Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening ...
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My 1 yr old gets excited and grabs and scratches peoples face HARD

My 1 yr old gets excited and grabs and scratches peoples face HARD. He also grunts all the time, enough to make his face red and then he laughs like its a joke. He does not say any words yet, is this ...
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4 yo son pursues sex with mom [duplicate]

A 4 yo boy says things to his mother like "lets do love, mommy" He lays on her in the missionary position, rubs where her nipples are under her bra and says "I love love mommy, do love with me" (to ...
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When do babies start understanding a kiss?

Sometimes my two weeks old daughter starts crying and crying. Apart from checking her basic needs (food, poo, pee...), I sometimes hold her and kiss on the cheek together with a soft hug. However, I ...
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How to take passport pictures of a baby?

My two weeks old daughter needs a passport and, for this, we need a picture of her. Since we struggle to get a good angle of her for our own, private pictures, it seems to be even more complicated to ...
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10 year old refuses to go to bed

Our 10 year old stepdaughter has trouble going to bed at night. She refuses to go to bed, and fights us very hard, to the point where our only hope of her going to bed is to physically pick her up and ...
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8 year old punishes himself for bad behaviour

My 8 year old step-son is still rather sensitive for his age, and sometimes takes being disciplined very hard. When he genuinely feels bad about something he's done wrong and we tell him off, he will ...
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My 11 year old son is weird [closed]

My son is going going to be turning 12 in a couple of weeks and I have noticed he is into unusual things and I find it disturbing. He enjoys movies like The Godfather, and A Clockwork Orange. He ...
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How to mediate between my spouse and stepchild and help our family develop a healthier relationship?

I have been with my wife for about six years. She has a daughter, currently age 11, from her first marriage who has lived with us during almost all of that time (sometimes stays with her father, but ...
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What is different between children and adults that cause children to forgive so quickly? [migrated]

Today I observed three children at a birthday party become involved in an extremely serious altercation including the use of (toy) weapons. Tears were dropping, threats issued, punches and kicks ...
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What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?

My 4-year-old son tends to default to saying no changes in activity (even if he is clearly no longer interested in the current activity). Overall he is helpful, considerate, and will do things we ask ...
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Behavior changes after social events

My eight year-old son just spent a week at cub scout day camp (home in the evenings), after which he has been lying extensively. He has had problems with extensive lying before, but had mostly gotten ...
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Encourage your child to do X or prevent them from doing Y?

If your child is going astray, is it more productive to instill proper values and hope for the best or should you also take extra steps to prevent the thing you're afraid of? My concern is that if ...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

My son (4 1/2) attends a pre-school that we all like very much. He's in a class of kids ranging from 3 to 5. He generally prefers to socialize with the older children. In this particular class, ...
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Single parent having behaviour issues with son (11) not wanting my partner around

I was recommended this site as palace that I might be able to get some advice about how to deal with/understand my son. He is 11 and I have been single with him since he was 1 aside a few short-term ...
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How can I help my toddler feel confident in his communication?

My two-and-a-half year old communicates very well, and we talk constantly about things he sees, or what he's feeling, or just about his toys. However, when he uses longer sentences or words that are ...
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How to deal with kids who are bothering others

I recently had an experience that's very similar to the question asked here How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me? but this time from the other side. My kids are very noisy. ...
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Teaching perseverance and planning

My eight year-old has an issue with perseverance and planning. We thought playing minecraft would help. If you're not familiar with minecraft, it's a game where you gather resources to build things, ...
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How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?

Today, on the bus, I was seated a row behind a mother and her young daughter (I guess about 5-6 years old), and the child just couldn't stay quiet: she was singing constantly, saying "byebye, please ...
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How to improve my 5 year old son's behavior in pre-kindergarden?

My oldest child (5 year and a half son) has been more agitated lately in pre-kindergarden and often will make other kids laugh or disrupt activities in class. We have been getting more feedback like ...
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Boy 7 too sensitive.

My boy seems to cry at the least little things. e.g. His younger sister teasing. Slightest little scratch when playing Dies in computer game. Bedtime How can I toughen him a bit? I don't know ...
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Helping a preschooler be a good friend

My almost-four year old boy has been expressing concerns recently that some of his close friends don't want to be his friend any more. While I'm aware this sort of drama is perpetual in childhood, I ...
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How can I explain to my 5 year that I need to be alone if I am showering?

