Why do children act the way they do? Use [discipline] for questions about enforcing your rules.

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Discipline hyperactive 3 year old

I have a three year old son who is just awesome. He is advanced intellectually, loving, and he seems very empathetic. He does extremely well in daycare (it is at least an above average daycare), ...
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When do babies start understanding a kiss?

Sometimes my two weeks old daughter starts crying and crying. Apart from checking her basic needs (food, poo, pee...), I sometimes hold her and kiss on the cheek together with a soft hug. However, I ...
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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening ...
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My 1 yr old gets excited and grabs and scratches peoples face HARD

My 1 yr old gets excited and grabs and scratches peoples face HARD. He also grunts all the time, enough to make his face red and then he laughs like its a joke. He does not say any words yet, is this ...
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4 yo son pursues sex with mom [duplicate]

A 4 yo boy says things to his mother like "lets do love, mommy" He lays on her in the missionary position, rubs where her nipples are under her bra and says "I love love mommy, do love with me" (to ...
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Behavior changes after social events

My eight year-old son just spent a week at cub scout day camp (home in the evenings), after which he has been lying extensively. He has had problems with extensive lying before, but had mostly gotten ...
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What to do if my kids would not listen to my reasoning?

I have a boy, 10 years old. I think he is quite smart and can understand all the reasoning as good as any intelligent adults. Unfortunately, he can be quite difficult to deal with. He has some bad ...
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How to take passport pictures of a baby?

My two weeks old daughter needs a passport and, for this, we need a picture of her. Since we struggle to get a good angle of her for our own, private pictures, it seems to be even more complicated to ...
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8 year old punishes himself for bad behaviour

My 8 year old step-son is still rather sensitive for his age, and sometimes takes being disciplined very hard. When he genuinely feels bad about something he's done wrong and we tell him off, he will ...
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My 6-year-old has angry outbursts, possibly related to a newborn sibling. How can we help her?

Our six-year-old daughter is the eldest of 3 girls: her sisters are 3 years, and 3 months respectively. At varying points during the day she will flare up with rage; the triggers can be play-related ...
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How can I deal with my 12-year old son's rebellious behaviour?

My son is a very loving child and fun to be with usually....ever since he turned 12 he is suddenly the resident expert in the house on anything from how to drive a car to how become president. You ...
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10 year old refuses to go to bed

Our 10 year old stepdaughter has trouble going to bed at night. She refuses to go to bed, and fights us very hard, to the point where our only hope of her going to bed is to physically pick her up and ...
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My 11 year old son is weird [closed]

My son is going going to be turning 12 in a couple of weeks and I have noticed he is into unusual things and I find it disturbing. He enjoys movies like The Godfather, and A Clockwork Orange. He ...
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How to mediate between my spouse and stepchild and help our family develop a healthier relationship?

I have been with my wife for about six years. She has a daughter, currently age 11, from her first marriage who has lived with us during almost all of that time (sometimes stays with her father, but ...
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Is this strange behavior for a 5-year-old?

I am asking about my stepson. I don't have any children of my own, but to me his behavior seems bizarre. He talks constantly and will say the same thing several times using different words. For ...
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My 4.5yr-old girl is afraid of death. What should I do?

Last night my wife (as usual) was putting our 4.5yr-old baby girl to sleep. Our daughter becomes very chatty at that time and (especially in the presence of mom) expresses thoughts and things that ...
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Teaching perseverance and planning

My eight year-old has an issue with perseverance and planning. We thought playing minecraft would help. If you're not familiar with minecraft, it's a game where you gather resources to build things, ...
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What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?

My 4-year-old son tends to default to saying no changes in activity (even if he is clearly no longer interested in the current activity). Overall he is helpful, considerate, and will do things we ask ...
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How do I address lack of tact in a 4 year old?

This morning, I dropped my son off at pre-school, and he introduced me to one of his new friends. He then, loudly, and right in front of this friend, proceeded to explain how this child "gets upset ...
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14 yo daughter broke her friendship due to Homosexuality?

How to help my daughter understand that being a lesbian or Gay is as normal and acceptable as having a straight orientation? I have a 14 year old step daughter who has come here 20 days back to visit ...
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Should I stop my infant from sucking his thumb?

My 2-month-old has recently discovered his thumb. He used to often suck his hands, normal baby behavior, and occasionally would "find" his thumb and happily suck for a while - usually when he was ...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

My son (4 1/2) attends a pre-school that we all like very much. He's in a class of kids ranging from 3 to 5. He generally prefers to socialize with the older children. In this particular class, ...
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Boy 7 too sensitive.

My boy seems to cry at the least little things. e.g. His younger sister teasing. Slightest little scratch when playing Dies in computer game. Bedtime How can I toughen him a bit? I don't know ...
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How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?

