Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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How do you teach a toddler not to share?

Normally, my son (2 years old) does very well sharing with other kids. In fact, he's remarkably social, even with children he's never met before. And therein lies the problem. On a recent trip to ...
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7 year old boy who uses bad language

I am at a loss as to what to do with my seven-year-old son. He constantly uses bad words. Occasionally, he uses curse words but mostly it is words like "dumb," "idiot," "stupid," etc. At first I ...
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How to stop my 8 year old to cry every time she's frustrated

My 8 years old daughters is usually very good. Although in the last few months she started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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How to know whether your child is being bullied?

Being a working person I may not be always near my kid. Also, it is a possibility that he may not tell me that he has been undergoing bullying somewhere because of fear or some other reasons. How ...
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My 2 month old daughter is trying to stand; can this be harmful?

This is about my second daughter, who is now 2 months old and happily smiling at me ^_^ An awful lot has happened with my 1st daughter since she was born...I've forgotten quite a bit about the ages ...
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What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?

We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
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How to go about regaining the trust of my child?

Having experienced parental alienation syndrome, my child is very reticent and unresponsive to my attempts in rebuilding our relationship. The condition is very much like sulking, but with an ...
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Daughter saying whole sentences at home but not in kindergarten

My nearly 3 years old daughter is capable of saying whole sentences by now and using them nicely while at home with us. However the kindergarten staff claims she speaks very little and not capable of ...
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How do you curb “tattletale” behavior in a toddler?

My 2-year-old son seems to be fascinated by the behavior problems of other children. He will tell anyone and everyone around that such-and-such was bad, and if he sees another child having a temper ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a kindergartener?

My five year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and ...
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How to teach the importance of being considerate?

I am having difficulty showing and explaining how to be considerate and thoughtful of other's feelings. How can I teach a child to be consciously thoughtful and observant of other people? Or What ...
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How do I teach my toddler not to stuff her cheeks with food?

My 20-month-old daughter, given the opportunity, will stuff her cheeks full of food she likes (especially cheese, raising, or green beans) to the point where it's difficult for her to chew or swallow. ...
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Helping my Whirling Dervish to slow down

My seven-year old is tall, lean, looking and speaking like someone who is a few years her senior. This means people (even those that know her actual age) often have higher expectations of her than ...
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My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help

My son constantly needs attention. He sometimes pulls his younger sister's hair to get her complain and get our attention. He talks back frequently. He repeatedly says that other kids in school bother ...
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How can I encourage my 4.5 year old daughter to eat without needing tons of time along with play?

It seems that our daughter is not so fond of most foods. She is fond of milk though - any kind of milk, cow, goat, even soy. While eating I get the feeling she is bored. She eats very slowly and not ...
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How to address hemming and hawing?

Our six year old son has difficulty paying attention, so we often quiz him afterward about things he was supposed to be paying attention to. He has started hemming and hawing for a long time (like a ...
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How can we help my 7 year old quit sucking her thumb?

My daughter who is now 7 is still sucking her thumb. It is a great embarrassment to her and she always talks about how it is her big secret from her friends. We have tried the finger nail polish, ...
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Why is my one month old kicking, grunting and eventually crying when I hold her?

My 1 month old daughter has starting something I am trying to understand. While I am holding her, either in a blanket or not, she will start grunting and kicking her legs. Crying usually starts soon ...
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How do you prepare for the “terrible twos”?

I keep hearing about how bad things get once a child enters the "terrible twos". I know quite a few parents who claim that the age is just a natural time for frequent temper tantrums, and non-stop ...
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How do I teach my child to express his frustration?

My son is two and testing his boundaries. In general, I'm comfortable with that and have no problem with him getting frustrated when he's not allowed to do something. Unfortunately, his normal mode ...
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How to deal with a 4 year old child who doesn't like parting with his friends?

Our 4-year old son is unpacifiable when it comes to saying bye-bye to his friends after playing. He would cry like anything and doesn't mind lying on the street, adamantly not wanting to part with his ...
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Should I stop my infant from sucking his thumb?

My 2-month-old has recently discovered his thumb. He used to often suck his hands, normal baby behavior, and occasionally would "find" his thumb and happily suck for a while - usually when he was ...
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?

My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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How should I deal with my toddler's difficult behavior towards food?

My daughter is almost 15 months old and has always been a small eater. She was breastfed for the first 5 months then solids were gradually introduced. It went okay for the first few weeks but soon it ...
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How should I respond to my daughter's impolite behavior?

My daughter is 5 years old. She often "plays" rudely with me. For example, she'll kick me, and I cannot explain clearly to her that the behavior is impolite. How should I respond when she behaves ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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What can I do to help my child have confidence when in new situations?

