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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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Not going to anyone

My 18 month old kid is always with me and my wife. She never goes along with the neighbors or our relatives. My sister's kid is one month younger than my kid, and she plays with everybody while my kid ...
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How do I stop my parents' divorce? [duplicate]

I'm a new teen, and my parents have been fighting for like a month like five times a week. One of them leaves at night for like six hours, my mom says she doesn't think it's working out. They have ...
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How can I reach out to my 16-year-old son who has voiced he's depressed every day and doesn't love himself?

Last night my husband and I addressed a few things we discovered in my son's room being a concern. We are pretty strict parents and believe in corporal punishment especially since my son doesn't have ...
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My parents are interfering with my life in every way and I don't know how to stop it

I really need your help on this because it has become the only problem in my life. I came to my home country after studying in the US and I have changed my beliefs, built my own set of rules to live ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5 year old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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3 year old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3 year old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jeolous of the attention that her new baby ...
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Breaking 5 year olds tantrums [duplicate]

My 5 year old son has recently got into the habit of getting into these incredibly annoying tantrums. They start when he doesn't get his way and can often rumble on over a couple of hours. They ...
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How to keep the infant's hands out of mouth?

My daughter is 8 months old. She puts her hand in her mouth a lot. My wife is trying to avoid this by removing her hands from her mouth. 2 minutes later she puts it again in her mouth! This is very ...
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When do kids stop holding their parent's hand?

At what age do kids stop holding their parent's hands? My 8 year old daughter ALWAYS holds my hand whilst outside. I don't mind, but my partner and older daughter (16) thinks she is too old to be ...
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How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?

Backstory: My 8 yr old son is a bright, gentle, etc, kid who attends public school. My wife and I have no TV, we disallow violent games (simulated killing is not allowed), we don't have video games, ...
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Laughs when being disobedient stuff (18 months)

Our daughter is 18 months old. When she does something that irritates or make me angry she laughs/get happy. For instance, when I sit by the laptop she comes by and push buttons on it. First, I say ...
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My 8yr old won't tie up her jacket when she is cold

My 8yr old daughter Gabrielle always wears a jacket, sometimes even when weather is glorious because she likes the waterproof jacket that her school issued her with. Now, if it is cold, raining ...
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How to deal with my 6 year old son is who “over attached” with a girl?

Here are some facts: * My son (1st grader) does not have any boys of his age to play with in my colony. Most of the boys are either too small or too big for him. * So, he has found friends with 3 ...
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What childhood incidents cause the children to be approval seeking when they become adults?

I realise that I am an approval seeker. Other people's opinions affect me a lot. I want to understand what kind of childhood incidents lead to such a behaviour in adulthood and what can I do better ...
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How to encourage my 3rd grade son to be more calm, respectful, and responsible?

I would like to ask two related questions: How can we encourage a child who is in 3rd grade with ADHD/ADD to do his own homework without relying on his mom? How can we teach him to behave more ...
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Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?

I pay my 5.5yo $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed. I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5 year old brother's Lego messes. Good or bad? ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Why is it that children seem to pick up and mimic even the tiniest examples violence on TV? It's like a golden beacon of what not to do and they seem to be just magnetized towards it. Let me try to ...
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Tackling the screaming/tantrum of a 6 month old boy

My 6 month old grandson wants to watch the the "VuVu" video while eating. So he starts to scream loudly and crazily, almost like e tanttrum, just to watch that while eating. Any suggestions as to how ...
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What can I do to increase the chance that my children will talk to me when disturbed?

Background My older children have mobile devices, and while they agree to allow us access to them and installation of software to permit us to review how they use the device with them, they also work ...
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6 yo too competitive for his own good

My colleague's 6 yo son has just started elementary school. He is a bright boy, however, very competitive , so much so that he started resisting going to school, even attending any activities, social ...
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4 year old seems suddenly uninterested in me

I have been separated from my childrens' father for nearly two years. I have custody of our two children, and he lives in a different city than us. Although it is a long haul for him to get to us, he ...
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Strategies for identified but unavoidable distractions

My 8-year-old son gets distracted very easily. We know what most of his triggers are, and usually deal with it by avoidance, but often avoidance is either unavoidable or undesirable. For example, ...
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At what age is it no longer appropriate for your child to be naked in public (e.g. on the beach)?

My 3½ year old son loves to be naked. He spends a lot of time running around naked in our garden on hot days. We went to the beach during the Summer, and- since we forgot to bring any swimming ...
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Can it be unhealthy to deprive a child of sugar?

