Questions about why children act the way they do. See the tag [discipline] about enforcing your rules.

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5-yr-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

I need the two-cents of some experienced parents with multiple children. My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's ...
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my 12 year old is smoking and im not sure how to deal with this

My 12 yr old is smoking, he has been living with his father who turns a blind eye. He will be returning to live with me shortly. I would like some advise on how to deal with please if anyone can help? ...
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Two year old indecisiveness

My younger son, who just turned two a month ago, is going through one of those common stages in toddlerhood (that I remember the older one going through - but less roughly - at the same time). His ...
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How to effectively balance respect for authority with independence and self-determination

We just had our second parent-teacher conference with our almost-four year old's preschool teacher (he's in a Montessori school, that follows the technique well, mostly), and among other things, ...
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How to handle bad people while being good

How to teach your teenager kid to handle situations where bad people might make fun of you or humiliate while at the same time kid has to be patient and polite. And when should your kid answer ...
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I grounded my 16 year old son for 1 month because he got detention every day. Is this a fair punishment? [closed]

I am the father of a 16 year old son. I grounded him for 1 month because he got detention every day. He's not allowed to get out of his room except for food and using the bathroom: no tv, no ...
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Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry and throw a fit when his daddy leaves?

My 9 year old son cries and throws a fit when his dad leaves without him. It's not just when he leaves for work; it's everywhere. He sometimes questions his dad as to how long he will be gone, and ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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How to nurture my child to be cautious of her actions?

Well, I saw this question but I have exact opposite problem with my 2 year old daughter, she doesn't fear from her actions that will hurt her. She is not afraid to do anything that is dangerous or ...
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My son bites inside of cheeks purposely and asks for Teething Ring, how do I stop this?

I am really frustrated the past few weeks about my son's cheek biting habit. He is turning 3 this June. He started daycare last July, changed to another daycare in Sep last year. Baby brother was born ...
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At what age will babies start resisting sleep?

One of the books I'm reading, "Your Baby Week by Week" by Simone Cave and Dr Caroline Fertleman, states in week 6: "As your baby becomes more sociable, he'll start to resist falling asleep because ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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My son 1 year slaps me and people on their face

My son slaps me and other people on face.. he thinks that he is playing with us in that way. I always holds his hand tightly and look to him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. IT seems ...
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My child stands in one spot in his room and moves his head side to side for long periods, is there a name for this behavior?

I'm not sure if this is appropriate to ask, but my question is about behavior of a child who goes in his room and stands for long periods of time just moving his head from side to side. He holds one ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and I have heard reports of inappropriate behavior from her friends

My daughter has been spending a lot of time with her new boyfriend, to the point it is making her other friends uncomfortable. While I had told my daughter as long as she could be responsible and ...
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How do I motivate my ten-year old to take responsibility and to do his best?

I worry that my ten-year old son is developing (has developed) a mindset that will come back to bite him as he gets older. He is a very bright and active kid, but does not like to extend himself and ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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How do I instruct my openly defiant son?

I don't know for sure if my 8-year-old son actually enjoys creating conflict, but he does it a lot. I could go on and on with examples, but one in particular prompted me to ask this question. We were ...
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Cause and cure of silly behavior in children

What can be some of the causes/reasons that a child (in the 7-year-old range) to speak in a silly voice and in a silly way, more than an average child? I don't know how to be more specific by silly ...
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How much ipad time do most kids get? [duplicate]

I'm a mother of 2, ages 3 and 10. I am worried that my youngest child is spending as much time, sometimes more time, on the iPad than my eldest. The iPad seems ideal when I am busy and the kids are ...
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How do you handle “materialist” behaviour?

My 4 years old daughter attaches a lot of importance to toys, clothes, presents ... How do you help your kids take some distance with that ? Sample behaviour I'm uncomfortable with : asking grandma ...
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How do I teach my son to manage his anger when he is unwilling?

My 8-year-old son has difficulty managing his anger in a healthy way. When he gets angry at his sister, sometimes he hits her or pulls her hair. Sometimes he hits himself. Sometimes he screams and ...
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How do I dissuade my three-year-old from saying he doesn't like a parent?

My three-year-old is sometimes verbally and physically abusive with one parent, saying he doesn't like, want, or love the parent, and commands the parent to go away. This seems to happen mostly when ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?

We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...
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Should I praise my oldest child infront of their siblings?

Sometimes my oldest(8yo) shows good character and leadership in choosing not to do what she knows she should not do. I know her other siblings(6yo,3yo) look up to her. I have been praising her ...
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How can parents help an adult child with OCD?

