Getting kids ready for bed, and making them stay there. See the "sleep" tag for questions on issues while they're asleep.

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What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?

I think most parents agree that it's helpful to follow some fixed ritual when putting a child to bed. What elements in such rituals are particularly useful, and what should be avoided? There are ...
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Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?

This is probably a classic but here goes. Some time between midnight and three my 9 month old will wake crying. Often he is hungry or has gas and can be fairly easily consoled and falls asleep in our ...
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and ...
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Is putting a 9-year-old to bed early abusive?

My 9-year-old goes to bed between 6:00 - 7:00 pm, though she doesn't go to sleep for an hour or so later. Her teacher was "very concerned" about us putting her to bed so early and commented that it ...
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What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?

I don't mind reading Cat in the Hat, but my 1st Grader still wants books to be read as part of the night time ritual, even though she reads them fine herself. But Ready Freddy is no fun to read out ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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How to calm a toddler before bedtime?

I don't know about older children, but toddlers often get more agitated as they get more tired and by the time they are in bed it can take a while before they actually sleep. I often read that taking ...
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How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?

About a month ago we got two foster children, ages 9 and 7. The younger one often has nightmares, and in the daytime has many fears. She won't take a bath by herself and she is afraid of mirrors. We ...
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Baby always rolling over and ending up sleeping on his stomach, is it dangerous?

Our 3 months old baby is very keen on rolling over and being on his stomach. Most of the time he automatically rolls over in a few minutes after we put him on his back, including during bed time. Is ...
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Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?

My 4-month-old has a set bedtime routine and will generally go happily to sleep - but occasionally (for no particular reason) he'll work himself up into a fit and cry for long periods of time, ...
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How do I stop yawning so much when I'm reading bedtime stories to my kids?

When I read books to my sons, I get an overwhelming urge to yawn. I'm generally not tired around the time the boys are going to bed, and I don't think I'm bored while I'm doing the reading. I'm ...
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How to handle a toddler does not want to fall asleep?

My 2½ year old son does not want to sleep, regardless how tired he is. He will do anything and everything he can think of, just to avoid falling asleep. It usually takes 1-1½ hours (sometimes even ...
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When upgrading our toddler from a cot to a bed, how do we keep him in his bed?

We want to convert our son's cot into a bed this weekend (starting Friday evening). We think it's time to transition because he often tries to climb out (but fails yet), and during daytime playing he ...
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Our 4 year old won't fall asleep until 11pm

Our 4 year old doesn't like to sleep. I know that sounds like what every kid says, but let me clarify. She doesn't cry at bedtime, she just won't sleep. We start to get her ready for bed around 8pm. ...
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When should I transition a 2 year old toddler from the cot to a bed?

My son turned 2 today, and we have been considering for a long time to transition him to a bed. Specially since he already sleeps in a bed at the daycare. I am afraid that he will not want to stay in ...
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How can we end nighttime 'comfort' nursing?

My wife and I are just finishing up a 4 week trip home to visit the grandparents (we live in Australia, they in North America). We have introduced the unfortunate habit in our 10 month old daughter ...
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How do you stop a toddler from trying to get into bed with her parents in the middle of the night?

For a few weeks now my 2 year old daughter has woken up in the middle of the night crying for mom or dad. This started out when we took off her diaper and she would cry to go to the potty. She picked ...
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How can we explain our “cry it out” strategy to people who oppose it?

My wife and I have had success with a form of the "cry it out" strategy with our three children. I know it's not for everyone, but our household has gotten into some healthy sleep patterns without ...
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My 8 year old son won't fall asleep

We put him to bed at 9pm and he stays up til 1am or later. When I go to check on him he is always playing with his hands and sometimes talking. I ask him why he is awake and not trying to sleep and he ...
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Why does my toddler cry when he's put to bed?

My son is nearly two years old. We have had a solid bedtime routine forever, and we make sure to wind him down before bedtime. Lately though, he doesn't want to go to sleep. He follows the bedtime ...
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Bedtime vs amount of sleep?

I am a single dad who has custody of my 11 year old daughter during the school year. During the summer, however, she stays with her mother in another town. I have become concerned about the lack of ...
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How can we get our toddler to accept bedtime?

Our 2 year old daughter gets really upset whenever sleep/bed is mentioned. She usually wakes up about 7-8am, has an afternoon nap around 1-2pm (duration between 1-2 hours), and goes to sleep at ...
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Toddler and Reading

Ok, I'm struggling to read to the little'un. She loves books, in that throughout the day she will go and fetch books, and sit with them and turn the pages. The book might be upside down, but hey. Big ...
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How can I handle my toddler's bedtime-avoidance tricks?

My son is 2½ years old and he thinks he's figured out a smart trick to avoid having to sleep. Our responses sometimes work, and sometimes they don't. Even when they work, it's time-consuming and ...
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What's the best way to deal with bedwetting?

Our toddler is bedwetting a lot, and we are unsure how to deal with things. We haven't told her off for it, but we're not sure what we should be doing. Would telling her off just make things worse? ...
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Two year old still takes a bottle of milk before bedtime, should I wean her from the bottle and the milk?

The milk is part of her bedtime routine... Should she still be using a bottle? She doesn't need the milk, it has just been a staple in her bedtime routine. I know that this is potentially bad for ...
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How important is it to brush infant's teeth before vs. after the goodnight milk bottle?

