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How do I instil confidence when my child (aged 5 nearly 6) declines to read a book as 'too hard' when sent home from school as homework?

My daughter is 5 (nearly 6) and approaching the end of Kindergarten. She brings home three books to read every day for a week from school (new ones every week). Today she said: No I don't want to ...
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Guiding my child's behavior [closed]

My son is almost a year old. He's growing fast and there are a lot of behaviors in life that I'd like to help him avoid, while still giving him the knowledge of what these behaviors are. I'm worried ...
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My daughter is having sex with her cousin

I walked in on my 14 year old daughter is having sex with her 14 year old cousin. It happened in my sister's house in her double bed. I wasn't sure on how I should react but I told my sister and she ...
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Toddler does not want to fall asleep

My 2½ year old son does not want to sleep, regardless how tired he is. He will do anything and everything he can think of, just to avoid falling asleep. It usually takes 1-1½ hours (sometimes even ...
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How to deal with older sibling taking after the younger - toddler?

We have a lovely 4,5 year old boy who's learned to be independent in many daily actives (e.g. eating, getting dressed up, taking a shower (supervised)...). Until recently he's generally been acting as ...
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How can I get my 7 m/o to stop rubbing her eyes?

We have observed our 7 month old rubbing her eyes ever since we can remember. She does this especially when she's tired, but also when she's bored or starting to get frustrated. She'll oftentimes rub ...
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Kindergartner with no control over his emotions/behavior

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD. He has been kicked out of four different daycares starting when he was just 2 years old. He is now in Kindergarten, and my wife and I hoped that with his recent ...
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My 10 month old uses high pitched screaming to get what he wants…how do I change this behavior?

My 10 month old son screams (high pitch and loud) when: older sister takes away his toy when he wants our attention when he doesn't get his way when we've taken away something that we don't want him ...
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Cannot cope with my 12 year old bully

I am really struggling with my 12 year old. TBH we have always had problems but he is getting worse. He is nasty, calling me an idiot, retard. Just gone off to school and wrecked the kitchen by ...
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Extremely difficult 11 month old baby

I have an extremely fussy baby boy. He just turned 11 months old, while he's never been an "easy" baby, the past month he has been awful. He sleeps well and eats well, but when up all he does is cry ...
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Our 6 months old son wants to walk. Can this be problematic?

Our 6 months old son wants to walk and gets upset if either of us won't support him while he's doing so. He can't crawl yet, can't sit up without tipping over eventually, and he can't stand on his ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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Not going to anyone

My 18 month old kid is always with me and my wife. She never goes along with the neighbors or our relatives. My sister's kid is one month younger than my kid, and she plays with everybody while my kid ...
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How do I stop my parents' divorce? [duplicate]

I'm a new teen, and my parents have been fighting for like a month like five times a week. One of them leaves at night for like six hours, my mom says she doesn't think it's working out. They have ...
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My 2 month old daughter is trying to stand; can this be harmful?

This is about my second daughter, who is now 2 months old and happily smiling at me ^_^ An awful lot has happened with my 1st daughter since she was born...I've forgotten quite a bit about the ages ...
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How can I reach out to my 16-year-old son who has voiced he's depressed every day and doesn't love himself?

Last night my husband and I addressed a few things we discovered in my son's room being a concern. We are pretty strict parents and believe in corporal punishment especially since my son doesn't have ...
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My parents are interfering with my life in every way and I don't know how to stop it

I really need your help on this because it has become the only problem in my life. I came to my home country after studying in the US and I have changed my beliefs, built my own set of rules to live ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5 year old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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3 year old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3 year old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jeolous of the attention that her new baby ...
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Breaking 5 year olds tantrums [duplicate]

My 5 year old son has recently got into the habit of getting into these incredibly annoying tantrums. They start when he doesn't get his way and can often rumble on over a couple of hours. They ...
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How to keep the infant's hands out of mouth?

My daughter is 8 months old. She puts her hand in her mouth a lot. My wife is trying to avoid this by removing her hands from her mouth. 2 minutes later she puts it again in her mouth! This is very ...
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When do kids stop holding their parent's hand?

At what age do kids stop holding their parent's hands? My 8 year old daughter ALWAYS holds my hand whilst outside. I don't mind, but my partner and older daughter (16) thinks she is too old to be ...
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How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?

Backstory: My 8 yr old son is a bright, gentle, etc, kid who attends public school. My wife and I have no TV, we disallow violent games (simulated killing is not allowed), we don't have video games, ...
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Laughs when being disobedient stuff (18 months)

Our daughter is 18 months old. When she does something that irritates or make me angry she laughs/get happy. For instance, when I sit by the laptop she comes by and push buttons on it. First, I say ...
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My 8yr old won't tie up her jacket when she is cold

My 8yr old daughter Gabrielle always wears a jacket, sometimes even when weather is glorious because she likes the waterproof jacket that her school issued her with. Now, if it is cold, raining ...
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How to deal with my 6 year old son is who “over attached” with a girl?

