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So, my school gives kids who do well and turn in all of their homework in 5th grade a laptop. I'm not sure what I think of this, me being raised that computers should be kept in public areas so as to keep kids out of trouble. What thoughts do you guys have on this?

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what age is 5th grade? – hawbsl Apr 2 '11 at 14:49
Assuming US, typically 10-11 years old. – Saiboogu Apr 4 '11 at 16:40
thanks @Saiboogu – hawbsl Apr 5 '11 at 21:22
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I think that computers are incredibly powerful tools for learning, and getting them in the hands of as many children as possible is a good thing.

Certainly, supervising your children, especially when they have internet access, is a good idea. My 8yo keeps his netbook on a small work table in my office, so we have our computer time together. I do like that he's mobile -- he's even taken to coming to tech conferences with me (he spoke at one of them) -- and our rules at home are plenty to keep the computer where it belongs.

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There are two sides to this issue you need to consider. The first you already hinted at: for every constructive or enriching or wholesome activity you can do on the computer or internet, there are at least as many time-wasting or even harmful activities. At that age, the majority of the responsibility for their safety and protection is still with you as their parent. There need to be rules and guidelines and appropriate parental controls, record keeping, etc.

On the other hand, the only way for your child to develop responsibility is guessed it, be given responsibility and trusted as responsible. Once you've discussed your concerns with your child and the rules and safeguards are in place, give them some space and some trust. Children are so much more likely to be responsible if they feel like they are trusted and being treated responsibly. That doesn't mean don't check up on things and follow through with the rules you've set. That simply means don't be paranoid about it, don't do things behind their back, etc, anything that would suggest you don't trust them.

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"My school gives kids who do well and turn in all of their homework in 5th grade a laptop".

That's one way to widen the gap between those who are made for our school system and those who need a different approach. The tool might actually be better placed in the hands of those who aren't doing as well.

Yes, supervision is important. I equate internet freedom with physical freedom; by grade 5, they should know how to keep themselves out of trouble in the same way that they can safely cross the street and walk a few blocks to school on their own.

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"I equate internet freedom with physical freedom; by grade 5, they should know how to keep themselves out of trouble" I think that's a dangerous statement to be making with today's internet. There's still all manner of things that can go terribly wrong even if what they're doing is innocent or the result of natural curiosities. They may be participating in online communities with older children or adults manipulating them into dangerous situations, or searching for innocent information or attempting to satisfy natural sexual curiosity and stumbling upon extreme BDSM/fetish porn. – afrazier Apr 5 '11 at 13:56
At the very least, things are better than they were a few years ago when even simply searching for "fairies" linked you to porn in the top results. – afrazier Apr 5 '11 at 14:05
@afrazier True, cyber dangers have changed and increased with the times just as the requirement for neighbourhood safety has changed. We need to make sure someone in grade 5 is just as proficient and knowledgeable of potential internet dangers as we would "street" dangers. My point is that your concerns with the internet need to be addressed by grade 5, especially if they are being given their own laptops/netbooks. – nGinius Apr 5 '11 at 21:01
-1 I don't think that there's anything wrong with rewarding hard work and success. Giving it only to children who aren't doing as well simply removes the incentive to work harder. Rewarding failure and punishing success is why many school systems let smart children stagnate. – William Grobman Sep 3 '11 at 16:32
I agree with you, however, success in school is due to more than being smart. How are you going to address the digital divide to which this may contribute? – nGinius Sep 4 '11 at 1:36

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