Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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Why won't our infant stop crying when in the car seat?

We have a 2-month-old baby that will start crying as soon as we put her in the car seat and absolutely will not stop until she is out of it. She could be fed and asleep with a new diaper before the ...
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How does a parent cope with an opposing disposition to his/her own?

So I have never been one of those women that gets super dramatic or excited about seeing people (except for when my brother came home from the Gulf War). If I see the person regularly, I'm glad to ...
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What to do when 14mo suddenly hates sitting at the table?

Our 14 month old usually sits at the table to eat (in a booster seat). Last night she freaked out when we tried to put her in her seat for dinner. She tensed up and screamed and didn't stop even after ...
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What role do imaginary friends play in a child's development?

My son, currently three-and-a-half, has taken to making constant references to his "brother," who is apparently a wealthy businessman and property owner (he apparently owns several stores that sell ...
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What to do if my kids would not listen to my reasoning?

I have a boy, 10 years old. I think he is quite smart and can understand all the reasoning as good as any intelligent adults. Unfortunately, he can be quite difficult to deal with. He has some bad ...
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Is eating boogers a problem? (and how can I respond?)

My four year old son eats his boogers. I think most kids do. But it is not socially acceptable. I asked him to stop and he asked me why - and told me that he liked how they taste. So I told him that ...
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Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?

My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
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My 3 year old grandson always lays down when he plays. It Is this normal?

I've read that in some children this can be a sign of a learning/sensory disability but he is a very precocious boy. One item I did read about that related to him is he doesn't like to be held upside ...
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What is the best approach for teaching toddlers not to drop items off the table at meals?

During discussions with friends about our children (2 years and 16 months old) I discovered that some parents give their children "normal" (and thus breakable) plates and glasses. The reason is ...
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How to teach a child about eavesdropping

My child is highly curious and has become a bit of a Mrs. Kravitz around our house. Since her Dad and I know this and she is our daughter, we are generally careful if we need to be to just not be ...
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When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?

So, this question is inspired somewhat by Do we Need to help a baby learn to soothe itself? as well as my own experience with other people's children and my own. Many mothers are reluctant to let ...
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How to inspire more creativity in play?

My six year-old son got a Lego® set for Christmas, his first because we finally don't have choking hazard age children in the house, but we've always had blocks and other building toys around. ...
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Suggestions for helping a 5 year old boy with horrible behavior

So I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there that knows of any discipline suggestions that maybe I haven't tried. I'm waiting for mental health to get back to me but I need something in the ...
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Does a group of girls naturally split at the age of 10-11?

Our oldest daughter is now in fourth grade. Since school start, she has been part of a group of four girls, which have spent a lot of time together and having a lot of fun. Either all four, three of ...
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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?

Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary. How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...
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How Should I React to an Indecisive Toddler?

I'm looking for anyone who might have had experience with an indecisive toddler. It happens mostly when tired but I'll ask him if he wants something and he will say no. Then when I go to put it away ...
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How to Teach That Following Rules is Not Always Good?

My 8 year old son has an issue with following rules a little too closely. He gets upset if rules and/or routine are broken. For instance, last night he was upset because a classmate was singing ...
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Suggestions for a 5 year old who can't sit still in her chair?

I have a 5 year old daughter and she has a real struggle to: Sit in the middle of her chair Stay there without fidgetting In terms of #1, she often falls off her chair as she sits on the edge. ...
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How do I make sure kids don't run on the stairs?

I have short stairs in the house, between ground floor (where the kitchen and kid's game room are) and 2d floor (where their bedrooms/bathroom is). For safety reasons, they aren't allowed to run ...
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What do you say when your child says “You're mean!”

A couple of recent posts (this one in particular) reminded me of this question, which I haven't seen asked. (I searched, too.) I've dealt with it a few different ways myself, which I'm not happy ...
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How to deal with a 4 year old child who doesn't like parting with his friends?

Our 4-year old son is unpacifiable when it comes to saying bye-bye to his friends after playing. He would cry like anything and doesn't mind lying on the street, adamantly not wanting to part with his ...
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How to change a one track mind?

My daughter is eight years old, but due to her cerebral palsy, she has the approximate mentality of a three year-old. She also has an extreme need for routine. Most of the time that isn't an issue ...
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Helping my Whirling Dervish to slow down

My seven-year old is tall, lean, looking and speaking like someone who is a few years her senior. This means people (even those that know her actual age) often have higher expectations of her than ...
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is my 10 year old just playing up or is it a warning that self harm is starting?

My 10 year old daughter is going through a difficult time at the moment thinking that she is overweight and that nobody loves her, she has cut her own fringe off twice and has now got hold of my razor ...
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What do you do when a kid finds every excuse imaginable to avoid doing homework and chores? [duplicate]

Our kid spends so much time avoiding homework and chores, that it is time for bed before either thing is finished. My wife and I find ourselves standing over her and spending all our time refocusing ...
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How to break the cycle of lies?

My six year-old son has recently started lying almost constantly. This is somewhat puzzling to us, because: He almost never gets away with it. Fortunately for us, he isn't very good at it yet, but ...
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What can I do to help my child have confidence when in new situations?

