Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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How can I get my primary-schooler to remember to turn off the light?

I have a 8 year old kid with ADHD. He never turns off the lights when he leaves a room. Never. It's a pet peeve of mine when lights are kept on when not in use. His younger sister has learned and ...
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My 2 month old daughter is trying to stand; can this be harmful?

This is about my second daughter, who is now 2 months old and happily smiling at me ^_^ An awful lot has happened with my 1st daughter since she was born...I've forgotten quite a bit about the ages ...
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Advice on Dealing with Other People's Children Taking Items From My One Year Old

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
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15 mo old son becomes very fussy every evening when I come home from work

I'm a working mom of 15 month old baby. We are lucky to have our grandmas to help us babysit our child while me and my husband are at work. Recently we had a grandma's swap, one grandmother left for 2 ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help

My son constantly needs attention. He sometimes pulls his younger sister's hair to get her complain and get our attention. He talks back frequently. He repeatedly says that other kids in school bother ...
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How do I make my son listen to my discipline, not my mother-in-law?

I have a 6 year old and was a single mum for 4 years. I raised him and disciplined him to the point where he is very very sociable and everybody thinks he is one of the most well behaved boys they ...
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Daughter saying whole sentences at home but not in kindergarten

My nearly 3 years old daughter is capable of saying whole sentences by now and using them nicely while at home with us. However the kindergarten staff claims she speaks very little and not capable of ...
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How do you curb “tattletale” behavior in a toddler?

My 2-year-old son seems to be fascinated by the behavior problems of other children. He will tell anyone and everyone around that such-and-such was bad, and if he sees another child having a temper ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?

My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior. Is there a way to ...
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How to teach the importance of being considerate?

I am having difficulty showing and explaining how to be considerate and thoughtful of other's feelings. How can I teach a child to be consciously thoughtful and observant of other people? Or What ...
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Two year old indecisiveness

My younger son, who just turned two a month ago, is going through one of those common stages in toddlerhood (that I remember the older one going through - but less roughly - at the same time). His ...
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?

During the last few months, I've been having a lot of concerns about my 5 year old son's behavior. I was a single mom and have been his main influence up until a little over a year ago. He was born ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old son's behaviour?

My son believes I don't do anything for him - I do everything I possibly can & yes there are things I forget to do (as I'm only human). He is sly & causes arguements between his father & ...
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How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?

Crazy sports parents. How do you deal with them? I've heard of everything from parents screaming obscenities at players on the opposing team, their own team, or even their own kids, to actual fights ...
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Helping my Whirling Dervish to slow down

My seven-year old is tall, lean, looking and speaking like someone who is a few years her senior. This means people (even those that know her actual age) often have higher expectations of her than ...
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How can parents improve a child's behavior outside their presence?

This question is hard to word correctly without sounding like we're trying to avoid responsibility. That's not the case. The issue is that our children behave better for us than for their teachers. ...
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How does a child develop “handed-ness”?

I've noticed that my son generally experiments fine motor skills initially using his left-hand (stacking, eating with utensils, coloring) and then shifts to using his right more often. I'm honestly ...
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How can I teach my son to behave nicely in the playground when other children make it hard?

I've been trying to teach my 3 and a half year old son to treat other children nicely and to try and resolve all conflicts without aggression, by talking. We've been talking about the issue and agreed ...
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At what age does an infant start recognizing people?

My kid (3.5 months old) is currently living with her grandmother since last week. This week I visited her but she didn't seem to affected by my presence. This has discouraged and disappointed me ...
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How to address hemming and hawing?

Our six year old son has difficulty paying attention, so we often quiz him afterward about things he was supposed to be paying attention to. He has started hemming and hawing for a long time (like a ...
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6 year old is acting out with family

My 6 year old son acts out: yells, throws, hits, makes faces, talks disrepectfully to my husband and I and his 4 year old sister (who he hits often). We have talked so many times, disciplined, taken ...
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Dealing with gassy children during practice?

I'm a certified childrens aerobics instructor, but I also have a background in part time dance and gym teaching. The other day I was coaching my 8-year-old daughter and her two teammates in her ...
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Should I stop my infant from sucking his thumb?

My 2-month-old has recently discovered his thumb. He used to often suck his hands, normal baby behavior, and occasionally would "find" his thumb and happily suck for a while - usually when he was ...
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How do I teach my child to express his frustration?

