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When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?

So, this question is inspired somewhat by Do we Need to help a baby learn to soothe itself? as well as my own experience with other people's children and my own. Many mothers are reluctant to let ...
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Improving a parent preference?

My wife and I arrived at my in-laws today at the end of a 3 day couple's retreat away from the kids (3yr8m boy and 1yr10m boy). We were both very excited to see the kids again and wondered if they ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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Why does my toddler pull hair to calm himself? How can I make him stop?

My 2 year old toddler loves to pull on hair. He pulls on mine and his own, usually to calm himself to sleep. He has always loved pulling hair - which most babies do, but he didn't stop. I tell him ...
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How to deal with incessant talking?

Our 4 year-old is constantly talking. This isn't your average pestering parents on a topic until they answer or you lose interest. He never loses interest and continually switches to any random ...
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Daughter saying whole sentences at home but not in kindergarten

My nearly 3 years old daughter is capable of saying whole sentences by now and using them nicely while at home with us. However the kindergarten staff claims she speaks very little and not capable of ...
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How do you address hoarding behavior in a primary-schooler?

Our 9 year old girl has a rather annoying habit. She tends to hoard things of emotional significance to her. Note that the wrapper from an ice-cream she has just had for the first time is considered ...
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6yo wears down people by dawdling and endless discussions - how can parents help?

A 6-years-old boy is very bright, intelligent and clever, but on the other hand he's very strong-minded and often like an absent-minded professor. The problems: he does not like other people to ...
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Motivation for my 25 year old daughter

How can I get my 25 year old daughter to be motivated to finish her degree, get a job and start looking after her appearance? She still behaves as if she is 15 years old. All she wants to do is ...
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My 5 year oldy son freaks over shower time!

My 5year old son freaks out about washing of any kind. He doesn't seem to be worried about going in the pool or bath but just mention that its shower/bath time he goes totally ballistic the temper ...
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Ways to convince a teenager to quit smoking

I'm 23 years old and I have a sister that is very soon turning 17. She lives with my parents and I live abroad for a couple of years now. My mother noticed that my sister started smoking around 1 ...
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How do I instil confidence when my child (aged 5 nearly 6) declines to read a book as 'too hard' when sent home from school as homework?

My daughter is 5 (nearly 6) and approaching the end of Kindergarten. She brings home three books to read every day for a week from school (new ones every week). Today she said: No I don't want to ...
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Guiding my child's behavior [closed]

My son is almost a year old. He's growing fast and there are a lot of behaviors in life that I'd like to help him avoid, while still giving him the knowledge of what these behaviors are. I'm worried ...
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Toddler does not want to fall asleep

My 2½ year old son does not want to sleep, regardless how tired he is. He will do anything and everything he can think of, just to avoid falling asleep. It usually takes 1-1½ hours (sometimes even ...
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How to deal with older sibling taking after the younger - toddler?

We have a lovely 4,5 year old boy who's learned to be independent in many daily actives (e.g. eating, getting dressed up, taking a shower (supervised)...). Until recently he's generally been acting as ...
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How can I get my 7 m/o to stop rubbing her eyes?

We have observed our 7 month old rubbing her eyes ever since we can remember. She does this especially when she's tired, but also when she's bored or starting to get frustrated. She'll oftentimes rub ...
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Kindergartner with no control over his emotions/behavior

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD. He has been kicked out of four different daycares starting when he was just 2 years old. He is now in Kindergarten, and my wife and I hoped that with his recent ...
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My 10 month old uses high pitched screaming to get what he wants…how do I change this behavior?

My 10 month old son screams (high pitch and loud) when: older sister takes away his toy when he wants our attention when he doesn't get his way when we've taken away something that we don't want him ...
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Cannot cope with my 12 year old bully

I am really struggling with my 12 year old. TBH we have always had problems but he is getting worse. He is nasty, calling me an idiot, retard. Just gone off to school and wrecked the kitchen by ...
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Extremely difficult 11 month old baby

I have an extremely fussy baby boy. He just turned 11 months old, while he's never been an "easy" baby, the past month he has been awful. He sleeps well and eats well, but when up all he does is cry ...
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Our 6 months old son wants to walk. Can this be problematic?

Our 6 months old son wants to walk and gets upset if either of us won't support him while he's doing so. He can't crawl yet, can't sit up without tipping over eventually, and he can't stand on his own....
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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Not going to anyone

My 18 month old kid is always with me and my wife. She never goes along with the neighbors or our relatives. My sister's kid is one month younger than my kid, and she plays with everybody while my kid ...
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How do I stop my parents' divorce? [duplicate]

I'm a new teen, and my parents have been fighting for like a month like five times a week. One of them leaves at night for like six hours, my mom says she doesn't think it's working out. They have ...
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How can I reach out to my 16-year-old son who has voiced he's depressed every day and doesn't love himself?

