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I have a 2 year old daughter who doesn't walk quietly or softly. She stomps. I can't tell whether she likes the noise she makes on our wood floor or she doesn't know any better. Her walking/running looks the same outside though. I/we have been making attempts at educating her for weeks.

  • telling her to move silently,
  • pointing out how much more silent her mom can enter the room,
  • taking her by her hands and walk with her around the room while encouragin her to avoid noice
  • making walking slowly and siliently some sort of "fun" game
  • making funny faces while tiptoeing around
  • ... about everything we can think of that is fun/good/better/preferable when moving silently.

While she does seem to enjoy herself a lot, it has absolutely not affected her stomping. She is only 2 and definetly still discovering her body and the degrees of freedom it posesses, so I don't want to push hard. She has enough to learn and discover already. I'd just like for her to shift her priorities a little ...

So my actual questions are: How long does it take children learn to walk "normal"? Can I expect her to stop stomping soon, within the coming year, shortly after kindergarden, right before puberty? When and how can I actually start teaching her? I have absolutely no clue what is ok, expected or considered normal progress for learning how to walk. Other children look about the same when they move, but they move much more silently.

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There are times when my five year old still sounds like a herd of elephants coming down our carpeted stairs. It does get better, but she's probably doing it because she likes the sound it makes. Once the newness of that wears off, she'll find something else to drive you crazy with :-) Is it only when she wears shoes in the house or also when she's barefoot? This is one of the reasons why my kids are almost always barefoot in the house. Soooooo much quieter! –  Meg Coates Aug 23 '13 at 23:39
    
I ended up here because I googled about 2 and three year olds walking like babies ie stomp-walking. I am disabled and live in a downstairs apartment and have no vehicle and no way to escape the 2 and 3 year olds who stomp-walk, run, and jump the full length of the apartment up stairs practically non stop for 12 hours a day. The adults up there also stomp-walk and stomp when angry at the kids and each other. Talking to the mother and others such as the mother's father and her mother in law has only made it worse. I applaud people who care about what the person downstairs is stuck listening to. –  user6477 Jan 14 at 22:06
    
she is two, why is this a big deal? wait until she is 8 and is running around like a lunatic! stop rushing her, unless she has some affliction, let her develop at her own pace –  Jarrod Roberson Jan 15 at 6:14
    
Just because I care doesn't mean I'm rushing anybody. I never said it was a big deal, either. I just noticed a lot of things correlate with it. It is more fatiguing for her, stepping on things hurts a lot more, she runs slower than other kids ... and amongst other things, sometimes she would lose her balance. It's quite easy to type "unless she has some affliction", but how can I tell if and when there is an affliction (developing)? I was merely asking for information, epxlicitly stating that I do not know what to expect or do. –  user1129682 Jan 15 at 13:20
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Well, I think it might be better if you could accept it, because she's just being a kid - I think you understand that, but it just pushes your buttons. My kids push my buttons, they like to throw books on the floor and then needle the books with their feet. I just pick the books up and die a little inside ;)

To me the 'risk' you run, is her digging her feet in (no pun) and it becoming a power struggle, you'll probably lose that battle, and I doubt it's a battle worth fighting.

If it's really a problem for you perhaps try using stickers as a reward system - if she can go a morning TRYING not to stomp (ie cut some slack) give her a star, if she gets 5 stars, some kind of reward.

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Ah, you think she keeps doing it not because she wouldn't know any better, but she gets fun out of my/our reactions ... and probably enjoys the noise she makes. I don't find that hard to believe. I'll see what I can make of it. Thanks! –  user1129682 Aug 23 '13 at 17:01
    
You're welcome - FWIW the stickers are working for our 4yr old and wearing his glasses, where everything else has failed. And yes you're right, I think she gets some kind of fun/interest in getting a reaction from you (totally normal) - so being neutral about it is probably best. –  Jim W Aug 27 '13 at 3:51
    
Turns out she did it for fun but is quite capable of walking quietly. –  user1129682 Oct 8 '13 at 10:10
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The best way to teach your child something is just to turn it's attention to it every single time.
So just tell it every time "When we walking, we put the legs on ground swiftly".
Yet, try to find for yourself, if you really need it to stop the stomping.

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You should learn your child to pay attention to the important things in life. I think you are exaggerating about the stomping. Have you considered visiting a professional? But that would just be to comfort you its normal, or to be able to help your child with a abnormality. But I did not read that in your question. Your question is about how YOU can learn your child to give priority to what YOU want.

I sense ego in action here, and it won't serve you or your child. Not now, and not in the future. Accept the fact that your child is a child and give space to develop itself on its own pace, by its own interest.

Your task is to ASSIST your child in growing up. Not by prioritizing your kids needs/wants/development to your liking.

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Yes, I have considered visiting a professional, but I think that would be overreacting. It's not like she is actually hurting herself (except when she steps on things), or an obvious hindrance to other things. However it definetly is fatiguing, it hurts more when she steps on things and the noise is becoming an issue, as we are living in an appartment. –  user1129682 Aug 23 '13 at 16:57
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-1 You don't actually answer the questions ("How long does it take children learn to walk "normal"? Can I expect her to stop stomping soon, within the coming year, shortly after kindergarden, right before puberty? When and how can I actually start teaching her?"). Please be careful when posting comments or answers to avoid coming across as judgemental. We strive to maintain a friendly community where people feel comfortable asking questions. –  Beofett Aug 26 '13 at 16:18
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Phrases like "i sense ego in action here", "i think you are exaggerating", "your task is to ASSIST your child in growing up. Not by prioritizing your kids needs/wants to your liking", and even "delusional" are all "judgemental words" –  Beofett Sep 4 '13 at 11:00
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@MikedeKlerk I am pointing out two things. The first is that your answer did not answer the question. It is an established policy that if you feel the question is not asking the "right" thing, you should not answer, rather than posting an answer to what you think they should have asked. –  Beofett Sep 4 '13 at 12:18
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The second issue is the tone of your answer. Its fine if you aren't trying to be subjectively judgemental, but that's not the way you're coming across. I don't believe your intent is to be rude or condescending, but the words you are using could easily be construed that way. That is why I offered you some advice to be careful about your phrasing. I'm not going to get into an argument as to whether your phrasing could possibly be construed in a way other than what you intend; I'm merely pointing out the community expectation, and offering advice and feedback. –  Beofett Sep 4 '13 at 12:21
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