Our 2-year old son is going through a rough period - we have cut his breastfeeding to once daily (before bed) and his sleep pattern is changing and is therefore unpredictable. Lately, he will often wake during the night and as we refuse to let him to breastfeed, he will throw terrible multi-hour tantrums which include him hitting us. We think we know how to deal with them, it just takes time, enormous willpower and energy.
We've had a dilemma lately: if he is sleeping and we notice that he has thoroughly wet himself (his diaper can't hold it all), is it better to change him and thus risk waking him into another tantrum that is emotionally hard on all of us, or do we (for the time being) let him sleep in wet sheets until he wakes on his own? My wife wakes up because she can smell the urine!