My wife and I have been married ten years. We have a son who is about to turn four next month, and another one on the way (due five months from now).
For all the time we've been married, I've had virtually no friends outside of work - I'm just not a very social person.
But in the last year or so, I've made a (male) friend that I enjoy spending time with. I typically join him for some kind of outdoor activity once or twice a month for a few hours.
The issue exploded recently when I planned an all-day outing with my friend. We'll leave early one morning, and get back late that night. My wife is so upset about it that it's starting to overflow into how she talks to our son about me (Daddy's not going to be here tomorrow, he'd rather spend time somewhere else...).
This is a major source of conflict between my wife and I. I want to be fair to her, and to our son. They are my priority. The amount of time I am spending alone, away from them, seems reasonable to me. But I don't trust myself - obviously I am biased. Can anyone share guidelines that you use to decide how much time with family is "enough"?
I know this seems a bit off-topic, and maybe it is. I have several concerns, but my main one is how this may affect our son.