I thought a lot about whether to post this or not. In addition to being personally embarrassing it happened long time ago and is quite a "localized" question. However there might be a benefit in hearing some opinions as it will help people decide how to act in similar experiences in the future.
The experience and my actions at the time:
Three years ago, my nephew was three years old, in the middle of his potty training. After lunch with the family everyone went outside, he and his older brother (who was 6 back then) joined me near the computer like they always did, playing together some classic games.
At some point I excused myself to the nearby toilet room leaving the two of them to themselves with game they both knew and loved. While I was still in the middle, the three year old nephew entered the bathroom and said he had to use it and asked for my help.
I have seen his parents take him to the bathroom before and under normal circumstances I would have just gone and called them; however I wasn't in any condition to get out of the room. I asked him to go ask his parents or hold a few minutes until I was done but he didn't budge and insisted on immediate action.
Fearing he would mess his pants I got up and helped him through the whole process. He pretty much did everything on his own, probably he was at a stage where he still needed the supervision. After he was done he went out, I returned to the room few minutes later to find both brothers playing as usual.
I considered telling his parents, asking if I acted properly but was too embarrassed to mention it and it didn't happen again.
My question and debates:
- Should I have done anything different? If so, what and at which point?
- Should I have told his parents afterwards, even if just to inform them?
Now father to a 2 year old toddler I do realize I might be making it a much bigger deal that what it really was; on one hand parents always want to know what his child is doing but on the other hand maybe such thing is totally normal. (Potty training has not started yet for my daughter so can't really tell)
Any insights will be welcome!