I have an 8 year old son who is unbelievably shy and/or scared in new situations. When he is at home, he is loud, confident and, yes, even a little out of control. However, once he is presented with ...
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How can I stop my pre-schooler from whining?

My 3 year old son has been whining a lot. We make him rephrase and say it in an appropriate voice, but this has been going on for about a month. Are there any other ideas of how to handle this?
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My 4 year old son always takes away any new book or magazine that I read. How to deal with it?

My son does not allow me to read any NEW book or magazine and always becomes cranky till I stop reading and hand over that book to him. Initially I thought it might be temporary thing but now, it ...
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How do I get my 5 year old under control?

I am 22 years old with little experience with young children. My family (my husband, 5 year old daughter, and myself) moved into my grandmother's house to help her with her illnesses. My husband ...
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Daughter is whining for every small thing since her brother was born

My daughter is 2.5 years old. When asking for things like "I want more water in the bottle" she used to ask nicely and even with "please" occasionally. All good and dandy. Since her brother was born ...
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Should I discourage my son from “stealing” toys from Let's Rock Elmo?

My 15 month old son has Let's Rock Elmo, which includes drums, microphone, and tambourine for Elmo to play. However, my son has several times decided that he wanted the instrument Elmo was "using" at ...
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What are guidelines for parents to use in giving advice/guidance to older teens?

My friend asked me for guidance regarding her son, so I am passing the question on. Her very talented son is a senior in high school. Since it is his last year at home, he feels that he no longer ...
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How can I get my primary-schooler to remember to turn off the light?

I have a 8 year old kid with ADHD. He never turns off the lights when he leaves a room. Never. It's a pet peeve of mine when lights are kept on when not in use. His younger sister has learned and ...
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How important is stability / change / lack of change for children?

I frequently see people around the web supporting various arguments with the statement "children need stability." Is there any evidence for this, and more importantly can there be such a thing as too ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?

My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior. Is there a way to ...
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How do I handle my toddler's temper tantrums?

I have a 19-month-old daughter. She is a very active child, and usually very well behaved. But in recent times I have noticed that she is constantly whining and also throwing temper tantrums - if she ...
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Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the teacher ...
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What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?

During the last few months, I've been having a lot of concerns about my 5 year old son's behavior. I was a single mom and have been his main influence up until a little over a year ago. He was born ...
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Unusually agitated and constantly sucking two-week old

Today our two week old was (and still is) unusually agitated. She slept two hours less than her up-until-now average, requested breastfeeding for entire one hour more and was more cry-prone than ever. ...
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How to handle copycatting?

My six year-old son has gotten in the habit of copying his little sister. It feels like he is taking her behavior as cues to what is acceptable, but the act of copying itself (and usually ...
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Should I try and prevent my child from becoming like me (in some aspects)?

As an adult I realize I am not perfect. I have my "glitches". One of them is that I am too shy and an introvert to people that I do not know well (somewhat extrovert to friends and family). Would I ...
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How can parents improve a child's behavior outside their presence?

This question is hard to word correctly without sounding like we're trying to avoid responsibility. That's not the case. The issue is that our children behave better for us than for their teachers. ...
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How does a child develop “handed-ness”?

I've noticed that my son generally experiments fine motor skills initially using his left-hand (stacking, eating with utensils, coloring) and then shifts to using his right more often. I'm honestly ...
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Suggestions for a 5 year old who can't sit still in her chair?

I have a 5 year old daughter and she has a real struggle to: Sit in the middle of her chair Stay there without fidgetting In terms of #1, she often falls off her chair as she sits on the edge. ...
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Five-year-old fever: what's the cure?

Five-year-old fever: that's what her teacher calls it. I'm calling it (IN MY HEAD) the "F*** You Fives." Apparently this is something that almost all of her peers are going through; if I had a ...
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How to teach a child about eavesdropping

My child is highly curious and has become a bit of a Mrs. Kravitz around our house. Since her Dad and I know this and she is our daughter, we are generally careful if we need to be to just not be ...
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How to deal with my son who always wants to have lights on when we go to bed?

I have a 3 year old son. Whenever we go to sleep, he will start crying when we turn off the lights and insists that lights be turned on when he is trying to sleep. So, we keep it on. When he falls ...
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What should my collgeaue do to stop her 20 year old son from smoking?

What are some ways to stop a 20 year old boy from smoking? We know that smoking is bad and cause all sort of cancers (such as lung / heart / throat cancer), are there ways to stop or discourage the ...
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How do I make sure kids don't run on the stairs?

I have short stairs in the house, between ground floor (where the kitchen and kid's game room are) and 2d floor (where their bedrooms/bathroom is). For safety reasons, they aren't allowed to run ...