty List?

My three-year-old son really enjoyed Christmas. My son is still talking about how Santa came to our house to fill our stockings two times (my wife put treats in one night, and I put some in two days ...
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Acting different for mom

We have 2 boys aged 3.5 and 2. They are your average rambunctious boys. Pretty good at daycare and with dad, but when it's just mom they start acting out. Not listening. Don't stay in time out. ...
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How do you handle a child who enjoys getting others into trouble?

How do you deal with a primary-school age child who enjoys getting others into trouble? Is actually alert for minor wrongdoings and likes to set other people against each other? Can be other children, ...
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How and when can you teach a child to use an “indoor voice”?

We don't generally tell my son to be quiet, as its rarely necessary (despite his being extremely vocal). We want to encourage communication and his ability to express himself. However, there are ...
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At what age does an infant start recognizing people?

My kid (3.5 months old) is currently living with her grandmother since last week. This week I visited her but she didn't seem to affected by my presence. This has discouraged and disappointed me ...
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2 Year old son like hitting , bitting and fighting [duplicate]

My son is two years old now. Somehow he likes fighting. His mornings start with hitting and biting. I know for him it's a game and he enjoys it. Also, sometimes he becomes angry and throws whatever is ...
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When to tell a child he didn't really win

My five year-old son has started this phase of turning everything into a contest. Partially this a result of our encouragement. We will sometimes "race" him when he is dragging his feet and slowing ...
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Ideas for Dealing with a Master Staller

My daughter is an absolute master at making everything take longer than it needs to (particularly when avoiding something she doesn't want to do, or prolonging something she is enjoying). It is a ...
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One of my son's classmates bites him or attempts to bite him

My son is his only target in class for some reason. He does this when the teacher is not around. My son doesn't bite back or complain to the teacher. There are bite marks on his hand, which I have ...
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How can my 7yo daugher increase her attention span in school?

I just had a chat today with the teacher of my 7 years old daughter. The teacher told me my daughter has a very short attention span during the class. She can't concentrate more than a few minutes on ...
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What do I do with my husband? [closed]

I dont know how to say this but, well, I dont even know if I am asking this on the right website but, I am Jessica and I am 27 years old, and i got a son, Carl. He is only 6 years old and he is very ...
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Our toddler boy likes to arrange his toy cars in a line. Is this normal?

Our 3-year-old son likes cars, and he likes to arrange his toy cars in a line. Is this normal for toddler boys?
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My 4.5yr-old girl is afraid of death. What should I do?

Last night my wife (as usual) was putting our 4.5yr-old baby girl to sleep. Our daughter becomes very chatty at that time and (especially in the presence of mom) expresses thoughts and things that ...
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What can be done to control a toddler?

My Nephew is 1.5 years old. My brother and sister-in-law do not know how to control him in public places, especially in theaters.He may start crying/shouting at his will in such places.What best can ...
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Should we use a smiley chart to reward/punish our toddler?

Possible Duplicate: How to operate a successful “Star Chart”? Our nanny came up with an idea today to create a sort of table for our daughter, where they would draw a sun or ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?

I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this? Edit: ...
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15 mo old son becomes very fussy every evening when I come home from work

I'm a working mom of 15 month old baby. We are lucky to have our grandmas to help us babysit our child while me and my husband are at work. Recently we had a grandma's swap, one grandmother left for 2 ...
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5 year old always yells when excited, and isn't learning when to use quieter voices

I'll start by saying I don't think it's a hearing problem, as she uses a normal voice in non-excited conversation, and can hear questions asked to her in a normal voice (aside from what I suspect is ...
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Toddler: How to remove “over” attachment for Mom?

We have a 3 year old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly atached to his mom. Where ever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is ...
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6yo wears down people by dawdling and endless discussions - how can parents help?

A 6-years-old boy is very bright, intelligent and clever, but on the other hand he's very strong-minded and often like an absent-minded professor. The problems: he does not like other people to ...
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6-year-old son's behavior differs from school and home

Our son is in Kindergarten, and we have been having problems with him misbehaving in school since the beginning of the year. They're saying that he is excessively talking, moving (dancing, moving, ...
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What to do when 14mo suddenly hates sitting at the table?

Our 14 month old usually sits at the table to eat (in a booster seat). Last night she freaked out when we tried to put her in her seat for dinner. She tensed up and screamed and didn't stop even after ...
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Is eating boogers a problem? (and how can I respond?)

My four year old son eats his boogers. I think most kids do. But it is not socially acceptable. I asked him to stop and he asked me why - and told me that he liked how they taste. So I told him that ...
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My daughter have 100% “miss” at home, better at day care

We started to potty train our 3 years old daughter about a week ago, after she showed the initial signs by asking to wear underwear "like mom and dad". We explained to her it means she must use the ...
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How can we get our 5 year old son to control his temper and behave

Our youngest of 2 sons is 5 years old and demonstrating really bad behaviour. This has been on going for 2 years. He has just started primary one and is a march birthday so one of the oldest in his ...
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What should I do about my pre-teen son messaging older girls he's never met?

My 12 year son seems to be growing up way too soon.. He went from playing with his Legos one day to next texting girls the next. He goes back and forth. One day he is in the shower playing with his ...