Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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Why is my toddler having trouble sleeping?

My son is 3 years old and lately he has been having problems sleeping. I've heard kids his age are supposed to sleep around 10-12 hours a day, although I'm no sure. He used to sleep on the afternoons ...
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To medicate or not to medicate?

My son is a bright, enthusiastic, caring, extrovert, who also meets the DSM-IV criteria for ADHD. He is social and has good friends. We put him in Montessori because the regular classroom wasn't ...
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How to handle fighting twins

I have twin boys aged 15 months. They normally fights for a toy/ or anything new. Earlier it was a slap on the others head with the toy or hand but now they have started biting each other. Is there ...
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How can I encourage my 4.5 year old daughter to eat without needing tons of time along with play?

It seems that our daughter is not so fond of most foods. She is fond of milk though - any kind of milk, cow, goat, even soy. While eating I get the feeling she is bored. She eats very slowly and not ...
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How do I teach my toddler not to stuff her cheeks with food?

My 20-month-old daughter, given the opportunity, will stuff her cheeks full of food she likes (especially cheese, raising, or green beans) to the point where it's difficult for her to chew or swallow. ...
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When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?

So, this question is inspired somewhat by Do we Need to help a baby learn to soothe itself? as well as my own experience with other people's children and my own. Many mothers are reluctant to let ...
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Teaching my daughter her pets are not toys

We recently adopted a couple of kittens (both males and currently over 3 month old). My daughter (will be 6 in January) keeps picking any of them up, hugging him, treating him as a doll, and ...
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What can I do to stop my child from being over-sensitive?

My child is 3 years and 6 months and every child he seems to play with seems to pick up on his sensitivity and tease him extra. This could something really minor like touching him on the shoulder - ...
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What are good ways to begin preparing a child for a new baby?

I have a 4 and a half month old, so this won't be applicable for a while, but I would like to raise my son with the idea that he won't be an only child forever. I want my children to have a good ...
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How can self-consciousness be taught?

Most kids my son's age (six) seem to have a degree of natural self-consciousness that helps them regulate their behavior. By this, I mean when they are in an unfamiliar situation, they tend to hang ...
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Why did these two pre-schoolers swap their tantrum behaviour?

I have just noticed this in 2 boys, aged 3,4. The 3 year old used to throw tantrums quite frequently over trivial matters (such as me holding the ball I'm throwing in the right rather than the left ...
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frustrated and confused- my 5 yr. old is acting out and nothing we do at home seems to help

My daughter is 5 yrs old. She is a very sweet little girl who normally is very much a people pleaser- she likes to do things that make you happy. However recently she has has issues in school- she ...
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Does a group of girls naturally split at the age of 10-11?

Our oldest daughter is now in fourth grade. Since school start, she has been part of a group of four girls, which have spent a lot of time together and having a lot of fun. Either all four, three of ...
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How can we help my 7 year old quit sucking her thumb?

My daughter who is now 7 is still sucking her thumb. It is a great embarrassment to her and she always talks about how it is her big secret from her friends. We have tried the finger nail polish, ...
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How do you deal with a spoiled niece?

My 8 year old niece (actually my cousin's daughter) is really quite spoiled. Her parents constantly bribe her to get her to do what they want. We sometimes take vacations together. On these ...
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How to get my sister to use correct spelling while typing on computer?

I am sure that I am treading on eggshells here as this is a matter of opinion, but please do read on. I absolutely resent when people use incorrect spelling for 90% of their words, on purpose. My ...
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How do you teach a toddler not to share?

Normally, my son (2 years old) does very well sharing with other kids. In fact, he's remarkably social, even with children he's never met before. And therein lies the problem. On a recent trip to ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?

We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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7 year old boy who uses bad language

I am at a loss as to what to do with my seven-year-old son. He constantly uses bad words. Occasionally, he uses curse words but mostly it is words like "dumb," "idiot," "stupid," etc. At first I ...
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How do you prepare for the “terrible twos”?

I keep hearing about how bad things get once a child enters the "terrible twos". I know quite a few parents who claim that the age is just a natural time for frequent temper tantrums, and non-stop ...
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Worried sick about 3YO and aspergers

My daughter turned 3 in March. My wife has been her primary carer since birth. She attended daycare very briefly for 2 days/week shortly after she turned 2, but this only lasted a month or two as we ...
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How to stop my 8 year old to cry every time she's frustrated

My 8 years old daughters is usually very good. Although in the last few months she started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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How to know whether your child is being bullied?

Being a working person I may not be always near my kid. Also, it is a possibility that he may not tell me that he has been undergoing bullying somewhere because of fear or some other reasons. How ...
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How should I deal with my toddler's difficult behavior towards food?

My daughter is almost 15 months old and has always been a small eater. She was breastfed for the first 5 months then solids were gradually introduced. It went okay for the first few weeks but soon it ...
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My 2 month old daughter is trying to stand; can this be harmful?

