Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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6 year old is acting out with family

My 6 year old son acts out: yells, throws, hits, makes faces, talks disrepectfully to my husband and I and his 4 year old sister (who he hits often). We have talked so many times, disciplined, taken ...
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Extrovert child forcing his company on others

My seven year-old son is extremely extroverted. My wife and I are both introverts, so we have a hard time relating to his behavior. We have a quiet time every day for a couple hours, when my wife ...
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How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?

I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler. Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach. Her little daughter is lovely ...
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?

My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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Advice on Dealing with Other People's Children Taking Items From My One Year Old

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
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3 year old child acting out for some reason

My 3 year old daughter has been great up until now. She continues to pretend she isn't capable of going to the restroom and is peeing everywhere for some reason. She keeps saying "I can't do it" when ...
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Toddler wakes up after hour of sleep crying

My 17 month old has been waking up after approximately an hour after he goes to sleep frantically crying. It's been going on for about a month. Sometimes he is sitting up crying and sometimes he is ...
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Encouraging independence

My seven year-old son is highly dependent on us to tell him what to do. We had thought it was an age thing, but his little sister already grew out of it. How can we help him be more independent? An ...
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My 4 year old son always keeps something besides him when he sleeps. Is that normal?

My son always keeps something besides him while sleeping. It can be anything, not necessarily a toy. Does that mean he fears something?
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I'm pretty sure I'm bound for the mental asylum [closed]

Ok, so I'm 25, I live alone with my three year old (fiancé moving in with us next year) her father isn't involved enough, her behaviour is awful, time outs don't work and everytime we have a showdown ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

After some reading, I understand that dropping stuff is a natural part of baby's development. What I couldn't find after some research, was whether or not I should keep giving the objects that he ...
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My Niece is treated as an Outcast by her own Parents

Today is my 6 year old Niece's birthday and When I called her with wishes, she sounded really sad :( I understand her parents are mad at her after what she did last year, but she is just a kid. Last ...
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How to handle 1yo's point & want?

My daughter has started pointing at things. Sometimes she "wants" them, to either hold herself or just touch, sometimes she seems to be satisfied with simply having the thing named. Depending on ...
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How does one deal with excessive timidity in 8 year olds? Is it even excessive

My son has reached the point that if something scares him once then he doesn't want to deal with it anymore on any level. I can understand this for something like "Star Wars." But this has extended ...
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Is one entitled to give parenting advice when they've never had kids?

I ask because there are some horrible, abusive, and sick parents that are in no way entitled to parenting, nor are they allowed to give good parenting advice when they have a history of childhood ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I've noticed a great many parents do everything within their power to prevent their children playing with toy guns and weapons. As a 30-something, I grew up with toy swords, bows and guns, action men ...
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How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?

Backstory: My 8 yr old son is a bright, gentle, etc, kid who attends public school. My wife and I have no TV, we disallow violent games (simulated killing is not allowed), we don't have video games, ...
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How do we break the cycle of misbehavior?

My wife and I have gotten into a bad habit with our three year old. When he misbehaves, sometimes he bites or otherwise physically assaults one of us in frustration, particularly when we are telling ...
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Fast swinging or rocking [duplicate]

My little one just turned 2 months old. When swinging in the swing or when I am rocking him he likes to be swinging fast and rocking fast...I don't mean normal fast he likes to go FAST! Is this normal ...
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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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Need suggestions on how to deal with my 5 yr olds defiance and aggressiveness

My 5 yr old son just started Kindergarten last month. His class uses the Red, Yellow, Green color methods to record his behavior for the day and he has had 90% Red - which is bad. He is being very ...
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My 10 month old uses high pitched screaming to get what he wants…how do I change this behavior?

My 10 month old son screams (high pitch and loud) when: older sister takes away his toy when he wants our attention when he doesn't get his way when we've taken away something that we don't want him ...
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How can my 7yo daugher increase her attention span in school?

I just had a chat today with the teacher of my 7 years old daughter. The teacher told me my daughter has a very short attention span during the class. She can't concentrate more than a few minutes on ...
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My four year old is out of control

My son is four and he has a really bad temper. He'll get up and go to school and when he gets home there'll be a note stating whether he was good or bad. Most day's are good but he gets into moods ...
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At what age does an infant start recognizing people?

My kid (3.5 months old) is currently living with her grandmother since last week. This week I visited her but she didn't seem to affected by my presence. This has discouraged and disappointed me ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a kindergartener?

