Why do children act the way they do? Use [discipline] for questions about enforcing your rules.

learn more… | top users | synonyms (1)

5
votes
3answers
229 views

What to do with my daughter being upset because her dad is not in her life.

OK. My daughter is 10 and the last time she saw her dad she was six. He would come and see her whenever he had time or when he wanted to show off to his friends that he is a dad. Anyways I got ...
5
votes
2answers
205 views

How competitive or forgiving to be when playing games against my own kids

When playing games against my own kids (sports, cards, board games), I am never sure how competitive should I be. I am asking this regarding to two issues: level of play and rules observance. Level ...
2
votes
2answers
189 views

What can you do when the child lives in three different homes with three different set of rules? It is a six almost seven year old girl

She is not doing well in school. She just started first grade and she is already having problems with behavior and academics. I'm trying rewarding her when she does what she is suppose to do. She has ...
30
votes
3answers
7k views

How do you handle poor behavior by other people's children?

I believe that interacting with a variety of other children at social functions is an important part of childhood development. However, there seem to be a lot of children who are... how shall I ...
4
votes
4answers
342 views

How to get my 16-year-old to understand that chores aren't that hard to complete?

My 16-year-old dreads taking out the garbage as well as other things that need to be done around the house. Every morning before school, I tell him not to forget to take the garbage out. He ...
3
votes
3answers
281 views

What to do about my 5 year old who is constantly in trouble?

My 5 year old boy is constantly in trouble at school. He is in his first year of kindergarten and the first week went great with no problems. After that he will not stop coming home with black remarks ...
-2
votes
1answer
158 views
34
votes
4answers
6k views

Do most 2-3-year-old toddlers deliberately disobey?

We have two daughters, 2 and 3 years old, 13 months apart. Our oldest has over the past several months taken to the "I'd rather do precisely the opposite of what you just asked me to do" mindset. ...
-3
votes
7answers
7k views

I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
5
votes
3answers
786 views

Being a Step-mom to a troubled (or hurt) 5 year old

A Bit About Myself I am in my late 20's, and I am a fairly-new-mom. I have been married to my daughter's father for about a year now, but I have been around kids my entire life. I have always had ...
3
votes
3answers
307 views

4.5yo - self-deprecating talk

My 4.5 year old son has begun to say things like "I'm always a bad boy." and "I don't like myself." They only get said when there is already some upset happening, but I don't know whether that ...
6
votes
1answer
285 views

My 4 year old will not behave at school

I am a single mother of a very outgoing 4 1/2 year old. She has been in preschool since January. For the most part, she is a very well-behaved girl, but when she goes to school, there is nothing. She ...
3
votes
1answer
291 views

Is it normal for my 10 month old boy to lick my face

My 10 month old boy licks my face,especially my nose when i bring him close to my face. He does this only to me. But i am concerned. i tried to distract him when he licks but he thinks of it as fun ...
10
votes
3answers
3k views

What to do about 1 year old boy who keeps pulling hard at his penis and scrotum?

This has been going on a little while and the health visitor says its normal but we are a bit concerned about the force our child is using when he pulls at his penis, he really yanks it and it looks ...
32
votes
8answers
2k views

What are some suggestions for punishing a child?

My daughters are clearly pushing the boundaries lately. They are trying to find out what is possible. I am really looking into ways to setting the boundaries. A friend recently suggested creating a ...
8
votes
4answers
1k views

How can I deal with with other people's children taking items from my one-year-old?

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
1
vote
3answers
116 views

My 10 year old still urinates in bed? Is this caused by stress?

My 10 year old pees in the bed every now and then. Is this just a "I'm too lazy to get up and use the bathroom" issue or is this caused by stress?
5
votes
3answers
7k views

Why is my daughter pulling at her ear when she is eating?

I've read that this can happen during teething, and she is now 4 months. Thing is, she doesn't have any teeth and isn't really showing the signs in full force yet. She's not in any discomfort than I ...
4
votes
3answers
425 views

My grandson only likes girl toys

My 4 year old grandson will only play with girl toys. My daughter and husband criticize me for allowing it. His birthday was last week and my sisters and I took him to the toy store to let him pick ...
2
votes
1answer
392 views

6 year old, being sexually active. [duplicate]

First time I walked in he's bedroom, he was playing with my friends niece, he was for 4 and my friends niece was 2, he had her pinned down on the bed kneeling on her arms, as she was screaming. ...
14
votes
2answers
615 views

Should imaginary friends be accepted or discouraged?

As a professional working with families, I am often asked about imaginary friends. I never experienced this behavior with my own son so I have little personal information to share. One child ...
11
votes
2answers
1k views

What role do imaginary friends play in a child's development?

My son, currently three-and-a-half, has taken to making constant references to his "brother," who is apparently a wealthy businessman and property owner (he apparently owns several stores that sell ...
1
vote
3answers
1k views

Is it common for a toddler boy to wiggle his fingers in front of his eyes?

Our three-year-old son has a habit of wiggling his fingers in front of his eyes/face. Is this common for a toddler? I previously asked whether arranging toy cars in a line or crying when things are ...
10
votes
4answers
8k views

Why do toddler boys love trains and cars so much?

My two-year-old loves trains. He really loves trains, especially steam engines, like Thomas. Many other parents have said that their boys love (or loved) trains, and I can remember being enamoured ...
9
votes
1answer
195 views

how to deal with complete meltdown for simple everyday tasks with my 4 year old

My 4 year old girl has been progressively worsening with meltdown-tantrums with simple daily tasks like wearing clothes, shoes, underwear. . . She has always been particular with things on her body, ...
12
votes
5answers
56k views

When should an infant stop sucking on her hands?

