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Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. he is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing i do will stop his behaviour. he has hurt other students and his teacher, he will not listen to anybody. he is intellectually "gifted" and has been diagnosed with superior intelligence. my next step is to medicate him but i really do not want to have to do this as he is only 5. can anyone help?? |
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I think StyxRiver's answer is spot-on, but I wanted to add a couple of things: You need to have him tested. You've obviously had him tested for intelligence or something of that matter, but even the most intelligent people can have learning disabilities. You can't begin to help him until you get to the root of his problem. He may have ADD or ADHD or he may be dyslexic or any other number of learning or emotional disabilities. Proper treatment is everything and you can't have that until you have a diagnosis. If you live in the U.S., the school and/or teacher cannot/will not come straight out and tell you that you need to have your child tested, but they might be dropping broad hints. Next time you speak to your son's teacher or principal, you might initiate the conversation yourself and see what they say. The sooner you get this done, the sooner you can start addressing the underlying issues causing his behavioral problems. Most parents are not fortunate enough to know at this young age that their child might have some type of disability--a lot of children go undiagnosed until they're around 2nd or 3rd grade (age 7 or 8), and some aren't diagnosed until much later than that. If it turns out that he doesn't have a discernible disability, then it sounds like he may need some good counseling with someone specializing in children. |
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My son had similar issues, we tried everything during the school year. We have extremely helpful teachers, staff, administration, the best group of people I could've asked for. Nothing helped get him on track for longer than a few hours. He was also suspended multiple times his kindergarten year. Eventually we had him diagnosed with ADHD. He was put on a light dose of Focalin, 10mg. The difference was absolute night and day. There are no major side effects, but he's able to participate and listen to his teachers, he's no longer getting in trouble and has turned around from being one of the more misbehaving children to one who is lead of his class. The difference between his kindergarten year and his first grade year is astounding, and while maturity has some to do with it, his focus is also greatly improved. I was initially opposed to medication as well, but my son is so much happier now that he's no longer getting in trouble at school, that he's able to sit down and do his work, that he can excel with his class and participate. If that's the route you end up taking, be candid and open with your doctor about all of your concerns, any questions you may have, everything. |
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My 5-year-old son was expelled from kindergarden after about a month this last Fall. Our pediatrician advised us to get a free psychological exam from the district. The doctor diagnosed him with Oppositional Defiance Disorder or ODD. We were loath to medicate him. The most effective advice we've gotten for dealing with ODD has been from this book. The thesis is basically that consistent behavior in parents is the key to better behavior in the child and that parents have to rebuild their relationships with the child before their discipline can be effective. (The book is much more insightful than this simplistic description.) We started going through the steps a few weeks ago and the improvement is already noticeable. It's hard work but it's much easier than the pain and stress of the misery we were enduring before. He's been at his new school for over a week and we haven't once been called by the teacher to come pick him up! |
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You probably might want to check if he listens to one person at home. Probably you have many people at home and he might as well be pampered. Usually the father does the disciplining process. I had a similar experience with my kid and was prescribed Focalin 10mg by the doctor as what StyxRiver also mentioned. It worked. Although you might want to consult your doctor before you take any medication. |
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