I have an 8 year old son who is unbelievably shy and/or scared in new situations. When he is at home, he is loud, confident and, yes, even a little out of control. However, once he is presented with ...
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How do you address a 5 year old that has problems accepting corrections?

My 5 year old niece who is 'kind of' smart, (i.e. was playing solitaire online before her 3rd birthday and is now doing 4 digit addition/subtraction and multiplication up to 5's; and reads chapter ...
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How can self-consciousness be taught?

Most kids my son's age (six) seem to have a degree of natural self-consciousness that helps them regulate their behavior. By this, I mean when they are in an unfamiliar situation, they tend to hang ...
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How do you respond to your pre-schooler when they tell you that you're on Santa's Naughty List?

My three-year-old son really enjoyed Christmas. My son is still talking about how Santa came to our house to fill our stockings two times (my wife put treats in one night, and I put some in two days ...
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What do I do with my husband? [closed]

I dont know how to say this but, well, I dont even know if I am asking this on the right website but, I am Jessica and I am 27 years old, and i got a son, Carl. He is only 6 years old and he is very ...
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How to help a precocsious child understand her opinion was not requested

My seven year old opperates well amongst groups of all ages as she has had a lot of exposure to a variety of age groups. However, all this exposure sometimes means she is a little too bold. For ...
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Babies and blood. A innate knowledge?

Last night we were dining and my wife accidentally knocked over a bottle of wine. In trying to keep the bottle, the wine finished over her skin. Teresa (our 21 month old daughter) started suddenly to ...
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Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) in toddlers: What approach should be taken to treat it?

A child I know is diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). I have searched around the internet and kind-of understand what it is. However, when I try to find the possible cures/therapies, I ...
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9 year old has uncontrollable raging fits

We have 4 kids, aged 9, 6, 4 and 20 months. boy, girl, boy girl. The nine year old boy is in general a delightful, well-behaved, kind and considerate boy. Sometimes he becomes so overwhelmed by his ...
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Teaching my daughter her pets are not toys

We recently adopted a couple of kittens (both males and currently over 3 month old). My daughter (will be 6 in January) keeps picking any of them up, hugging him, treating him as a doll, and ...
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How do I stop my daughters severe destructive as well as hoarding behaviors?

My daughter is 7 years old and she has a few very extreme behaviors. She destroys just about everything she owns as well as going after my things. She is hoarding, not only toys and such but garbage ...
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How to teach the importance of being considerate?

I am having difficulty showing and explaining how to be considerate and thoughtful of other's feelings. How can I teach a child to be consciously thoughtful and observant of other people? Or What ...
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Unusually agitated and constantly sucking two-week old

Today our two week old was (and still is) unusually agitated. She slept two hours less than her up-until-now average, requested breastfeeding for entire one hour more and was more cry-prone than ever. ...
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My 4 year old son always takes away any new book or magazine that I read. How to deal with it?

My son does not allow me to read any NEW book or magazine and always becomes cranky till I stop reading and hand over that book to him. Initially I thought it might be temporary thing but now, it ...
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11 year old stubborn boy

My 11 year son is an intelligent and extrovert boy . He does not want to study and take care of his belongings. I have to continuously tell him to do his routine work like bathing , brushing teeth ...
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Different discipline approaches by working mommy and stay-home daddy

I work at home (although me being independent is almost a euphemism for being unemployed). My wife is the primary breadwinner in our household. My wife is also currently under a lot of stress, as ...
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How do we deal with my toddler son's “angry behavior”?

My 3-year-old son is great, but when he is angry/frustrated with something we do, mainly when we punish him or do something he doesn't like (e.g. when we tell him he's had enough tv), he starts ...
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Relatives' son is awful. What is another option?

Background: While my wife and I provide an independent, creative and supporting environment for our kids, we also work very to hard to demonstrate "predictable consequences" for any behavior be it ...
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What to do when my 3-year-old holds poop in and won't go in diaper or on potty?

My son is almost 3 (33 months) and for the past few months, he has been holding his poop in, to the point that he won't go for many days a time. When this started, the doctor advised us to give him ...
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Preschooler can't sing, but sings anyway - loudly!

My 3½ year old has never had any sense of music, rhythm, notes, or anything resembling the musical arts. (Motor skills is where he truly excels; he's a sports person, not a musician.) Recently, he ...
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Please help with defiant, stubborn and abusive 5yr old

I have a 5yr old boy who is beyond bad. We have tried everything from talking to spanking to taking stuff away to rewarding the good and are at our wits end. He is abusive to animals, at least 4 ...
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How to address hemming and hawing?

Our six year old son has difficulty paying attention, so we often quiz him afterward about things he was supposed to be paying attention to. He has started hemming and hawing for a long time (like a ...
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Is there a science-based book on how to handle mealtime with fussy toddlers?

I want to learn about what's effective and what's not when it comes to getting a toddler to eat. I prefer a book based on science/data rather than anecdotes/opinions. Does anyone know of such a book?
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How to handle copycatting?

My six year-old son has gotten in the habit of copying his little sister. It feels like he is taking her behavior as cues to what is acceptable, but the act of copying itself (and usually ...