My five year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and ...
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Destructive when unattended

We have been having trouble with my seven year-old son when he is unattended at naptime and bedtime. When he can't sleep, he gets bored, and when he gets bored, he gets destructive. The latest was ...
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Older sister grabs whatever her younger sister holds

My 5yo daughter is getting so jealous of her 2yo sister that she grabs everything that the other picks up (it can be anything from worthless plastic bag to newspaper) and throws a fit. Now her sister ...
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9 month old with an imperative to sit

I though it was just a phase, but it's been two or three weeks already and doesn't stop. My 9 month old has an imperative to sit. She absolutely has to sit. When put to bed, even if extremely sleepy, ...
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How to encourage the toddler to not to be frightened of the dark?

I believe that the fear of dark if once sets in then doesn't leave easily. The toddler is 13 months old. She starts crying if left alone when the light goes off at night. She clings to me as long ...
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Our toddler boy likes to arrange his toy cars in a line. Is this normal?

Our 3-year-old son likes cars, and he likes to arrange his toy cars in a line. Is this normal for toddler boys?
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frustrated and confused- my 5 yr. old is acting out and nothing we do at home seems to help

My daughter is 5 yrs old. She is a very sweet little girl who normally is very much a people pleaser- she likes to do things that make you happy. However recently she has has issues in school- she ...
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My 13 year old son has a friend whom he brushes off but yet my 11 year old son really likes

I have two sons. My older son has a friend whom he brushes off but yet my 11 year old son really likes. This friend is a good kid. My older son is upset that his friend is playing with his younger ...
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What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?

Typically, this is something you don't want out of a child. My 4 1/2 yr old has been brushing his own teeth for about a year. The problem is that I can't convey to him to spit out the toothpaste. I ...
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5 year old is acting out

My 5 year old daughter is #2 out of 4 she is the oldest of 3 girls. Recently she has started doing things really out of character for her. She is usually a very sweet, respectful, obedient child. ...
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What should I do about my pre-teen son messaging older girls he's never met?

My 12 year son seems to be growing up way too soon.. He went from playing with his Legos one day to next texting girls the next. He goes back and forth. One day he is in the shower playing with his ...
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8 year old son, misbehaving at school. help!

My son is 8 years old and in second grade. as the school year progresses his attitude and behavior is declining rapidly. It started out that he was a class clown. always talking and making jokes. Then ...
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How can I get a toddler I care for during the day to take a nap?

I care for a 11 month old baby who has two weeks where they arrive at 5:30am and then 2 weeks they arrive at 1pm. For the 5:30 shift, the baby should be going to sleep. The mom had said it was ...
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How much should I interact with my newborn?

I have a 2 month old baby. My wife and I take care of him collectively. As he is growing, his sleep time is reducing. Sometimes, due to our schedules, we want him to sleep, but the baby is still ...
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Worried sick about 3YO and aspergers

My daughter turned 3 in March. My wife has been her primary carer since birth. She attended daycare very briefly for 2 days/week shortly after she turned 2, but this only lasted a month or two as we ...
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Is it common for a toddler boy to wiggle his fingers in front of his eyes?

Our three-year-old son has a habit of wiggling his fingers in front of his eyes/face. Is this common for a toddler? I previously asked whether arranging toy cars in a line or crying when things are ...
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6 Year old troubled by waking nightmares and bad memories

My 6 year old son seems to be bothered by distressing thoughts. This started about 2 months ago with a “scary book” that he saw at school. Apparently two older kids brought in a book which he found ...
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Why are parents so concerned about not letting the babies sleep with them?

This site is flooded with the questions about parents concerned about their children who try to sleep with them. I wish to know why exactly are western country people so obsessed about not letting ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?

We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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How do you deal with a spoiled niece?

My 8 year old niece (actually my cousin's daughter) is really quite spoiled. Her parents constantly bribe her to get her to do what they want. We sometimes take vacations together. On these ...
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“Natural consequences” where they don't happen?

It is often recommended that the negative, behavior of children, i.e. behavior unwanted by their parents, should be met with its "natural consequences". For example being cold outside in winter will ...
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How to restrain my 13-year-old pubescent sister?

Just to understand my position: I, as her older brother (she is without father, 13 and I'm 24), have to sometimes act like her parent, because mom just can't restrain her, when she starts yelling or ...
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Should I be concerned that my three year old son tries to manipulate us?

He has started to engage in behavior that is clearly manipulative. He'll do things like ask for glasses of water at bed to prolong the bedtime ritual, tell us how much he loves us when he wants ...
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Why do toddler boys love trains and cars so much?

My two-year-old loves trains. He really loves trains, especially steam engines, like Thomas. Many other parents have said that their boys love (or loved) trains, and I can remember being enamoured ...
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How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?

Crazy sports parents. How do you deal with them? I've heard of everything from parents screaming obscenities at players on the opposing team, their own team, or even their own kids, to actual fights ...