My little girl about 3 months old and she already mouths quite frequently on her hands. Should we try to discourage this behavior now (by pulling her hand away when we find her doing it), or wait ...
19
votes
10answers
80k views

My 5 year- old daughter is constantly defiant!

My 5-year old daughter is very defiant. It started getting bad about 6 months ago. She doesn't do what she is told, and any time she hears the word "no" she throws terrible, dramatic fits, screaming ...
2
votes
1answer
171 views

Do newborns recognize their own cry?

I wonder if a newborn can recognize his/her own cry. Yesterday I did a little "experiment" with my four weeks old daughter: I recorded her cry for a while. Once she was relaxed again, I reproduced ...
4
votes
4answers
14k views

Discipline hyperactive 3 year old

I have a three year old son who is just awesome. He is advanced intellectually, loving, and he seems very empathetic. He does extremely well in daycare (it is at least an above average daycare), ...
6
votes
4answers
788 views

When do babies start understanding a kiss?

Sometimes my two weeks old daughter starts crying and crying. Apart from checking her basic needs (food, poo, pee...), I sometimes hold her and kiss on the cheek together with a soft hug. However, I ...
7
votes
2answers
517 views

My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening ...
2
votes
1answer
262 views

My 1 yr old gets excited and grabs and scratches peoples face HARD

My 1 yr old gets excited and grabs and scratches peoples face HARD. He also grunts all the time, enough to make his face red and then he laughs like its a joke. He does not say any words yet, is this ...
8
votes
6answers
44k views

Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem?

I understand that temper tantrums are relatively normal for many children. However, some children seem to have far more temper tantrums than other children their age, and others far fewer. Can ...
4
votes
3answers
23k views

How can I get my three year old to stop sucking his fingers?

My three and a half year old son recently started sucking his fingers and sometimes his clothing. When I point it out to him he takes his fingers out of his mouth, but they are soon back in. I can't ...
2
votes
0answers
168 views

4 yo son pursues sex with mom [duplicate]

A 4 yo boy says things to his mother like "lets do love, mommy" He lays on her in the missionary position, rubs where her nipples are under her bra and says "I love love mommy, do love with me" (to ...
2
votes
3answers
228 views

Behavior changes after social events

My eight year-old son just spent a week at cub scout day camp (home in the evenings), after which he has been lying extensively. He has had problems with extensive lying before, but had mostly gotten ...
9
votes
4answers
990 views

What to do if my kids would not listen to my reasoning?

I have a boy, 10 years old. I think he is quite smart and can understand all the reasoning as good as any intelligent adults. Unfortunately, he can be quite difficult to deal with. He has some bad ...
3
votes
2answers
189 views

How to take passport pictures of a baby?

My two weeks old daughter needs a passport and, for this, we need a picture of her. Since we struggle to get a good angle of her for our own, private pictures, it seems to be even more complicated to ...
6
votes
3answers
575 views

8 year old punishes himself for bad behaviour

My 8 year old step-son is still rather sensitive for his age, and sometimes takes being disciplined very hard. When he genuinely feels bad about something he's done wrong and we tell him off, he will ...
7
votes
2answers
565 views

My 6-year-old has angry outbursts, possibly related to a newborn sibling. How can we help her?

Our six-year-old daughter is the eldest of 3 girls: her sisters are 3 years, and 3 months respectively. At varying points during the day she will flare up with rage; the triggers can be play-related ...
10
votes
4answers
42k views

How can I deal with my 12-year old son's rebellious behaviour?

My son is a very loving child and fun to be with usually....ever since he turned 12 he is suddenly the resident expert in the house on anything from how to drive a car to how become president. You ...
2
votes
3answers
674 views

10 year old refuses to go to bed

Our 10 year old stepdaughter has trouble going to bed at night. She refuses to go to bed, and fights us very hard, to the point where our only hope of her going to bed is to physically pick her up and ...
0
votes
2answers
519 views

My 11 year old son is weird [closed]

My son is going going to be turning 12 in a couple of weeks and I have noticed he is into unusual things and I find it disturbing. He enjoys movies like The Godfather, and A Clockwork Orange. He ...
4
votes
2answers
145 views

How to mediate between my spouse and stepchild and help our family develop a healthier relationship?

I have been with my wife for about six years. She has a daughter, currently age 11, from her first marriage who has lived with us during almost all of that time (sometimes stays with her father, but ...
3
votes
6answers
2k views

Is this strange behavior for a 5-year-old?

I am asking about my stepson. I don't have any children of my own, but to me his behavior seems bizarre. He talks constantly and will say the same thing several times using different words. For ...
4
votes
3answers
1k views

My 4.5yr-old girl is afraid of death. What should I do?

Last night my wife (as usual) was putting our 4.5yr-old baby girl to sleep. Our daughter becomes very chatty at that time and (especially in the presence of mom) expresses thoughts and things that ...
11
votes
6answers
941 views

Teaching perseverance and planning

My eight year-old has an issue with perseverance and planning. We thought playing minecraft would help. If you're not familiar with minecraft, it's a game where you gather resources to build things, ...
15
votes
3answers
4k views

What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?

My 4-year-old son tends to default to saying no changes in activity (even if he is clearly no longer interested in the current activity). Overall he is helpful, considerate, and will do things we ask ...
7
votes
3answers
528 views

How do I address lack of tact in a 4 year old?

This morning, I dropped my son off at pre-school, and he introduced me to one of his new friends. He then, loudly, and right in front of this friend, proceeded to explain how this child "gets upset ...
11
votes
3answers
769 views

14 yo daughter broke her friendship due to Homosexuality?

How to help my daughter understand that being a lesbian or Gay is as normal and acceptable as having a straight orientation? I have a 14 year old step daughter who has come here 20 days back to visit ...