Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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How to deal with incessant talking?

Our 4 year-old is constantly talking. This isn't your average pestering parents on a topic until they answer or you lose interest. He never loses interest and continually switches to any random ...
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How can I help my child to stay still?

My 3 year old son is generally very well behaved and plays well with others. However, he just wont sit still when we need him to. He is good at staying still when he is focused on something, but as ...
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How do you operate a successful “Star Chart”?

So, one of the techniques for improving behaviour that you often hear about is the "star chart". You put the focus on good behaviour by adding stars (I nearly said "badges") for the good stuff and ...
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6 yo smothers his food in sauce — how can I change this?

My son likes salad cream -- alot. He tends to use loads of it and I'm concerned that he's not actually tasting anything new. It's not allowed on every meal, but when it's out it's all over everything ...
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Is complimenting children where they can hear it good or bad?

TL;DR: Is there anything wrong with praising children to their parents while the children can hear it? From R. Kipling's "The jungle book": ‘How beautiful are the noble children! How large are ...
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20 yo daughter left home to live with a “bad” girl - what should I do?

My daughter of 20 left home a week ago when I found out she had been seeing a friend I disapprove of completely. Countless arguments, violence, police, stealing, and lying are some of this girls ...
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Why won't our infant stop crying when in the car seat?

We have a 2-month-old baby that will start crying as soon as we put her in the car seat and absolutely will not stop until she is out of it. She could be fed and asleep with a new diaper before the ...
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Any suggestions on how to control yelling and negativity on our part, and also teach my 8 yr old son to not feel so helpless and cry so easily?

This is about my 8-year old son, who cries easily and helplessly, mostly in response to our enforcing discipline and routine or refusing things he wants. I understand that he should not expect to be ...
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How can I deal with my 12-year old son's rebellious behaviour?

My son is a very loving child and fun to be with usually....ever since he turned 12 he is suddenly the resident expert in the house on anything from how to drive a car to how become president. You ...
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What to do when my 3-year-old holds poop in and won't go in diaper or on potty?

My son is almost 3 (33 months) and for the past few months, he has been holding his poop in, to the point that he won't go for many days a time. When this started, the doctor advised us to give him ...
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Preschooler can't sing, but sings anyway - loudly!

My 3½ year old has never had any sense of music, rhythm, notes, or anything resembling the musical arts. (Motor skills is where he truly excels; he's a sports person, not a musician.) Recently, he ...
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Relatives' son is awful. What is another option?

Background: While my wife and I provide an independent, creative and supporting environment for our kids, we also work very to hard to demonstrate "predictable consequences" for any behavior be it ...
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How to prevent children from sucking their thumb?

My 4-years-old daughter still sucks her thumb while sleeping. How can help her stopping this habit? I have tried to give her a pacifier, but she refuses it. She does not have this habit during the ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

I would like some help on how to deal with an 8 year old boy, who is refusing to go number 2's in the toilet and does them in his pants and then won't go and clean himself up. I have talked to him ...
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difficult toddler

I have a three year old who just love to push my buttons. I'm a single mom who has him every night but while I work he goes to his fathers. His dad says he tried to follow the same discipline and naps ...
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9 year old has uncontrollable raging fits

We have 4 kids, aged 9, 6, 4 and 20 months. boy, girl, boy girl. The nine year old boy is in general a delightful, well-behaved, kind and considerate boy. Sometimes he becomes so overwhelmed by his ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?

How can you best handle this? Coming off as too strong and authoritative might invite "rebellion". Too lenient makes it seem okay. What is the best response for driving home the dangers and risks ...
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How do you moderate a teenager's obsessive or excessive behavior?

We're not dealing with teenagers yet but I would really like to avoid this kind of outburst. How have parents with teenagers been able to find/establish a balance for their children to not be so ...
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How do I stop my daughters severe destructive as well as hoarding behaviors?

My daughter is 7 years old and she has a few very extreme behaviors. She destroys just about everything she owns as well as going after my things. She is hoarding, not only toys and such but garbage ...
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What role do imaginary friends play in a child's development?

My son, currently three-and-a-half, has taken to making constant references to his "brother," who is apparently a wealthy businessman and property owner (he apparently owns several stores that sell ...
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Why do infants flail their arms?

I've noticed that with most infants (say, around 6 months old, give or take), when presented with an object, there are 3 main things that they'll do with it: look at it put it in their mouth hold it ...
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How to effectively balance respect for authority with independence and self-determination

We just had our second parent-teacher conference with our almost-four year old's preschool teacher (he's in a Montessori school, that follows the technique well, mostly), and among other things, ...
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How much ipad time do most kids get? [duplicate]

I'm a mother of 2, ages 3 and 10. I am worried that my youngest child is spending as much time, sometimes more time, on the iPad than my eldest. The iPad seems ideal when I am busy and the kids are ...
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teenage child with severe daily temper tantrums and whining

My 13 year old daughter has severe and daily outbursts - sometimes as many as 10 a day - from time she gets up till time she goes to bed. This has been going on since she was of walking and talking ...
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How Should I React to an Indecisive Toddler?

