Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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How do you feed a picky eater?

Dinner with my 5-year-old is an ordeal. I do not want to cook separate meals. How do I stop the fighting at dinner and get them to eat?
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Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?

I pay my 5.5yo $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed. I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5 year old brother's Lego messes. Good or bad? ...
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My son is 5 years old and sexually active

I am a 20 year old female student and I have a 5 year old son who is really sexually active. For instance, he kisses girls by force, he forces them to lick his penis, he "fingers" them, he speaks ...
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How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?

Our 3.5 yo is starting to talk back to us in the typical futile yes/no/yes/no pattern of opposites. The other day it was hooking his straps on his car seat; I asked him to put his arms in (like we ...
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How can I get my child to stop biting others?

How do I get my 5-year-old to stop biting his brother and classmates?
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Why is my daughter pulling at her ear when she is eating?

I've read that this can happen during teething, and she is now 4 months. Thing is, she doesn't have any teeth and isn't really showing the signs in full force yet. She's not in any discomfort than I ...
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What is a good strategy for getting our 5 year old to finish dinner before expecting dessert?

More and more lately, I'm finding that our 5-year old daughter starts asking for dessert before she's finished her dinner. Obviously, I'd like to find a way to manage this without it ending in a ...
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How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?

My 9 year old girl is currently going through a phase where she isn't getting her homework done by herself. I'm trying to find the right balance between encouraging her to get her homework done, yet, ...
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What are some suggestions for punishing a child?

My daughters are clearly pushing the boundaries lately. They are trying to find out what is possible. I am really looking into ways to setting the boundaries. A friend recently suggested creating a ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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How can I get my primary-schooler to remember to turn off the light?

I have a 8 year old kid with ADHD. He never turns off the lights when he leaves a room. Never. It's a pet peeve of mine when lights are kept on when not in use. His younger sister has learned and ...
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How to build self-confidence / reduce social anxiety in a 7+ yr old boy?

Summary: I am looking for strategies and parenting best practices on how to boost self-confidence & reduce social anxieties in a 7+ yr old boy. Context: We have a little boy who seems to be ...
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Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry and throw a fit when his daddy leaves?

My 9 year old son cries and throws a fit when his dad leaves without him. It's not just when he leaves for work; it's everywhere. He sometimes questions his dad as to how long he will be gone, and ...
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Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem?

I understand that temper tantrums are relatively normal for many children. However, some children seem to have far more temper tantrums than other children their age, and others far fewer. Can ...
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5-yr-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

I need the two-cents of some experienced parents with multiple children. My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's ...
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How to bond with misbehaving, mean-spirited children?

I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has 2 little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter is visiting them at this time. My daughter shared a few details of ...
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Our 6 month old baby moans continuously

Apologies if this is a duplicate, it searched for the question terms but found nothing similar. Our baby is nearly 7 months old, and after being left to do anything for over 5 minutes, just starts to ...
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Discipline hyperactive 3 year old

I have a three year old son who is just awesome. He is advanced intellectually, loving, and he seems very empathetic. He does extremely well in daycare (it is at least an above average daycare), ...
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Have studies shown whether toys that feature guns or other weapons prominently promote violent behavior?

Note: I am looking for referenced answers only! Answers citing one or more peer reviewed studies, or, better yet, a meta analysis of several such studies, would be ideal. Answers that reference ...
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Two year old indecisiveness

My younger son, who just turned two a month ago, is going through one of those common stages in toddlerhood (that I remember the older one going through - but less roughly - at the same time). His ...
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How do I help our 3/yo go through stress

We have a 3 y/o daughter. A few months ago her and I thought it would be best to try and work out our differences by moving into separates homes. Since then my daughter, now 3 who has always been a ...
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my 12 year old is smoking and im not sure how to deal with this

My 12 yr old is smoking, he has been living with his father who turns a blind eye. He will be returning to live with me shortly. I would like some advise on how to deal with please if anyone can help? ...
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How important is stability / change / lack of change for children?

