Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

I would like some help on how to deal with an 8 year old boy, who is refusing to go number 2's in the toilet and does them in his pants and then won't go and clean himself up. I have talked to him ...
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How can I teach my son to behave nicely in the playground when other children make it hard?

I've been trying to teach my 3 and a half year old son to treat other children nicely and to try and resolve all conflicts without aggression, by talking. We've been talking about the issue and agreed ...
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How can we help my 7 year old quit sucking her thumb?

My daughter who is now 7 is still sucking her thumb. It is a great embarrassment to her and she always talks about how it is her big secret from her friends. We have tried the finger nail polish, ...
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How to improve my 5 year old son's behavior in pre-kindergarden?

My oldest child (5 year and a half son) has been more agitated lately in pre-kindergarden and often will make other kids laugh or disrupt activities in class. We have been getting more feedback like ...
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11 year old stubborn boy

My 11 year son is an intelligent and extrovert boy . He does not want to study and take care of his belongings. I have to continuously tell him to do his routine work like bathing , brushing teeth ...
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Is it common for a 3 month old baby to drool and suck their fingers?

My son has just turned 3 months old. Recently I have observed him drooling and sucking his fingers. He usually drools more after feeding and sucks his fingers almost all the time. Is this common ...
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How can I get my 7 m/o to stop rubbing her eyes?

We have observed our 7 month old rubbing her eyes ever since we can remember. She does this especially when she's tired, but also when she's bored or starting to get frustrated. She'll oftentimes rub ...
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3 year-old boy wants constant attention, hits and deliberately poops in underpants when he doesn't get it

I have a nearly 3-year-old boy whose energy has become near-limitless, coupled with new neediness, aggression, and defiance. He wants to run around and be played with for the entire day. He is unable ...
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Is Fatherhood natural among humans? [closed]

I read in a book and have heard this argument by many social scientists that Fatherhood was an invention by humans during the time when we first started living as societies. This was presumably in ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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Helping a preschooler be a good friend

My almost-four year old boy has been expressing concerns recently that some of his close friends don't want to be his friend any more. While I'm aware this sort of drama is perpetual in childhood, I ...
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How can I explain to my 5 year that I need to be alone if I am showering?

I'm having a difficult time sometimes with my 5 year old daughter understanding when I need privacy such as when I take a shower or need to put body cream on afterwards, dry up etc. If I explain it to ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?

How can you best handle this? Coming off as too strong and authoritative might invite "rebellion". Too lenient makes it seem okay. What is the best response for driving home the dangers and risks ...
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help with 4 year old passing gas all the time

My 4 year old has been really gassy lately, and has gotten the bad habit of farting loudly while laughing about it. After more then a few funny but embarassing moments, we tried to tell her how it was ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old's rebellious behavior?

My son just turned 12 a few months ago, and boy is he a handful! He does not obey anything I say, curses at me, calls me names, throws tantrums, and hesitates to go to school every single day. I ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help

My son constantly needs attention. He sometimes pulls his younger sister's hair to get her complain and get our attention. He talks back frequently. He repeatedly says that other kids in school bother ...
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Using 123 Magic — getting the door closed

I do the 123 on my daughter, but getting her in the room involves dragging her there kicking and screaming. Then she tries to block the door with her hands and feet making it difficult to close the ...
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My step son is being treated for ADHD and we are not sure if he should be

My step son is 7 years old. He lives with his mom and step dad. His dad and I have him every other weekend, summers, and holidays that his mom will allow us. He gets in trouble at school and mom ...
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How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?

I have an 11 y/o son who is showing a tendency towards becoming gay. People have seen him walking like a girl but I haven't. I'm thinking that they are just judgmental. On his computer games he ...
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is my 7 month old in danger from falling off the couch or bed yes or no

My son 7.5 months if age has fallen quite a few times off the bed and couch in just the past month, my question is that normal? The people i live with are concerned about him having any head trauma. I ...
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15 mo old son becomes very fussy every evening when I come home from work

​​​I'm a working mom of 15 month old baby. We are lucky to have our grandmas to help us babysit our child while me and my husband are at work. Recently we had a grandma's swap, one grandmother left ...
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?

My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk. If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?

