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We are so fortunate that many people have given us presents for our newborn. Some of the gifts we really enjoy. Others, not so much. We generally give away the gifts that we don't want (for whatever reason), either to friends or to charity.

However, we have received some gifts that we don't want that are personalized. My son's name is common enough, but his birthdate and name together are not necessarily easy to match. How do I give these gifts to someone who will appreciate them?

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Throw them away. – bobobobo Apr 9 '13 at 4:49

I would keep them for later. A newborn doesn't need a coin bank, for example. Nobody else is going to want a coin bank with your child's name and birthdate. A twelve year old will happily save coins in a jam jar. But a twenty-something, moving out into their own apartment, may be delighted and touched to have a coin bank, engraved with their name and birthdate, that was a gift from a relative who may now be gone. It can be in their new home as a reminder of how they were celebrated from the moment they were born.

If you are only going to keep objects for your child that are to your taste, you are going to have unhappy friends and relatives, and possibly an unhappy child. Those of us whose homes are full of brightly coloured plastic things, tacky stuffed animals with oversized eyes, and silly posters from TV shows and movies aren't tasteless morons who like that kind of thing. We're parents. We let our children have things that excite them and we let people give our children things we would never have bought ourselves. You might as well get used to it.

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Thanks for the advice. Just to clarify, by "to our taste" I don't mean classic lines or gem hues anything like that. I meant "toys that we don't want our baby to have," or toys that we already have three versions of. – Charles Apr 4 '13 at 15:42
It wasn't intended as snark, but a simple observation that your taste in many ways can no longer be your own once you become a parent. I apologize for any offense my wording brought. – Chrys Apr 9 '13 at 16:12

You might want to hang on to personalized gifts for a while, in case the gift-giver should notice the item is not around. If it really is unusable by anyone else, a quiet disposal may be the only way to let it go, since you would not want to risk the item ever crossing paths with the gift-giver. If there is a possibility someone could use it, you might give it to a charity in another city you pass through.

One time my father put gift dishes he didn't like inside of a wall he was building. I wonder if that house has ever been remodeled?

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I have to disagree here. Everybody is free to give presents and the moment they give them away it is your choice what to do with them. I refuse to sit in a house full of stuff that I hate to see and there are toys I don`t want my kids (I have 3) to have.

You have a right to sort out and throw or give away. Other than what has been said here I do not think that because I give something to someone I have the right to insist the Person is using it. If I really care for the Person to like what I give them, I ask.

You as a mother will decide for a very Long time now what your child will be surrounded by. The movies they watch, the Food they eat, the clothes they wear, the education they get. In my eyes yes you have a right to also decide which presents they get and which ones leave your house right away.

With close relatives you might want to discuss how you handle things in future. I tried it with my mother in law and failed as she insisted on her taste being best. fair enough... but the stuff she is giving goes to the charity shop right away.

Your house, your taste... at least until your Baby developes one of her own...

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+1 Ruthless but true. – SomeShinyObject May 30 '13 at 0:24
How does this relate to the question asked? If this is a comment on another answer, put it there – Charles May 30 '13 at 0:50

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