My 2-and-a-half year old seems to be fond of shows that I would have expected to be too scary for someone his age. He loves to watch R.L. Stine's Goosebumps (he was introduced to it at daycare by some of the older children), and gleefully watches some rather rough scenes of predation on nature shows and short youtube clips.
Not once has he ever showed signs of nightmares from watching this sort of stuff (although we try to keep viewing restricted to at least several hours before bedtime).
However, there clearly is a line for him, and he seems fully aware of it. There have been some things we've watched where he says it is too scary, and asks to watch something different.
I'd rather not expose him to stuff that he considers too scary, even if he is good about telling me if something is too much.
Since that line between "fun scary" and "too scary" varies wildly from child to child (we have a 4 year old cousin, for example, who finds the music from Thomas and Friends too scary), how do you identify where the line is for a particular child?
Just because we haven't had problems with nightmares yet doesn't mean it can't become an issue. I'd like to
Are there cues that can be used that don't rely on the child saying "this is too much"?