I'm looking for anyone who might have had experience with an indecisive toddler. It happens mostly when tired but I'll ask him if he wants something and he will say no. Then when I go to put it away ...
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How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?

My 9 year old girl is currently going through a phase where she isn't getting her homework done by herself. I'm trying to find the right balance between encouraging her to get her homework done, yet, ...
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?

My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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How do I get my child to stop picking his nose?

My son picks his nose and, yes, eats it. How can I get this to stop?
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How can I handle a child that claims medical problems as a bad excuse?

I have 3 kids who seem to use medical reasons for excuses, most often to not go to bed. For instance, my 7 year old periodically "Can't move" at bed time to get to his bed, but when he gets in there, ...
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How can you turn back the clock?

My eldest son and I have had a difficult relationship for some time. I have changed a great deal in terms of how I parent him, and I know I was far too strict towards him from years ago. He is ...
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How do I teach my toddler not to abuse animals?

We have two dogs and two cats, and our son loves to interact with them, but his form of interacting is not particularly enjoyable to the animals... Some of the things he does are just annoying, like ...
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Please help with defiant, stubborn and abusive 5yr old

I have a 5yr old boy who is beyond bad. We have tried everything from talking to spanking to taking stuff away to rewarding the good and are at our wits end. He is abusive to animals, at least 4 ...
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What kind of impact have parental quarrels on children?

What kind of impact (permanent or temporary) can parental quarrels have over a child on the short-term and on the long-term? I wish to know if some studies have been done on the matter. Answers with ...
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How to go about regaining the trust of my child?

Having experienced parental alienation syndrome, my child is very reticent and unresponsive to my attempts in rebuilding our relationship. The condition is very much like sulking, but with an ...
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Different discipline approaches by working mommy and stay-home daddy

I work at home (although me being independent is almost a euphemism for being unemployed). My wife is the primary breadwinner in our household. My wife is also currently under a lot of stress, as ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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How can I get my 7 m/o to stop rubbing her eyes?

We have observed our 7 month old rubbing her eyes ever since we can remember. She does this especially when she's tired, but also when she's bored or starting to get frustrated. She'll oftentimes rub ...
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14 yo daughter broke her friendship due to Homosexuality?

How to help my daughter understand that being a lesbian or Gay is as normal and acceptable as having a straight orientation? I have a 14 year old step daughter who has come here 20 days back to visit ...
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How to change a one track mind?

My daughter is eight years old, but due to her cerebral palsy, she has the approximate mentality of a three year-old. She also has an extreme need for routine. Most of the time that isn't an issue ...
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is my 10 year old just playing up or is it a warning that self harm is starting?

My 10 year old daughter is going through a difficult time at the moment thinking that she is overweight and that nobody loves her, she has cut her own fringe off twice and has now got hold of my razor ...
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Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten

Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. He is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing I do will stop his behaviour. He has hurt other students and his ...
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How strict should we be with our 14 month old boy?

Our baby is really sweet :) Generally can be considered as a good / easy going baby. There are times though, when he gets totally out of control. I've had a discussion with a child-psychologist who ...
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What to do if my kids would not listen to my reasoning?

I have a boy, 10 years old. I think he is quite smart and can understand all the reasoning as good as any intelligent adults. Unfortunately, he can be quite difficult to deal with. He has some bad ...
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My pre-schooler does not listen to anything I say or do!

I have a five year old that is out of control. If I ask him to sit down and relax (because we live in a one bedroom apartment), its very frustrating because I repeatedly have to say it to him. If ...
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Is it considered harmful in the longer run to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want?

Not sure if there is a cultural difference. In our family it is considered normal to frighten the child so that he behaves the way we want. Example- Parent: Eat that quickly or the God will punish ...
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How to get my sister to use correct spelling while typing on computer?

I am sure that I am treading on eggshells here as this is a matter of opinion, but please do read on. I absolutely resent when people use incorrect spelling for 90% of their words, on purpose. My ...
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Why do toddler boys love trains and cars so much?

My two-year-old loves trains. He really loves trains, especially steam engines, like Thomas. Many other parents have said that their boys love (or loved) trains, and I can remember being enamoured ...
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Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?

My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
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How to stop my 8 year old from crying every time she's frustrated?

My 8 year old daughters is usually very good. But in the last few months she has started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

After some reading, I understand that dropping stuff is a natural part of baby's development. What I couldn't find after some research, was whether or not I should keep giving the objects that he ...