Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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Is it common for a toddler boy to wiggle his fingers in front of his eyes?

Our three-year-old son has a habit of wiggling his fingers in front of his eyes/face. Is this common for a toddler? I previously asked whether arranging toy cars in a line or crying when things are ...
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6 Year old troubled by waking nightmares and bad memories

My 6 year old son seems to be bothered by distressing thoughts. This started about 2 months ago with a “scary book” that he saw at school. Apparently two older kids brought in a book which he found ...
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Why are parents so concerned about not letting the babies sleep with them?

This site is flooded with the questions about parents concerned about their children who try to sleep with them. I wish to know why exactly are western country people so obsessed about not letting ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?

We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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How do you deal with a spoiled niece?

My 8 year old niece (actually my cousin's daughter) is really quite spoiled. Her parents constantly bribe her to get her to do what they want. We sometimes take vacations together. On these ...
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“Natural consequences” where they don't happen?

It is often recommended that the negative, behavior of children, i.e. behavior unwanted by their parents, should be met with its "natural consequences". For example being cold outside in winter will ...
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Is this strange behavior for a 5-year-old?

I am asking about my stepson. I don't have any children of my own, but to me his behavior seems bizarre. He talks constantly and will say the same thing several times using different words. For ...
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How to restrain my 13-year-old pubescent sister?

Just to understand my position: I, as her older brother (she is without father, 13 and I'm 24), have to sometimes act like her parent, because mom just can't restrain her, when she starts yelling or ...
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My 4.5yr-old girl is afraid of death. What should I do?

Last night my wife (as usual) was putting our 4.5yr-old baby girl to sleep. Our daughter becomes very chatty at that time and (especially in the presence of mom) expresses thoughts and things that ...
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Is it common for a 3 month old baby to drool and suck their fingers?

My son has just turned 3 months old. Recently I have observed him drooling and sucking his fingers. He usually drools more after feeding and sucks his fingers almost all the time. Is this common ...
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Should I be concerned that my three year old son tries to manipulate us?

He has started to engage in behavior that is clearly manipulative. He'll do things like ask for glasses of water at bed to prolong the bedtime ritual, tell us how much he loves us when he wants ...
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Why do toddler boys love trains and cars so much?

My two-year-old loves trains. He really loves trains, especially steam engines, like Thomas. Many other parents have said that their boys love (or loved) trains, and I can remember being enamoured ...
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How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?

Crazy sports parents. How do you deal with them? I've heard of everything from parents screaming obscenities at players on the opposing team, their own team, or even their own kids, to actual fights ...
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How to change an active child's diaper?

My 1 year old son is very active, and changing his diaper is increasingly difficult. I've seen temper-tantrums from some other children we know, but they usually stay put. My son arches, flips and ...
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How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?

My 5 year old son receives and fears punishment but repeatedly exhibits the same unacceptable behaviors. He's always been strong-willed, and is usually the kind to view a statement like "Don't do ...
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Is it common for a toddler to cry when things are not in order?

For example, our 3-year-old son would cry when his younger sister was standing when she was supposed to be sitting a door was closed when it was supposed to be open we had not put his socks on ...
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How can I teach my son to behave nicely in the playground when other children make it hard?

I've been trying to teach my 3 and a half year old son to treat other children nicely and to try and resolve all conflicts without aggression, by talking. We've been talking about the issue and agreed ...
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How to help a child not copy her older sibling's behavior

This question has the same background as Getting stuck on the wrong answer, but I thought it merited a separate question. Our four year-old daughter quite frequently knows the answer, or could know ...
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Five-year-old fever: what's the cure?

Five-year-old fever: that's what her teacher calls it. I'm calling it (IN MY HEAD) the "F*** You Fives." Apparently this is something that almost all of her peers are going through; if I had a ...
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How can we get our 5 year old son to control his temper and behave

Our youngest of 2 sons is 5 years old and demonstrating really bad behaviour. This has been on going for 2 years. He has just started primary one and is a march birthday so one of the oldest in his ...
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How to handle 10 year old boy who has fallen in love?

My Nephew is doing 5th standard schooling and is a 10 year old boy. He is normally doesn't do too much, mostly playing video games and watching movies. He's education progress is also good. ...
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How do I teach a younger child to wait, or earn, future reward?

I have a very stubborn, strong headed 3 year old. How do I teach him about earning privileges? I hope I do a good job explaining myself... For example, I don't want to give him a treat (present, tv ...
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Understanding why my baby is fussing

My baby girl is just about to turn one month. I'm looking to get some deeper understanding of what she's feeling and what's frustrating her when she's unhappy. She fusses, and sometimes screams ...
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Could it be ADHD?