My son is two and testing his boundaries. In general, I'm comfortable with that and have no problem with him getting frustrated when he's not allowed to do something. Unfortunately, his normal mode ...
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How to deal with a 4 year old child who doesn't like parting with his friends?

Our 4-year old son is unpacifiable when it comes to saying bye-bye to his friends after playing. He would cry like anything and doesn't mind lying on the street, adamantly not wanting to part with his ...
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How to handle 10 year old boy who has fallen in love?

My Nephew is doing 5th standard schooling and is a 10 year old boy. He is normally doesn't do too much, mostly playing video games and watching movies. He's education progress is also good. ...
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5-yr-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

I need the two-cents of some experienced parents with multiple children. My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's ...
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How should I respond to my daughter's impolite behavior?

My daughter is 5 years old. She often "plays" rudely with me. For example, she'll kick me, and I cannot explain clearly to her that the behavior is impolite. How should I respond when she behaves ...
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Should I discourage my son from “stealing” toys from Let's Rock Elmo?

My 15 month old son has Let's Rock Elmo, which includes drums, microphone, and tambourine for Elmo to play. However, my son has several times decided that he wanted the instrument Elmo was "using" at ...
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What can I do to help my child have confidence when in new situations?

I have an 8 year old son who is unbelievably shy and/or scared in new situations. When he is at home, he is loud, confident and, yes, even a little out of control. However, once he is presented with ...
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How do you teach a 1 year old to stop biting people?

I have a friend with a one year old that bites people, maybe as a sign of affection, but doesn't know that it hurts others. How can his parents discipline him regarding this behavior? Do you try to ...
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How can I stop my pre-schooler from whining?

My 3 year old son has been whining a lot. We make him rephrase and say it in an appropriate voice, but this has been going on for about a month. Are there any other ideas of how to handle this?
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How important is stability / change / lack of change for children?

I frequently see people around the web supporting various arguments with the following statement: "children need stability." Is there any evidence for this, and more importantly can there be ...
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Four year-old likes ripping things

Our four year-old enjoys ripping things. Mostly toilet paper or other scrap paper, but this morning we found a book in the trash with the cover and a few pages torn off. It was an old book with a ...
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My 4 year old son always takes away any new book or magazine that I read. How to deal with it?

My son does not allow me to read any NEW book or magazine and always becomes cranky till I stop reading and hand over that book to him. Initially I thought it might be temporary thing but now, it ...
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How do I get my 5 year old under control?

I am 22 years old with little experience with young children. My family (my husband, 5 year old daughter, and myself) moved into my grandmother's house to help her with her illnesses. My husband ...
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Daughter is whining for every small thing since her brother was born

My daughter is 2.5 years old. When asking for things like "I want more water in the bottle" she used to ask nicely and even with "please" occasionally. All good and dandy. Since her brother was born ...
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What are guidelines for parents to use in giving advice/guidance to older teens?

My friend asked me for guidance regarding her son, so I am passing the question on. Her very talented son is a senior in high school. Since it is his last year at home, he feels that he no longer ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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My 4 year old keeps telling me she peed herself but she's dry?

I'm at a complete loss. She's potty trained and all is well. But recently she keeps moaning and complaining she peed in her underwear but upon checking, she's completely dry. This is an ongoing thing ...
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How do I handle my toddler's temper tantrums?

I have a 19-month-old daughter. She is a very active child, and usually very well behaved. But in recent times I have noticed that she is constantly whining and also throwing temper tantrums - if she ...
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How do I instruct my openly defiant son?

I don't know for sure if my 8-year-old son actually enjoys creating conflict, but he does it a lot. I could go on and on with examples, but one in particular prompted me to ask this question. We were ...
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“Natural consequences” where they don't happen?

It is often recommended that the negative, behavior of children, i.e. behavior unwanted by their parents, should be met with its "natural consequences". For example being cold outside in winter will ...
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8 year old son, misbehaving at school. help!

My son is 8 years old and in second grade. as the school year progresses his attitude and behavior is declining rapidly. It started out that he was a class clown. always talking and making jokes. Then ...
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How do you handle a child who enjoys getting others into trouble?

How do you deal with a primary-school age child who enjoys getting others into trouble? Is actually alert for minor wrongdoings and likes to set other people against each other? Can be other children, ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the teacher ...
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Unusually agitated and constantly sucking two-week old

Today our two week old was (and still is) unusually agitated. She slept two hours less than her up-until-now average, requested breastfeeding for entire one hour more and was more cry-prone than ever. ...