My adult step-daughter is in a same sex relationship. I love her and support her decision, if this makes her happy. I'm neither pro or against homosexuality ... actually, I'm not even neutral, I'm indifferent to the same-sex lifestyle choice ... almost.
Her partner is more of a man than most of the men she's dated, and is hard not to like. Also, my grandchild is very young and calls this person 'papa', which I didn't care for, but ... ok ... whatever.
The problem is, my son, who is now 10, has known this person for years, and thinks she's a man. My son is not stupid, is going to figure it out soon, assuming his friends don't figure it out first ... which I don't expect will go well for my son.
I need to tell my son.
Now I should point out that when I said I'm 'indifferent' 'almost', I meant; I don't care if somebody chooses to be in a same-sex relationship, and if my child one day tells me they're gay, as my step-daughter has, I will still love them.
But having said that, I don't consider it normal and I don't want to encourage it in anyway.
In a nut shell, this situation is pushing this conversation on me a lot earlier than I feel is appropriate, while at the same time is long over due (we assumed it was temporary and we'd never have to deal with).
So does anybody have any advice on telling my 10 year old son this 'man' is actually a woman? And how can I tell him without him hating his sister, her partner, or thinking this is completely normal, and should explore homosexuality for himself when he's a teenager.
But before you answer, please keep my value system in mind. Anti/Pro gay comments aren't going to help me at all.
Also since I'm posting anonymously and can't vote, edit, or accept, I just wanted to thank you in advance.