My sister has shifted to our city recently after losing her husband in an accident. We were not that close earlier. Last time when we met her kid was about 8 years old and going to school and all was ...
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6-year-old son's behavior differs from school and home

Our son is in Kindergarten, and we have been having problems with him misbehaving in school since the beginning of the year. They're saying that he is excessively talking, moving (dancing, moving, ...
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My 5 year- old daughter is constantly defiant!

My 5-year old daughter is very defiant. It started getting bad about 6 months ago. She doesn't do what she is told, and any time she hears the word no she throws terribly over dramatic fits screaming ...
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6yo wears down people by dawdling and endless discussions - how can parents help?

A 6-years-old boy is very bright, intelligent and clever, but on the other hand he's very strong-minded and often like an absent-minded professor. The problems: he does not like other people to ...
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How do you teach a 1 year old to stop biting people?

I have a friend with a one year old that bites people, maybe as a sign of affection, but doesn't know that it hurts others. How can his parents discipline him regarding this behavior? Do you try to ...
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One of my son's classmates bites him or attempts to bite him

My son is his only target in class for some reason. He does this when the teacher is not around. My son doesn't bite back or complain to the teacher. There are bite marks on his hand, which I have ...
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Why do infants like stitting at the table?

We recently noticed that our 4 month old LO likes to sit on our lap at the table. We talked about it with some friends and they confirm it, their LOs also liked that. My wife recalls reading a blog ...
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How do I get my child to stop picking his nose?

My son picks his nose and, yes, eats it. How can I get this to stop?
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Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the teacher ...
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How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey Timmy, I ...
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How do you differentiate between allowing the child to disagree with you and letting her get her way?

From: How to raise a child such that she has high self esteem throughout her life? Love unconditionally, allow her to make mistakes, allow her to disagree with you (This is not the same as letting ...
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Why won't our infant stop crying when in the car seat?

We have a 2-month-old baby that will start crying as soon as we put her in the car seat and absolutely will not stop until she is out of it. She could be fed and asleep with a new diaper before the ...
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How does a parent cope with an opposing disposition to his/her own?

So I have never been one of those women that gets super dramatic or excited about seeing people (except for when my brother came home from the Gulf War). If I see the person regularly, I'm glad to ...
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What to do when 14mo suddenly hates sitting at the table?

Our 14 month old usually sits at the table to eat (in a booster seat). Last night she freaked out when we tried to put her in her seat for dinner. She tensed up and screamed and didn't stop even after ...
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What role do imaginary friends play in a child's development?

My son, currently three-and-a-half, has taken to making constant references to his "brother," who is apparently a wealthy businessman and property owner (he apparently owns several stores that sell ...
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What to do if my kids would not listen to my reasoning?

I have a boy, 10 years old. I think he is quite smart and can understand all the reasoning as good as any intelligent adults. Unfortunately, he can be quite difficult to deal with. He has some bad ...
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Is eating boogers a problem? (and how can I respond?)

My four year old son eats his boogers. I think most kids do. But it is not socially acceptable. I asked him to stop and he asked me why - and told me that he liked how they taste. So I told him that ...
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Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?

My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
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My 3 year old grandson always lays down when he plays. It Is this normal?

I've read that in some children this can be a sign of a learning/sensory disability but he is a very precocious boy. One item I did read about that related to him is he doesn't like to be held upside ...
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What is the best approach for teaching toddlers not to drop items off the table at meals?

During discussions with friends about our children (2 years and 16 months old) I discovered that some parents give their children "normal" (and thus breakable) plates and glasses. The reason is ...
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How to teach a child about eavesdropping

My child is highly curious and has become a bit of a Mrs. Kravitz around our house. Since her Dad and I know this and she is our daughter, we are generally careful if we need to be to just not be ...
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When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?

So, this question is inspired somewhat by Do we Need to help a baby learn to soothe itself? as well as my own experience with other people's children and my own. Many mothers are reluctant to let ...
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How to inspire more creativity in play?

My six year-old son got a Lego® set for Christmas, his first because we finally don't have choking hazard age children in the house, but we've always had blocks and other building toys around. ...
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Suggestions for helping a 5 year old boy with horrible behavior

So I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there that knows of any discipline suggestions that maybe I haven't tried. I'm waiting for mental health to get back to me but I need something in the ...
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Does a group of girls naturally split at the age of 10-11?

Our oldest daughter is now in fourth grade. Since school start, she has been part of a group of four girls, which have spent a lot of time together and having a lot of fun. Either all four, three of ...
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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?

Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary. How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...
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How Should I React to an Indecisive Toddler?

I'm looking for anyone who might have had experience with an indecisive toddler. It happens mostly when tired but I'll ask him if he wants something and he will say no. Then when I go to put it away ...