I've posted here before asking for advice for getting our toddler (2 yrs 5 mths) to sleep, as he's going through a very difficult phase. Once put to bed, he constantly gets out of bed and/or screams. Falling asleep generally takes at least an hour and is very stressful, and unless I sleep in the room with him, he generally wakes and cries out for me every couple of hours.
I did carry out Supernanny's "Stay in Bed" technique. But after 3 weeks of following it to the letter it became apparent that this was not the solution. He was still needing to be put back 40 or 50 times, and had started to see it as a game.
So, out of desperation, I've started using my own method that I've not heard suggested anywhere, but which seems to be more effective than anything else:
Basically, I put my child back in bed a few times when he gets out. Then I tell him that if he gets out of bed again "Daddy's going to go outside and shut the door". And then- most importantly- carry it out if he does. I only leave the door shut for less than a minute each time, and I stand outside the whole time.
I've also done the same thing to stop him from shouting out, which he will do for minutes or hours on end. "If you shout again Daddy's going to go outside and shut the door".
Do you think this sounds like it could be too traumatic for him? I don't like doing it and it doesn't make me feel good about myself, but the kid's got to sleep. (My wife won't even try it- it's too upsetting for her.) And, as yet, this is the only method that actually gets him lying in his bed quietly.