Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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is my 10 year old just playing up or is it a warning that self harm is starting?

My 10 year old daughter is going through a difficult time at the moment thinking that she is overweight and that nobody loves her, she has cut her own fringe off twice and has now got hold of my razor ...
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Does a group of girls naturally split at the age of 10-11?

Our oldest daughter is now in fourth grade. Since school start, she has been part of a group of four girls, which have spent a lot of time together and having a lot of fun. Either all four, three of ...
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Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten

Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. He is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing I do will stop his behaviour. He has hurt other students and his ...
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My pre-schooler does not listen to anything I say or do!

I have a five year old that is out of control. If I ask him to sit down and relax (because we live in a one bedroom apartment), its very frustrating because I repeatedly have to say it to him. If ...
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Is it considered harmful in the longer run to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want?

Not sure if there is a cultural difference. In our family it is considered normal to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want. Example- Parent: Eat that quickly or the God will punish ...
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How to get my sister to use correct spelling while typing on computer?

I am sure that I am treading on eggshells here as this is a matter of opinion, but please do read on. I absolutely resent when people use incorrect spelling for 90% of their words, on purpose. My ...
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Why do toddler boys love trains and cars so much?

My two-year-old loves trains. He really loves trains, especially steam engines, like Thomas. Many other parents have said that their boys love (or loved) trains, and I can remember being enamoured ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?

My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
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How to stop my 8 year old from crying every time she's frustrated?

My 8 year old daughters is usually very good. But in the last few months she has started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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How to deal with a naughty nephew?

I live in a joint family with two of my uncles, and I have a very naughty five year old nephew who's a nuisance to the entire household. We live in a flat and my nephew throws stuff out of the window ...
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What to do about 1 year old boy who keeps pulling hard at his penis and scrotum?

This has been going on a little while and the health visitor says its normal but we are a bit concerned about the force our child is using when he pulls at his penis, he really yanks it and it looks ...
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How to help a precocsious child understand her opinion was not requested

My seven year old opperates well amongst groups of all ages as she has had a lot of exposure to a variety of age groups. However, all this exposure sometimes means she is a little too bold. For ...
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How (and when) do you teach a child patience?

My son, 2 and a half, clearly does not grok the concept of waiting for something. If he asks for something, and I say "okay, I'll give you x right after we finish doing y", he'll say okay, and then ...
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15 mo old son becomes very fussy every evening when I come home from work

​​​I'm a working mom of 15 month old baby. We are lucky to have our grandmas to help us babysit our child while me and my husband are at work. Recently we had a grandma's swap, one grandmother left ...
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How do we deal with my toddler son's “angry behavior”?

My 3-year-old son is great, but when he is angry/frustrated with something we do, mainly when we punish him or do something he doesn't like (e.g. when we tell him he's had enough tv), he starts ...
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Can you effectively influence the behavior of a 6 month old?

I've just started feeding my daughter solids, and I would like to teach her to not blow raspberries while there is food in her mouth (which is cute, but messy.) Is it possible to communicate to her ...
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How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey Timmy, I ...
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When should a toddler get out of the oral fascination?

Our boy is a few months away from his 4th birthday... but he still puts darn near everything in his mouth. We are constantly talking to him about what should and should not go in his mouth, only food ...
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When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?

So, this question is inspired somewhat by Do we Need to help a baby learn to soothe itself? as well as my own experience with other people's children and my own. Many mothers are reluctant to let ...
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How to break the cycle of lies?

My six year-old son has recently started lying almost constantly. This is somewhat puzzling to us, because: He almost never gets away with it. Fortunately for us, he isn't very good at it yet, but ...
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How can I encourage my 4.5 year old daughter to eat without needing tons of time along with play?

It seems that our daughter is not so fond of most foods. She is fond of milk though - any kind of milk, cow, goat, even soy. While eating I get the feeling she is bored. She eats very slowly and not ...
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How do I teach my toddler not to stuff her cheeks with food?

My 20-month-old daughter, given the opportunity, will stuff her cheeks full of food she likes (especially cheese, raisins, or green beans) to the point where it's difficult for her to chew or swallow. ...
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How can self-consciousness be taught?

Most kids my son's age (six) seem to have a degree of natural self-consciousness that helps them regulate their behavior. By this, I mean when they are in an unfamiliar situation, they tend to hang ...
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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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14 month old…head shaking and hitting self…should I be worried?

My 14 month old daughter started to shake her head and hitting herself throughout the day: sometimes when she's eating and sitting in the high chair, she'll shake her head from side to side for a ...
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How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?

