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My wife and I put our child through daycare and lately she has been telling us what another child with issues has been doing that has only been there for a few months. We know this is a child that may have an issue and we try to teach our child how to play well with others but today my child tells me the other child was telling the teacher he was going to cut her. So my question is how do I address this issue? I know the child may have issues sinc this isnt the first time and the other child has gotten in trouble for hitting and throwing tempers but I think a line needs to be drawn.

  • How do I approach the daycare?
  • Should I give the daycare and ultimatum?
  • my child has been at the daycare awhile should I look into another daycare if the issue is not resolved?
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What would be the ultimatum you would give? Are you worried this child is upsetting your child? It's not clear what your issue is – Chrys Oct 18 '13 at 11:50
To clarify, was the child in question saying he was going to cut the teacher, or your daughter? – Beofett Oct 18 '13 at 15:28
The child threatened the teacher and my daughter heard it. – Darth_Vader Oct 18 '13 at 15:47
Is the other child from Mos Eisley? – Samuel Feb 12 at 21:20
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I think before anything is done, you have to talk to the teacher to learn more. You need to verify that what your child is telling you is accurate. If it is, I would recommend going to the owner/operator of the daycare and asking them what their action plan is for this.

At my child's daycare, there are two separate classes for each age/grade level. Perhaps you could get your child transferred to a different class?

In the meantime, if you don't feel you are getting anywhere with your child's daycare, I would also suggest shopping around for other daycare providers. In our area, the wait list is long. The sooner you get your name in there the better.

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Agree! You definitely need more information before you can decide anything. – MJ6 Oct 19 '13 at 19:04

This is serious. It sounds like you are dealing with a seriously disturbed child. A child who threatens to cut other children is likely to have been raised in a terrible environment and needs help (or perhaps is even beyond help, if the parents are unwilling to do anything about it).

Certainly the daycare must know about it, though I'm not sure what position you are in to give them an ultimatum. If the other child is a bully, then rally together other parents against it. Bullying should not be tolerated, but it can (apparently) be prevented if all parties involved are willing to stop it. Don't stand for any "boys will be boys" or "they're just kids" bullshit. Eventually, you'll have to confront the other child's parents, and that's where the real challenge will lie.

If the matter persists, then changing daycare is a good idea for the safety of your child.

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