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2.5 years toddler who refuse to open eyes for hours

I have a 2.5 years old toddler girl who has recently started full day childcare and there were a couple of instances where she refused to open her eyes for hours - this usually happens when she throws ...
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Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?

During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
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34 month old refuses to swallow or spit out food

He refuses to swallow or spit out his food. We are at a loss on how to combat this issue as he won't just hold it in his mouth for half n hour. We are talking 3 HOURS + HERE! The only reason he spat ...
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12 year old boy has defeated behavior management program (Kazdin method)

I am in a six year relationship with a woman who has two kids, a girl who is 15, and a boy who is 12. We have moved a lot, the child's father has been incarcerated for most of the child's life. He ...
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My 6 year old is beyond control [closed]

My son is a young 6 year old first grader (he just makes the cut). Last year I had a horrible time in kindergarden because his teacher refused to help me with his behaviour. This year his teacher is ...
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What to do about my infant who sucks his thumb constantly?

My 5 month baby boy is always sucking on his thumb non stop. Is it okay for him to do it while he's asleep? I try to take it away and he just wont let me. Sometimes he makes him self sick so I am ...
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My 4 year old keeps telling me she peed herself but she's dry?

I'm at a complete loss. She's potty trained and all is well. But recently she keeps moaning and complaining she peed in her underwear but upon checking, she's completely dry. This is an ongoing thing ...
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Fist up nose. Why does this happen

My 8 week old son tries to fit his fist up his nose ( thats what it looks like). He makes a fist and forcefully pushes it toward his nose or just to the sides or under, shaking his head and making a ...
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How can you turn back the clock?

My eldest son and I have had a difficult relationship for some time. I have changed a great deal in terms of how I parent him, and I know I was far too strict towards him from years ago. He is ...
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How to deal with my 5 year old son who has ADD/ADHD and constantly misbehaves?

Let me start by giving a little background history of us. We live in Texas. I WAS a single mom up until 10 months ago. From the age of 9 months until 3 months ago I was the only one caring for and ...
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Should I really be insisting that my daughter finish eating her meal?

Like many young children, my 4.5 year old daughter will often stop eating her supper (6 PMish - she has breakfast and lunch at daycare) and say she's not hungry. My instinctive initial response is to ...
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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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Is this behavior (nipple pushing and other behaviors) a problem?

We have a 2 year old son. He is our first child. Recently we've started noticing some weird behavior. Below are the behaviors we have observed. When he is with me, sometimes he lifts my shirt and ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and I have heard reports of inappropriate behavior from her friends

My daughter has been spending a lot of time with her new boyfriend, to the point it is making her other friends uncomfortable. While I had told my daughter as long as she could be responsible and ...
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Getting child to focus

I have an 8 year old daughter that has a hard time focusing in everything she does. Don't get me wrong, she can focus when she wants to and if it's something that's she is interested in. The other ...
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How do you teach a toddler how to wait?

My toddler (21 months old), like most, is not a very patient person. For example, when it's dinner time, she wants to sit in her high chair and begins whining and complaining tearfully while her food ...
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When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?

So, this question is inspired somewhat by Do we Need to help a baby learn to soothe itself? as well as my own experience with other people's children and my own. Many mothers are reluctant to let ...
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Improving a parent preference?

My wife and I arrived at my in-laws today at the end of a 3 day couple's retreat away from the kids (3yr8m boy and 1yr10m boy). We were both very excited to see the kids again and wondered if they ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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How do I get my 4yo to stop repeating himself all the time, and to respect a quiet time?

My 4 yo has been showing a rather annoying and obsessive behavior for the past 6 months or so, in that: he repeats himself all the time, and won't take no for an answer in some circumstances. ...
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Why does my toddler pull hair to calm himself? How can I make him stop?

My 2 year old toddler loves to pull on hair. He pulls on mine and his own, usually to calm himself to sleep. He has always loved pulling hair - which most babies do, but he didn't stop. I tell him ...
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How to deal with incessant talking?

Our 4 year-old is constantly talking. This isn't your average pestering parents on a topic until they answer or you lose interest. He never loses interest and continually switches to any random ...
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Daughter saying whole sentences at home but not in kindergarten

My nearly 3 years old daughter is capable of saying whole sentences by now and using them nicely while at home with us. However the kindergarten staff claims she speaks very little and not capable of ...
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How do you address hoarding behavior in a primary-schooler?

Our 9 year old girl has a rather annoying habit. She tends to hoard things of emotional significance to her. Note that the wrapper from an ice-cream she has just had for the first time is considered ...
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6yo wears down people by dawdling and endless discussions - how can parents help?