My little guy gets a bottle as the last thing before we put him to bed, it greatly helps him to wind down and relax for sleep. As the teeth start coming, we realize it's important to brush his teeth, ...
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How to motivate yourself to read stories to a kid whom you know cannot understand and respond accordingly?

From: How to read an English story book to the kid when we don't talk in English at home? If you start immediately, it won't matter what language you're speaking; either way it will be babble ...
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How do I prevent my child from becoming frightened by “scary” stories?

I have a ten year old child who gets spooked to tears to sleep in his room alone because another child at school told him a nonsense story about Slender Man. The child added a few bits to the myth, ...
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What is the best strategy for adjusting an toddler's sleep cycle during Daylight Savings?

With Daylight Savings coming up, we are worried about getting our son transitioned to the new time. How do we get him to sleep an hour later, when we're struggling with keeping him from waking up ...
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How can I help a preschooler who refuses to sleep?

I've got a preschooler that plainly refuses to sleep most evenings. He gets up around 07:15, in time for kindergarten, does not nap during the day, and is visibly tired by the evening. His usual ...
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How to help a child not to worry about sleeping

My 7 year old daughter has always been an excellent sleeper, she has never had any trouble dropping off to sleep, even when we have been away and she is sleeping in a different room. Recently she has ...
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my daughter learned how to open doors-now refuses to nap/stay in her room-ideas?

My daughter used to go to sleep nicely. Sometimes, such as when she is overtired, she cries herself to sleep. But this week she learned how to open doors. It is wonderful in terms of development - but ...
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What should I do when my toddler climbs out of her crib at night to play?

So at night time, sometimes my 22-month-old daughter is climbing out of her crib and then playing. I was thinking of these options: Letting her play until she gets tired and falls asleep on the ...
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Toddler Plays in Bed and Won't go to Sleep

I have a 2.5 year old daughter. She sleeps great once she's asleep. We do the nightly routine and put her to bed. She gets into bed after story time and cuddles her stuffed animals and closes her ...
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When and how can we stop giving our toddler formula in the evening?

My toddler gets a bottle of formula in the evening, as part of the bedtime ritual. At some point in time, we'd want to stop giving that bottle and stop using formula at all. What is an effective ...
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Helping my todder fall asleep

My 2½ year old son generally has no problem with going to bed and that whole routine but once he's lying down quietly it still takes him forever to actually fall asleep. "Forever" in this case being ...
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Move into own room at the same time as sleep training?

Our 5 month old currently sleeps in her cot in our bedroom. We've taken one of the sides off, and the cot is right next to the the bed to make it easier for nighttime feeds, which my wife does lying ...
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What light colors will help calming down before bedtime?

I just bought a color led strip (like similar to this one) and installed it so that the ceiling can be lit with any color. We're making experiments on which color would have better effects on calming ...
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How to read an English story book to the kid when we don't talk in English at home?

I am not a native English speaker nor is the country I live in. However since English is given a higher preference here over the native language I would like my kid to learn English from an early age. ...
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Is a Set Bedtime Appropriate for Teens?

For teens, in this case a rising Junior in High School, is it appropriate to set a bedtime for him of 10PM? How does this compare with the majority of teens?
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Strategies for difficult bedtime routine for young toddler

I have a 2.5 year old who is not much of a sleeper - as in, he sleeps on normal days from 10pm to 6am, plus a 2 hour nap on weekdays and sometimes on weekends. We have a fairly good bedtime ritual, ...
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5 month old won't fall asleep because she always turns herself onto her stomach

This question is related to How do dealing with infant flipping over during sleep training?, but not exactly the same. Our 5 month old daughter flips onto her stomach constantly. When you put her ...
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Should extra milk be given to 2-year-old at bedtime if not eating solids well during the day

Our little boy is 2 years old, and we are still giving him a large amount of formula milk at bed time. He is not a good eater, and we don't want him to get hungry in the night. Is it recommended to ...
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How can I get my infant to fall asleep?

When it's bedtime for my 7-month son, it's always his mother who makes him fall asleep. When I try to get him to sleep so it ends with him crying. Any tips on how to get him to sleep would be ...
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early

This is a struggle every night, and every morning. We start around 7:30-8:00 PM..."shower time" and the struggle starts. She's got school the next morning and I'm trying to get her showered, and ...
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Memory foam top covers and mattresses

We converted our 2 year old toddler's crib into an an accessible bed a few weeks ago. He's doing well on it, so we want to replace his crib with the brand new single bed we bought for the spare room. ...
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infant behaviour after toddler illness

My baby girl (1.5 years) had good constant sleep and eat patterns; until she become ill. During illness her sleep/eat patterns changed a lot (and this is normal). But after recovering, she still do ...
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20 month old boy quit staying in his bed at bedtime [duplicate]

My son has been in a big boy bed since 14 months. He started jumping out of his crib at will and it scared us a little, so we got the big boy bed and were amazed! He loved it. He never got out at ...
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Son has stopped his normal bedtime

My son will be 2 in a few weeks. For about 90% of what goes on in his life, he's had a really good schedule that Mama has laid down and enforced quite well. His normal bedtime has always started at ...