My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident" I ...
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How do you deal with a spoiled niece?

My 8 year old niece (actually my cousin's daughter) is really quite spoiled. Her parents constantly bribe her to get her to do what they want. We sometimes take vacations together. On these ...
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my 2yr old cries at daycare during drop off time

Help! My two year old daughter has cried since day one (back in September) when I drop her off at daycare. We are now in December. This I believe has now caused her twin brother to cry as well when I ...
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What do you say when your child says “You're mean!”

A couple of recent posts (this one in particular) reminded me of this question, which I haven't seen asked. (I searched, too.) I've dealt with it a few different ways myself, which I'm not happy ...
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Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem?

I understand that temper tantrums are relatively normal for many children. However, some children seem to have far more temper tantrums than other children their age, and others far fewer. Can ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?

We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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Worried sick about 3YO and aspergers

My daughter turned 3 in March. My wife has been her primary carer since birth. She attended daycare very briefly for 2 days/week shortly after she turned 2, but this only lasted a month or two as we ...
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My 8 year old daughter was taught by her classmates how to use the middle finger. How do I get her to stop this behavior?

Two of my daughter's 8 year old class mates taught my daughter how to use the middle finger. My daughter is now obsessed and wont stop. We don't use this at home and find it offensive. However she ...
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My child doesn't want to be seen in public with me… what should I do?

I drive my 10 year old child to school each day. However, lately he has been complaining about my dropping him off at school. He says it is embarrassing to be seen being dropped off by his father, ...
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How to inspire more creativity in play?

My six year-old son got a Lego® set for Christmas, his first because we finally don't have choking hazard age children in the house, but we've always had blocks and other building toys around. ...
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How to change an active child's diaper?

My 1 year old son is very active, and changing his diaper is increasingly difficult. I've seen temper-tantrums from some other children we know, but they usually stay put. My son arches, flips and ...
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How do you differentiate between allowing the child to disagree with you and letting her get her way?

From: How to raise a child such that she has high self esteem throughout her life? Love unconditionally, allow her to make mistakes, allow her to disagree with you (This is not the same as letting ...
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How do I address lack of tact in a 4 year old?

This morning, I dropped my son off at pre-school, and he introduced me to one of his new friends. He then, loudly, and right in front of this friend, proceeded to explain how this child "gets upset ...
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How do you handle “materialist” behaviour?

My 4 years old daughter attaches a lot of importance to toys, clothes, presents ... How do you help your kids take some distance with that ? Sample behaviour I'm uncomfortable with : asking grandma ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a kindergartener?

My five year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and ...
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My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help

My son constantly needs attention. He sometimes pulls his younger sister's hair to get her complain and get our attention. He talks back frequently. He repeatedly says that other kids in school bother ...
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Why is my toddler having trouble sleeping?

My son is 3 years old and lately he has been having problems sleeping. I've heard kids his age are supposed to sleep around 10-12 hours a day, although I'm no sure. He used to sleep on the afternoons ...
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To medicate or not to medicate?

My son is a bright, enthusiastic, caring, extrovert, who also meets the DSM-IV criteria for ADHD. He is social and has good friends. We put him in Montessori because the regular classroom wasn't ...
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Teaching my daughter her pets are not toys

We recently adopted a couple of kittens (both males and currently over 3 month old). My daughter (will be 6 in January) keeps picking any of them up, hugging him, treating him as a doll, and ...
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How to handle fighting twins

I have twin boys aged 15 months. They normally fights for a toy/ or anything new. Earlier it was a slap on the others head with the toy or hand but now they have started biting each other. Is there ...
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What can I do to stop my child from being over-sensitive?

My child is 3 years and 6 months and every child he seems to play with seems to pick up on his sensitivity and tease him extra. This could something really minor like touching him on the shoulder - ...
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What are good ways to begin preparing a child for a new baby?

I have a 4 and a half month old, so this won't be applicable for a while, but I would like to raise my son with the idea that he won't be an only child forever. I want my children to have a good ...
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Why did these two pre-schoolers swap their tantrum behaviour?

I have just noticed this in 2 boys, aged 3,4. The 3 year old used to throw tantrums quite frequently over trivial matters (such as me holding the ball I'm throwing in the right rather than the left ...
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How do I motivate my ten-year old to take responsibility and to do his best?

I worry that my ten-year old son is developing (has developed) a mindset that will come back to bite him as he gets older. He is a very bright and active kid, but does not like to extend himself and ...