I frequently see people around the web supporting various arguments with the following statement: "children need stability." Is there any evidence for this, and more importantly can there be ...
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Toddler has a strong preference for one parent

Our almost 2 year old toddler has developed a strong preference for me. In mild doses, this was acceptable but it is getting pretty out of hand. She cries when my husband, her father, tries to hug ...
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How to handle bad people while being good

How to teach your teenager kid to handle situations where bad people might make fun of you or humiliate while at the same time kid has to be patient and polite. And when should your kid answer ...
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I grounded my 16 year old son for 1 month because he got detention every day. Is this a fair punishment? [closed]

I am the father of a 16 year old son. I grounded him for 1 month because he got detention every day. He's not allowed to get out of his room except for food and using the bathroom: no tv, no ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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7 year old boy who uses bad language

I am at a loss as to what to do with my seven-year-old son. He constantly uses bad words. Occasionally, he uses curse words but mostly it is words like "dumb," "idiot," "stupid," etc. At first I ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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1 yr old boy prefers dad

I am the proud father of a little 1 yr old boy. My wife and I love him to pieces! A few months after his birth I suffered through a terrible bout of anxiety attacks. Turns out it was just my way of ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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How to nurture my child to be cautious of her actions?

Well, I saw this question but I have exact opposite problem with my 2 year old daughter, she doesn't fear from her actions that will hurt her. She is not afraid to do anything that is dangerous or ...
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At what age will babies start resisting sleep?

One of the books I'm reading, "Your Baby Week by Week" by Simone Cave and Dr Caroline Fertleman, states in week 6: "As your baby becomes more sociable, he'll start to resist falling asleep because ...
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My son bites inside of cheeks purposely and asks for Teething Ring, how do I stop this?

I am really frustrated the past few weeks about my son's cheek biting habit. He is turning 3 this June. He started daycare last July, changed to another daycare in Sep last year. Baby brother was born ...
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6 years old misbehaves regularly, doesn't pay attention to punishments

My son is misbehaving a lot. He doesn't care about punishments. He even would say so I don't care if I don't get this or that. Even if I whoop him, which I try not to at all, it does not faze him. ...
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and I have heard reports of inappropriate behavior from her friends

My daughter has been spending a lot of time with her new boyfriend, to the point it is making her other friends uncomfortable. While I had told my daughter as long as she could be responsible and ...
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My 4 year old keeps telling me she peed herself but she's dry?

I'm at a complete loss. She's potty trained and all is well. But recently she keeps moaning and complaining she peed in her underwear but upon checking, she's completely dry. This is an ongoing thing ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...
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My 2-year-old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?

Since his birth I've done my best to make my son trust me completely as I see it the only way for him to let me make decisions on his behalf and tell him what's right and wrong. However he supervises ...
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My child stands in one spot in his room and moves his head side to side for long periods, is there a name for this behavior?

I'm not sure if this is appropriate to ask, but my question is about behavior of a child who goes in his room and stands for long periods of time just moving his head from side to side. He holds one ...
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What should one do when their teen thinks smoking e-cigarettes is cool and safe?

This question was inspired by a question about pregnancy and exposure to the second hand products of the smoking device known as e cigarettes. My child has a "friend" we work with at the theater ...
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Should I really be insisting that my daughter finish eating her meal?

Like many young children, my 4.5 year old daughter will often stop eating her supper (6 PMish - she has breakfast and lunch at daycare) and say she's not hungry. My instinctive initial response is to ...
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Is complimenting children where they can hear it good or bad?

TL;DR: Is there anything wrong with praising children to their parents while the children can hear it? From R. Kipling's "The jungle book": ‘How beautiful are the noble children! How large are ...
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How can parents help an adult child with OCD?

My brother was diagnosed with OCD about two years ago and is following treatment. He lives with our parents (we're both 20-ish years old, but I moved out years ago). He has some conspicuous ...
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How to stop my 8 year old from crying every time she's frustrated?

My 8 year old daughters is usually very good. But in the last few months she has started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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How do I motivate my ten-year old to take responsibility and to do his best?

I worry that my ten-year old son is developing (has developed) a mindset that will come back to bite him as he gets older. He is a very bright and active kid, but does not like to extend himself and ...
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At what age is it no longer appropriate for your child to be naked in public (e.g. on the beach)?

My 3½ year old son loves to be naked. He spends a lot of time running around naked in our garden on hot days. We went to the beach during the Summer, and- since we forgot to bring any swimming ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...