This is about my second daughter, who is now 2 months old and happily smiling at me ^_^ An awful lot has happened with my 1st daughter since she was born...I've forgotten quite a bit about the ages ...
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How to go about regaining the trust of my child?

Having experienced parental alienation syndrome, my child is very reticent and unresponsive to my attempts in rebuilding our relationship. The condition is very much like sulking, but with an ...
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Daughter saying whole sentences at home but not in kindergarten

My nearly 3 years old daughter is capable of saying whole sentences by now and using them nicely while at home with us. However the kindergarten staff claims she speaks very little and not capable of ...
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How do you curb “tattletale” behavior in a toddler?

My 2-year-old son seems to be fascinated by the behavior problems of other children. He will tell anyone and everyone around that such-and-such was bad, and if he sees another child having a temper ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?

My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior. Is there a way to ...
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How to teach the importance of being considerate?

I am having difficulty showing and explaining how to be considerate and thoughtful of other's feelings. How can I teach a child to be consciously thoughtful and observant of other people? Or What ...
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14 yo daughter broke her friendship due to Homosexuality?

How to help my daughter understand that being a lesbian or Gay is as normal and acceptable as having a straight orientation? I have a 14 year old step daughter who has come here 20 days back to visit ...
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How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?

Crazy sports parents. How do you deal with them? I've heard of everything from parents screaming obscenities at players on the opposing team, their own team, or even their own kids, to actual fights ...
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Helping my Whirling Dervish to slow down

My seven-year old is tall, lean, looking and speaking like someone who is a few years her senior. This means people (even those that know her actual age) often have higher expectations of her than ...
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My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help

My son constantly needs attention. He sometimes pulls his younger sister's hair to get her complain and get our attention. He talks back frequently. He repeatedly says that other kids in school bother ...
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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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At what age does an infant start recognizing people?

My kid (3.5 months old) is currently living with her grandmother since last week. This week I visited her but she didn't seem to affected by my presence. This has discouraged and disappointed me ...
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My parents are interfering with my life in every way and I don't know how to stop it

I really need your help on this because it has become the only problem in my life. I came to my home country after studying in the US and I have changed my beliefs, built my own set of rules to live ...
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How to address hemming and hawing?

Our six year old son has difficulty paying attention, so we often quiz him afterward about things he was supposed to be paying attention to. He has started hemming and hawing for a long time (like a ...
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6 year old is acting out with family

My 6 year old son acts out: yells, throws, hits, makes faces, talks disrepectfully to my husband and I and his 4 year old sister (who he hits often). We have talked so many times, disciplined, taken ...
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Dealing with gassy children during practice?

I'm a certified childrens aerobics instructor, but I also have a background in part time dance and gym teaching. The other day I was coaching my 8-year-old daughter and her two teammates in her ...
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Why is my one month old kicking, grunting and eventually crying when I hold her?

My 1 month old daughter has starting something I am trying to understand. While I am holding her, either in a blanket or not, she will start grunting and kicking her legs. Crying usually starts soon ...
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How do I teach my child to express his frustration?

My son is two and testing his boundaries. In general, I'm comfortable with that and have no problem with him getting frustrated when he's not allowed to do something. Unfortunately, his normal mode ...
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Should I stop my infant from sucking his thumb?

My 2-month-old has recently discovered his thumb. He used to often suck his hands, normal baby behavior, and occasionally would "find" his thumb and happily suck for a while - usually when he was ...
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How to deal with a 4 year old child who doesn't like parting with his friends?

Our 4-year old son is unpacifiable when it comes to saying bye-bye to his friends after playing. He would cry like anything and doesn't mind lying on the street, adamantly not wanting to part with his ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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How should I respond to my daughter's impolite behavior?

My daughter is 5 years old. She often "plays" rudely with me. For example, she'll kick me, and I cannot explain clearly to her that the behavior is impolite. How should I respond when she behaves ...
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What can I do to help my child have confidence when in new situations?

I have an 8 year old son who is unbelievably shy and/or scared in new situations. When he is at home, he is loud, confident and, yes, even a little out of control. However, once he is presented with ...
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15 mo old son becomes very fussy every evening when I come home from work

I'm a working mom of 15 month old baby. We are lucky to have our grandmas to help us babysit our child while me and my husband are at work. Recently we had a grandma's swap, one grandmother left for 2 ...
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How do you teach a 1 year old to stop biting people?

I have a friend with a one year old that bites people, maybe as a sign of affection, but doesn't know that it hurts others. How can his parents discipline him regarding this behavior? Do you try to ...
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How can I stop my pre-schooler from whining?

My 3 year old son has been whining a lot. We make him rephrase and say it in an appropriate voice, but this has been going on for about a month. Are there any other ideas of how to handle this?