I'm having a difficult time sometimes with my 5 year old daughter understanding when I need privacy such as when I take a shower or need to put body cream on afterwards, dry up etc. If I explain it to ...
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Is Fatherhood natural among humans? [closed]

I read in a book and have heard this argument by many social scientists that Fatherhood was an invention by humans during the time when we first started living as societies. This was presumably in ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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3 year-old boy wants constant attention, hits and deliberately poops in underpants when he doesn't get it

I have a nearly 3-year-old boy whose energy has become near-limitless, coupled with new neediness, aggression, and defiance. He wants to run around and be played with for the entire day. He is unable ...
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is my 7 month old in danger from falling off the couch or bed yes or no

My son 7.5 months if age has fallen quite a few times off the bed and couch in just the past month, my question is that normal? The people i live with are concerned about him having any head trauma. I ...
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My step son is being treated for ADHD and we are not sure if he should be

My step son is 7 years old. He lives with his mom and step dad. His dad and I have him every other weekend, summers, and holidays that his mom will allow us. He gets in trouble at school and mom ...
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difficult toddler

I have a three year old who just love to push my buttons. I'm a single mom who has him every night but while I work he goes to his fathers. His dad says he tried to follow the same discipline and naps ...
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Using 123 Magic — getting the door closed

I do the 123 on my daughter, but getting her in the room involves dragging her there kicking and screaming. Then she tries to block the door with her hands and feet making it difficult to close the ...
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My baby screams all day long, non-stop, as loud as he can, and he finds it extremely funny

My baby boy is 19 months old, he screams while he plays, while he sits in his high-chair, while he is in his cot, while he has time-out, whatever and wherever he screams, screams, screams and does not ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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How to build self-confidence / reduce social anxiety in a 7+ yr old boy?

Summary: I am looking for strategies and parenting best practices on how to boost self-confidence & reduce social anxieties in a 7+ yr old boy. Context: We have a little boy who seems to be ...
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Our 6 month old baby moans continuously

Apologies if this is a duplicate, it searched for the question terms but found nothing similar. Our baby is nearly 7 months old, and after being left to do anything for over 5 minutes, just starts to ...
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How to bond with misbehaving, mean-spirited children?

I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has 2 little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter is visiting them at this time. My daughter shared a few details of ...
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5-yr-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

I need the two-cents of some experienced parents with multiple children. My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's ...
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my 12 year old is smoking and im not sure how to deal with this

My 12 yr old is smoking, he has been living with his father who turns a blind eye. He will be returning to live with me shortly. I would like some advise on how to deal with please if anyone can help? ...
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Two year old indecisiveness

My younger son, who just turned two a month ago, is going through one of those common stages in toddlerhood (that I remember the older one going through - but less roughly - at the same time). His ...
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How to effectively balance respect for authority with independence and self-determination

We just had our second parent-teacher conference with our almost-four year old's preschool teacher (he's in a Montessori school, that follows the technique well, mostly), and among other things, ...
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How to handle bad people while being good

How to teach your teenager kid to handle situations where bad people might make fun of you or humiliate while at the same time kid has to be patient and polite. And when should your kid answer ...
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I grounded my 16 year old son for 1 month because he got detention every day. Is this a fair punishment? [closed]

I am the father of a 16 year old son. I grounded him for 1 month because he got detention every day. He's not allowed to get out of his room except for food and using the bathroom: no tv, no ...
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Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry and throw a fit when his daddy leaves?

My 9 year old son cries and throws a fit when his dad leaves without him. It's not just when he leaves for work; it's everywhere. He sometimes questions his dad as to how long he will be gone, and ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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How to nurture my child to be cautious of her actions?

Well, I saw this question but I have exact opposite problem with my 2 year old daughter, she doesn't fear from her actions that will hurt her. She is not afraid to do anything that is dangerous or ...
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My son bites inside of cheeks purposely and asks for Teething Ring, how do I stop this?

I am really frustrated the past few weeks about my son's cheek biting habit. He is turning 3 this June. He started daycare last July, changed to another daycare in Sep last year. Baby brother was born ...
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At what age will babies start resisting sleep?

One of the books I'm reading, "Your Baby Week by Week" by Simone Cave and Dr Caroline Fertleman, states in week 6: "As your baby becomes more sociable, he'll start to resist falling asleep because ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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My son 1 year slaps me and people on their face

My son slaps me and other people on face.. he thinks that he is playing with us in that way. I always holds his hand tightly and look to him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. IT seems ...