A 6-years-old boy is very bright, intelligent and clever, but on the other hand he's very strong-minded and often like an absent-minded professor. The problems: he does not like other people to ...
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Motivation for my 25 year old daughter

How can I get my 25 year old daughter to be motivated to finish her degree, get a job and start looking after her appearance? She still behaves as if she is 15 years old. All she wants to do is ...
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My 5 year oldy son freaks over shower time!

My 5year old son freaks out about washing of any kind. He doesn't seem to be worried about going in the pool or bath but just mention that its shower/bath time he goes totally ballistic the temper ...
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Ways to convince a teenager to quit smoking

I'm 23 years old and I have a sister that is very soon turning 17. She lives with my parents and I live abroad for a couple of years now. My mother noticed that my sister started smoking around 1 ...
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How do I instil confidence when my child (aged 5 nearly 6) declines to read a book as 'too hard' when sent home from school as homework?

My daughter is 5 (nearly 6) and approaching the end of Kindergarten. She brings home three books to read every day for a week from school (new ones every week). Today she said: No I don't want to ...
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Guiding my child's behavior [closed]

My son is almost a year old. He's growing fast and there are a lot of behaviors in life that I'd like to help him avoid, while still giving him the knowledge of what these behaviors are. I'm worried ...
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My daughter is having sex with her cousin

I walked in on my 14 year old daughter is having sex with her 14 year old cousin. It happened in my sister's house in her double bed. I wasn't sure on how I should react but I told my sister and she ...
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Toddler does not want to fall asleep

My 2½ year old son does not want to sleep, regardless how tired he is. He will do anything and everything he can think of, just to avoid falling asleep. It usually takes 1-1½ hours (sometimes even ...
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How to deal with older sibling taking after the younger - toddler?

We have a lovely 4,5 year old boy who's learned to be independent in many daily actives (e.g. eating, getting dressed up, taking a shower (supervised)...). Until recently he's generally been acting as ...
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How can I get my 7 m/o to stop rubbing her eyes?

We have observed our 7 month old rubbing her eyes ever since we can remember. She does this especially when she's tired, but also when she's bored or starting to get frustrated. She'll oftentimes rub ...
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Kindergartner with no control over his emotions/behavior

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD. He has been kicked out of four different daycares starting when he was just 2 years old. He is now in Kindergarten, and my wife and I hoped that with his recent ...
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My 10 month old uses high pitched screaming to get what he wants…how do I change this behavior?

My 10 month old son screams (high pitch and loud) when: older sister takes away his toy when he wants our attention when he doesn't get his way when we've taken away something that we don't want him ...
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Cannot cope with my 12 year old bully

I am really struggling with my 12 year old. TBH we have always had problems but he is getting worse. He is nasty, calling me an idiot, retard. Just gone off to school and wrecked the kitchen by ...
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Extremely difficult 11 month old baby

I have an extremely fussy baby boy. He just turned 11 months old, while he's never been an "easy" baby, the past month he has been awful. He sleeps well and eats well, but when up all he does is cry ...
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Our 6 months old son wants to walk. Can this be problematic?

Our 6 months old son wants to walk and gets upset if either of us won't support him while he's doing so. He can't crawl yet, can't sit up without tipping over eventually, and he can't stand on his ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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Not going to anyone

My 18 month old kid is always with me and my wife. She never goes along with the neighbors or our relatives. My sister's kid is one month younger than my kid, and she plays with everybody while my kid ...
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How do I stop my parents' divorce? [duplicate]

I'm a new teen, and my parents have been fighting for like a month like five times a week. One of them leaves at night for like six hours, my mom says she doesn't think it's working out. They have ...
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How can I reach out to my 16-year-old son who has voiced he's depressed every day and doesn't love himself?

Last night my husband and I addressed a few things we discovered in my son's room being a concern. We are pretty strict parents and believe in corporal punishment especially since my son doesn't have ...
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My parents are interfering with my life in every way and I don't know how to stop it

I really need your help on this because it has become the only problem in my life. I came to my home country after studying in the US and I have changed my beliefs, built my own set of rules to live ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5 year old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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3 year old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3 year old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jeolous of the attention that her new baby ...
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Breaking 5 year olds tantrums [duplicate]

My 5 year old son has recently got into the habit of getting into these incredibly annoying tantrums. They start when he doesn't get his way and can often rumble on over a couple of hours. They ...
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How to keep the infant's hands out of mouth?

My daughter is 8 months old. She puts her hand in her mouth a lot. My wife is trying to avoid this by removing her hands from her mouth. 2 minutes later she puts it again in her mouth! This is very ...
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When do kids stop holding their parent's hand?

At what age do kids stop holding their parent's hands? My 8 year old daughter ALWAYS holds my hand whilst outside. I don't mind, but my partner and older daughter (16) thinks she is too old to be ...