I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this? Edit: ...
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My son 1 year slaps me and people on their face

My son slaps me and other people on face.. he thinks that he is playing with us in that way. I always holds his hand tightly and look to him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. IT seems ...
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My baby screams all day long, non-stop, as loud as he can, and he finds it extremely funny

My baby boy is 19 months old, he screams while he plays, while he sits in his high-chair, while he is in his cot, while he has time-out, whatever and wherever he screams, screams, screams and does not ...
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What makes a kid turn bully, and how to prevent him from turning into a bully?

I have heard about bullies in schools, haven't ever seen or faced them in real life though. I would like to know what makes a kid bully, and how to prevent him from becoming a bully?
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difficult toddler

I have a three year old who just love to push my buttons. I'm a single mom who has him every night but while I work he goes to his fathers. His dad says he tried to follow the same discipline and naps ...
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How do you feed a picky eater?

Dinner with my 5-year-old is an ordeal. I do not want to cook separate meals. How do I stop the fighting at dinner and get them to eat?
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Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?

I pay my 5.5yo $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed. I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5 year old brother's Lego messes. Good or bad? ...
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My son is 5 years old and sexually active

I am a 20 year old female student and I have a 5 year old son who is really sexually active. For instance, he kisses girls by force, he forces them to lick his penis, he "fingers" them, he speaks ...
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How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?

Our 3.5 yo is starting to talk back to us in the typical futile yes/no/yes/no pattern of opposites. The other day it was hooking his straps on his car seat; I asked him to put his arms in (like we ...
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How can I get my child to stop biting others?

How do I get my 5-year-old to stop biting his brother and classmates?
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What is a good strategy for getting our 5 year old to finish dinner before expecting dessert?

More and more lately, I'm finding that our 5-year old daughter starts asking for dessert before she's finished her dinner. Obviously, I'd like to find a way to manage this without it ending in a ...
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How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?

My 9 year old girl is currently going through a phase where she isn't getting her homework done by herself. I'm trying to find the right balance between encouraging her to get her homework done, yet, ...
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What are some suggestions for punishing a child?

My daughters are clearly pushing the boundaries lately. They are trying to find out what is possible. I am really looking into ways to setting the boundaries. A friend recently suggested creating a ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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How can I get my primary-schooler to remember to turn off the light?

I have a 8 year old kid with ADHD. He never turns off the lights when he leaves a room. Never. It's a pet peeve of mine when lights are kept on when not in use. His younger sister has learned and ...
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How to build self-confidence / reduce social anxiety in a 7+ yr old boy?

Summary: I am looking for strategies and parenting best practices on how to boost self-confidence & reduce social anxieties in a 7+ yr old boy. Context: We have a little boy who seems to be ...
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Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry and throw a fit when his daddy leaves?

My 9 year old son cries and throws a fit when his dad leaves without him. It's not just when he leaves for work; it's everywhere. He sometimes questions his dad as to how long he will be gone, and ...
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5-yr-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

I need the two-cents of some experienced parents with multiple children. My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's ...
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How to bond with misbehaving, mean-spirited children?

I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has 2 little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter is visiting them at this time. My daughter shared a few details of ...
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Our 6 month old baby moans continuously

Apologies if this is a duplicate, it searched for the question terms but found nothing similar. Our baby is nearly 7 months old, and after being left to do anything for over 5 minutes, just starts to ...
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Have studies shown whether toys that feature guns or other weapons prominently promote violent behavior?

Note: I am looking for referenced answers only! Answers citing one or more peer reviewed studies, or, better yet, a meta analysis of several such studies, would be ideal. Answers that reference ...
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Two year old indecisiveness

My younger son, who just turned two a month ago, is going through one of those common stages in toddlerhood (that I remember the older one going through - but less roughly - at the same time). His ...
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How do I help our 3/yo go through stress

We have a 3 y/o daughter. A few months ago her and I thought it would be best to try and work out our differences by moving into separates homes. Since then my daughter, now 3 who has always been a ...
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my 12 year old is smoking and im not sure how to deal with this

My 12 yr old is smoking, he has been living with his father who turns a blind eye. He will be returning to live with me shortly. I would like some advise on how to deal with please if anyone can help? ...
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How important is stability / change / lack of change for children?

I frequently see people around the web supporting various arguments with the following statement: "children need stability." Is there any evidence for this, and more importantly can there be ...
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Toddler has a strong preference for one parent

Our almost 2 year old toddler has developed a strong preference for me. In mild doses, this was acceptable but it is getting pretty out of hand. She cries when my husband, her father, tries to hug ...