Today, on the bus, I was seated a row behind a mother and her young daughter (I guess about 5-6 years old), and the child just couldn't stay quiet: she was singing constantly, saying "byebye, please ...
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How do you handle unsupervised, poorly behaved children in public play areas?

This is closely related to this question. However, that primarily deals with interactions at relatively controlled, private functions. This question is more focused on the feeding-frenzy style chaos ...
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How can I help my toddler feel confident in his communication?

My two-and-a-half year old communicates very well, and we talk constantly about things he sees, or what he's feeling, or just about his toys. However, when he uses longer sentences or words that are ...
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How to deal with kids who are bothering others

I recently had an experience that's very similar to the question asked here How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me? but this time from the other side. My kids are very noisy. ...
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How to effectively balance respect for authority with independence and self-determination

We just had our second parent-teacher conference with our almost-four year old's preschool teacher (he's in a Montessori school, that follows the technique well, mostly), and among other things, ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

I would like some help on how to deal with an 8 year old boy, who is refusing to go number 2's in the toilet and does them in his pants and then won't go and clean himself up. I have talked to him ...
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How can I teach my son to behave nicely in the playground when other children make it hard?

I've been trying to teach my 3 and a half year old son to treat other children nicely and to try and resolve all conflicts without aggression, by talking. We've been talking about the issue and agreed ...
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How can we help my 7 year old quit sucking her thumb?

My daughter who is now 7 is still sucking her thumb. It is a great embarrassment to her and she always talks about how it is her big secret from her friends. We have tried the finger nail polish, ...
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How to improve my 5 year old son's behavior in pre-kindergarden?

My oldest child (5 year and a half son) has been more agitated lately in pre-kindergarden and often will make other kids laugh or disrupt activities in class. We have been getting more feedback like ...
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11 year old stubborn boy

My 11 year son is an intelligent and extrovert boy . He does not want to study and take care of his belongings. I have to continuously tell him to do his routine work like bathing , brushing teeth ...
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3 year-old boy wants constant attention, hits and deliberately poops in underpants when he doesn't get it

I have a nearly 3-year-old boy whose energy has become near-limitless, coupled with new neediness, aggression, and defiance. He wants to run around and be played with for the entire day. He is unable ...
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Is Fatherhood natural among humans? [closed]

I read in a book and have heard this argument by many social scientists that Fatherhood was an invention by humans during the time when we first started living as societies. This was presumably in ...
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Helping a preschooler be a good friend

My almost-four year old boy has been expressing concerns recently that some of his close friends don't want to be his friend any more. While I'm aware this sort of drama is perpetual in childhood, I ...
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How can I explain to my 5 year that I need to be alone if I am showering?

I'm having a difficult time sometimes with my 5 year old daughter understanding when I need privacy such as when I take a shower or need to put body cream on afterwards, dry up etc. If I explain it to ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?

How can you best handle this? Coming off as too strong and authoritative might invite "rebellion". Too lenient makes it seem okay. What is the best response for driving home the dangers and risks ...
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help with 4 year old passing gas all the time

My 4 year old has been really gassy lately, and has gotten the bad habit of farting loudly while laughing about it. After more then a few funny but embarassing moments, we tried to tell her how it was ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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Using 123 Magic — getting the door closed

I do the 123 on my daughter, but getting her in the room involves dragging her there kicking and screaming. Then she tries to block the door with her hands and feet making it difficult to close the ...
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My step son is being treated for ADHD and we are not sure if he should be

My step son is 7 years old. He lives with his mom and step dad. His dad and I have him every other weekend, summers, and holidays that his mom will allow us. He gets in trouble at school and mom ...
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is my 7 month old in danger from falling off the couch or bed yes or no

My son 7.5 months if age has fallen quite a few times off the bed and couch in just the past month, my question is that normal? The people i live with are concerned about him having any head trauma. I ...
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15 mo old son becomes very fussy every evening when I come home from work

​​​I'm a working mom of 15 month old baby. We are lucky to have our grandmas to help us babysit our child while me and my husband are at work. Recently we had a grandma's swap, one grandmother left ...
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?

My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk. If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?

I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this? Edit: ...
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My son 1 year slaps me and people on their face

My son slaps me and other people on face.. he thinks that he is playing with us in that way. I always holds his hand tightly and look to him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. IT seems ...
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My baby screams all day long, non-stop, as loud as he can, and he finds it extremely funny

My baby boy is 19 months old, he screams while he plays, while he sits in his high-chair, while he is in his cot, while he has time-out, whatever and wherever he screams, screams, screams and does not ...
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What makes a kid turn bully, and how to prevent him from turning into a bully?

I have heard about bullies in schools, haven't ever seen or faced them in real life though. I would like to know what makes a kid bully, and how to prevent him from becoming a bully?
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difficult toddler

I have a three year old who just love to push my buttons. I'm a single mom who has him every night but while I work he goes to his fathers. His dad says he tried to follow the same discipline and naps ...