My daughter from a previous marriage was 8 when our son was born. Pretty much since the day he could move he has been hitting his sister with his hands or objects, biting, scratching etc.
He is now 3 and she is nearly 11. He goes out of his way to find her and 'torture' her. She will be sitting quietly and he will walk into the room and throw something at her head. He will find her wherever she hides. If she ignores him and leaves the room, he follows.
He also hits other children at daycare (although this behaviour is getting better and doesn't happen often, we have been warned by his daycare provider about it). He will hit other children with his hands or objects as well. How do we react? Well over the past three years we have gone through everything. Explaining why this is not good behaviour, that it hurts, that hitting is not nice, putting him in timeout, taking his favourite toy/s off him, yelling at him in frustration etc. etc. the list goes on.
As with many other posts I have read on-line, we have asked his sister not to retaliate, but to come and get one of the adults to deal with him. This certainly does not work. She has retaliated a few times over the past years, but he still continues to abuse her. We are at our wits end, and are not sure what to do.
Like some of the other posts I have read, he is a real boy, very rough when playing, running around very 'busy' all the time, has to be constantly occupied. He is very loud, yelling into people's faces. We are loath to invite other children around or go to a birthday party as he hits other children. His sister told me today she doesn't like inviting her friends around because her brother hits them. I feel like we have tried most things.
At 3, I am sure he understands what he is doing is wrong, but he continues, and once again like some other blogs I have read, he 'tortures' our two dogs as well, which I am very vigilant about. He will go up and hit or lay on the dogs, pretend to kick them, or in the past week, he has resorted to chasing them around the house - in a stalking way, not for fun... I don't want it to get to the stage where one of the dogs attack him and we have to get them put down. I don't feel he is a special needs child or anything, so don't want to go down the diagnosis path, but we need some help...