My youngest son just turned five. For years he's had a relentless craving for sweets. He's constantly requesting/demanding sugary food and drinks If we walk by somebody eating anything in a wrapper, ...
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Single parent having behaviour issues with son (11) not wanting my partner around

My son is 11 and I have been single with him since he was 1 aside a few short-term relationships. His nature is that he wants to please, however he is also a strong character that can ben quite ...
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As a step parent, what should be my role in dealing with a volatile five year old?

About a year and a half ago I met a woman who was going to school full-time and raising a 5 year old little girl. I really just fell in love with both of them and we all bonded relatively quickly. We ...
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How can I help my 6 year old learn patience

My 6 year old daughter could use some help developing her ability to wait or be patient. Understanding that most of us, and especially children, could use help with that, she does need some help ...
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How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey Timmy, I ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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My 10 year old daughter punches her legs when she gets angry or doesn't get her way

When my daughter gets angry, she makes this mean looking face and then starts punching on her legs. Should I be concerned about this behavior? I do tell her to "stop it" and I would ask her, 'Why is ...
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When should a child stop using a pacifier, and how can I help with this transition?

I am curious how a child can be helped to move on from his/her pacifier, and what age is a good age to do this?
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My son not listening any words from me or wife [duplicate]

My boy, two years - nine months. We teach him good words, teach him to be polite to parents and even to anyone that he will meet. We always support him physically (buy/give things he wanted), and ...
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How to help a 12 year old adopted girl with anger management?

We are the parents of an adopted girl who is now 12. She has several emotional problems. In no particular order: She prefers cakes and biscuits to meat and veg. We suspect a sugar addiction. She ...
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How to prevent children from sucking their thumb?

My 4-years-old daughter still sucks her thumb while sleeping. How can help her stopping this habit? I have tried to give her a pacifier, but she refuses it. She does not have this habit during the ...
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What to do with my daughter being upset because her dad is not in her life.

OK. My daughter is 10 and the last time she saw her dad she was six. He would come and see her whenever he had time or when he wanted to show off to his friends that he is a dad. Anyways I got ...
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How competitive or forgiving to be when playing games against my own kids

When playing games against my own kids (sports, cards, board games), I am never sure how competitive should I be. I am asking this regarding to two issues: level of play and rules observance. Level ...
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What can you do when the child lives in three different homes with three different set of rules? It is a six almost seven year old girl

She is not doing well in school. She just started first grade and she is already having problems with behavior and academics. I'm trying rewarding her when she does what she is suppose to do. She has ...
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How do you handle poor behavior by other people's children?

I believe that interacting with a variety of other children at social functions is an important part of childhood development. However, there seem to be a lot of children who are... how shall I ...
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How to get my 16-year-old to understand that chores aren't that hard to complete?

My 16-year-old dreads taking out the garbage as well as other things that need to be done around the house. Every morning before school, I tell him not to forget to take the garbage out. He ...
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What to do about my 5 year old who is constantly in trouble?

My 5 year old boy is constantly in trouble at school. He is in his first year of kindergarten and the first week went great with no problems. After that he will not stop coming home with black remarks ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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4.5yo - self-deprecating talk

My 4.5 year old son has begun to say things like "I'm always a bad boy." and "I don't like myself." They only get said when there is already some upset happening, but I don't know whether that ...
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My 4 year old will not behave at school

I am a single mother of a very outgoing 4 1/2 year old. She has been in preschool since January. For the most part, she is a very well-behaved girl, but when she goes to school, there is nothing. She ...
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Is it normal for my 10 month old boy to lick my face

My 10 month old boy licks my face,especially my nose when i bring him close to my face. He does this only to me. But i am concerned. i tried to distract him when he licks but he thinks of it as fun ...
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What to do about 1 year old boy who keeps pulling hard at his penis and scrotum?

This has been going on a little while and the health visitor says its normal but we are a bit concerned about the force our child is using when he pulls at his penis, he really yanks it and it looks ...
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What are some suggestions for punishing a child?

My daughters are clearly pushing the boundaries lately. They are trying to find out what is possible. I am really looking into ways to setting the boundaries. A friend recently suggested creating a ...
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How can I deal with with other people's children taking items from my one-year-old?

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
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My 10 year old still urinates in bed? Is this caused by stress?

My 10 year old pees in the bed every now and then. Is this just a "I'm too lazy to get up and use the bathroom" issue or is this caused by stress?