Last night my husband and I addressed a few things we discovered in my son's room being a concern. We are pretty strict parents and believe in corporal punishment especially since my son doesn't have ...
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My parents are interfering with my life in every way and I don't know how to stop it

I really need your help on this because it has become the only problem in my life. I came to my home country after studying in the US and I have changed my beliefs, built my own set of rules to live ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5 year old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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3 year old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3 year old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jeolous of the attention that her new baby ...
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Breaking 5 year olds tantrums [duplicate]

My 5 year old son has recently got into the habit of getting into these incredibly annoying tantrums. They start when he doesn't get his way and can often rumble on over a couple of hours. They ...
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How to keep the infant's hands out of mouth?

My daughter is 8 months old. She puts her hand in her mouth a lot. My wife is trying to avoid this by removing her hands from her mouth. 2 minutes later she puts it again in her mouth! This is very ...
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When do kids stop holding their parent's hand?

At what age do kids stop holding their parent's hands? My 8 year old daughter ALWAYS holds my hand whilst outside. I don't mind, but my partner and older daughter (16) thinks she is too old to be ...
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Laughs when being disobedient stuff (18 months)

Our daughter is 18 months old. When she does something that irritates or make me angry she laughs/get happy. For instance, when I sit by the laptop she comes by and push buttons on it. First, I say ...
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My 8yr old won't tie up her jacket when she is cold

My 8yr old daughter Gabrielle always wears a jacket, sometimes even when weather is glorious because she likes the waterproof jacket that her school issued her with. Now, if it is cold, raining ...
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How to deal with my 6 year old son is who “over attached” with a girl?

Here are some facts: * My son (1st grader) does not have any boys of his age to play with in my colony. Most of the boys are either too small or too big for him. * So, he has found friends with 3 ...
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What childhood incidents cause the children to be approval seeking when they become adults?

I realise that I am an approval seeker. Other people's opinions affect me a lot. I want to understand what kind of childhood incidents lead to such a behaviour in adulthood and what can I do better ...
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How to encourage my 3rd grade son to be more calm, respectful, and responsible?

I would like to ask two related questions: How can we encourage a child who is in 3rd grade with ADHD/ADD to do his own homework without relying on his mom? How can we teach him to behave more ...
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Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?

I pay my 5.5yo $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed. I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5 year old brother's Lego messes. Good or bad? ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Why is it that children seem to pick up and mimic even the tiniest examples violence on TV? It's like a golden beacon of what not to do and they seem to be just magnetized towards it. Let me try to ...
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Tackling the screaming/tantrum of a 6 month old boy

My 6 month old grandson wants to watch the the "VuVu" video while eating. So he starts to scream loudly and crazily, almost like e tanttrum, just to watch that while eating. Any suggestions as to how ...
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What can I do to increase the chance that my children will talk to me when disturbed?

Background My older children have mobile devices, and while they agree to allow us access to them and installation of software to permit us to review how they use the device with them, they also work ...
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6 yo too competitive for his own good

My colleague's 6 yo son has just started elementary school. He is a bright boy, however, very competitive , so much so that he started resisting going to school, even attending any activities, social ...
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4 year old seems suddenly uninterested in me

I have been separated from my childrens' father for nearly two years. I have custody of our two children, and he lives in a different city than us. Although it is a long haul for him to get to us, he ...
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Strategies for identified but unavoidable distractions

My 8-year-old son gets distracted very easily. We know what most of his triggers are, and usually deal with it by avoidance, but often avoidance is either unavoidable or undesirable. For example, ...
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At what age is it no longer appropriate for your child to be naked in public (e.g. on the beach)?

My 3½ year old son loves to be naked. He spends a lot of time running around naked in our garden on hot days. We went to the beach during the Summer, and- since we forgot to bring any swimming ...
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Can it be unhealthy to deprive a child of sugar?

My youngest son just turned five. For years he's had a relentless craving for sweets. He's constantly requesting/demanding sugary food and drinks If we walk by somebody eating anything in a wrapper, ...
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Single parent having behaviour issues with son (11) not wanting my partner around

My son is 11 and I have been single with him since he was 1 aside a few short-term relationships. His nature is that he wants to please, however he is also a strong character that can ben quite ...
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As a step parent, what should be my role in dealing with a volatile five year old?

About a year and a half ago I met a woman who was going to school full-time and raising a 5 year old little girl. I really just fell in love with both of them and we all bonded relatively quickly. We ...
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How can I help my 6 year old learn patience

My 6 year old daughter could use some help developing her ability to wait or be patient. Understanding that most of us, and especially children, could use help with that, she does need some help ...
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How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey Timmy, I ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...