My brother was diagnosed with OCD about two years ago and is following treatment. He lives with our parents (we're both 20-ish years old, but I moved out years ago). He has some conspicuous ...
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15 month old keeps smashing his head against walls, cupboards, bed and also screaming extremely loud very often

My 15 month old boy keeps smashing his head against any surface he finds, and if I try to stop him he finds it funny to do it even more and even harder. As well as this, he is constantly screaming ...
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How to help an 8 year old with short attention span and obsessive character?

I need some advice on how to motivate my 8 year old daughter to pay attention more at school and achieve higher grades. She seems to have a short attention span and seems more interested in break ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old's rebellious behavior?

My son just turned 12 a few months ago, and boy is he a handful! He does not obey anything I say, curses at me, calls me names, throws tantrums, and hesitates to go to school every single day. I ...
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2.5 years toddler who refuse to open eyes for hours

I have a 2.5 years old toddler girl who has recently started full day childcare and there were a couple of instances where she refused to open her eyes for hours - this usually happens when she throws ...
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How do I make my son listen to my discipline, not my mother-in-law?

I have a 6 year old and was a single mum for 4 years. I raised him and disciplined him to the point where he is very very sociable and everybody thinks he is one of the most well behaved boys they ...
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How can I get my 4 month old to sleep longer then 9-10 hours a day?

My 4 month old has never been a great sleeper, in the hospital I expressed concern several times that he was not sleeping. When we got home he slept for 15-30 minute stretches due to poor latching ...
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6 yo smothers his food in sauce — how can I change this?

My son likes salad cream -- alot. He tends to use loads of it and I'm concerned that he's not actually tasting anything new. It's not allowed on every meal, but when it's out it's all over everything ...
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What to do about 1 year old boy who keeps pulling hard at his penis and scrotum?

This has been going on a little while and the health visitor says its normal but we are a bit concerned about the force our child is using when he pulls at his penis, he really yanks it and it looks ...
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Being a Step-mom to a troubled (or hurt) 5 year old

*****A Bit About Myself: My name is Mandalynn, I am in my late 20's, and I am a fairly-new-mom. I have been married to my daughter's father for about a year now, but I have been around kids my ...
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20 yo daughter left home to live with a “bad” girl - what should I do?

My daughter of 20 left home a week ago when I found out she had been seeing a friend I disapprove of completely. Countless arguments, violence, police, stealing, and lying are some of this girls ...
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Behavior advice to prevent child from touching harness release

Relating to my other question: Device for prevent child from touching harness release My daughter, age 3, can now reach the harness release of her car seat, and has lately be defiant. And I ...
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my 2yr old cries at daycare during drop off time

Help! My two year old daughter has cried since day one (back in September) when I drop her off at daycare. We are now in December. This I believe has now caused her twin brother to cry as well when I ...
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Younger sister blackmailing parents

She's currently 16. She won't listen to a word my parents have to say. When they ask for the phone, since she's glued to it 24/7 and her grades have plummeted, she won't listen. She knows how to get ...
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Natural consequence for being rude to a sibling

My 8-year-old son really likes to argue. He's extremely stubborn and always right. When he argues with me, I'll correct him and laugh it off when he continues. Now, I'm a fan of natural consequences, ...
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Advice on Dealing with Other People's Children Taking Items From My One Year Old

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
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Toddler wakes up after hour of sleep crying

My 17 month old has been waking up after approximately an hour after he goes to sleep frantically crying. It's been going on for about a month. Sometimes he is sitting up crying and sometimes he is ...
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6 year old is acting out with family

My 6 year old son acts out: yells, throws, hits, makes faces, talks disrepectfully to my husband and I and his 4 year old sister (who he hits often). We have talked so many times, disciplined, taken ...
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Encouraging independence

My seven year-old son is highly dependent on us to tell him what to do. We had thought it was an age thing, but his little sister already grew out of it. How can we help him be more independent? An ...
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14 yo daughter broke her friendship due to Homosexuality?

How to help my daughter understand that being a lesbian or Gay is as normal and acceptable as having a straight orientation? I have a 14 year old step daughter who has come here 20 days back to visit ...
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How can you turn back the clock?

My eldest son and I have had a difficult relationship for some time. I have changed a great deal in terms of how I parent him, and I know I was far too strict towards him from years ago. He is ...
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My 2-year-old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?

Since his birth I've done my best to make my son trust me completely as I see it the only way for him to let me make decisions on his behalf and tell him what's right and wrong. However he supervises ...