Here are some facts: * My son (1st grader) does not have any boys of his age to play with in my colony. Most of the boys are either too small or too big for him. * So, he has found friends with 3 ...
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Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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What childhood incidents cause the children to be approval seeking when they become adults?

I realise that I am an approval seeker. Other people's opinions affect me a lot. I want to understand what kind of childhood incidents lead to such a behaviour in adulthood and what can I do better ...
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How to encourage my 3rd grade son to be more calm, respectful, and responsible?

I would like to ask two related questions: How can we encourage a child who is in 3rd grade with ADHD/ADD to do his own homework without relying on his mom? How can we teach him to behave more ...
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teenage child with severe daily temper tantrums and whining

My 13 year old daughter has severe and daily outbursts - sometimes as many as 10 a day - from time she gets up till time she goes to bed. This has been going on since she was of walking and talking ...
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Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?

I pay my 5.5yo $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed. I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5 year old brother's Lego messes. Good or bad? ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Why is it that children seem to pick up and mimic even the tiniest examples violence on TV? It's like a golden beacon of what not to do and they seem to be just magnetized towards it. Let me try to ...
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Tackling the screaming/tantrum of a 6 month old boy

My 6 month old grandson wants to watch the the "VuVu" video while eating. So he starts to scream loudly and crazily, almost like e tanttrum, just to watch that while eating. Any suggestions as to how ...
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My 4 year old daughter doesn't love her Dad and sometimes rejects him

My daughter (4) is very close to me. She wants everything from me, and I certainly do her whatever she wants (within limits), however sometimes I tell her ask her Dad to do. When she does ask him, ...
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What can I do to increase the chance that my children will talk to me when disturbed?

Background My older children have mobile devices, and while they agree to allow us access to them and installation of software to permit us to review how they use the device with them, they also work ...
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6 yo too competitive for his own good

My colleague's 6 yo son has just started elementary school. He is a bright boy, however, very competitive , so much so that he started resisting going to school, even attending any activities, social ...
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4 year old seems suddenly uninterested in me

I have been separated from my childrens' father for nearly two years. I have custody of our two children, and he lives in a different city than us. Although it is a long haul for him to get to us, he ...
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Strategies for identified but unavoidable distractions

My 8-year-old son gets distracted very easily. We know what most of his triggers are, and usually deal with it by avoidance, but often avoidance is either unavoidable or undesirable. For example, ...
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At what age is it no longer appropriate for your child to be naked in public (e.g. on the beach)?

My 3½ year old son loves to be naked. He spends a lot of time running around naked in our garden on hot days. We went to the beach during the Summer, and- since we forgot to bring any swimming ...
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Can it be unhealthy to deprive a child of sugar?

My youngest son just turned five. For years he's had a relentless craving for sweets. He's constantly requesting/demanding sugary food and drinks If we walk by somebody eating anything in a wrapper, ...
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Single parent having behaviour issues with son (11) not wanting my partner around

My son is 11 and I have been single with him since he was 1 aside a few short-term relationships. His nature is that he wants to please, however he is also a strong character that can ben quite ...
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As a step parent, what should be my role in dealing with a volatile five year old?

About a year and a half ago I met a woman who was going to school full-time and raising a 5 year old little girl. I really just fell in love with both of them and we all bonded relatively quickly. We ...
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How can I help my 6 year old learn patience

My 6 year old daughter could use some help developing her ability to wait or be patient. Understanding that most of us, and especially children, could use help with that, she does need some help ...
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How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey Timmy, I ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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My 10 year old daughter punches her legs when she gets angry or doesn't get her way

When my daughter gets angry, she makes this mean looking face and then starts punching on her legs. Should I be concerned about this behavior? I do tell her to "stop it" and I would ask her, 'Why is ...
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When should a child stop using a pacifier, and how can I help with this transition?

I am curious how a child can be helped to move on from his/her pacifier, and what age is a good age to do this?
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My son not listening any words from me or wife [duplicate]

My boy, two years - nine months. We teach him good words, teach him to be polite to parents and even to anyone that he will meet. We always support him physically (buy/give things he wanted), and ...
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How to help a 12 year old adopted girl with anger management?

We are the parents of an adopted girl who is now 12. She has several emotional problems. In no particular order: She prefers cakes and biscuits to meat and veg. We suspect a sugar addiction. She ...
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How to prevent children from sucking their thumb?

My 4-years-old daughter still sucks her thumb while sleeping. How can help her stopping this habit? I have tried to give her a pacifier, but she refuses it. She does not have this habit during the ...